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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Depender - Neglector - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyYou grew up in a home where very little was expected from you. You were not given responsibilities to help you develop as a child and teenager. Let’s face it, you were a “mamma’s boy” or “daddy’s girl”. Don’t get me wrong, parents that want to spoil their kids have great intentions. If your ...
Views: 1478 - Allergies: What You Can Do - by Millions of people cringe when they see flowers start blooming in spring each year, because they know they will soon be fighting spring allergies. According to recent statistics, allergies are assuming epidemic proportions in the United States, with up to 30% of adults and 40% of children now ...
Views: 796 - Create a Harmonious Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Robert NajemyHarmonious relationships are the result of inner work, love and deep respect for ourselves and the other. Below are some simple basic guidelines for that process 1. Take full responsibility for our reality. We are the sole creators of our thoughts and feelings. No one can create our happiness, ...
Views: 1178 - What Guys Really Want - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Bruce MulkeyWhat do guys really want? Chicks with nice boobs? Copious amounts of cold beer? Plenty of sports? A really cool car? The new iPhone? Well, that online video of Jennifer Aniston strolling topless down the beach is pretty titillating. And it’s hard to beat a pint of good ale with a hot slice ...
Views: 1006 - Creating Relationships That Work - by Couple Getaway Weekend
"Our relationship is so much better because of the time we spent with you Bill and Linda. We are experiencing new and different ways to make our love grow. It has made such a difference. This makes our bond even more precious."
- - Lance and Annabelle Wallnau
Want to ...
Views: 665 - Dad Gets A Special Day Too - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2007 from VicToria FreudigerAs we welcome June, we honor the father in our life that has left lasting impressions—one way or another. Father's Day can be an undeclared invitation from life to reflect on the many aspects of the relationship between you and your father. Whether he is alive or has made his transition makes ...
Views: 639 - Relationship Conflicts - Part 3 - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Robert NajemyCLEANLINESS AND ORDER vs. FREEDOM AND RELAXATION Anna and George have been married for a number of years. They have each settled into their own stances concerning various matters on which they do not agree. One of those is just how clean and in order the house must be. Anna’s standards ...
Views: 623 - Are You Asking For What You REALLY Want? Be Courageous! - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Margie WarrellAs you read the title of this article perhaps you were thinking "umm... I don't know... could I?" If that was the case for you then I want you to begin by thinking about something in your life that is not how you would like it to be right now - a person who is annoying you; a situation which ...
Views: 803 - When is Love Real? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2007 from Colette Dowling, LCSWReal love is not only hard to find, it’s hard to accept. This may seem counterintuitive, I know, but if you really ponder it long enough to get it, it could change the way you think about love. All of us have been wounded in some way, whether by early love relationships or later ones. ...
Views: 1343 - Unchain My Heart - by Disconnected? Do you feel disconnected from your true self and a desire to somehow be and express more of who you really are? Do you feel a lack of connection with others, and the need for closer more genuine relating with friends, co-workers, and community? If you answered yes to either or both ...
Views: 687 - Hearts and Flowers, or Heartaches and Frustration? Five ways to break free of conflict and experience connection - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2007 from Suzanne VachetToo often our relationships seem not to warm us, but rather to push our "hot buttons." What's going on when this happens? Let's look at five reasons why we might experience conflict in our relationships: 1. We are not being authentic 2. We are listening to our inner voices instead of the other ...
Views: 573 - Learn Why It's Impossible To Fail At Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaLearn How It’s Impossible To Fail At Love Dr. Brenda Shoshanna Usually relationships start out wonderfully. Everyone’s thrilled. They feel that finally they’ve found the “one”. Then as time passes, as problems come up and old patterns start re-appearing, they ...
Views: 7320 - Four STeps To Becoming Closer (Developing Emotional Intimacy) - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaEven when they are in relationships, many wish to become closer to their partners and share quality time that is truly intimate. They want to feel free to express all of themselves. Although many try in all kinds of ways, it is helpful to learn some direct steps, which open emotional doors ...
Views: 21990 - 5 Top Tips To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Chris GreenAre you like millions of other people who've endured the frustration of relationship breakdown? Perhaps you're disillusioned with love because relationship after relationship never lasts. Here are 5 reasons as to why many relationships breakdown to help you form lasting, happier unions. ...
Views: 5556(1 vote) - What Are We? - Titles and Validation - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2007 from Cristin LentineThese are the most common questions people ask once they're in a new relationship and are seeking clarity. "What are we?" "Are we exclusively committed, just dating, friends with benefits or what?" "How does this person view me, how do they feel about me and what can I expect from them in ...
Views: 668 - Excerpt from "Restoring Relationships" - by When we pollute our relationships with unloving thoughts, or destroy or abort them with unloving attitudes, we are threatening our emotional survival.
- MARIANNE WILLIAMSON
You are holding this book for a reason. You may be hurting or confused over a marriage or a relationship that has been ...
Views: 2753 - The Secrets to Lifelong Love: Brought to You by Two Bachelors - by Throughout our search for America’s greatest marriages, the record for the longest interview Jason (my best friend since third grade) and I have done goes to Ruth and Eddie Elcott, a feisty and vibrant couple married 62 years.
Three hours into the interview, I wanted to know the Holy Grail of ...
Views: 698 - It's Not About Bananas - by I can't believe I'm telling you this.
The other day, my husband came through the door with a bag of groceries. Bananas in particular. " Honey," I asked, "why didn’t you ask ME if we needed anything?" I was secretly annoyed because I'd been planning a trip to the grocery store myself. ...
Views: 519 - Rules for A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from John PhillipsMy wife and I have traveled around the world several times in the last couple of years. We are always looking for unique and low cost souvenirs to remind of our trips. Recently we discovered a souvenir plate in a little shop in Manila, Philippines with the Rules for a happy marriage. ...
Views: 926 - Fine Tuning Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieIntimate relationships offer great potential for connection, personal growth and healing. Yet many people find that although successful in their careers and are able to maintain close friendships, they struggle in intimate relationships. Often these relationships aren’t working because the same ...
Views: 808 - Human Design System and Relationships - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Kip WinsettBeen there done that Being in a relationship with someone you love is probably one of the very best things in life. But it’s not always easy. While there are some people who seem to always be close and never have even a hint of a problem, most of us seem to find our relationships rocky now and ...
Views: 980 - It Depends On Me - by "If it is to be, it is up to me!" was the first quote that really hit me while reading my first self-help book by Wally Famous Amos ... and the start of my continuous travels on the road to an empowered life.
Once I was certain what it was I set out for myself to accomplish, I had to design an ...
Views: 653 - Internet Dating Do's and Don'ts - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Amy SchoenHere is some Internet dating etiquette to help you along the way with any relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through the various online dating websites. Just as being honest ...
Views: 2081 - Why Do We Fear Close Relationships? - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyAlthough we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed fears and subconscious resistance ...
Views: 23810(8 votes) - How to Have a Great Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2007 from Leo RyanThis is being written to put forward an understanding of relationships that can enable us to have the relationship we all want. It is also being written after having worked as a counsellor for over twenty years and dealing with numerous relationships during that time. I believe I have arrived at ...
Views: 598 - Reconciliation Counselling - by Submitted on May 16, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldReconciliation Counselling Some people look across the great divide of a fractured relationship feeling it can never exist again. In such situations, the parties may be at odds with respect to their version of events. They may feel there must be agreement on the version of events, without which ...
Views: 2586 - Building Greater Relationships - One Shoe at a Time - by Submitted on May 14, 2007 from Lori RandallBuilding Greater Relationships – One Shoe at a Time The long awaited camping trip had finally arrived. Our fifth wheel trailer was packed to the gills, our kids were strapped in and the other two couples had started a caravan behind us to our lakeside destination. The lady at the ...
Views: 661 - Tips for Handling Extreme Religious Differences - by Submitted on May 11, 2007 from Margrit HarrisAre you a modern day Romeo and Juliet? Are you dealing with as much pain and struggle making your impossible relationship decisions as your fanciful predecessors? Recently this heart wrenching question was submitted to our online relationship advice column: "What do I do, my boy friend is an ...
Views: 1391 - The Secret of Perfect Relationships - by The less we learn to long for -- or depend upon --
Special understanding from others,
The less we will suffer for not receiving this.
The less we suffer over what others
Seem incapable of giving to us,
The less unhappy will we find ourselves
In these unanswered moments of our lives
Spent ...
Views: 649 - Remove The Distance In Your Relationship - by Relationships usually start out great. People treat each other with love and respect. Then something happens and we get upset.
When you are upset at someone, you can’t be with the person. There are a million miles of distance between you and the person you are upset with.
Before long, ...
Views: 16820(2 votes) - Are You Terrified of Social Rejection? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDoes your shyness and fear of getting rejected keep you from having the relationships you want? Are you lonely much of the time? Everyone gets rejected at times, but for those of us who are socially confident, rejection is a minor matter, and people who are confident quickly bounce back from ...
Views: 2181 - Love Is Gentle - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2010 from Gina LakeI was listening to a song the other day, and some of the words were "Love is gentle, and love is kind." The truth of that really touched me. We think of love as being a feeling—an emotion—but true love is more of a doing. Love touches, love gives, love is gentle, and it is kind. That's how we ...
Views: 732 - How to Talk to Your Friend in Pain-Part 1 - by Submitted on May 09, 2007 from Jennifer BrostKimberly was 24 years-old and scared. She had been recently diagnosed with Lupus, a serious and potentially life-threatening illness that could rob her of a bright future. Doctors had already warned her against having children. She felt she should stop dating her new boyfriend because she ...
Views: 629 - Want Highly Responsive Leads? - by Leads are not just leads, they are your CUSTOMERS! If you treat your leads well, they will be your customers for life.
Part of treating your customers well is to continually build a relationship with them. As your relationship builds, so will the trust and loyalty your leads have for you. One ...
Views: 559 - Help Your Relationship Flourish by popping the Question??to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. we are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways, he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such problems ...
Views: 535 - Transforming Through Conflict - by Conflict is a natural stage in the development of relationship between two people, or between members of a group. But because most of us have been taught to avoid conflict, when we encounter it in groups, we retreat to the safety of shallow relationships with one another. Conflict is often a ...
Views: 627 - 5 Ways to Improve Your Dating Experiences - by Submitted on May 02, 2007 from Amy SchoenToday, we're going to discuss relationship issues with dating. Dating can be a very frustrating experience. Don’t you wish you could go up to a computer and punch in all the characteristics and qualities of your ideal mate and then, abracadabra that person appears custom made for ...
Views: 2080 - From Codependency to Cocommitment - Part 1 - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Robert NajemyTwo new words have become very popular in studying the Psychology of Relationships. They are codependence and co-commitment, which describe two totally different types of relationships. CODEPENDENCE Codependence describes a situation in which two people are dependent or addicted to each other. ...
Views: 1167 - 3 SECRETS OF THE HAPPY FAMILY HOLIDAY - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Angela SaundersPressured to take a family holiday, but dreading the prospect of close proximity? So many times when the family is thrown together the little niggling problems from normal family life seem to loom larger and louder. Guilt can so easily move into the deckchair along with you as you search for an ...
Views: 1195 - The 10 Most Common Relationship & Communication Triggers - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownAs a relationship specialist over the past 15+ years I have coached lots of people in person and on the phone to have better intimacy and communication in their personal, as well as in their business relationships. Here are some of the most common ways I have found that you may trigger each ...
Views: 1006 - Emotional Intimacy - by Emotional intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy often does not occur within any kind of sexual context.
Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and ...
Views: 41316(6 votes) - Why Relationships Break Down Without the Proper Mindset - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2007 from adrian masterMind setting is a valuable practice for setting goals and achieving them with commitment and hard work. Mind setting is also important in relationships. Whether you are building relationships with family members, friends, or significant others, mind setting can be a great way to deal with any ...
Views: 686 - Seven Ways to Defang Difficult People - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Tom RussellDifficult people are on the hunt for a quarrel. It's not personal, usually. It's just that you happen to be the most convenient target. Difficult people are insecure. They want YOU to think and live like THEY think and live. Misery indeed loves company. They feel ...
Views: 1068 - Create and Maintain a Conscious Love Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe present you with a brief outline of some basic points necessary to tend to in order to create a harmonious and loving relationship. INNER PREPARATION Internal preparation is prerequisite for developing the maturity necessary to succeed in creating a conscious loving union with our love ...
Views: 1855 - Relationship Matters - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2007 from Harry SegguThis is one of the hardest things that we have to cope with in life—Relationships. Yes indeed, and it really does matter. If you think that it doesn’t, then think again. Everything that we do in life literally, has an impact on relationships. It can be a relationship with your ...
Views: 1147 - Just Divorced - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2007 from Robert NajemyMargarita’s husband just left her for another woman. Her world has collapsed. She feels rejected, betrayed, hurt, depressed, belittled, shamed, fearful, bitter, injustice and anger and even revenge at times. She fears that she will not be able to cope with life alone. She fears that ...
Views: 623 - How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything, Discovering Your Relationship DNA - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneStart with the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything and it will empower you to investigate how you relate, not just in a love relationship, but also with yourself and all others. This defuses the mindset of looking to fix what is ‘broken' and sets you on the path to ...
Views: 2094(6 votes) - On Truth and Lies - by ON TRUTH AND RELATIONSHIPS:
The big game of relationships is life. The relationship between ozone and skin cancer, between kindness and wisdom, between a mother and a son, between two lovers, between mass its speed and its gravitational balance. Everything in this universe is based on ...
Views: 1687 - Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect Partner - by Yin Yang is the ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts the strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For example, we have all met people for whom ...
Views: 2349 - Relationships and Self Esteem - What to Do if your Relationship isn't Working - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2007 from David Bonham-CarterBeing in a relationship which doesn’t feel as if it is quite working can be a paralysing experience and usually doesn’t help your self esteem. If you are not careful you can end up spending most of your time, worrying about: * What you should do * Whose fault is it * What if I get ...
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