As with any relationship, it's nice to apply one of the 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz; "Don't take anything personally". No matter what anyone says or does, no matter how personal it seems it really has nothing to do with you. It is just the other individual trying to work through the stories (Which aren't real) in their own mind.
It's nice to remember that you can't have a feeling without a Belief & Story creating it, no story, no feeling. Our stories are wonderful allowing us to feel so many different feelings and add so much variety to this game we call life.
Most of the time we take these stories so seriously, that we think they are real and get ourselves trapped in them. If we could remember when we were children, we knew we were just making up the stories and they weren't real. Our stories served the purpose for the moment and once we were done with that moment, we let that story go and created a new one.
Remember playing as children, I'm the good guy and you're the villain this time and we would play and have so much fun and then change rolls the next time around. We were so serious while playing but when it was done, we remembered we were just playing.
I know that what you have been feeling, feels so real, but remember, they are just stories, no more real than any other story you could create about a particular event. Try to see the event from a different view point and this will help you create a new story of the event. As you've heard before, put yourself in the other persons shoes, that will give you some insights on creating a new story.
The easiest way to achieve happiness is to realize;
You are not who you think you are, you only experience life through who you think you are.
So the question should be, who do I want to be in this moment?
Then decide, what you must believe to create that moment.
The questions of Who Am I?, Why Am I Here? Are just beliefs and thoughts. Rather than let automatic programming determine the answers to those questions, deliberately chose the beliefs to answer those questions. Remember the answers to those questions will change. The only ultimate truth, is that there is no ultimate truth, just Beliefs & Stories (B.S. for short).
You can create a belief in the present moment that will be your truth, until you decide to create a new truth.
Don't hold onto old beliefs just because you think it is a truth, it's just a belief.
Steve Dahl has traveled the world exploring cultures and beliefs, facilitating discussion groups, exploring consciousness and enlightenment.
Steve is also a certified Life Coach, specializing in relationships and business.