When you have a relationship break up there are three scenarios one might encounter. The first is basically getting dumped and having to feel the rejection by someone you thought was special to you. Then there is the break up which brings on the feeling of despair and wondering what could have been done to prevent it. Lastly is the worst, being dumped by your significant other for another guy or girl. This would be the worst relationship break up experience. The complete solution to get your ex back is provided at the last paragraph of this write-up, meanwhile lets build the foundation.
Along with dealing with the normal break up experience, along with the feelings of rejection, you also have to deal with betrayal. This is hard because you thought everything was going great for the two of you (or maybe it wasn't) now your partner left you for another.
Ask any guy or girl and they will tell you this is the most painful experience they could have gone through in a relationship. It happens more often than we know and it can turn your world upside down.
If you have experienced this type of break up and experienced the emotional and physical pain it causes you have come to the right place. Unfortunately, there is not one single thing that will make the pain go away. You will have to endure it for a while until the pain subsides.
It's hard to accept at first but you will get over the sadness and depression after breaking up. You will move on with your life as it gets easier and if you learn from this experience you will be better educated from it. Take heart in knowing you are not the first or last to have experienced this type of break up, millions have gone before you.
If this was your first real love it will look like they are the only person in the world for you. But if you later find yourself with another you will feel the same about them. But the second time you will have more experience and understand that will make you do feel that way your perspective is more in tune. It could take most people a few relationship experiences before they finally settle down.
To believe that your ex was the only one for you doesn't make sense. What it will show you is put a lot of dependency on this one person. In retrospect do you feel you worried about how they felt about you, more than you thought about your needs? Did it bother you more to worry that their needs were met more than your own?
If this is so, there could have been an unhealthy balance in the relationship. The reason you were still in this relationship may have nothing to do about being in love. It could have been likened to an addiction so now you are suffering withdraw symptoms.
If your partner initiated the break up and you were caught off guard then your ex was way ahead of you. They may likely see the end coming long ago and has been preparing for the end game. You were missing the clues and did not see it coming.
If you had imagined that this person was part of your future it will be hard to let them go. To help you get through this you will have to accept it happening and make the commitment to move on with your life. If you do not take that big step you will continue to hold on and could be very disappointing.
You may notice after separation your ex is not acting the way they normally would. It has to do with the way the break up is affecting them. You may not notice it but you may be behaving differently yourself. If your ex left you for someone else they are ahead of the game in processing the break up because they planned it out before hand. To help you deal with your feelings, do not be shy talking it over with family or friends. Fortunately women are better at this than men.
It can be hard to let go of the one you loved but if you are not able to accept they are gone you cannot move on. When you reach the point that you can accept that the two of you have no future you decide what your plan is going to be. If you cannot reach that point yet then just pretend you have until you get there. An example is don't try to contact your ex now and see how your thoughts and feelings transform as you distant yourself from them.
What do you do now? This will all depend on how you feel after some time has passed after the break up and you have come to understanding that you can survived. If it is difficult for you to move on then you may need some counseling to help get yourself back on track. Remember to take this experience as a learning tool so you will be better prepared for your next relationship.
You may find it in the future that you are still interested in your ex and would like to reconnect with them. This happens and is something you may pursue but be ensuring to do some research to learn the proper steps to take to ensure your success.
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