Relationships are about positive growth. Not just within ourselves but within the other person. It is natural for change to occur whether we want it to or not. As we grow, make new or different choices, implement change in ourselves, take a different path, or stay idle where we are, there will be an effect on our relationships; all of them. If these changes and choices cannot be embraced and enhanced by the support and love of those in your life, your relationships may come to a dead end. A dead end relationship is one that does not have the potential to move forward in a direction that you so desire.
The great spiritual “Teachers” of our time say to enjoy every moment with those who come into our lives. But what about the ones who hold us back, give us stress and anxiety, cause or create worry, make us feel insecure, or the ones that come with way too much baggage. Just because someone we “like” shows up in our life experience does not mean they have to remain there and vice versa. Many would say that even though the relationship has no future or is at a stand still, they can still learn and grow from it. I do believe we have the ability to learn and grow from any experience but why would you want to be in a relationship that isn’t blossoming and able to grow?
I get that we as human beings want to try to enjoy the “good parts” of someone even when our hearts are screaming out the truth. I also get that some will “cling” to the “satisfying” parts of the other in an effort to try to forget the unsatisfying parts or in hopes that the other person will change. But you have to ask yourself if it is really worth it. Are a few stolen moments of bliss from time to time worth all the negativity that comes with it? When any relationship creates consistent feelings of dis-ease, isn’t it time to re-examine it?
If you have someone in your life that brings you great joy but comes with “issues” that cause you anguish, there is only one thing you can do. You have to accept that person exactly as they are but you also have to find complete peace with what it is they are doing or not doing that is causing you the discontent. Expect nothing from them for until they are ready for a loving and committed relationship nothing is going to change.
Cindy is a Personal Development Life Coach. Her knowledge and expertise comes from 20 years of study, personal life experiences, and from working as a community volunteer and mentor. Cindy guides people toward finding true happiness and life fulfillment along their own unique path. To learn more about Cindy go to www.cindy-ortiz.com or visit her personal blog at www.leaplikeafrog.com