Written by: Lew Hamburger
I talk too much. Always have. In the early seventies I was lucky enough to be selected Executive Director of an inner city settlement house/community center with a job description of âkeep an explosion from taking place in the community!â The catchment area of a quarter million Blacks, Whites, and Hispanics was roiling with the kind of vitriol and violence weâre seeing todayâ from raucous protests to plumbing torn out and houses set afire. I knew I needed a constant reminder to be quiet and concise when I did speak. The following was reduced to one word reminders on a note the size of business cards and put on all 50 phones in the Agencyâs several buildings. It helped and I taught leadership classes using the list.
Decades later I ran into several ex-students at weddings over a two year span, who pulled from their wallets or purses wrinkled little pieces of paper and announced, âIâve been carrying these things for all those years and I wanted you to know theyâve helped in decisions and interesting times.â So I thought Iâd pass them along. Use in good health!
LEWâS LAWS for LEADERSHIP, LAUGHTER & LIFE
1. LISTEN: Before you, talk ask âwhose need is this wisdom meeting?â If the answer is âmineâ, take a breath.
2. LEARN: from everyone especially those who disagree or who are angry with youâ itâs easier to change you than your wife, boss, friends, AND enemies (âmy wife is always right..â.)3. LAUGH: Find the HUMOR in the mess: you can, you knowâ¦
Can you think of ANYONE who laughs a lot and exercises and is miserable or depressed?
Even when we were being held hostage my friend showed that humor helps perspective!
âThe ability to see the humorous side of things is some sort of trick learned while mastering the art of living.â Viktor Frankl
âA person who laughs, if only at themselves, is never really miserableâ¦â
4. WHEN UP TO YOUR ASS IN ALLIGATORS, REMEMBER the goal was to drain the swamp.. Have and hang on to your goals. Have a purpose, mission.
5. STRENGTHS: Focus and build on your strengths; not your weaknesses OR your past, and do the same for others
6. SKI: Youâre going to failâat somethingâ¦RELAX: take a deep breath â each day is like learning to ski anewâ youâre going to fall down. Take a deep breath. Make sure no one is hurt, then laugh at yourself, get up and go at it again.
7. TOO HARD TO CHANGE?? KEEP DOING WHAT YOUâRE DOING!!
Old (and maybe current???) definition of âINSANITYâ: repeating same behavior and expecting different result.
8. WE ALL âGET SOMETHINGâ FROM OUR dysfunctional, self-defeating, âCRAZYâ BEHAVIORS â¦. WHAT IS IT THIS TIME??
9. THE GOSSIP MILL: RUN FROM IT: Itâll suck you in and you wonât like whatâs spit out at the other end.
10. WANT SELF ESTEEM? DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE
11. 10,000: Thatâs the generally accepted research number for mastering a skill or art from hitting a baseball to playing Beethoven concertosâ want to develop some new habits? â Start today.
12. YOUR DIGNITY: HANG ON TO IT â No one can take that away; you have to give it up. âIn concentration camps, what kind of person a prisoner became was the result of inner decisions. Any person can choose what is to become of them mentally and spiritually.â
13. JUST KEEP SMILINâ: ITâLL CONFUSE EVERYONE!
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