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Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which individuals view themselves as inadequate, unlovable, or incompetent. There are many manifestations of low self-esteem, the worst of them being addiction.
There’s no doubt that low self-esteem is one of the chief causes of addiction. The ... Views: 20
Most people begin their journey into low self-confidence in their childhood. Our early environments affect us deeply, and we take in the messages we receive. As we hear these same messages over and over again, they take shape in our minds, and over time they form our core beliefs about ... Views: 21
While social media can be useful in connecting you to family, friends and colleagues, there can be many pitfalls. But you can avoid these pitfalls by following these words of advice.
Spend a Limited Amount of Time on Social Media
Probably the most important thing to do is to spend a ... Views: 40
You have not received a raise for a long time, and you feel you are entitled to a raise because you helped raise the productivity level and profits of your company. Your second child has just been born, and you need the money for additional expenses.
Here are some suggestions for asking ... Views: 17
In today’s world, people are often so caught up in their day-to-day lives that they don’t have time to think about their life. As a result of this, it can set them up to go in a direction that doesn’t match up with their true needs.
Along with this, their relationships can reflect who they ... Views: 14
If one can drive, they will know that they can either go forwards or they can go backwards; what they can’t do is to go in both directions at the same time. In the same way, one can either stay stuck in the past or they can embrace the present.
Therefore, in order for one to be able to live ... Views: 59
Especially for service-oriented business owners navigating business expansion, career change, and retirement, self-sabotage holds the potential to create frustrated havoc instead of joyous satisfaction. From my perspective, based on my own experience and decades of observations ... Views: 88
When one comes across as having a caring manner, they can be seen as someone who is good to be around. The people who spend time around them are likely to appreciate how they respond to their worries and concerns.
There can also be how they respond in their chosen career, and this could mean ... Views: 96
There are a number of things that one can be told when it comes to being successful, and what they may have heard on more than one occasion is that they should never give up. This could be something they have heard from their finds and/or family, or they may even have heard it from someone ... Views: 69
If someone wanted to change one area of their life or a number of areas, it could be said that it would be a good idea for them to find people who are successful. Through doing this, they will be able to listen to what they have to say and this will give them the chance to experience life ... Views: 44
Confidence is that knowing, self-assuredness, and state of certainty one carries about himself. When someone looks at him, the obvious truth is there: He knows.
He carries himself through the world with a look of resolve behind his eyes, as if he knows something no one else knows. People look ... Views: 89
In order for someone to experience intimacy, it will be important for them to open up to others. However, this is not to say that they should simply open up to anyone, and this is because doing so would lead to problems.
When one opens up to another they are putting themselves in a ... Views: 93
When someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action.
In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right ... Views: 44
There are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life.
However, if they were to ... Views: 48
Although some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally.
It is then going to be ... Views: 131
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem to many, is composed of many different things. I believe self-esteem is composed of three core things. Nathaniel Branden’s 6 pillars of self-esteem is much more comprehensive and I encourage all to look up and read his work. But, I believe self-esteem is ... Views: 44
While one can have people in their life who are there to support them, they can also spend time with people who try to fix them. As a result of this, it could be said that one will feel good in their presence or they will end up feeling bad.
Another way of looking at it would be to say ... Views: 76
For some people, social media is seen as somewhere where they can express themselves and stay up to date with their ‘friends’. As a result of this, it fulfils their need to be seen and their need to connect.
And what is different about this is that one can fulfil these needs no matter where ... Views: 46
I hear it over and over again: “I can’t network. I’m an introvert.” “I don’t know what to say.” “I don’t want to brag.” A lot of people don’t like networking, but the bulk of them seem to be introverts.
I’m an introvert, too, and I’m also an entrepreneur, having to teach myself along the way ... Views: 50
If one was to think about how someone would behave if they don’t feel comfortable being seen, they might start to imagine someone who spends a lot of time by themselves. And this is because it will be a way for them to avoid attention.
It could then be said that they will have a good ... Views: 58
Although some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak.
Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then ... Views: 58
If one was to think about what their friends are like, they could start to think about how they accept them for who they are. It is then not going to be necessary for them to play a role, and it could be said that this is how it should be.
The alternative would be for one to be in a ... Views: 74
Although some people are in touch with their true-self, and allow their life to be influenced by it, there are others who experience life differently. As a result of this, it can mean that they are out of touch with who they are.
When one is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to ... Views: 58
I grew up as an introvert, although I didn't know the term "introvert" until later on in life. Even then, I've thought introvert must be inferior(thanks to the extrovert glorifying trend on the internet). It was until much later that I realised the strength of an introvert.
As a child, I ... Views: 79
When one spends time around others, they could find that they generally behave how they want to behave. This is then going to show that they don’t feel as though they have to behave in a certain way.
One way of looking at this would be to say that one will be able to express their true-self, ... Views: 56
There are people who feel as though they are on track in life, and there are others who don’t. As a result of this, it could be said that not everyone is going to experience life in the same way.
When one feels as though they are doing the right thing, it is likely to be a lot easier for ... Views: 63
The world we live in today is a high-energy, fast-paced place, and it can become increasingly difficult to keep up without running ourselves ragged. All too often, we wind up feeling weak, worn out, or inferior when we really just are not equipped with the tools we need in order to be our best ... Views: 52
When someone is in touch with their feelings and needs, it could be said that they are in touch with their true-self. And if it is possible for these aspects to have an effect on their life, it will mean that their life will be an expression of who they are.
One way of looking ... Views: 48
There are some people who say ‘yes’ from time to time, and then there are others who more or less always say it. One way of looking at this would be to say that the people who fall into the second group are going to be in a better position.
This is because they can be seen as people who ... Views: 61
While there are some people who are unable to get angry, there are others who are more or less always angry. As a result of this, it could be said that these people are out of balance.
Still, if one is not always angry, then they could be in a position where they have moments ... Views: 71
What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel?
“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley.
While this article title seems to be a rather straightforward question, I doubt that it is ... Views: 100
When it comes to the kinds of challenges that one can face during their adult years, it can be normal for them to believe that their childhood hasn’t played a part. What they are going through is then going to be seen as a reflection of what has taken place in their adult years.
If they ... Views: 75
While someone’s relationships can be an expression of their true-self, they can also be an expression of their false-self. What this means is that one can be surrounded by people who don’t know who they really are.
Even so, this doesn’t mean that these people will realise this, ... Views: 77
While there are some people who feel like a victim from time to time, there are others who pretty much always feel this way. When one can relate to the former, it is unlikely to be something that will have an effect on how they see themselves.
But if it does have an effect on ... Views: 88
While social media can be seen as somewhere where people can be themselves, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Instead, it can be normal for someone to feel the need to come across in a certain way.
Their experiences online will then be similar to the experiences ... Views: 74
When it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light.
Now, ... Views: 70
Ever travel with children or those needing assistance? Then you are quite familiar with the instructions flight attendants give passengers to put the mask on yourself first before helping others. Makes sense right?
Perhaps Lama Yeshe said it best, “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to ... Views: 129
While someone can do everything they can do displease others, they can also have the opposite approach. In this case, it is going to be normal for them to overlook their own needs.
Point of Focus
One is then not going to pay attention to what is taking place within them, they are going to ... Views: 70
While doing research for this article, I came across this clip. It’s hilarious and a perfect representation of how what we expect can completely overpower our better senses.
Now, this clip is about water, but the same can’t be said of people, can it? Believe it or not, but a study by ... Views: 112
While some people feel comfortable embracing all of their feelings, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are not going to experience life in the same way, and when it comes to people who fall into the second category, their life is going to be harder than it needs ... Views: 67
It has been said that one of our greatest needs is to be seen who we really are, and what this shows is that we are not here to hide. Therefore, when it is not possible for someone to fulfil this need, it is going to cause them to suffer.
Part of Life
There are going to be people who are ... Views: 75
When it comes to the mainstream media, there are a lot of people who believe that its sole purpose is to inform people about what is taking place in the world. Through having this outlook, one will be only too happy to accept just about everything they hear.
Now, if the media did exist to ... Views: 54
In today’s world, it is not uncommon for people to look for advice on how to be happy. In fact, it could be said that some people see this as being the purpose of life, and as a result of this, it is not going to be something that they can simply overlook.
In The Past
Fortunately, there ... Views: 73
When someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will.
A Closer Look
Now, if ... Views: 102
Although someone can be good at something, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable letting other people know. But if this doesn’t relate to what they can do, it could relate to their appearance.
In this case, one could feel the need to cover up their body, or to hide their face in some ... Views: 85
“Attack!” he shouts. “Attack!”
Instantly, three people spring into action and are coming at me full on, determined to take me down. It’s their job, after all. These three have volunteered to be my ukes (pronounced “oo-kays” — my attackers) during my aikido black belt test. All I have to do is ... Views: 80
It is not uncommon for people to have emotional problems in today’s world, and if someone doesn’t have them, then there is the chance that they have had them in the past. Therefore, if one doesn’t have them and they haven’t had them in the past, they could be seen as the exception.
But ... Views: 89
While some people feel comfortable standing their ground, there are others who don’t feel this way. As a result of this, it is going to mean that their experiences on this planet are going to be extremely different.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that the former are going to be ... Views: 81
If one was to think about a time when they were able to be themselves, they could say that it was possible for them to express their true-self. Whereas as if they were to think about a time in their life when they were unable to be themselves, they could say that this was a time when their ... Views: 96
We hear a lot about the importance of loving ourselves these days, and how we can't love someone else until we truly love ourselves. While I don't entirely agree with that statement (adult attachment theory shows that it's through secure attachment to loving others that we feel loved and, ... Views: 104