Finding the perfect date can be a daunting task, whether one is gay, bi-sexual or bi-curious. What to wear? Where to go? What to say? If you are about to embark on a first date, one thing is for sure: remember to be yourself and relax. Here are some dating tips that can help you make the date a real success. Be a little bit early! You’re sure to feel a bit nervous or shy, so arriving earlier than your date can give you a chance to go to the washroom without deserting your date. Compose yourself, fix your hair, wash those sweaty palms and relieve yourself if necessary.
Dress to impress. No, you don’t have to look like a Queer Eye for the Straight Guy make over. Just dress nicely and appropriately for the occasion and location. Not only will you look great but also feel very confident that you’re in the right attire. Where to meet? This is a very important question to ask. A place that is neutral and not too far from your place is better—just be sure to be familiar with the area. You would want to communicate and be heard effectively, so a quiet bar or someplace that’s not too noisy or rowdy is a good choice.
Concentrate! First dates, especially if you are the quiet or shy type, can be extremely tense and nerve-wrecking. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying-- this will enable you to know him better, know his interests and connect more easily. Ask creative and revealing questions in a courteous way, but also feel free to talk about yourself. Sharing the conversation is a good way to make your date feel relaxed, too. Leave the past alone. Avoid talking about past relationships and negative experiences. Every first date is a new beginning, so stick to the present and to the future.
Make him feel that it’s his time now and you have no leftover baggage. Be confident! It’s about knowing who you are, what you want and knowing that you’ll get it. Guys are always attracted to guys who exude confidence. Wear your “power underwear”. It doesn’t matter if you don’t end up in the sack or on the floor later on in the evening. Power underwear makes you feel incredibly powerful and sexy, flirty and confident—all the things you need on a date. Thongs in purple, red or black can give the shy guy that extra little edge, especially on a first date.
Stay safe! Although it has been proven time and time again that one night stands do not last the test of time, if that’s what you want then go for it! Play it safe, or you may want to concentrate further on the conversation and leave sex for a future time. Respect, and you shall be respected. Treat the other person with the same level of respect as you feel you deserve. If you are not interested, be honest! Be decent and let the other person know than taking him on a roller coaster ride of uncertainty. Let it be known, and you shall be free.
Don’t forget: Have confidence in yourself, your abilities, and everything will surely go well.
The author of this article Ruth Purple is a Relationships Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Ruth recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website RelaZine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.