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***Why Beautiful Women Do Not Marry Less Attractive Men
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Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, the Official Guides To Love |
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By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz
"the marriage doctors"
Award Winning Authors of the NEW Hardback Book
Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage
Makes a GREAT Wedding or Anniversary Gift
Also available at Amazon.com and your local bookstore.
We think the whole "visual thing” when it comes to love and relationships is dramatically overrated. Our 25+ years of research on successful love and relationships would call into question the study that came out recently entitled “Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men.” To put it bluntly, the authors of this study are just plain wrong! Their conclusions are flawed. Here’s why.
Women do NOT marry less attractive men! They marry men they have fallen in love with. We tend to marry people we judge to be most like us -- social-economically like us, people we think are in our "beauty class," people who agree with us on most issues, people who share our core values, etc. Our perception of the way another person looks does affect whether or not we are attracted to them in the beginning, but then a whole new set of dynamics take over. Once attracted, for whatever reason, love takes over. That's why you see couples that look like Mutt and Jeff – couples who are fat and skinny, tall and short, and so forth. Love, pardon the pun, does from time to time make for strange bedfellows!
Interestingly enough, people who have had a long and successful loving relationship have reported to us that they think the one they love is beautiful no matter what other’s assessment of their relative looks might be. Successfully married couples, for example, report to us that they simply love their partner and in the list of things that matter in their relationship, the physical part, beyond being healthy, matters very little. Love is love no matter its shape or size or its relative beauty. Your love is your love no matter what others may think about it or how they might assess it. Being in love with another person do not require approval or acceptance by others. Love is personal and the reasons for it are often known only to the people in love. But in the end, that is probably all that matters.
Beauty is relative and resides in the eyes of the beholder. When you fall in love, you will do so based on your own perceptions of the other person and the value you place on what you see. Others are not capable of telling you what matters to you in that relationship. In the end, the goodness of your partner, their honesty and trustworthiness, and the core values you share, will win out. Love trumps everything. All things are beautiful in true and lasting love.
Love well!
Author's Bio
Now you can order the Doctors' new book entitled , Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage at Amazon.com or from their website with FREE Images of Love DVD. With 25 years of research experience on successful marriage and their own 41-year marriage, Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz know what makes marriage work. From their hundreds of interviews with happily married couples, representing 15,000 years of marriage, they've discovered the seven pervasive characteristics present in all successful marriages. Their book exposes the secrets for success through these poignant, real life stories.
Get started with “the marriage doctors” by taking their Marriage Quiz or asking them a question at Ask The Marriage Doctors or downloading their FREE eBook at Salad Recipes For Love and Health.
During their distinguished careers the Doctors have received some 60 local, state, and national awards; published nearly 200 articles and manuscripts; delivered over 1000 speeches, workshops and public presentations; traveled throughout the world; and appeared on radio and television and in the print media. Dr. Charles D. Schmitz is Dean and Professor of Family and Counseling Therapy at the University of Missouri in St. Louis and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz is President of Successful Marriage Reflections, LLC.
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