It is normal for couples to have differences in their sexual desire. It is important for couples to begin by having a honest discussion with how often they need to have sex versus how often they would ideally like to have sex. There needs to be a conversation about the role sex plays in a relationship and why it is important. Stress, anxiety, and tiredness are very real factors that affect the sex lives of Singaporeans. It’s hard to get in the mood or have any real desire when you’ve been working long hours.
Women tend to blame their lower sexual desire for the lack of sexual activity in their lives. It is possible to bypass her lack of mental desire by physically stimulating and arousing her. Hence there is the possibility that when you incorporate more touch in your life, your wife is more likely to get aroused, and, consequently, the possibility of having more sex in your life.
Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.