If you’re single looking to find the guy of your dreams, or you already have a partner but feel overlooked at times; then listen up for some great tips on enchanting those around you. Seducing a man doesn’t necessarily mean stealing him from someone else, or convincing him to do something he doesn’t want to do. It can simply mean to captivate his attention or desire for you, whether it is a guy you just met or someone you’ve known for years. Get noticed and gain the respect you deserve through the art of sensuous seduction.
Image certainly isn’t everything, however you will feel better about yourself and others will feel better around you when you take some pride in your appearance. Good hygiene is important, as you have a much better chance of making a good impression if your body is clean, teeth brushed and hair washed. There’s no need to cover up your natural beauty with a lot of makeup or mask your alluring pheromones with perfume and products. I believe most men appreciate a more natural looking woman who is comfortable in her own skin without having to hide behind a lot of makeup and bling.
Confidence and self-assurance are the most attractive qualities, as long as it is not ego-based or masked insecurity with annoying arrogance. To be a woman who is radiant in her own skin, feels good about who she is, and boldly shares her confidence in the world are key to gaining the respect and admiration of others. Being sexy and attractive has way more to do with your attitude than your physical appearance. How you think about yourself speaks volumes to the world. It is really how you perceive yourself – the energy you give off – that others may observe you in the same way.
“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.” ~Sophia Loren
Smile more often! – At everyone! It is always your best attribute and you’ll be much more approachable. The more you smile, the happier you will naturally feel. When you share your smile and genuinely acknowledge another person, it can be a beautiful intimate moment – even with a complete stranger. If you are already in a long-term relationship, you can deepen your connection by simply smiling while gazing into your partner’s eyes. Expressing unconditional love and acceptance is the best way to show respect and be respected – as long as you hold strong to your own personal boundaries.
Make direct eye contact as much as possible, especially when talking and listening to someone. People will naturally trust you more when you can look them in the eyes during a conversation. Your eyes can say so much, even when words are not spoken. A woman can communicate volumes through her eyes, as that is the true art of seduction – when you can captivate a man with a single look. Observe the many iconic sex symbols such as Marilyn Monroe, Sophia Loren, Madonna or Angelina Jolie – they embody sexuality and express it through their eyes. Practice your sexy looks in the mirror and then see how many heads you can turn while walking down the street as you seductively glance at random men.
Good communication is the most important aspects to maintaining long-term relationships, as it is essential to have compatibility in this area. Conversations over the phone, in person or on-line should be balanced, interesting and compelling for both of you. I’ve heard many men comment on how they’ve felt extremely attracted to a woman until she opens her mouth and says something stupid, shallow or condescending. Ignorance, arrogance and rudeness can turn a hot chick into an ugly bitch in a second. Speak your heartfelt truth and avoid verbalizing thoughts from a critical judging mind.
Appreciation is often overlooked, however by simply expressing gratitude for someone is a significant quality. In studies about why men cheat on their wives, it was found that the reason isn’t about sex or attraction; it is usually because they feel emotionally disconnected from their wives because they feel unappreciated, and they’re drawn to other women who make them feel appreciated. Let him know that you value his knowledge, talents, and willingness to help you. Show your appreciation through kind words and selfless actions.
Flirt with your eyes, your words and your body in a tasteful playful way. Gently touch his hand, arm, shoulder or knee while wittingly teasing or sharing a personal story. When you do become more intimate; don’t give away too much too soon. Our passion can overcome our sensibility sometimes, so hold back until you have clearly decided to go further and of course are fully prepared with protection. When it comes to sex, be feminine and receptive while also being directive and self-assured. Let him know what you want, how you want it, and how you feel – physically and emotionally.
In order to be respected, you must show genuine respect to others, as well as yourself. Respecting yourself means listening to your body and emotions continuously; then acting beyond a linear logic to achieve ones goals. Be in integrity with your highest truth and never allow yourself to be used, abused or disrespected by anyone!
“They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them.” ~Mahatma Gandhi
Allura Joy works with women of all ages and diverse backgrounds offering various holistic therapies and relationship advice, as well as sharing valuable resources in the areas of women’s health and sexual wellness. Allura has facilitated various groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.
Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical concerns with healthy sexual expression and satisfaction. She enjoys helping others explore their passions in manifesting their greatest dreams and deepest desires. Allura is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.
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