Building Your Marriage While Coping With Infidelity

When we hear couples taking their wedding vows, there is generally the segment where they vow to be faithful. No one promises to be untrue in their marriage. Despite the vows, lot's of marriages continue to experience this challenge. When this occurs, a level of instability gets into the marriage. It's the actions of the couple that would show if they would stay together or not.

In our discussing coping with infidelity, those who have a single experience and those who have faced repeat occurrences are both addressed. This is a very critical matter and therefore has to be addressed as such. If a person you know is in a marriage in which the partner has cheated repeatedly, would you advice that the person stays on in the marriage?

You have simply read an example of marriage counseling questions that arise all the time. Giving an answer that everyone would see as proper would be really difficult. In the final analysis, it usually comes down to the desires of those involved.

There are two issues here that the marriage counselor would be looking at and these include: the cause of the problem and what could be done to stop it and restore the marriage. There is one thing I discovered in counseling. Many people come into a counseling session with what they want to do in mind. They are usually just searching for endorsement. At the end of it all, the person who gave the endorsement would generally bear the blame if the result is less than desirable.

A marriage therapist would generally find a way of drawing you out so the actual intents of your mind is made open even to you. The truth is that the emotions would pass with time so acting based on them would in many cases result in actions that would be regretted. The decisions you're thankful for years later, never actually feels convenient when you are making them more so when it has to do with things like infidelity.

One thing I have mentioned repeatedly is that a person would find it easier to cope with infidelity if they are sure it won' happen again. Instances where the problem reoccurs is even harder to handle. This does not mean that it's not possible to handle, it is just harder. If I were to be involved, my major concern would be to find out why the problem keeps repeating. In my opinion, the one thing that would give the marriage a chance of surviving is primarily finding out why that issue keeps repeating.

It's here that we see the importance of a marriage counselor. It is during your time with the marriage therapist that you would many times find some things you weren't aware of. This maybe would lead to finding out what is wrong and working towards handling it. Admitting that There's an issue that has to be taken care of is the first thing the couple need to do. Each of the couple need some form of help. The unfaithful party needs assistance with the problem and the other partner has to know how to cope.

It's critical to never act in anger. Lot's of marriages have been wholly broken because of hasty decisions that were later regretted. No matter how hurt you are, give yourself some time to talk with a marriage counselor. After consulting with one, you can then go ahead to take an informed decision.