Most people want their fantasy's to descend on them "naturally," like some sudden miracle, just like they see in the movies. The problem with this is that fantasies usually don't come by chance. (But when they do, savor them.) So something has to be done is to create the fantasy yourself.
At first, this seems to kill the very idea of a natural fantasy because you have to deal with the mundane realities of the arrangements. Arrangements like the expenditure of "hard earned" money and finding a willing Bond girl (a usual male fantasy) to go wading near the Dr. No waterfall in Jamaica with you. Much easier to pull out your "Dr. No" video and let 007 have that fun AGAIN, instead of you.
However, if you are special, the kind of guy that Charles Bronson talked about who will "pick up the tab for that kind of living," you will turn off the video and get up from your sofa. You'll hit the Internet and check out where that waterfall is. You'll start making a budget. You'll call up the appropriate girl, or set out to find one, and set a date. Or arrange it as a family trip, if you are married to your Bond girl.
"Oh, this is so mundane," you might think, "I don't want to manipulate this fantasy into being. I want it to happen naturally. Like I'm naturally there in Jamaica and I naturally meet a charming woman, and she naturally is free and wants to join me for a wade past the waterfall." But that's a lot of "naturallys" to hope for, isn't it?
But, maybe you're the type that might get excited about planning a Bond fantasy like this. Get excited about the challenge of it all and not get turned off by having to push this fantasy through.
Now here's the best part. Once you do get the woman who wants to go with you, and you arrange the cash, the airline, the hotel, the passport, and the week off from work, and other things you'll need to do before you get anywhere near that waterfall, the fantasy will start to descend on you, start to envelope you.
And when you get to that waterfall with her, you'll look around at the beautiful scenery, see and feel the falls, and right then, all those arrangements you worked hard on will disappear from your mind. You will suddenly be enveloped into the fantasy. You will look around with unbelievable fascination and the thought, "Wow, this is really happening. I'm in the middle of the 'Dr. No' movie."
When you create a wonderful fantasy like that, you should just enjoy it without destructive thoughts of, "But does this woman really like me, or is she only here for the free trip? And hell, this will be over in a couple of days and I'll be back at work. Oh, think of that big credit card bill I'm going to have. And my friends will laugh at me when they hear how much I paid to pull this off."
Hey man, Mr. Field Agent man. I won't laugh at you. And your friends that are following their dreams won't laugh at you. And the ones that aren't? Well, don't even bother to tell those guys, because they wouldn't understand anyway. Besides, you'll be too busy planning your next fantasy.
And you know what? You won't even bother to wait for the results of the next lottery, because you'll trust yourself to pull off your dreams, goals, fantasies, and accomplishments, more than those lottery tickets in your pocket. So pull out the two most powerful gadgets that 007 has; the calendar, to set a date, and the calculator to make up your budget.
Of course, setting a date to activate your mission can be scary. You'll notice that in all 007 movies Bond is facing a countdown. A deadline. That's when he gets tough and gets down to business. And that is what makes the difference between people that are successful and in control of their lives, and ones that let circumstances control them. Everyone has some natural talent in some field, but can they call up their talent at will? Can they produce on a deadline?
Some people, when you squeeze them, they fold. Others focus. That's what Bond does. He focuses. And that need for him to survive breaks all barriers that are blocking him.
Lessons learned: Don't let your James Bond fantasies lay dormant. Make a mission plan. Set an activation date and budget. Be like Bond. Call up your talent and deliver. When you're squeezed, focus. Do this by asking yourself, "What would James Bond do?"
Author of 'How to Live the James Bond Lifestyle'.