We all read inspirational books, listen to recordings that sometimes sound as if it is new information, and promise ourselves we will do better tomorrow. And them tomorrow arrives, and we are totally some place else, forgetting our promise.
Healing is a choice. And when we choose not to shift our thoughts, not to gain a perspective, we are basically telling ourselves we do not deserve better.

Here’s the comedy of it all; we already have all the answers. What we are responding to when we read inspirational books is that those writers give us perspective when we are lost in that dark tunnel of confusion of who we really are, and what we really want. That conflict keeps us small, keeps us in the shadows, and then we hear what we think are profound words and go: “Ah-Ha!” they are inspirational because we already knew that…but could not access it because fear stood in our way.

Sometimes I am asked: “What stops people from keeping commitments?”
“Fear” I answer.
Plain and simple; the fear that if we are to be seen for who we really are, we will get thrown off the bus…rejected, and for a very young child, that feels like a death threat.

How does that apply when that child grows up, and is now 45?
Unless that child had enough experiences to repair self-esteem and confidence, that fear appears as self-sabotage when making the choice to keep a commitment; even something simple like: making the commitment to exercise daily ends up being occasionally, verses everyday. Why couldn’t that commitment be maintained?
Fear of being successful in the smallest measure…which often is played out on a grander scale; not making enough money, not living to one’s full potential, living in the grip of the façade of powerlessness.

All of our childhood dramas get played out on symbolic levels when we are older; what appears to be one thing can actually be something totally different. I knew someone growing up who was afraid of pigeons…and lived in Chicago. For her, the pigeons symbolize the unpredictable environment of the home she grew up in; just as being unable to pre-determine the path of an oncoming pigeon, she could not predict the oncoming rejection of her parents as a young child.

So, how do we re-commit to making healthier choices; choosing to heal rather than stew in our own juices. Choosing to stand up for ourselves even in the face of possible terrible ramifications. Choosing not to worry and instead, trust the universe that things will be okay.

The answer is that simple and clear…make different choices.
Be aware that the bees have left the hive; from a distance, it looks menacing. Upon closer inspection, the hive is empty. We can consciously shift our behavior by choosing what to think about.
Fears are rooted in our childhoods, but we can move on, we can make different choices now.
But, knowing the answer and acting upon it is not so simple. What we always need to do is take baby steps so that we can monitor that the world does not spinning because we make other choices. That’s how we build out confidence, our sense of competence.

After all, our bodies have moved on, we need to give our emotional side permission to do the same.

This month, I did something I never do: listen to a book on tape. I am in the car 2 hours a day, so this turned out to be the perfect choice...although trying to take notes while going 60 MPH was challenging.
By John Izzo is the perfect book for those in stressful times. It amazes me how simple life can really be if we were to let go and allow ourselves to experience the world as it truly is instead of how we interpret it according to our fears. His book is profound in its simplicity and gives great lessons that truly work, great tools for making choices.

Author's Bio: 

The Financial WhispererTM
Los Angeles, CA 818-645-1770

Pegi Burdick, The Financial Whisperer

Pegi Burdick began her journey toward untangling her emotions from her money as Vice President of National Sales for a clothing company. It was owned by a woman and staffed by women with an entire client base of females. In this environment, Pegi began to understand the unique intricacies of how women communicate, grow, and interact with each other. It was truly an eye-opening experience for her.

Unresolved financial conflicts between the owner and the management team frustrated her, and she left for a more predictable environment, unsure what that would be, but open to anything that made sense.

She became a mortgage broker - a position in which the relationship with clients is rooted in trust. As she learned the business, she was amazed at the ways in which so many women mismanaged their finances. The trusting relationships she developed with her clients afforded her a much deeper insight into the intimate details of their lives, and she learned that many of them were coming out of abusive relationships. They were burdened with house payments they couldn’t afford, and had children to feed, but were not receiving financial support from their estranged husbands. The stories and the struggles of her clients inspired Pegi to develop the concept for a business, Home Loans For Women. The company strived to help those women keep their homes and repair their finances, and 5% of the net profit went to support organizations that helped victims of domestic abuse.

These experiences, combined with several years of prior business experience, armed Pegi with the knowledge, skills and passion to create THE FINANCIAL WHISPERER, a program that helps women separate their emotions from their finances. Through this program, women learn to recognize and understand how and why they confuse love and money, why they have difficulty demanding what they deserve, and receive tools that are life changing.

Pegi released her newest book IT’S NEVER ABOUT THE MONEY…EVEN WHEN IT IS in June 2012. Throughout, she provides examples to help readers recognize that their behaviors are clues to the underlying source of their problems. Pegi helps her readers identify their feelings and gives them the vocabulary to describe them. This emotional literacy grounds them and helps them to realize, it’s never about the money.