The time during and post childbirth for a mother is signified by GIVING. No matter if you nurse or not you give continually to your baby for months. The first step to returning to intimacy is to give to yourself: This starts with listen more deeply to yourself and having moments and practices to tap into your own feminine. Connecting intimately with your partner will follow once you made the re-connect with yourself.
Do the following practice and see how you feel upon completion. It will support you in:
o Rekindling your feminine intimate energy
o Integrating your creative & pleasure center with your heart & love center
o Tuning with your inner love and joy
1. Mastering your Breath and Coming to Stillness
Sit comfortably on a chair, sofa or cushion on the floor:
o Close your eyes and exhale all the air; then take in a deep breath filling your belly like a big balloon
o On the exhalation visualize sending the breath down and out of the base of your spine into the chair or the cushion you are sitting on
o Now, put your right hand on your creation (sexual) center right above your pubic bone
o Again, take in a deep breath filling your belly like a big balloon noticing the expansion of your belly into your right hand
o On the exhalation visualize sending the breath down and out of the base of your spine into the chair or the cushion; the belly flattens
o Continue in this breathing pattern for 5 more times
2. Connecting your Feminine Center with your Heart/Love Center
o Now, put your left hand on your heart center in the middle of your chest between your breasts
o Take in a deep breath filling your belly then your chest and notice the expansion of your chest into your left hand
o On the exhalation visualize sending the breath down into your creation center and into your right hand
o On the inhalation visualize breathing from your right hand on your creation center up into your left hand on your heart center
o Keep going with this breathing pattern and imagine breathing creative and joyous energy from your creation center up into your heart center
o On the exhalation imagine sending love and compassion from your heart center down into your creation center
o Continue in this breathing pattern for 5 more times
o Now squeeze and release your pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) while you breathe up creative energy into your heart center and while you breathe down love energy into your creation center
o Continue breathing this way for 5 more times while squeezing and releasing your pelvic floor muscles
o On your final exhalation relax the muscles
3. Completing
o Now take your hands off slowly and continue breathing in your own rhythm
o Notice how you are feeling right now and how your body is feeling. Notice any sensation or the absence of sensations. Just notice without judging. Being with yourself in the present moment!
If done regularly (once a day or 3 times a week) you will cultivate a deeper connection and appreciation of yourself, your body and your being. Enjoy!
Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver are the authors of Sexual Enlightenment: How to Create Lasting Fulfillment in Life, Love and Intimacy. They have assisted more than ten thousand couples and singles in rekindling and expanding their love and relationships over the past decade.
Founders and directors of the TantraNova Institute in Chicago, they are internationally renowned workshop leaders, relationship and intimacy coaches, and certified Tantra Yoga teachers. Producers of the bestselling DVD Series Creating Intimacy & Love, they have also been featured on Showtime documentary series Sexual Healing and the Emmy Award-winning NBC show Starting Over.
Their retreats and workshops have been acclaimed throughout the USA, North America, and Australia. Several times a year, the couple leads programs at Esalen in Big Sur, California, and at Kripalu, Stockbridge, Massachusetts, where they are on the faculty. Elsbeth and Freddy Zental also lead couples retreats for CEOs and their spouses through the Young Presidents Organization (YPO) and have received the highest recognition for their work.