Approaching women is easy. What you say first hardly matters; it’s what comes next that matters. Once a guy has walked up to a girl and pitched his pick up line, that’s where the ice forms. It’s now that guys get petrified and are unable to keep the conversation going. Most of them fail because they try too hard.
Women don’t realize that for men, approaching women are mostly unaware of this, but for a man, approaching a woman involves various complexities which can end up hindering their expressive capabilities. Making the simple task of uttering a simple “hi” a rather tricky action.
As an individual it can particularly annoying to be in the company of attractive women who share common interests and be unable to express yourself. Men try to get intoxicated in order to muster up courage to walk up to a girl, but even in this state they have little or no about beginning an interaction.
Rationale behind Opening Lines
Conversation starters firstly serve the purpose of initializing a dialogue with a complete stranger. Secondly, the first few lines should make both people relaxed enough to continue with the subject. And finally, the opener gives you an opportunity to express your individuality.
It's essential to underline that a conversation opener or a pick-up line, is still just a line. While it may lead you to have a good conversation, a long term relation is based on much more than just a pick up line. Most men tend to overvalue the importance to the first line they use.
The Basics
"Excuse me, do you have the time?", "Can I get a light?", "Can you guide me to this address?"
These are what relationship experts term as very "low risk" starters. Using these lines convey that you do not have any vested interest and it might be just a general enquiry.
But these are also openers that do not carry enough weight to continue a conversation. They do not convey any real strength, confidence or honesty. You just ask an informative question. People who are apprehensive of approaching women are recommended to start practicing using these basic starters.
Get her Opinion
Using these lines almost guarantee to dray almost all kind of women into a conversation. Here the ploy should be to start off a topic which most women find appealing and then ask for their opinion and exchange your views as well. Fashion, relationships, friendship etc are topics which can be used to invite opinions from the person you are interested in conversing with.
Asses the Situation
One can use the situation at any moment to his advantage. Observing the surrounding and noticing what an individual is paying attention to can open up avenues to start off an interaction. Keep in mind that you should appear to be totally unprompted and spontaneous.
Try not to comment on physical aspects alone as this may seem shallow and work against you. Instead, observe her actions for some time and try to figure out what is attracting her attention
NO pain NO Gain.
As you grow and build your confidence with women, it will become increasingly clear that situational and direct approaches are your best bets. In both scenarios, you don’t rely on mugged up lines that sound shallow or fake. Being original and spontaneous will do you a world of good.
But remember that not approaching someone at all minimizes your chances to null. So take a leap, go out and start mingling.
Richard Liso is a fan of personal improvement and developing success skills. He also writes in his blog about dating and attraction for men.