What is ego—it is your self. It’s the most self-oriented, most personal part of one’s mind. Your ego is your cardinal soul or spiritual substance and regulates your self esteem and mental state. It leads your reaction or response for each action of others directed toward you. The ego molds and influences one’s outlook toward others and toward oneself. It’s by far the most receptive part of one’s philosophical and psychological structure. Having knowledge and understanding of what our ego is and how it leads each action facilitates us to communicate and interact in a more positive and favorable manner.
Human beings by nature are approval seekers—now that’s a fact. Try looking for something which you could earnestly admire or compliment. Praising genuinely makes people feel good mentally and physically. What you say to other people could have a profound and striking impact on them to the point that it becomes magnetic. Want more friends, clients, customers, more clout, more money, better and stable relationships and certainly more happiness for yourself? Then you can begin by complimenting other individuals with ego nourishment. Praise them with how good looking they are, for the work that they do, what their family does/have, their possessions, etc.
You get the picture---set your own ego aside and stroke others’ egos to get more of what you want. In this practical world of ours, being successful is measured in part by what we own. We judge other people’s successes by what they possess in materialistic point of view. Like it or not, people long for admiration for whatever they have acquired, accomplished, and who they really are not considering the status of life they’re living. You could gauge a better sense of how an ego acts by asking this question to yourself, “What is the chief reason people purchase things?” Perhaps you may say they need all those things for survival...well, partly true.
Nevertheless, in our society people purchase new clothes, new cars, toys, gadgets, houses and a lot of other stuff just to win the approval of other people. You actually influence and impact others--to give you more of what you want via “ego food” or psychological nourishment. On the other side of the coin, they’re revoked, become angered and hostile when you start feeding them psychological poison. This psychological poison contains of statements and actions which disparage a person leading to negative and unfavorable results. Ego poison is the leading cause of troubles and problems at home, workplace, societies and broken relationships.
Ego poison is the primary cause of physical violence which can lead to murder! While psychological nourishment is mental (ego) food which makes you feel good and fantastic about who you are and whatever you do. Both psychological poison and psychological nourishment are learned behaviors and attitudes. Giving out ego nourishment wins cooperation from other people, commands more enhanced performance, gains love, support and respect from others. So the bottom line is, if you want to create miracles, influence others and win their support, then praise them for what they are, what they have or what they do.
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Click here to get more info about her Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You.