Self-confidence-like being rich - is something we think everyone else is but us. Yet feeling insecure about ourselves is perhaps the most common problems of humanity. The majority of people in society think “You have to be born with it.” This is not true. You can learn how to be confident, just like learning how to cook or drive a car.
Secondly, people tend to think once they lose their self-confidence that it’s gone for good, not true. It may take time to gain your self-confidence back, but once you overcome your insecurities it’s less likely that you’ll lose your self-confidence again.
Third, People think that you can only have self-confidence when you’re able to achieve at something new. There is more to confidence than conquering something new.
In order to gain self-confidence you need to believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself then you can succeed in anything you put your mind to. You may not succeed the first time you try, but you have to keep trying till you do succeed. Quick success does not exist in our society.
Achievements only come to those who strive hard to get them. You get nowhere in life if you do not push yourself. You need to create a lifestyle that is right for you and nobody else. Don’t settle for anyone else's lifestyle or for a lifestyle that’s beneath your standards.
To make this happen, you must learn to accept who you are, be proud of the person you are. Only then will you feel your self-esteem rise up to the skies’! Now onto the 12 steps to self-confidence.
1. Start with writing a journal.
Ask yourself what is making you feel like you cannot get to the point in life you want to reach. Write any thoughts that come to mine. Also, write down what self-confidence means to you.
2. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future.
Write down 10 positive things about yourself. Go through your journal and look at all the positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your strengths. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-esteem and self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for everything positive you have written about yourself. Remember, you’re somebody special.
3. Accept yourself and learn to love yourself for whom you are a person. Everyone has their own unique qualities and characteristics. We are all born differently for a reason. Don’t compare yourself to others.
4. Understand yourself mentally, physically and spiritually. Take some time to relax by yourself in a quiet room.. Rest on your back with head and neck comfortably supported
Rest hands on upper abdomen, close your eyes and settle in a comfortable position. Breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically. Inhalation should be slow, unforced and unhurried. Silently count to 4, 5 or 6, whatever feels right for you. When inhalation is complete, slowly inhale through the nose. Count this breathing out, as when breathing in. The exhalation should take as long as the inhalation. There should be no sense of strain. If initially you feel you have breathed your fullest at a count of three, that is alright. Try gradually to slow down the rhythm until a slow count of 5 or 6 is possible, with a pause of 2 or 3 between in and out breathing.
5. Be ready. Self-confidence comes a lot easier to the person who’s sure their ready.
6. Strengthen your inner self. Write down in your journal what you will be able to do once you acquire the confidence you need.
7. Begin changing what you don’t like about yourself. Confidence comes from within. You need to concentrate on the positive things about yourself.
8. Notice the change in our self-esteem and self-confidence. Reward yourself each time you do something that makes you feel proud...go out some place or take it easy for the day.
9. Learn how to give and take. Confidence is being able to find a balance between giving help to people and excepting when we need help.
10. Have a tremendous amount of pride in yourself. Remember, you’re number one!
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Dear Anne Hudson:
Thank you for taking the time to read my email. Enclosed are attachments of my work that I am sending you. I enjoy writing about nonfiction (self-help, health, family, poetry ect..) The work I am submitting to you some of my writing that cover those issues. Enclosed in the email is a profile of myself.
It's wonderful to know that others like yourself are working hard to bring literature to others.
I look forward to hearing from you concerning my work. Again, thank you for your time and if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me.
Sincerely,
Mrs. Stacey Chillemi
Profile:
I am thirty-two years old, married with three children. I am a writer and I recently published a book called “Epilepsy You're Not Alone.” Epilepsy You're Not Alone is an inspirational self-help book that teaches people with epilepsy how to live a healthy and productive life. The book shares encouraging stories and gives readers a workable program for coping with their disorder enabling readers to overcome their disorder and get on with their lives. My efforts have helped change women's lives. Through my efforts I have been able to show other women that is not impossible to become a mother. I've given people hope and a new look on life. Epilepsy is just a disorder. Your life does not end because you have epilepsy. Epilepsy awareness is improving and with people reaching out to help others with the disorder and to help society understand the disorder, were creating a pathway to a fulfilling future. There is a whole world in front of us. This world has millions of opportunities just waiting for people such as myself to encounter. It does not matter what age you are. You can achieve anything you put your mind too.
MY ACCOMPLISHMENTS:
I am a H. O. P. E. Mentor, for the Epilepsy Foundation. I have spoken at different events for schools, organizations, political events and anywhere my help is needed to educate people about epilepsy. I was on four talk shows. The interviews focused on the importance of understanding what epilepsy is, how to help someone having a seizure and giving people with epilepsy encouragement and hope for the future.
I've been on radio stations discussing epilepsy and I have appeared in many newspapers all over New Jersey such as, The Leader, Belleville Post and the Star Ledger. And on June 26, 2002, I was honored an award by the Epilepsy Foundation of New Jersey for Outstanding Volunteer Award.
I am thirty-two years old, married with three children. I am a writer and I recently published a book called “Epilepsy You're Not Alone.” Epilepsy You're Not Alone is an inspirational self-help book that teaches people with epilepsy how to live a healthy and productive life. The book shares encouraging stories and gives readers a workable program for coping with their disorder enabling readers to overcome their disorder and get on with their lives. My efforts have helped change women's lives. Through my efforts I have been able to show other women that is not impossible to become a mother. I've given people hope and a new look on life. Epilepsy is just a disorder. Your life does not end because you have epilepsy. Epilepsy awareness is improving and with people reaching out to help others with the disorder and to help society understand the disorder, were creating a pathway to a fulfilling future. There is a whole world in front of us. This world has millions of opportunities just waiting for people such as myself to encounter. It does not matter what age you are. You can achieve anything you put your mind too.
MY NEWS:
I am in the current process of publishing two books on epilepsy. One book is called "Epilepsy and Pregnancy, What Every Women Needs to Know" and "My Mommy Has Epilepsy"
I have received awards in my achievements and certificates in recognition for outstanding efforts in trying to improve society. I have been an active participant in organizations and activities. I have been a role model to many individuals.I have published a book called, "Epilepsy You're Not Alone." I have written many articles on epilepsy, such as How Exercise Can Help Your Seizures, Coping with Epilepsy, Can Women with Epilepsy Have Babies and Why Children Have Seizures. She has also written self-help articles, such as 10 Steps to Self-confidence, Seven Steps to Loving Yourself, 4 Steps to High Self-esteem and Greatest relief for stress: Take some time each day for yourself. I have appeared three times on News 12 on the talk show New Jersey Women and has had articles written about her efforts to help people with epilepsy. I have contributed time in helping people with epilepsy and making society more aware of the disorder. I have had epilepsy for 27 years.
I am now in the process of having my second book "Epilepsy and Pregnancy," published. Dr. Blanca Vasques is co-authoring my book. I have recently written a children's book called "my Mommy Has Epilepsy" Exceptional Parenting is reviewing the children's book for publication.
Sincerely,
Stacey Chillemi
Phone (908) 347-3580*
Email:
Staceychil@aol.com
You can find my website with samples of my work on:
http://www.authorsden.com/staceydchillemi
MY RESIDENCE INFO:
City: Manalapan
State/Country: New Jersey
BOOKS PUBLISHED:
Epilepsy You're Not Alone is an inspirational self-help book that teaches people with epilepsy how to live a healthy and productive life. The book shares encouraging stories and gives readers a workable program for coping with their disorder enabling readers to overcome their disorder and get on with their lives. Having to cope with epilepsy is tough. Many people with epilepsy feel as though they are alone. They feel they are trying to battle the disorder all by themselves. My aim in this book is to show readers how to live with epilepsy, empowering them to take responsibility for their life and well-being.Epilepsy Your Not Alone motivates people with epilepsy, urging readers to create their own unique journal by employing psychological and spiritual practices in combination with a variety of more traditional diet and exercise regiments. Epilepsy You're Not Alone teaches readers how to be their own designer, creating pathways to a fulfilling future. There is a whole world in front of you. This world has millions of opportunities just waiting for you to encounter. It does not matter what age you are. You can achieve anything you put your mind too.
Synopsis
Epilepsy You're Not Alone is an inspirational self-help book that teaches people with epilepsy how to live a healthy and productive life. The book shares encouraging stories and gives readers a workable program for coping with their disorder enabling readers to overcome their disorder and get on with their lives.
From The Critics
Lad - Star Ledger Newspaper
Chillemi is the author of epilepsy you're not alone, an inspirational book written for people living with epilepsy. Inspired by her own battles with epilepsy, Chillemi wrote a book to give those coping with the disorder greater self esteem, hope and motivation to continue living normal life's.
Print on Demand at Barnes & Noble.com - Kathleen Wells - Epilepsy You're Not Alone, 05/12/2000Stacey was on their talk show New Jersey women sharing her experiences concerning epilepsy and her book.
Print on Demand at Barnes & Noble.com - Regina Mcenery - Epilepsy You're Not Alone, 08/19/1997Stacey has a different attitude about life. No longer shy about divulging her medical history. She is now hard at work on a book about her condition, hoping to dispel some of the unfortunate myths that have made it difficult for epileptics to keep jobs and friends.
Print on Demand at Barnes & Noble.com - Jo-Ann Reccoppa - Epilepsy You're Not Alone, 05/17/2000The vivacious young mother does not believe in self-pity. Rather, Stacey believes in helping herself, thereby helping others with epilepsy in the process.
Print on Demand at Barnes & Noble.com - Wyatt Olson - Epilepsy You're Not Alone, 05/09/2000Stacey Chillemi knows how defeating epilepsy can seem.
Customer Reviews
A reviewer, A reviewer, July 26, 2004,
LEARNING TO COPE WITH EPILEPSY
A reviewer, someone who reads a lot of books. Epilepsy is a very hard disorder to live with emotionally, physically and mentally. Epilepsy Your Not Alone, shows you how to cope with the disorder, look at life positively and gives you the inspiration you need to get on with your life. I recommend it to people who have the disorder, family members and friends.
HI Stacey!
My name is Donna, and I just want you to know that I bought your book a few years ago and it was very encouraging to me, really did get a lot out of it. I'd recommend it to anyone else who has E, and their family members who'd want to understand what it's like to live with this condition. It surely does help to know we're not alone in this.
A reviewer,
GREAT BOOK!
I just finished your book Epilepsy; You're not Alone and thought I'd tell you how much I appreciated it. The positive attitude was very refreshing and a welcome change from the 'Why me?' stories that I read so often.
A reviewer,
Finally an epilepsy book from a personal perspective
This book is an excellent self-help book from the perspective of someone who has epilepsy. All too often in books about epilepsy the point of view is that of a physician who personally does not deal with epilepsy on a day-to-day basis. It's nice to read what fellow epileptics have done in order to better cope with epilepsy. The personal accounts are inspirational.
Della Cruz Anchor/Reporter, Talk Show Host for News 12, February 11, 2002,
Editorial Reviews
'Life deals us many hard blows that we often don't expect. I admire the fact that someone like Stacey Chillemi was thrown a curve ball that may have knocked many of us down to the point where many of us may not have wanted to get back up, but she did. It wasn't easy but she possesses a determined spirit that won't let her give up. For that reason Stacey will go far and achieve whatever dreams she sets her mind to accomplish.'Della Crew