In just about any kind of relationship, honesty is one of the qualities that many people want, hands down. After all, who doesn’t want a truthful, genuine and honest partner? These traits are very important, particularly in an individual’s sexual relationship with another person. While sex for some may only mean fun and games, for a lot of people it is an expression not only of love and passion, but of trust as well. Only a very few singles today uphold virginity, so it’s no surprise when a person who becomes involved in yet another relationship has already been sexually active before.
Thus, it is essential to talk about each other’s sexual history before making your way into the bedroom and into each other’s pants. Discussing each other’s sexual histories can be quite uncomfortable, but it is one topic that can be very helpful in making or breaking your relationship. Of course there’s no need to have a list of one’s former sexual partners – the point of this discussion is to be fully aware if your partner has a Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) or has ever been exposed to one. A sexually active person must always remember that one’s health and safety should always come first, and engaging in sexual activity with another person can always lead to certain health risks that could have been avoided in the first place.
It is easy to be blinded and be naive in the initial stages of a relationship, especially if one is “head over heels” with his/her partner. However, it is important to be somewhat cautious than to have blinding trust with a person early on. A lot of people have paid the price for looking at their partner through a rose-colored glass: everything is absolutely sweet and romantic and new, and it seems that nothing can go wrong. Unfortunately for some, being completely trusting only paves the way for trouble, since a lot of people have no qualms about lying about their feelings and sexual history just to get someone to bed.
Keeping one’s eyes and ears open is not being irrationally suspicious; it is actually a wise approach when coming into a new relationship that could turn out to be not-so-perfect after all. Young or old, it is always sensible to have safe sex. A lot of people think that having protected sex is only for one-night stands and paid escorts, never for a boyfriend or a girlfriend. This is a usual misconception, and quite a number have learned the value of using a condom or any protective device. Sure, putting on a condom may be cumbersome, and may lessen the pleasurable sensation during intercourse for a few.
But hey, it’s a small price to pay for ensuring your wellbeing and health, right? The distress and anxiety that Sexually Transmitted Infections can cause will definitely overshadow the inconvenience of using a condom or any protection. Keeping healthy and safe nowadays is essential, especially with the growing cases of AIDS, HIV, STD’s and STI’s. Although more people are becoming vigilant and advocate safe sex, there are still a lot who go on having multiple partners and unprotected sex. It is always sensible to know your partner’s sexual history and to know the truth; at the end of the day, it’s all up to you when it comes to safe sex.
The author of this article Ruth Purple is a Relationships Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Ruth recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website http://www.relazine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.