“You Only Like Me Because I’m Famous!”

A number of years ago I had the chance to meet a DJ and producer, and I ended up seeing them perform afterwards. This was an incredible night and a time in my life that I will never forget.

At the time it was surreal, I couldn’t quite get my head around how this was taking place; I didn’t think that something like this would ever happen to me. If someone had told me this would happen, I would have found it very hard to believe.

Full of Energy

I was at the club until the early hours of the morning and I ended up getting the first train home, but I didn’t sleep when I got back. Still, even though I hadn’t slept the night before, I didn’t feel as though I needed to sleep.

When I met a friend that day I don’t think he could believe that I hadn’t slept, due to how awake I was. In addition to how fulfilling this night was, there was something else that left a mark on me.

Two Extremes

During their performance, there were people trying to touch them and they had written messages on their phone for them to read. Based on how these people were behaving, it was as if they were some kind of god.

They were clearly enjoying all the attention and I thought it was fascinating to watch how these people were behaving. Once their performance was over and we were on our way home, all these fans had disappeared, and this was when I saw another side to this person.

It All Came Out

They ended up talking about how these people didn’t care about them and that they only liked them because they were famous. What they said could have party been the result of how much they had had to drink that night; even so, what came out of their mouth was completely true.

What was clear was that if this person wasn’t famous, these people wouldn’t have known anything about them, and this meant that that their behaviour was conditional. How these people behaved was largely a consequence of how they felt when they listened to this persons music and what they had projected onto them.

An Illusion

Therefore, if they were not into their music and hadn’t projected anything onto them, they wouldn’t have seen this person in the same way, and this would have been the case if they had a ‘normal’ job. They would just have been another human being; nothing more, nothing less.

When someone is famous and they don’t realise why their fans behave the way that they do, they can end up letting it go to their head and believe that they are some kind of god – seeing themselves as being separate from other human beings. When in reality, they are just a human being who has been elevated due to the fact that other human beings have place onto them the parts of themselves that they haven’t realised.

Unmet Childhood Needs

I got the impression that this was someone who was looking for the love and nurturance that they didn’t get as a child. The wounded child within them had then given them the motivation to get to where they were.

But while being famous can allow someone to feel as though they are the centre of the universe (with this being how they would have been as a child), the people who give them positive feedback are not going to be their parents. Ergo, their attention and support will be conditional, and this means that their early wounds will end up being triggered in one way or another.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, if one didn’t get their needs met when they were growing up, it will be up to them to give their wounded inner child what it needs now that they are an adult. If one looks towards others to give them what they didn’t receive all those years ago, they are only setting themselves up to suffer.
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One will need to reparent themselves, and this will be a time when they will listen to their inner child, allowing it to express what is wasn’t allowed to express all those years ago. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.