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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Fourteen Romantic "Time-Outs" for Parents - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2004 from Susie CortrightHere are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you pay the small attentions that are so integral to lasting intimacy. Day One: Spend 15 minutes kissing. Many married couples report that the simple act of kissing is the first part of intimacy to disappear. Today, ...
Views: 816(1 vote) - How Well Do You Know Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2004 from Dave Turo-ShieldsFor my birthday last year my wife made up a beautifully framed picture of my name, and then underneath it she listed 32 positive qualities I possess. Needless to say, it was one of the finest gifts I have ever received. Some of the qualities even taught me about me. After that ...
Views: 7259(1 vote) - Help Your Relationship Flourish by "Popping the Question" - to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. “We are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways,” he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such ...
Views: 1933(2 votes) - The Five Conversations to Have with Your Spouse Before the Holidays - by Many people experience stress during the holiday season. Some get the blues, others find that the holidays don't turn out quite they way they had hoped. To make sure your holiday season creates more joy and less stress, have these five conversations with your spouse soon:
Conversation One: ...
Views: 829 - Marital Wellness: A View from the Ledger - by A magazine article I read a few days ago provided advice to the married and those about to be wed. I recognized the author as a well-known psychologist and specialist in the field. The article that went on for five pages touched on numerous topics including the importance of compatibility, ...
Views: 990 - Tips For Singles On Enjoying (and surviving) The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanHere you are, facing the holiday season alone. Have you been thinking about? how alone and lonely you feel excuses you can give family members as to why you can’t come this year what friends may be available to spend those long days with how another year has passed and you are (still) ...
Views: 2585 - Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids? - by None of us want “spoiled” kids - kids who are bratty, self-centered, demanding, inconsiderate. So, what spoils children and what doesn’t?
When I was raising my children, I was often told that I would spoil them if I didn’t let them cry - if I held them a lot. ...
Views: 1216(2 votes) - Haunted: Burying The Ghosts of Lost Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanLate at night, as you read quietly, before you fall off to sleep... During a busy afternoon as you run through a crowd, hurrying back to your office or home.... Sitting in a movie theater, a restaurant or waiting for the light to turn... A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can ...
Views: 1159(1 vote) - Hooking Up vs Lasting Love: It's Your Decision - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"hooking Up" "friends with benefits" "booty call" These terms have become all too familiar in today's dating world. Are they words that you can relate to? Have you lived them in some way? If so, how have you felt about the experience(s) both during and after? Chances are that you have mixed ...
Views: 2705(1 vote) - Let's Be Rational - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2003 from Jay KrunszyinskyAre you a rational or irrational thinker? You may want to believe you are a rational thinker, but you find that you are the eternal pessimist, able to see only the half-empty glass in many situations you face. You are a rational thinker if you turn negative situations into positive ones. You can ...
Views: 1185 - Women and "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"Bad Boys". If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself. There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"! So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not ...
Views: 1022(1 vote) - Men and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The two words, "men" and "relationships", often are not mentioned in the same sentence without a "punch line" following them. In addition, men are often stereotyped as being "insensitive" or "uncaring" when it comes to the needs of their partner. It has been my experience in coaching men that ...
Views: 1886(1 vote) - Are You (or are you with) A "Commitment-Phobe"? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe hear it all the time. "He just won't make a commitment." "She just wants some space right now." "I'm not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship." What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are ...
Views: 1838(1 vote) - Are You An Island Girl? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from John KuypersElton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ...
Views: 2470(1 vote) - THOSE WHO HAVE SUSTAINED MARRIAGE - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2003 from YAMIN MEMONThose who have sustained a successful marriage practice these qualities in their married life. I have listed some of their qualities below. Follow these tips and enjoy lasting married and family life. DO NOT SHARE YOUR PRESONAL PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS: There are a few exceptions to this rule, but ...
Views: 1079(1 vote) - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 8908(1 vote) - Are You Relationship Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanSo, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not ...
Views: 940(1 vote) - "Plugging Up The Holes in Your Relationships..." - by Submitted on May 21, 2003 from Susie and Otto CollinsAre there any "holes" in your relationship? If you're like us--the answer is yes. In fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." "Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one. ...
Views: 928(1 vote) - Making The Connection: Tips For Getting Noticed - by Submitted on May 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanChances are that you have had a wide variety of experiences in your quest for meeting singles. These can range from an event that yields several nice interactions and at least one offer to get together for a date, to going home feeling frustrated and convinced you are destined to be a dating ...
Views: 826(1 vote) - Peaceful Money Management for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2003 from Kathy MillerRegardless of how much or how little people have, money is the most common cause of dissension in relationships. While each couple is unique, most arguments about financial matters start with either lack of organization or lack of communication. Both of these are behavior issues, and behavior ...
Views: 3836(1 vote) - 10 Things You Should Ask Yourself If You're Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship - by Whether you've been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don't have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make.
We've both also made this decision ourselves in our previous relationships, ...
Views: 1233(1 vote) - Tips For Becoming Fluent In The Non-Verbal Language Of Dating - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe are all too familiar with the term "body language". There have been books, workshops and endless discussions spawned by it. But do you really KNOW how to interpret the non-verbal messages that other people broadcast on a continual basis in their interactions with you? There are two levels of ...
Views: 957(1 vote) - The Seven Stages of a Romantic Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThere are seven stages in a romantic relationship: avoidance, meeting, dating, breaking up, establishing exclusivity, commitment, and keeping the love you find. Each of these stages vary in length and intensity. At each stage, there are thoughts and feelings telling you what to do and when to do ...
Views: 8429(4 votes) - Test Your Own Marriage Satisfaction - by Marital relationships are complex institutions! In order to improve the quality of a marriage, it helps to take a systematic look at how it is functioning.
Here is a questionnaire you can use as a general guide for evaluating your marital satisfaction.
After each question below write down ...
Views: 4146(1 vote) - Happiness And The Single Person; Changing Myth Into Reality - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDoes the expression "single and happy" sound like an oxymoron to you? Are you weary of others (especially other singles) reinforcing the belief that singles can't be happy? Do you find yourself always planning for the future or putting things off until you "are married and settled? Do you often ...
Views: 930(1 vote) - Tips for Making the First Date Bearable - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnThe first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you. 1. Keep it in perspective. If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it. 2. Keep your expectations in line. Consider possibilities rather ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - Some Women Get Mad When You Say "No"! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Dr. Dennis NederHi Doc! Why is it that when women turn men down for sex, they expect us to be understanding and caring, and when men turn women down, they flip out?? Here's the situation: I broke up with a girl I had been with, but have been able to remain minor friends. I know you don't think that's a ...
Views: 7688(1 vote) - Getting Past the Arguments - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kali MunroOne of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clear the air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive. Fights that never go anywhere, that are repeated year after year, or that leave you feeling ...
Views: 1305(1 vote) - Tips For Singles On Surviving (And Enjoying) The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2002 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanTIPS FOR SINGLES ON SURVIVING (AND ENJOYING) THE HOLIDAYS Here you are, facing the holiday season alone. Have you been thinking about? *how alone and lonely you feel *excuses you can give family members as to why you can't come this year *what friends may be available to spend those long ...
Views: 1350(1 vote) - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 4 - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2002 from Love Coach RinattaFinally, after all of the hard work you have done completing your past, here is a way to break your relationship pattern. Relationship choices are often based on patterns created in our childhood. These patterns are automatic and subliminal. We believe ours is the way relationships ought to be. ...
Views: 4704(1 vote) - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 3 - by Do you want to put to rest the people and situations from your past so they do not interfere with your current and future relationships?
I bet you said yes. Who doesn't have something in their past they want to put to rest? Then let's talk about what action steps you can take to create the ...
Views: 1461(1 vote) - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 2 - by The first step toward being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is to clear the way for it by eliminating baggage from your past. This baggage refers to any resentments, hurts, or fears you have toward anyone who either was a role model or who
participated directly in a ...
Views: 2279(1 vote) - Living in Fear! - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2002 from Joseph GhabiLiving in Fear! As we are aware, our relationships are that bigger part of our life, and our own personal growth. Our growth starts basically from our relationships. Remember when we were young looking up to our parents, or to our older brothers or sisters, sometimes envying them for being ...
Views: 5471(1 vote) - Ten Benefits of Having a Relationship Coach - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Love Coach RinattaAs a Master Certified Relationship Coach, I work with singles to help them attract a great match and with couples to help put their relationships back on track. I hear great feedback from my clients about the value of coaching. I think everyone can benefit from having a coach -- coaching can ...
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