Recently someone told us that he wants to marry and grow
old with his girlfriend. But to his disappointment, she told
him that true love is unconditional, without expectations,
and that he should be happy just to be with her without
any promises. He said that he thinks she really doesn’t
love him because she won’t enter a legal, committed,
monogamous relationship.
He wants a “permanent” commitment, and his girlfriend
wants no conditions and expectations.
True, unconditional love includes no expectations. No
expectations of your mate to be who you want them
to be. No expectations of the relationship lasting “forever.”
No expectations of ownership. No expectations if you two
grow apart. No expectations if one of you loses interest in
sex.
We agree with his girlfriend. Unconditional love, which
is the highest form of love, involves loving someone as
they are and wanting nothing in return for that love. Not
money. Not exclusivity. Not a contract. Nothing.
If he were fully without demands and expectations and
approached his girlfriend in this way, he would want what’s
best for her, not just what he desires.
Granted, we need to look at this from his perspective
too. What is he afraid of if he doesn’t have a permanent
commitment from his girlfriend? Is he concerned about
losing her, maybe about being alone? Is he worried about
finances or perhaps about who will care for him in old age?
He needs to realize that he’ll be okay if the relationship
doesn’t last forever and that the only true, lasting love is
self love.
Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo
Scott Petullo has been professionally employed as an astrologer, numerologist, and handwriting analyst since 1997. He has a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Arizona and has been exploring metaphysics since the early 1980's. Scott is a self-taught astrologer and numerologist, and received his Certified Master Graphologist designation from the Institute of Graphological Science in Dallas, Texas. www.mystictwins.com www.holisticmakeover.com
Stephen Petullo has studied metaphysical concepts since the early 1980s and earned a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Arizona that includes a minor in psychology. He has been doing consultations and intuitive readings professionally since 1997. He is a Reiki master-teacher, past-life regressionist, natural medium and channel, metaphysical consultant and has published a book and 20 audio recordings.