Two Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce
Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a Baby Boomer or beyond and you're getting divorced after a long marriage.
1. Get emotional support.
Make sure you get support or counseling to help you with this overwhelming loss. Don't be surprised if intense grief lasts for a few years. The first year is the most difficult, as you pass each milestone on the calendar, your first holidays single, etc.
2. Get a new life.
After that, you slowly begin to develop a new life, and your loss becomes more manageable. Eventually, you will cherish your fond memories but be ready for something new in your life.
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.