OK, I know what you’re probably thinking. It’s easy to see the connection between dieting and DNA, or at least how your DNA might have something to do with your weight. But dating and DNA?
What on earth could dating and your DNA have to do with each other? And no, I’m not talking about the connection between dating, love, sex, pregnancy and giving birth to a bundle of joy who has daddy’s eyes or grandma’s smile. I’m not talking about the 3-5% of DNA that determines the color of our hair, skin or eyes, whether we’re short or tall, the shape of our body or our features or predisposition to illness or disease. I’m talking about the 95-97% of DNA which has been referred to as “junk” DNA because mainstream science hasn’t been able to figure out what it does.
We have learned, through the work of cellular biologists and quantum physicians , that much of this “junk” DNA is actually tied to our “extra-sensory” perceptions, our ability to see, hear and feel beyond the limits of our five physical senses. We also now recognize that we live in an energetic world and that everything, including our thoughts and emotions, are made up of energy in different vibrational patterns, or frequencies. Stay with me here.
Everything you’ve ever experienced in your lifetime is stored in your energy system, like a program that’s installed on your computer. Every person has their own unique energy signature, based on their accumulated life experience and the emotional vibrational frequency of those accumulated experiences. Just like on your computer, those programs can have outdated information that’s no longer relevant or can be full of viruses that slow down your computer’s functioning. But, as long as they’re still installed on your computer, they will have an effect on how your computer operates. Similarly, if you have old, outdated “programs” stored in your cellular memory, they are affecting how you operate on a day to day basis and definitely have you reacting in old, unsupportive patterns.
Let’s get back to dieting and dating as examples of how this would work. Say, for example, that you grew up in a household where food was used as a reward or a substitute for affection, attention or acceptance. The only time you were rewarded with “treats” was when you satisfied your caretaker’s agenda or needs by doing chores, parenting younger siblings, getting straight A’s or even by being used for sexual gratification. The majority of the time you may have been ignored, yelled at, or even hit or touched inappropriately. You learn to associate “love” with taking care of others and with food.
There were emotions associated with those experiences, as well as thoughts that may have sounded like “I am only loveable when I’m taking care of someone else” or “my needs/feelings/thoughts don’t matter” or “I’m stupid, ugly, slow, only good for sex, etc.” These thought, beliefs and emotions get programmed into your cellular memory as an energetic vibration, which influences your relationships with people and food for the rest of your life. You may become a caretaker, you may trade sex for a feeling of being loved or wanted, you may choose partners who punish or withhold love and affection, or you may use food as a way to punish or reward yourself. You will often find yourself overreacting, or acting like a younger version of yourself, when these old vibrations are “triggered” by a present day experience.
Let’s look to the basic laws of metaphysics help explain this. Everything is energy. All energy has a unique vibrational frequency. Like energy attracts like energy. Did you get that part? LIKE ENERGY ATTRACTS LIKE ENERGY. This means that on a vibrational level, below the level of your conscious awareness, you will attract people, situations and circumstances in your life that are a vibrational match with your predominant thoughts, beliefs and emotions.
These are not necessarily what tell yourself or what you want to believe, but they are hidden deep in the subconscious and are running the show. You will continue to attract these things until you change your vibrational frequency, or unique energy signature. You do this by releasing the old programming that is held in your cellular memory. Stay tuned for more information in future posts about how I do this with clients and how you can begin to do it for yourself.
Catherine Ewing, Chief Inspirational Officer of Reawaken Your Dreamer, is a Transformational Coach with a diverse background as a psychotherapist, energy practitioner, ordained minister, women's advocate and teacher of the mind/body/spirit connection. She leads clients through journeys of self-discovery, personal transformation and spiritual awakening by creating a safe place where they can explore the inner landscape of their psyche, the wisdom of their heart and the language of their Soul.