If you ever reflect on the impact that your life history has on you I think you will find the following:
1. It is intrusive and distracting.
2. It creates a state of tiredness or energy depletion.
3. It creates feelings of regret, sadness and disappointment.
4. It creates feelings of ... Views: 5
What is emotional resilience? Well pure and simple it is about one's ability to steer clear of taking a situation personally.
What does it mean then to take something personally? Well it relates to old buried emotions being triggered by whatever is happening in the present. When triggered ... Views: 8
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 20
Do you know that old negative memories of failure that are stored deep in your subconscious mind are the single most destructive force keeping you from a life of success, abundance, fulfillment and happiness?
Do you know such negative memories are responsible for negative thoughts, feelings ... Views: 33
An Oscar-nominated documentary called “The Invisible War” tackles the seemingly taboo subject of rape and sexual assault in the military. ABC News covered a quick story of the documentary and featured three women who bravely volunteered their personal stories of being raped while enlisted in the ... Views: 92
Operation: I.V is a 501(c)3 non-profit founded in 2012 that helps combat veterans heal from both PTSD as well as traumatic brain injuries. Its founder, Roxann Abrams, is a Gold Star Mother who lost her son SFC Randy Abrams in 2009. Randy took his own life after experiencing a PTSD flashback from ... Views: 91
According to an article released by CBS News called “Fake Service Dogs a Growing Problem,” real service dogs help assist a wide variety of individuals, including “people who use power or manual wheelchairs, have balance issues, have various types of autism, need seizure alert or response, need ... Views: 80
PBS Frontline estimates that almost half a million soldiers are afflicted with some form of traumatic brain injury (TBI). However, admittedly, that number is “hard to pinpoint,” because TBIs can easily go either mis/undiagnosed by the medical community. However, some TBIs can be deadly if left ... Views: 83
Do you know that you can be living with a brain aneurism and might not even know it? An article released by ABC News called “8 Everyday Ways to Have a Brain Bleed” says that if you “[smoke], [have] hypertension, [are] female or [have] a family history of an aneurisms,” you have a higher risk ... Views: 76
The Scripps Research Institute in California created a study that proved that stress had a direct correlation to addiction (and therefore substance abuse). Psychology Today captured the study in 2010 under the article title, “Stress Hormone Key to Alcohol Dependence”. It is no secret that stress ... Views: 98
Combat soldiers are placed in a very precarious position once they join the military. While they were civilians, soldiers were taught that violence and murder were both morally wrong, and should refrain from committing such acts against others. However, on the battlefield, these same soldiers ... Views: 99
This past Monday was Memorial Day, a day to celebrate those military members who have made “the ultimate sacrifice”. The History Channel hosts a video on the channel’s website called “Memorial Day” that delves into the history behind the holiday.
The inspiration behind the holiday was first ... Views: 65
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 225
The military can quickly become an all-consuming lifestyle for both soldiers and their families. However, when those soldiers are discharged and released back into the civilian world, one out of five of those soldiers will severely struggle with that adjustment.
The U.S. Department of ... Views: 80
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 227
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 103
The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ... Views: 153
According to a website called Army.mil, ever since WWI, mothers of fallen soldiers have dubbed themselves as “Gold Star Mothers”. The name derived from the Gold Star, a symbol in the military known for “loss and sacrifice”. Ever since 1936, September 29th has officially been recognized by the ... Views: 115
A young mother experiences a difficult birth and illness of her first child and then a difficult choice when her own illness affects her next pregnancy. Learn how writing became a saving grace and sense of hope during this difficult time.
A Witch's AuraDevon Volkel is now a 30 year old stay ... Views: 103
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 183
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 147
There is no health without emotional health. Over 90% of all illnesses are caused by mental and emotional stress. It is the number one reason for doctor visits in America today and the psychiatric drugs prescribed are second only to painkillers.
When it comes to treatment, people think there ... Views: 127
We all need an emotional harbor; a place where we can relax our sails of tension, frustration and worry. Needs and definitions vary, and many find sufficient peace and release in the presence of family, friends or others therapeutically. This is a good way to stroke the heart, distract the mind ... Views: 205
How would you know if you were the only sane person in an insane asylum? Now imagine yourself as a child with no prior knowledge of what is sane or normal. How would a child know if they were a sane person in a family with disturbed parents?
A significant part of the trauma of growing up ... Views: 215
We’ve all heard of sleep disorders, but not many realize that there are literally hundreds of types of sleep disorder that can affect people’s rest.
Sleep is one of the most essential human activities and is vital if we are to get enough energy to get through the day. In addition, sleeping is ... Views: 312
Regardless of where we live, we can unwillingly and unwittingly become victims of a disaster, either fueled by nature or by human error. A lightning strike in a beetle-killed forest, a single burning cigarette tossed into dry grasses along a road, or a campfire left untended can turn into an out ... Views: 171
“Purebred” schizoids shrug off their disorder: they simply don’t like being around people and they resent the pathologizing of their lifestyle “choice” to remain aloof and alone. They consider the diagnosis of Schizoid Personality Disorder to be spurious, a mere reflection of current social ... Views: 507
When we feel different than the person we are projecting to others, it can cause stress and sometimes shame. Most of us have felt that way at times, and the ability to integrate again is usually fluid. But when we feel fragmented and fake most of the time, it can be extremely painful and ... Views: 251
Mindfulness is about stabilizing. Studies have shown that people who have experienced trauma can benefit highly from this type of work. (Cullen, 2011). When people have experienced trauma, they can be challenged with high levels of stress, anxiety and depression at any time.
When we increase ... Views: 113
“It is estimated that 70% of adults in the United States will experience one or more traumatic events in their lives, and 20% will go on to develop PTSD”1 For individuals who suffer from PTSD and other psychological disorders, conventional treatment methods may not be ... Views: 520
Psychological trauma can change the course of a person’s life and in some cases leave devastating life-long scars. Trauma can come from any situation that poses a threat to personal safety or sense of wellbeing. The events can be real or perceived; trauma is any event that the psyche can’t ... Views: 483
The funeral was lovely. It was packed with friends paying their respects. But once everyone else has gone back to normal routines, close family and dear friends still grieve for the lost loved one. They may feel that the world has passed them by and feel very alone.
Now is a perfect moment to ... Views: 213
We cringe as we hear of the latest mass tragedy whether it's another shooting, a hurricane, tornado, fire, or flood. It's just one more horrific event that fills our daily thoughts and hearts. Yet, we never believe that something so awful could ever happen to us or to anyone close to ... Views: 749
When my grandmother passed away at 98 it was a very difficult time in my life. As part of the process of working through my own grief I wrote the following poem.
Grandma Went Home On Mother’s Day
She was the mother of a son and a daughter.
She was the loving grandmother to five.
She was ... Views: 123
Are you worried that you may be involved in a codependent relationship? You are not alone. Most people associate codependency with a partner who has an alcohol and substance abuse addiction, but there are other situations that can foster a codependent relationship. Following ... Views: 624
When someone close to us dies many companies will give you a few days off with pay to recover. Much of the rest of our society seems to believe that grief is something very temporary. If only it were that simple or easy. Grief is not about forgetting or “ getting over it. “ It is about learning ... Views: 155
Good morning my friends….
Here we are ready to face another day of giving and making a difference. We started our day very early this morning. I’m not sure why we all woke up so early but I have great expectations for this day. Let’s get started –
It’s been put on my heart to speak ... Views: 137
When we imagine our children becoming addicted to drugs we often envision dimly lit alleys filled with questionable characters persuading our impressionable children to smoke, snort, or even shoot illicit street drugs. However, the most realistic threat to our children’s sobriety is not in the ... Views: 465
Are you sabotaging your own recovery? How many times have you been in rehabilitation only to relapse back into the madness that you swore you would leave behind? You want to recover. You want to lead a recovered life, but in the end, the result is always the same. You sabotage yourself, your ... Views: 561
What role do your beliefs play in your ability to completely recover? Do your beliefs disempower you? A belief is a perception, conviction, or opinion that you hold about yourself, a situation, event, or others. Beliefs are not necessarily true or fact-based, however, they are something we ... Views: 492
Since the 1930’s 12 step recovery programs have become the preferred method to treat alcoholism, drug abuse, co-dependence, or other addictive behaviors. 12 step recovery programs are deeply rooted within the belief that addicts are powerless over their addiction and the key to sobriety is ... Views: 638
My loved one has only been sober for 1 month. Why aren’t they answering their phone? Did he/she relapse again? Oh no…not again. You call. They don’t answer. You drive by their favorite restaurant; their favorite bar. They aren’t there. You call their friends. No answer.
There it ... Views: 500
Experiencing a traumatic life event can often leave us feeling both mentally and spiritually debilitated. We are often unable to clearly see the road to recovery. Instead, we may find ourselves looking inside the hole of a deep abyss of bottomless pain. Somewhere along the way, we chose to ... Views: 876
Dr. Romance writes:
A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post -traumatic stress reactions – bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset – after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, ... Views: 374
I think it is safe to say that there is not one person on this planet that would choose to be born into an abusive situation, whether it is any of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or sexual abuse.
As human beings, we are programmed to not like pain or suffering, however, at the hands of ... Views: 262
With pain and suffering in the world, it can sometimes be difficult to believe that our world is still a beautiful place with beautiful people.
When tragedy strikes – look for the helpers to lean on.
There has and continues to be catastrophic events in life. Whether they are brought about ... Views: 265
If you are some who looks back on their past with amazingly fond memories and never experienced any regret, shame, or sadness regarding choices you've made, then this article is so not for you.
This article is for the rest of us.
The ones who are either trying vigorously to forget the ... Views: 375
We’ve become a society accepting the high level of stress in our lives. We struggle to pay bills, keep up with our children and their activities, and work in jobs with diminished rewards. A general feeling of malaise adds even more to our loads. How long can we carry our burdens without some ... Views: 366
Dear Dr. Romance:
After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ... Views: 680
Today about 17.5 million people are getting trained for waging wars. They are being trained to imbibe the ‘art’ of using murderous weapon, killing other humans and thus destroying precious wealth of the world. This then is their ‘artistic skills’. All specialties of their inner personality are ... Views: 439