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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- When You Have Problems In a Relationship - Should You Forgive and Forget? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealIf someone has let you down or hurt you repeatedly you may wonder how many times you should "forgive and forget" before you give up on the relationship. No one else can really tell you what to do, although you may wish to ask others for their advice. If you are always being let down or hurt ...
Views: 2950 - The Telephone Cable - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2007 from Wayne MisnerMen are forcing themselves to suppress pain and by doing so, are also suppressing love. Humans cannot filter or suppress one set of emotions without impacting all emotions. He now appears to be insensitive, hardened, unfeeling, callous, thick skinned, numb, and sometimes dead. Try cutting a ...
Views: 939 - Relationship help from the I Ching - by Everyone has difficulties in their most important relationships. Problems in love cannot be set aside and forgotten ? they are ever-present, and can threaten to devour your whole existence. Perhaps more than in any other area of life, relationships are full of unanswered questions.
What do I ...
Views: 637 - Learning About Relationhips - by As a psychologist it is apparent to me that when most people marry they believe their relationship will remain rewarding and loving; they do not expect to divorce. Yet the divorce rate is about 60% for first marriages, and is even higher for second marriages. So, we have a situation where people ...
Views: 570 - The Top Ten Tips for Being an Excellent Listener - by One of the biggest secrets for being successful with both your personal and your business goals is learning the skills of listening with excellence. Pick one of the tips below and practice applying it throughout the day today.
1. Detect whether the person talking to you is expressing facts or ...
Views: 1257(2 votes) - The Singles Scarcity Myth - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonBeware singles...you are about to be invited into a deception regarding the singles scene in your local area. According to the 2006 “Best Cities for Singles” research from Forbes.com (http://www.forbes.com/lists/2006/3/06singles_Best-Cities-For-Singles_land.html ), your home town may ...
Views: 795 - Uncoupling - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2007 from Wayne MisnerYou have heard it said, “Caught hook, line and sinker”. However, it is a pleasant caught. A mutual decision most of the time. You both start out in life your own color. Maybe you are red, they are yellow and as a couple when you are both mixed together you become a pair that is ...
Views: 1053 - Painful Relationship? Here's Pain Relief - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2007 from Love Coach RinattaDear Reader, your almost-to-be ex-partner has treated you badly. You have been neglected, unappreciated, rejected, not communicated with. You may have been cheated on. You have been unsupported. You have been abandoned. You have been reacted to badly over and over again. You have been forced ...
Views: 1425 - Fan the Flames Of Love and Passion - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2007 from Kara OhYou can bring back the passion in a long-term relationship by doing the following exercise: Each of you take time to be alone and think back to when you were "in love" and "in lust" with your partner, particularly in the beginning. Write down all those things you did for each other, all the ...
Views: 885 - FIGHTING RULES - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2007 from Wayne MisnerFIGHTING RULES “It is not necessary to understand things in order to argue about them.” Caron de Beaumarchais This proverb encouraged me to write “Fighting Rules.” Next time you are upset with one ...
Views: 744 - Re-Ignite the Flame in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2007 from Leslie Gail"Re-ignite the flame in your relationship" For many people, after being married for a certain amount of time you get comfortable in your relationship. This is not a bad thing, however comfort sometimes leads to a lack of excitement. I myself have been married almost 11 years, and between ...
Views: 2784 - When Family Members Drift Apart - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2007 from Julie RedstoneRelationships that are inherited often feel like they are not chosen. Some are peaceful and loving, but many are embattled or difficult in other ways. Sometimes the reasons for creating distance seem more compelling than the reasons for creating love, yet in all cases it is of benefit to the ...
Views: 640 - Nerds Need Love Too - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2007 from collin rosatiNerds Need Love Too On a beautiful summer day a couple of years ago, a woman came to me with a simple problem. She wanted to find her true love but she did not want to change anything in her otherwise successful life. She did not belong to any social groups or health clubs, and her only ...
Views: 639 - Relationship Therapy in One Session - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2007 from Tim DesmondThis article is also available at http://www.psychresources.net Communication problems are by far the most common reason that couples come in for counseling. However, learning new communication skills does not always address the true cause of their problem. For example, many people who have ...
Views: 746 - Anger & The Cycle Theory - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from Wayne MisnerAnger & The Cycle Theory The cycle theory, consisting of some form of tension building stage, then the explosion stage, then the honeymoon stage, is just one of many theories around today. It does seem that when anyone holds in all of their emotions and tries to control them, the tension ...
Views: 866 - 5 Needs Of A Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from dale mazurekDoes anybody know what they want out of a relationship? Do you know what you’re looking for in a partner and what needs need to be fulfilled? Most of us get scared and mixed up when we start thinking about what we are looking for when trying to pick our significant other. But once you ...
Views: 3128 - STARTING AGAIN - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from Wayne MisnerSTARTING AGAIN I had a male friend who would have breakfast with me on Sunday mornings every once in a while. On one of these occasions, we were eating breakfast and he seemed preoccupied and in his own little world. I asked him if there was anything wrong, and he started to explain that his ...
Views: 844 - Communicating With Women - Listening Without Solving - by If you’ve ever listened to two women talking to one another, you have probably heard a different style of communication than you’re used to. When two women communicate, they generally converse their thoughts without offering solutions. They basically want to vent certain thoughts or ...
Views: 2431 - Friends in Pain: How to Help Your Hurting Loved One - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2007 from Jennifer Brost“Where’s your husband?” the nurse asked. “At school,” I struggled to respond. “What school?” the nurse knew he needed to get to the hospital ASAP. In what was a miracle, I named the seminary and recited the phone number. My husband made it to the ...
Views: 738 - How to Enjoy Stress Free Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2007 from michael atmaImagine how your life might be if you knew how to finally stop the stress in relationships that saps your strength, drains your energy and ruins your productivity! Until you have released the need for judgment, you will always have it reflected back to you in your relationships. This is one ...
Views: 1344 - The Golden Rule to Get Over a Relationship Break Up - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2007 from Joshua UebergangDid you know psychologists concur that having a relationship break up is like going through grief? Contrasting grieving and getting over a break up, you can probably see why. In both cases you lose someone you loved and you're unwilling to psychologically let them go. By using similar principles ...
Views: 14819 - Appreciate The Differences For A Great Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2007 from Tony ThomasMen and women are different. Yeah, I know that's not an earth-shattering revelation. However, it is a simple but deeply revealing concept that should be understood. It could mean the difference between being in a great relationship and being without one. Being married for many years, I feel as ...
Views: 696 - The Politics of Dating - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2007 from Rita Bigel-CasherThe Politics Of Dating "Those marriages generally abound most with love and constancy that are preceded by a long courtship." Joseph Addison Whether you are single, widowed, divorced or about to be, pursuing love can be more fruitful when you are open to the many exciting opportunities it ...
Views: 1869 - Getting and Keeping the Woman You Desire - Ten Do's and Don'ts - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2007 from Rhonda FindlingSometimes men meet women their attracted to but don’t have the right tools to engage them, resulting in a lost connection. As an author and dating coach to hundreds of men and women throughout the years I’ve discovered the 10 following ways of behaving and relating that will ensure a ...
Views: 1051 - Improve Your Romance with Feng Shui - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2007 from Linda BinnsRomance is in the air - especially during the month of February. But for many people, romantic relationships seem unattainable or current love connections lack the sparks they once created. Feng Shui, the ancient art of object placement to enhance energy flow through a space, is gain-ing ...
Views: 705 - Managing Conflicts with Loved Ones, Helps Love Grow! - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2007 from Nora Femenia,We are all sure that having peace and harmony in our relationships keeps us healthy, vital and productive. We all know that, on the other hand, conflict can make us tense, sick and unhappy…only because we are scared of its consequences. Unfortunately, harmony gets broken because we ...
Views: 1199(1 vote) - The Challenge of Merging Your Lives - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2007 from Margaret PaulLily and Don, both in their 40s, decided to get married after dating each other for a year. Lily’s children were in college, while Don still had children coming to his house every other weekend. They discovered early in their marriage that it was one thing to date and quite another to ...
Views: 2378 - The Power of Unconditional Love - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2007 from Tristan Loo“You can’t give love to someone else without knowing how to give yourself love first.” ~Tristan Loo According to humanistic psychology, human beings have an inner need and desire to give and receive high quality love. Love is the glue that holds ...
Views: 11674 - Essential Ingredients for a successful relationship - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Thabet Sava HassanCriteria for evaluating one’s relationship with one’s partner Creating a healthy environment for a mutually satisfying relationship became the most hard and tedious task that a couple has to face in the complicated society in which we live. Nowadays, divorce is the norm and ...
Views: 6837 - Trouble in Break-Up City - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2006 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder, My fiancé decided it was best to end our two year relationship about a month and a half ago. In this time I have realized why she did it and that she meant more to me than I ever knew. I made a lot of mistakes that I didn't see until now. I talked to her about a month ago and ...
Views: 673 - How a High Fiber Diet Can Save Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2006 from Douglas AlpFor many years now we have been hearing about how a high fiber diet has many health benefits.Although there are many that do follow a high fiber diet the majority of people do not I believe the reason why many people do not follow a high fiber diet is that they truly don't realize what the fiber ...
Views: 912 - The Power of Kindness in Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2006 from Margaret PaulThere is one choice you can make that will heal many of your relationship problems. This is the choice of kindness – to both yourself and to others. This may sound simple, yet for many people, there is one choice far more important to them than kindness. This is the choice to attempt to ...
Views: 3437 - Use Eye Contact to Improve Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealHave you ever wondered why some people make friends so easily? Do you wonder why they are popular and act as friendship magnets? Do you wonder what you're doing wrong? If you're not making friends easily, it might not be your clothing style, or your financial status that is to blame. It ...
Views: 5089 - I'm Dating This Guy Who is in the Process of Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2006 from Susan DunnI get letters. As a Relationship Coach, and the “How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams” expert on a major website, I get letters. “I’ve been seeing a guy for a year who’s in the process of a divorce,” writes Anne (not her real name). She goes on to ...
Views: 4404 - 5 Actions For Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2006 from Margaret PaulCouples that have a very good relationship are not just lucky. Successful, loving relationships do not just happen. The couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships are not taking. ACTION 1 - KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHER Think for a ...
Views: 2161 - Tips for dating just for the pleasure of it - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2006 from Nathalie FisetDating need not be an occasion where nerves are frayed and the palms are all sweaty. With the right attitude and the right atmosphere, dating can be pleasurable, enjoyable and fun. Heck, it can even be quite therapeutic if you know what buttons to tweak! Below are some tips that one can do to ...
Views: 622 - Online Dating Etiquette - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2006 from Nathalie FisetToday, as everyone who uses a computer and surfs the Internet knows, the World Wide Web can be used for a large number of reasons, the more popular uses among them being banking and e-commerce, shopping, and finding a partner in love. As the number of users like you has been growing steadily, so ...
Views: 1836 - Starting Over - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneHave you ever found yourself in one of those moods where no matter what your partner says or does, it is all fodder for the fight? Where you are angry, disturbed and nothing he or she says or does is right or good enough to relieve your sense of aggravation? We recently met a couple involved ...
Views: 1287(7 votes) - Simma & Kate's Strategies for Cross-Generational Relationship Building - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2006 from simma liebermanHere we highlight what we think are the best ways to push past generational barriers and build strong intergenerational relationships. We've divided the strategies into mindset tips (how to approach cross-generational differences) and practical tips (the small things you can do during a ...
Views: 714 - MARRIAGE ADVICE: You're With Your Perfect Teacher - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2006 from Karen JonesIt’s a constant and ongoing battle in your marriage. You like to have things laid out and to be prepared for what’s coming. He doesn’t plan at all. You know you’d relax if only he’d be a little more focused, and then you could stop having these arguments. How ...
Views: 908 - DATING ADVICE: You, Him and the Not-Quite-Ex-Wife - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Karen JonesWhen it comes to seriously dating a nearly divorced man, there is frequently a third person in your relationship – his not-quite-ex-wife. It feels like he’s the one for you but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. You’ve been loving, generous and ...When ...
Views: 21247 - Why Breaking Up May Be The Best Thing To Happen To You - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2006 from Annie KaszinaNobody wants to go through the pain of a break-up. You feel like the bottom has fallen out of your world, the trust you had in your partner dissolves. You probably feel worthless and unlovable. But still, getting hurt may be the best thing to happen to you. Why? Because it is probably the best ...
Views: 3265 - Jealousy...The Green Eyed Monster - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2006 from Susan Russo“Love that is fed by jealousy dies hard” -Ovid Jealousy can be consuming. It creates stress and anxiety in a relationship. Jealousy leaves you feeling insecure, vulnerable and frustrated. There is nothing good that comes from being jealous; regardless of whether you are the one ...
Views: 2307 - 7 Steps to Survive a Breakup or Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2006 from Susan Russo7 Steps to Survive a Break-up or Divorce “The journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” -Lao Tzu Are you struggling with letting go of a past love? We all know how painful it can be when walking away from a relationship. You may be dealing with feelings that ...
Views: 579 - Deception...The Whittler of the Soul - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2006 from Susan RussoDeception…The Whittler of Your Soul “A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future.” -Author Unknown When you find out that someone you love has lied to you, has been deceiving you; it is like a knife piercing your soul. How do you recover from the ...
Views: 604 - Dating/Relationships & Independence: Women over 40 keep your life in balance - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2006 from Trisha StoneHow do you find the balance between your own independent life and being in a relationship? For some women this is about facing your worst fear that you will somehow lose yourself along the way. You can find out how to make sure that you don’t give up on yourself whilst being in a ...
Views: 2219 - Top Secrets of Successful Couplepreneurs - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2006 from Jean CharlesAre you in business with your life partner and can’t tell the difference between your bedroom and the boardroom? Welcome to the world of Couplepreneurs! What are “Couplepreneurs”? This term describes any two persons living together in a committed relationship and also ...
Views: 1320 - Senior Dating Tips - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2006 from john waltzerFifty plus and wish to start dating again after a long long gap. Many would think it is an overwhelming task- especially when dates are difficult to find at that age. No it isn’t. Start searching on an online adult dating site in a category dedicated to senior dating. Searching through ...
Views: 646 - Boost Your Relationship with Humor - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2006 from Debbie MandelDo you get annoyed when he teases you about being clumsy or talking too much? Do you wonder if you married one of the Three Stooges when he tells a rehearsed joke with crass body language? Do both of you sit at the kitchen table slinging sarcastic remarks at each other? It’s time to ...
Views: 878 - Too Close for Comfort: Recognizing the Signs of an Unhealthy Attachment to a Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from John MooreTOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT Recognizing the Signs of an Unhealthy Attachment to a Relationship authored by John D. Moore, Ph.D., co-founder of http://www.mychicagotherapist.com In this article: · Exposing the problem of Relational Dependency. · Examining the unhealthy attachment style ...
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