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While someone’s relationships can be an expression of their true-self, they can also be an expression of their false-self. What this means is that one can be surrounded by people who don’t know who they really are.
Even so, this doesn’t mean that these people will realise this, ... Views: 3
While there are some people who feel like a victim from time to time, there are others who pretty much always feel this way. When one can relate to the former, it is unlikely to be something that will have an effect on how they see themselves.
But if it does have an effect on ... Views: 10
While social media can be seen as somewhere where people can be themselves, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Instead, it can be normal for someone to feel the need to come across in a certain way.
Their experiences online will then be similar to the experiences ... Views: 9
When it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light.
Now, ... Views: 13
Ever travel with children or those needing assistance? Then you are quite familiar with the instructions flight attendants give passengers to put the mask on yourself first before helping others. Makes sense right?
Perhaps Lama Yeshe said it best, “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to ... Views: 17
While someone can do everything they can do displease others, they can also have the opposite approach. In this case, it is going to be normal for them to overlook their own needs.
Point of Focus
One is then not going to pay attention to what is taking place within them, they are going to ... Views: 19
While doing research for this article, I came across this clip. It’s hilarious and a perfect representation of how what we expect can completely overpower our better senses.
Now, this clip is about water, but the same can’t be said of people, can it? Believe it or not, but a study by ... Views: 20
While some people feel comfortable embracing all of their feelings, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are not going to experience life in the same way, and when it comes to people who fall into the second category, their life is going to be harder than it needs ... Views: 22
It has been said that one of our greatest needs is to be seen who we really are, and what this shows is that we are not here to hide. Therefore, when it is not possible for someone to fulfil this need, it is going to cause them to suffer.
Part of Life
There are going to be people who are ... Views: 24
When it comes to the mainstream media, there are a lot of people who believe that its sole purpose is to inform people about what is taking place in the world. Through having this outlook, one will be only too happy to accept just about everything they hear.
Now, if the media did exist to ... Views: 18
In today’s world, it is not uncommon for people to look for advice on how to be happy. In fact, it could be said that some people see this as being the purpose of life, and as a result of this, it is not going to be something that they can simply overlook.
In The Past
Fortunately, there ... Views: 28
When someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will.
A Closer Look
Now, if ... Views: 36
Although someone can be good at something, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable letting other people know. But if this doesn’t relate to what they can do, it could relate to their appearance.
In this case, one could feel the need to cover up their body, or to hide their face in some ... Views: 39
“Attack!” he shouts. “Attack!”
Instantly, three people spring into action and are coming at me full on, determined to take me down. It’s their job, after all. These three have volunteered to be my ukes (pronounced “oo-kays” — my attackers) during my aikido black belt test. All I have to do is ... Views: 27
It is not uncommon for people to have emotional problems in today’s world, and if someone doesn’t have them, then there is the chance that they have had them in the past. Therefore, if one doesn’t have them and they haven’t had them in the past, they could be seen as the exception.
But ... Views: 45
While some people feel comfortable standing their ground, there are others who don’t feel this way. As a result of this, it is going to mean that their experiences on this planet are going to be extremely different.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that the former are going to be ... Views: 40
If one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their ... Views: 44
We hear a lot about the importance of loving ourselves these days, and how we can't love someone else until we truly love ourselves. While I don't entirely agree with that statement (adult attachment theory shows that it's through secure attachment to loving others that we feel loved and, ... Views: 47
If one wanted to change something about themselves in the past, they may have ended up reading a book, for instance. Nowadays, one can end up going onto a search engine and watching a video.
But if they were to read something, it could relate to what has been written on a blog. What this ... Views: 51
When one has an experience that has a positive effect on them, they are likely to play it through their mind after it has taken place. This could be something that goes on for days, weeks and even months; in fact, it could go on for years.
However, as the experience causes them to experience ... Views: 50
While some peoples early years were a time when they were given the support that they needed to develop into a well-adjusted adult, there are others that don’t have the same experience. This could mean that they were supported from time to time, or it may have been something that rarely, if ... Views: 55
If there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self. ... Views: 187
It has been said that depression is one of the most common mental and emotional problems in today’s world, and while some people might experience it from time to time, there are others who are more familiar with it. This is then not going to be something that affects everyone is the same ... Views: 69
Oh, that transformative beast - jealousy. It can transform friendship into resentment. It can transform honest effort into a reason to beat yourself up. And it can really mess with your business. One of my friends, a bright and articulate woman, was the object of my jealousy. She's also an ... Views: 63
If one is in a position where their life is not going as they would like it to go, they could end up looking for a therapist to work with. This could mean that they will go and see their doctor or they may do an internet search, for instance.
At the same time, one might ask a friend or a ... Views: 64
If one didn’t want to face how they were feeling or what was taking place in their life, there are going to be a number of things that they can do. The reason for this is that there are plenty of options in today’s world when one wants to avoid reality.
It could be said that this is because ... Views: 65
It has often been said that some people require more attention than others, and this is something that can be seen in all areas of life. For example, one could think about what it was like when they were at school or college, and they might soon see how different people are in this regard.
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If one was to take their car to a garage, it could be due to a number of reasons. On one hand, it could be due to something minor, and on the other hand, it could be due to something major.
However, regardless of why they have taken their car there, the main thing is that they have taken ... Views: 96
When some people use social media, it is a way for them to stay in contact with their friends and family. Some of the people they know could live down the road or a few hundred miles away, and others could live in another country, for instance.
This is not to say that they won’t share things ... Views: 105
When one is harmed in some way by another person, it has been said that they can hold onto how they feel or they can forgive them. If one holds onto how they feel, it could be said they will continue to suffer.
Not only will they have gone through a tough time as a result of the other ... Views: 118
If one was in a position where they have something wrong with their phone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would get the right assistance. This could be a time where they will ask a friend what they should do, or they could simply take it to a phone shop.
However, even if ... Views: 121
Finding Courage in Surrendering
Please allow me to start this post by saying that I am looking forward to the day that we as individuals can begin to accept, as well as seek to understand, all of what people say to us.
It is quite common that we are quick to align with and apt to indulge ... Views: 110
If a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again.
If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before ... Views: 130
When someone’s car runs smoothly, there is going to be no reason for them to take a deeper look into how it works. And the same could be said when it comes to others areas of their life.
For example, if their body is not causing them any problems, there is also going to be no need for them ... Views: 125
There are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self.
As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a ... Views: 157
If someone spent a lot of time on their appearance in the past, there is the chance that it wouldn’t have been possible for them to go out without looking a certain way. And while they might have been able to let go when they were at home, this might not have been the case.
As a result of ... Views: 147
When one feels as though they have control over their life, it will have a positive effect on their well-being. This is because it will be possible for them to fulfil their needs and this will allow them to grow.
Alternatively, when one feels as though they don’t have control over their ... Views: 151
On one hand, there are people that take responsibility for just about everything, and on the other hand, there are others that avoid taking responsibility for just about everything. And while it could be said that the first option is better than the second option, they are both going to lead to ... Views: 154
When one’s life isn’t going as they would like it to go, there is the chance that this will cause them to experience pain. On one hand, one could end up feeling like a victim and not do anything about it, and on the other hand, they could get in touch with their anger and end up taking ... Views: 161
Often our goals aren’t achieved, simply because we believe they can’t be.
Remember Roger Bannister? He successfully ran a mile in under four minutes; it was the first time it had ever been done. Bannister was told it was impossible, yet he continued with his dream.
Since then, thousands ... Views: 170
An extraordinary fact about blushing is that it is unique to humans. Charles Darwin called blushing “the most peculiar and most human of all expressions”.
Why do you blush?
The reason for blushing is not the same for everyone; being the centre of attention, someone giving you praise, being ... Views: 148
What is it about some people that makes them seem ‘charismatic’ to you? In other words, what makes them stand out?
Charisma seems a bit of an enigma. It’s a concept we struggle to define. But why?
1. We tend not to think about what we mean by charisma. We may think someone has charisma but ... Views: 151
Butterflies, a dry mouth, feeling dizzy, at a loss for words, rapid heartbeat, fidgeting. All symptoms of a nervous response. Nerves can strike at any time and when they do, they can knock you for six. Whether it’s public speaking, a job interview, important meeting or even a social event, ... Views: 245
Low self-esteem is something you can overcome. It does require a plan though; courage too. These 10 actions make it possible.
Quick tip - Start gradually. Don’t do everything all at once but do try at least one thing every day.
1. Be aware of your gremlin
If you’re struggling to ... Views: 141
It has been said that everyone on this planet is a teacher on one hand and student on the other. Based on this, it is a two way process, and if one doesn’t have this outlook, they are likely to be out of balance.
In this case, one could believe that other people are here to learn from them ... Views: 202
It has been said that someone should never make a decision when they are angry, and that they should never make a promise when they are happy. What this comes down to is when one is in a highly changed emotional state; it will be a challenge for them to think clearly.
However, when one is ... Views: 200
Of course that’s a provocative title. After all, we live in America where we have become anesthetized into believing that we must be ever so careful to avoid holding anyone accountable, answerable or responsible. Rather we prefer to blame a lack of self-esteem, a “bad” childhood, traumatic ... Views: 265
If one had a hole in their drive that they wanted to fill, they could end up making a load of concrete. Through doing this, there would be no gaps and the hole would completely disappear.
The alternative would be for one to find a few bricks and to try to fill the hole in that way. And while ... Views: 247
While there are some people who have lived in the same environment for their whole life, there are others who have moved around. When one has moved around, they might not have stayed in the same place for very long.
This could be a sign that one has a job that requires them to move around, ... Views: 233
Renowned Greek philosopher, Aristotle quoted -
"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom!"
In our journey through life, we learn a lot of things about a lot of things. We discover new and interesting avenues, meet people, etc. and they give meaning to our life and way of living. ... Views: 136