Dave Shields is The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to "Relationship Advice". You can find complete information on Dave Shields and his products by visiting Kenosis Center.
I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like...
"I'm sure what you're saying is right, but I don't want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women..."
..or...
"I have seen what you're talking about happen all my life, but I'm a 'nice guy' and I want women to like me ... Views: 678
Here are a few more quick stories about guys I know who are "cool".
One guy I know always has girls around him. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen him without at least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four girls with him... and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He always makes fun of the ... Views: 821
"The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration." (Perl S. Buck)Perl S. Buck has written these wise words long before ... Views: 918
I've learned a secret about what's going on 99% of the time when someone is not giving you the respect, admiration, or love you want. It's a secret that probably not in 1 in 1,000 people will ever figure out on his own.
Think about the last time you felt unappreciated at home or work. Didn't ... Views: 753
Many of you have come to me with questions about a person that you have been in a relationship with and mysteriously he or she pulled away.
Men often pull away from a relationship when they are having personal challenges. Men are socialized to be "performance oriented". If they feel they are ... Views: 5029
Time for Exercise: five minutes to one hour
Properties Required: books of poetry
Steps:
Browse through books of poetry to locate poems that elicit an emotional reaction when you read them. The poems might be about love, romance, commitment, or sex.
Copy those you like the ... Views: 1025
Heart Freedom Exercises
Exercises To Do Together
by Al Link and Pala Copeland
Lovers’ Scissors
Although this is an intercourse position, in this instance the focus is not on orgasmic release or simple physical pleasure. By combining mental focus, conscious breath, genital connection, and ... Views: 1007
“I feel like I just walked into a buzz saw.” Have you ever felt this way about your partner? Perhaps you've been apart all day and when you next see him or her, it seems like you can't do anything to your mate's liking. In fact, to you it feels like your love is critical or ... Views: 6386
The Magic Of Making Up burst onto the scene in 2007 and to date, it has helped more than 6000 spurned lovers get back on track with their relationships or coping with a break up.
If you are currently on the wrong end of a dumping avoid panicking. In fact, not only that but avoid the feeling of ... Views: 925
Women in abusive relationships is a scourge that is a plague throughout the world.
Before I proceed I need to comment on the widely held belief that abounds today that abuse in relationships is as likely to be perpetrated by women as it is by men.
My comment is - poppycock. In other words, ... Views: 641
Firstly, a breakup in any relationship is heartbreaking and it turns us all inside out. We cannot think straight. We are all consumed with guilt, grief, hopelessness and helplessness. We are never ‘ourselves’ and cannot be until we are made whole again. Without realizing; we are ... Views: 494
She finds herself at a McDonald's late one night, sipping black coffee from a plastic cup. The place is empty, except for a small night crew, half asleep. She finishes her coffee and looks around, and realizes that no longer is there anywhere to go.
She waves to a worker cleaning the floor, ... Views: 860
Are you going to end up on your death bed wishing you had invested more time and effort into your relationships? Or are you going to be someone who has a multitude of magnificent relationships, making your life amazing? Well this article will not only show you why relationships go downhill, but ... Views: 629
Fear of the unknown creates a rigid, tight-fisted hold on our lives. Not knowing what may be on the other side of the wall is very unnerving. It is easier to be content and comfortable with the known than to put ourselves at risk of feeling discomfort with the unknown. There are several ... Views: 7472
This live chat event took place on November 14, 2005
Moderator: Good evening and welcome to our chat, "Surviving the Holidays with the In-Laws," with our very own Dewey, and NatalieL. As we all know the holidays while a source of great memories and fun, can also be a stressful time of year ... Views: 2228
The beauty of life is in finding the greatest joys in the simplest moments. People, who know the importance of such simple moments, do not miss a single chance to make them memorable. When it comes to making a simple moment memorable, flowers are the first thing that comes in every mind; in ... Views: 574
For most of us when love fails the results can be devastating. Few sufferings in life can compare to that of a broken heart. Many of us are so determined to avoid this that we behave in a way that eliminates us for ever experiencing love again.
This is tragic because the reality of the ... Views: 1313
Teen abusive relationships is another one of the areas of abusive relationships that is part of the huge issue of relationship problems.
There are so many overall aspects of this issue to take into consideration. To get some idea of what I am referring to it may be helpful to touch on some of ... Views: 599
Experiencing emotional intimacy with others is one of the most satisfying experiences of life. Emotional intimacy, or a sense of deep connection with another person or a group of people, occurs when each person is completely open hearted and devoted to taking 100% responsibility for their own ... Views: 2572
You are the CEOs shaping your life together. Are you making it what you want? Do you know what that is? Open your minds and your hearts to craft and form what's best for you. How can you have a good relationship unless the communication is open? Be 'real' with each other! Someone has to go ... Views: 632
Everyone wants happiness. Happiness is the driving force behind almost all of our actions, and even when we are unhappy, we are involved with somehow changing that unhappiness into happiness for ourselves.
When we are confronted with someone or something, we either have a compulsion to pull ... Views: 999
In my practice I find over and over again that people are afraid of conflict. So much so, that when someone does something that goes up their proverbial nose, they don’t say anything, withdraw, count to ten, get over it, or just ignore what just happened. Of course, conflict that is not resolved ... Views: 988
It is a well known fact, that relationships lose their fire after a while. The romantic moments, the butterflies in the stomach, the obsessive thinking about the love object, all those exciting feelings that make you feel alive slowly dim down with time. Like a campfire that runs out of wood. ... Views: 1580
Most human suffering can be explained with the breakdown of relationships between people. Conflicts between countries, childhood abuse, domestic violence, bullying, human trafficking, and work-place conflicts all have in common that on some level the relationships between people lacked ... Views: 736
Have you ever wanted to give your beloved a great sensual massage experience but didn't know where to start? Get the quick key steps to injecting some more pleasure and stimulation in to your relationship.
Set Up Essentials:
• A comfortable table or bed that will allow the massager access ... Views: 5704
If you have just been dumped and wondering how to save your relationship and get back with your ex, then it's important to contain any feelings of panic and desperation.
Easier said than done right but the truth is, unless you temper any desperate thoughts about how you can get your ex to see ... Views: 704
In sharing tips for a good relationship with you, my plan is to give you a number of ideas that can make all the difference to improving your experience of life.
I am aware of how easy it is for any of us to drift through life and miss out on the opportunity to be having a great experience, and ... Views: 701
Kids and adults omit or distort the truth to avoid expected pain. The pain may come from within or from other people. From this view, we liars are *scared,* not bad or immoral! We're still responsible for our behavior.
Think of the last time you needed to lie to someone. What discomfort ... Views: 4445
Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not simply a self esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to ... Views: 2332
Every relationship needs quality time for the bond to remain close and to strengthen over time. Without quality time together a couple will gradually become distant and somewhat alienated from each other.
This section of the book is not just about spending quality time together. It’s also ... Views: 1069
Becoming engaged is a cause to celebrate! Even though you should take the time to enjoy this new stage in your relationship, it is also import to realize the tasks that must be done in order to plan your wedding. It is perfectly alright to ask for help and to do research on weddings, what needs ... Views: 545
Do you know anyone that everyone seems to be drawn to? You continue to watch as this person moves around the room attracting and chatting with and making friends with many people.
What do they have that you don't think you have? Charisma.
Professor of psychology Howard Friedman (University of ... Views: 1060
Have you ever traced your genealogical roots? Perhaps you've conducted searches about your ancestors using the internet or a library's database. It can be fun and quite interesting to find out if your long ago relatives fought in wars, traveled to distant lands with their belongings in a ... Views: 955
I went to a seminar the other day and they mentioned “How money is the cause of most divorces.” How many times have you heard this? The thing is I don’t believe it. Think about this for a moment.
Money is energy just like everything else in this world. It is a piece of paper with ink on it. It ... Views: 874
Breaking up in any relationship is hard and especially when your breakup is with a girl friend it is very tough to get over an ex girlfriend from your heart and soul. Everything around you is dull and meaningless and you find solace only when you are isolated from the world round you which keeps ... Views: 9029
JOE'S SELFISHNESS DRIVES LORRAINE CRAZY
Lorraine was infuriated. She got in her car, raced the engine and zoomed into the street, the screeching tires magnifying her frustrated rage. She¡¦d show him! Let him worry about where she was, whether she was okay, and sweat over when she would be ... Views: 1410
You've probably noticed that I don't talk about the idea of "romance" very often.
There's a good reason for this.
I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in.
I'm going to take some time ... Views: 651
The biggest enemy to your chances of winning your ex back when you've been spurned is panic. Panic leads you to do crazy things and if you are in a situation where you've just been dumped then whatever you do, don't panic!
In this article, we'll show you some ways which can help you temper your ... Views: 988
How I learned to invite love back into my life.
While I was so busy convincing myself that my love Finn and I should be apart (see previous post), and blaming our relationship for my acting out, very slowly, Finn crept back into my heart. Love is inevitable that way. It partners with truth: ... Views: 1062
'It's over' two little words are what were needed to end your relationship with your sweetie. You just can't get over your ex girlfriend. Your world collapses and you are under great pressure to even beg her to come back to you as ever. You would do anything and everything at this situation to ... Views: 3629
Introduction
Many events in our lives are destined, beginning with our birth, the family we are born into and other major events like marriage and death. In this article we will examine the factors which influence compatibility of couples.
1. Contribution of the Law of Karma in compatibility ... Views: 5252
In sharing tips for a good relationship with you, my plan is to give you a number of ideas that can make all the difference to improving your experience of life.
I am aware of how easy it is for any of us to drift through life and miss out on the opportunity to be having a great experience, and ... Views: 1849
Arguing between couples is normal and will happen to the best of couples. Avoiding arguments is probably not healthy and sooner or later one of you will explode. Arguments are a necessary part of any relationship because they allow you an avenue to express thoughts and opinions that you might ... Views: 5007
Let your man BE himself.
Sounds like straight out of grandma's mouth -- old-fashioned, compliant, "un-liberated", not for the 21st Century woman.
But think about it.
If more and more men are saying the qualities they look for most in a woman are "strong, confident and independent", yet the ... Views: 1303
We live in a world where loneliness runs rampant and has been identified as the most dominant social problem in America today. The longing for real connection with another human being can keep us from fulfilling our potentials and giving our gifts to the world. It is just that important an ... Views: 796
Want to learn how to get girls? Well, then listen up…this is a key skill in attracting women into your life.
So many guys are truly clueless when it comes to complimenting a woman. How many of you have said any version of the following:
“Wow, you’re totally gorgeous. Let ... Views: 4109
Jane Fonda met, soon to be star, James Franciscus in her college drama class. As she wrote in her autobiography, 'My Life So Far', "James was movie star handsome, smart, literate, and had a sense of humor." He became her first real love.
She goes on to say that Franciscus had a great passion ... Views: 4535
When it comes to habits you can bet that change is going to require an act of the will. Habits are the attitudes and behaviors that generally work for us in some way. They're so effective that we come to rely on them. Some habits are harmless, like leaving your keys in the basket on the baker's ... Views: 1600
Money can be the source of financial stress, resentment and arguments for many couples. Many marriages have caved in under the pressure of too much debt, poor investment choices, spending addictions, or overspending to maintain a lifestyle that is financially inappropriate. In this article ... Views: 1339
MEN LIKE WOMEN WHO LIKE THEMSELVES. It sounds so simple. Like two plus two equals four. Simple. Yet most women know from their own personal experience that the 'mathematics' of love and relationships are rarely this simple. Indeed, they know that love and relationships can be painfully ... Views: 1632