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- How to Ask Women for a Date - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2005 from Don DiebelThis week I want to focus on some unique ways to ask single women for a date. Try these methods to get a date. They work much better than using the direct approach of just saying, "Would you like to get together sometime?" Here are some scripts I used successfully to get dates: Let's say that ...
Views: 883 - How to Find a Soul Mate Instead of a Cell Mate - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2005 from Debbie MandelFalling in love has been described as a thrilling adventure, a fluttering emotion and the ultimate life force. That’s why I wonder why the term, “falling in love,” is used to describe such a positive love relationship. It implies tripping, getting hurt, not mindful of where we ...
Views: 731 - Parenting Success - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2005 from Alvah ParkerAt a Women’s Bar Association lunch one of the attorneys ordered a diet soda and then explained to the rest of us that her children were doing a “healthy living” program so she stopped buying diet soda to drink at home. She said having this diet soda was a real treat for her. She then ...
Views: 606 - How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2005 from Ruth HoustonToo many wives with cheating husbands put up with their husband’s infidelity because they feel they have no choice, or they don’t know what else to do. If you’re in a similar situation, don’t despair. You have more power and control than you think. Don’t Be a Helpless Victim You don’t have ...
Views: 2596 - How To Write a Romantic Love Letter - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2005 from Renee MichaelsDoes the thought of writing a love letter or poem automatically reduce your vocabulary to a 5-year-old’s level? Well, believe it or not, that’s a great place to begin! Kids speak straight from the heart. They don’t worry about tripping over the right words, they only know how to say what they ...
Views: 1212 - How To Keep Love Growing Through The Ups And Downs - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2005 from Brenda ShoshannaWe are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they wonder if it s possible to have the same success in love. Although things may start out wonderfully in the beginning, there is always the fear that it won t last, that ...
Views: 1592 - Excerpt: 100 Promises to My Baby - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2005 from Yolanda CardenINTRODUCTION When I found out that I was pregnant several years ago, it was one of the happiest and most exciting moments of my life. I was awed by the fact that I had a living being growing inside of me. I spent hours visualizing what my baby would look like, talking and singing to her, ...
Views: 605 - REVISITING OUR PRIORITIES - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2005 from Terry L. SumerlinAfter his haircut, the young man stepped behind my chair and, without saying a word, hugged me. I must say, in all humility, it was a great haircut. It wasn’t the haircut, though, that brought about the hug. It was the result of a bond we had established during the haircut. While cutting his ...
Views: 555 - Post-Divorce Alimony in Texas - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2005 from Scott MorganTwo Kinds of Alimony: Contractual and Court Ordered maintenance There are two kinds of post-divorce alimony in Texas: contractual alimony and court ordered maintenance. The Texas Family Code also provides authority for the court to order temporary alimony which occurs while a divorce is ...
Views: 899 - Dating, Rejection and Cheating - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2005 from Holly BentzWhen It’s Really YOU and Not Me We've all heard the popular rejection, "It's not you but it's me." In actuality, we tend to internalize the statement to mean, "There's something about you that I cannot seem to get pass." But before one becomes overwhelmed by self-imposed inadequacy, it's good ...
Views: 652 - How to Find Love at Home Depot - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2005 from Debbie MandelRecently I was interviewed by the NY Post and National Public Radio about the latest hot national trend - finding true love at Home Depot. Men and women are meeting at Home Depot or other home improvement centers and ultimately marrying – a few couples have even held wedding ceremonies in the ...
Views: 782 - Moms Are Women First - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2005 from Renee MichaelsI'll bet that most moms forget that! Being a mom is but one of the many daily roles a mother performs and as this dominates her life, it may be difficult even for her to remember all the woman she is. While she is undoubtedly proud of her contributions to her family, she probably doesn’t have ...
Views: 686 - What Everyone Needs to Know About Extramarital Affairs... and what you can do to help - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2005 from Dr. Bob HuizengaRecent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity. That ...
Views: 1731 - Simple Steps to Reach Your Teen’s Heart - by Do you love your kids, but hate how frustrated and helpless you sometimes feel living with teens? The simple steps below will take the struggle out of parenting and can help inspire teens to reach for their highest potential!
1. Make a Heart Connection.
Think positive thoughts about your teen ...
Views: 797 - Learn the Six Secrets of Chemical Romance - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2005 from James HallWhat is Chemical Romance? It’s a scientific approach to seduction that reveals how to unleash the natural chemicals in the body. Have you ever felt an instant connection with someone you just met? Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? If yes, then you have experienced the powerful ...
Views: 669(2 votes) - “Dating Again” Redefined - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2005 from Jeanette CastelliThere isn’t a universal definition of dating, and specially of dating again. For most people, dating means a process leading up to a deep and permanent relationship. The problem with such definition is that we are placing the ultimate result of our dating in another person. We may be depending ...
Views: 629(2 votes) - The Joy Of Dating Again: Self Empowering Keys - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2005 from Jeanette CastelliIf you are dating again know that this is one of the greatest experiences in life. After healing from a divorce or a breakup, you are ready to look for new love. You are ready to leave the pain and the memories behind and open up to love again. This is a great place to be! For some, the idea of ...
Views: 808(2 votes) - Making Up is Hard to Do - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2005 from Bill WhiteWhen was the last time you had a disagreement with your significant other? Let's for a moment forget who's fault it was. Let's stop the adrenaline before it starts pumping. Now, how long did the tension remain? Did the scene ruin an hour? a day? a week? When you want to make up with, so often ...
Views: 981(1 vote) - Parental Alienation Syndrome - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2005 from Robert EvansParental Alienation Syndrome In 1985 Dr. Richard Gardner (M.D.) coined the phrase "parental alienation syndrome (PAS)". Dr. Gardner defines PAS as "a childhood disorder that arises almost exclusively in the context of child-custody disputes." Primarily it is the child’s campaign of denigration ...
Views: 1356(1 vote) - The Life-Changing Power Of Appreciation - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2005 from Gregory NewmanAppreciation is one of the most powerful actions in the universe. When you are sensitively aware of a unique quality that makes someone who they are -- and are willing to communicate it to him or her -- that person’s life and your own can change forever. Let me give you an ...
Views: 583(1 vote) - Single Man's Guide to Getting Over Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2005 from Don DiebelBreak-ups in relationships are never easy and it's worse when you are the one who gets dumped. So, what's the best way to get over someone and get back in the dating scene? Here are some tips: 1. I highly recommend taking a dating break. Stay away from romance and the dating scene for awhile. ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - Caretaking Parents, Entitled Kids - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulDemanding children – children who have entitlement issues – seem to be common these days. Like the obnoxious child, Veruca Salt in Willy Wonka And The Chocolate Factory, who was constantly demanding that her father get her whatever she wanted (“I want an Umpa Lumpa! Get it for me NOW!”), we hear ...
Views: 2256(5 votes) - "Uncontested Divorce; How Thinking About An Uncontested Divorce Figures Into Your Decision About Divorce" - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2005 from Karl AugustineAn uncontested divorce is the most common type of divorce. An uncontested divorce is a divorce that occurs when there are no disagreements between spouses over divorce related issues like custody, finances, living arrangements, spousal support, child support, etc. An uncontested divorce can be ...
Views: 1373(1 vote) - Crippling our Children the Heelys Way – And now in Adult models too! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2005 from Winston Ng“Heelys – The only shoe with a removable wheel in the heel”. – http://www.heelys.com I figured that Heelys had the best description of their own product, so I decided not to re-invent the wheel and copied it verbatim. Fortunately, or maybe not, Heelys’ positioning in the market has made them ...
Views: 5194(1 vote) - Speak to Me of Love - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2005 from Alvah ParkerDovid Grossman, a coach and father of nine, recently told me that his father and he had fought constantly through his growing up years. Through it all, his mother was the referee. Finally when Dovid was 17 years old he sat down with his father and said, “I want to have a close relationship ...
Views: 747(1 vote) - How Your Personality, Life and Relationships are Created - The Crucial Key - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2005 from John CoroneosYou are not what you seem to be. Or, perhaps more accurately, you are far more than you have ever experienced yourself to be. Within you right now, exist undreamed of talents and abilities. They are simply waiting for the correct call, to bring them to the surface and enrich your life in a way ...
Views: 552(1 vote) - Healing The Mid-Life Love Crisis - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2005 from Trevor EmdonAll I wanted was to fall in love and live happily ever after. The End. Except it wasn’t that simple. At forty-something, I was hardly “on the shelf”, but I was the veteran of two divorces. That gave rise to plenty of self doubt. It gave rise to another more sinister, subtle symptom too: I ...
Views: 1570(4 votes) - Reading Women: Body Language Briefing - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2005 from Aaron JonesBody language is the meaning behind the words or the “unspoken” language. Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is verbal. The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This unspoken language isn’t rocket science. However, there are ...
Views: 1949 - How Planning Vacations Can Help You Succeed with Single Women - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2005 from Don DiebelLet's talk about vacations. We love to take them and look forward to them with anticipation. We put forth a lot of effort in planning a vacation. Some people make lists and in general we plan: Plan when to take vacation. How to get there. Making reservations for hotels, air travel, car rentals, ...
Views: 933(10 votes) - "Good & Not So Good Advice From Our Moms (UK)" - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2005 from Debbie Jenkins(c) Debbie Jenkins. All Rights Reserved. http://www.BookShaker.com =========================================================== Our moms were always full of good advice when we were growing up and they had to put up with a lot of crap (quite literally) from us... So don't forget to thank your ...
Views: 657(1 vote) - Men On Dating- Timing, Turn-offs and Keepers - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2005 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDear Relationship Coach- "We met online and seemed to hit it off right from the start. After he answered my ad, we went on our first date, and it was fabulous. I believe we both felt a strong chemistry and learned a lot about each other. At the end of the evening we agreed to get together ...
Views: 13124(1 vote) - How to Effectively Talk to Kids about Tragedies by Barbara McRae, MCC - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2005 from Barbara McRae, MCCWatching the news around the globe, seeing actual footage of earthquakes, California mudslides, avalanches and the tsunami, ignite feelings of distress and overwhelm in adults, let alone in our children. How young people are affected by such tragedies largely depends on the level of maturity ...
Views: 723 - Rules of Thumb for Choosing a Baby Name - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2005 from Yolanda CardenFrom Aaliyah to Zvi, the range of name choices is dazzling. If you're a sleepless parent-to-be, it can look like a vast landscape with no roadmap. To make sure you keep your bearings, here are some basic principles for understanding names -- and finding that one perfect name that speaks to your ...
Views: 714 - 4 Tips For Moving Forward When Your Relationship has Ended - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2005 from Susie and Otto CollinsIt seems that everywhere you look, many long-standing (or short) relationships and/or marriages are dissolving. If you’re like most people, when this happens, you find yourself stuck in thinking about the past, wondering what went wrong, and unable to move from the pain of the relationship. ...
Views: 43214(10 votes) - The Movies - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2005 from Barbara Becker HolsteinWhen I was a small child, I watched many movies in the Shawmut Theater in Roxbury. It was located close to Eagleton Square, which was bustling with activity and safe years ago. Today you don’t venture there if you value your life. The Shawmut was more than a movie house. It was a community ...
Views: 812 - What to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2005 from Michael LosierWhat to Do When Your Spouse or Your Friends are Negative? © Michael Losier 2004. You may include this article in your ezine or on your website, provided you include the copyright statement and the bio information tag found at the end of this article. This year (2004), I've completed over ...
Views: 852 - Attracting your Soul Mate and More, Much, Much More - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2005 from Sophie MelansonSome years ago, I invited a long-time friend who had gone through a difficult divorce out to dinner. I wanted to treat her to a very nice restaurant in hopes of lifting her spirits. I pick her up right after work, which meant I was still all dressed up in my work clothes. To my surprise, when I ...
Views: 2035 - Excerpt: Ready to Learn - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2005 from Yolanda CardenFinding Happiness in Your Child What do you think about when someone says "happiness?" Usually, what comes to mind are things, or outcomes. Happiness can be a four-car garage in the suburbs, a high-paying job, an expensive new car, or a child who becomes a successful professional. We have a ...
Views: 667 - Bribery vs. Reinforcement - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2005 from Gary DirenfeldBribery vs. Reinforcement I agree. Bribery does not work. However, parenting experts continue to tell folks to reward their children’s behaviour. The experts talk in terms of “reinforcement” but sometimes the parent hears “bribery” and as such, parents do not want to participate. Parents learn ...
Views: 1327 - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 23872(6 votes) - How to overcome co-dependency and live a fulfilled life - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2005 from Dr. Ulla SebastianCo-dependency refers to an obsessive need for affection, attention and affirmation. Co-dependent people get easily drawn into the pain and problems of others, feel responsible to help people solve their problems while ignoring their own, look outside themselves for meaning, identity and value, ...
Views: 13290(1 vote) - Keep the Fires Burning - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2005 from Laura SandhamThe toys are put away, homework's done and the kids are in bed. The lunches are made and the dishwasher is on. You wash your face, brush your teeth, choose clothes for tomorrow and then collapse into bed beside your spouse. You lean over give your mate a perfunctory kiss and casually comment ...
Views: 668 - 7 Powerful Ways to Show Love to Children - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2005 from Steve BrunkhorstOur children are our most important legacy to the world. However, our love is our most important legacy to our children. Here are seven ways to show love that will help children build sturdy foundations for the future.1. Spend Time with Your Children.Time is the most loving gift we can give to ...
Views: 703 - Real Solutions For Combatting Extreme Shyness - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealMost people experience some degree of shyness from time to time in certain situations. In fact, only about 7% of the population claims that they never feel shy. For the rest of us, shyness can range from being an occasional, minor inconvenience, to being a major problem. Some people ...
Views: 16045(1 vote) - What You Must Never Talk About on First Dates - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2005 from Don DiebelMen, I have some very important advice about first dates. There are some things that you must never, never talk about on a first date. If you do, you're taking a major risk of turning off your date and spoiling your chances of ever getting a second date. Don't talk about the following topics ...
Views: 996 - Improve Your Relationship By Taking Care of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2005 from Nancy WassonIt’s important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. The old saying ‘You can’t give away what you don’t have” applies here. Until you are peaceful and happy, you won’t have a peaceful, happy relationship. If you skip these steps and jump immediately into the ...
Views: 8008 - Getting Kids Out Of The Cross Fire - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2005 from Gary DirenfeldGetting Kids Out Of The Cross Fire Heaven help those children whose separated parents are involved in a litigious parenting dispute. Not only might the children have to contend with possible sub-standard parenting as often alleged in various forms, but many children are also subject to the ...
Views: 590 - Check Ingredients Before Blending - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2005 from Gary DirenfeldCheck Ingredients Before Blending Blended family is the term used when previously separated parents remarry and combine families. If you are looking at “blending” consider these points to facilitate the children’s adjustment: 1. Have a suitable courtship period. The purpose of courtship is to ...
Views: 630 - Now, they're bullying my daughterin our home: Welcome to cyber-bullying - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Derek RandelLast night Tom’s daughter, Sue, came out of her room to see her dad and said, “I got another one of those instant messages. It says, ‘tomorrow you had better not show up at school or else‘.” She has been getting messages like this now for weeks. The result of this is that she no longer likes to ...
Views: 2153(1 vote) - "10 Things You Need To Ask Yourself If You Are Considering Whether To Stay In or Leave a Relationship" - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2005 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhether you’ve been in your relationship for 2 months, 2 years or 20 years, we don’t have to tell you that making the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. We’ve both also made this decision ourselves in our ...
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