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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Explode the #1 Block to Healing from Anxiety (Relationship and Otherwise) - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA few weeks ago, as I was cleaning out our closet, I stumbled upon a stack of papers from my grandmother. Most of the papers were familiar, but one unfamiliar packet literally dropped onto my lap, a stapled report for an adult-education class in psychology that she took in 1963 that I had never ...
Views: 34 - How to Shatter the Myths that Are Keeping You Stuck - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA great deal of my work centers around shattering myths about love, romance, and intimacy that cause untold amounts of anxiety in relationships and sexuality. If we start with the very basic “doubt means don’t” slogan that permeates the culture of romantic love, we see immediately what happens ...
Views: 16 - Critical Thinking: Should Germans Feel Guilty For What Happened In The Past? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the first and second world war, Germany had to pay back a lot of money in reparations. According to some accounts, this money has now been paid off, but there are other voices out there who claim that more money still needs to be paid. Along with the price that Germany has had to pay ...
Views: 18 - Critical Thinking: Are Certain Celebrities Causing Women To Sexually Objectify Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone has been living under a rock for a number of years, they will have most likely heard about a certain family that receives a fair amount of media exposure. In this family, there are a number of daughters who routinely strip off for different magazines. That is, of course, when ...
Views: 20 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone End Up With Mental And Emotional Problems If They Don’t Eat Meat? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue, in part, to the amount of attention that the mainstream media give to mental and emotional problems, it can seem as though more people than ever before are in a bad way. In many easy, it is as though it is case of who doesn’t have them, not who does. If this problem is a big as this ...
Views: 124 - Social Media: Why Are Some People Addicted To 'Likes'? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, images have been shared on social media where people are injecting and snorting ‘Likes’. These images have been created to emphasise the fact that some people are hooked on receiving ‘Likes’ from others. And in the same way that a drug addict might not mind where ...
Views: 30 - Critical Thinking: Is The Term 'Manspreading' An Example Of The Misandry That Exists In The World? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman came across a man who is taking up two seats on a bus or a train, for instance, she could end up saying to herself that this is an example of ‘manspreading’. What this is likely to show is that she is a feminist, or she may just have been conditioned by feminism to see the world ...
Views: 22 - Critical Thinking: Why Do We Keep Electing Idiots? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn America, it is not hard to find someone who doesn’t like Donald Trump, or anywhere else in the world for that matter. Also, the mainstream media typically only has bad things to say about him. Compared with the last president, Barack Obama, Trump is often seen as being a poor ...
Views: 42 - Emotional Dumping: What Is Emotional Dumping? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments in everyone’s life when things are not running smoothly, with this being a time when they may need someone to open up to. If they were to reach out to someone, they could just go over what has been going on. After this has taken place, one could soon direct ...
Views: 51 - Shame: Can Someone Hide Themselves When They Are Carrying Shame? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the only way that someone can hide from others is if they isolate themselves. Therefore, if they are around other people, it won’t be possible for this to take place. Nevertheless, while this might sound accurate, it is something that has very little basis in reality. ...
Views: 41 - Critical Thinking: Have Hate Speech Laws Turned Some People Into Mini Tyrants? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the term ‘hate speech’ and ‘hate speech laws’ have received a fair amount of exposure. Unsurprisingly, there are people who are on board with all this and there are people who are not. Hate speech relates to speech that is ‘hateful, threatening, or abusive,’ and is aimed at ...
Views: 35 - Fear: Are Some People Addicted To Fear? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperJust as there are some people who experience fear from time to time, there are also some people who experience it on a regular basis. Due to this, their experience on this earth is likely to be radically different. One way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the former, ...
Views: 43 - Do You Feel As Though You Are Never Ready? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently been reading ‘The Feeling Child’ by Dr Arthur Janov, and there have been a number of things that have caught my attention. This is a fairly old book but it is still full of powerful content. Based on the research that I have done over the years, I would say there are ...
Views: 89 - Success: Is Focus An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to modern day technology, it is extremely easy for someone to find something that will consume their attention. They no longer need to go into a crowded place or to watch TV, for instance; the only thing that they need to do is to use their device. And, even if they only have a few ...
Views: 56 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Students Fall Victim To Groupthink? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is ironic about the western world is that so much is said about diversity and tolerance, yet only certain views are given exposure and are seen as acceptable. One thing is then said, but what is said doesn’t reflect what is actually taking place. This is something can be observed at ...
Views: 45 - Am I the Only One Struggling with Anxiety? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Sheryl PaulPeople often ask me why they’re struggling with relationship anxiety or social anxiety or any other kind of anxiety when other people seem to glide through life more effortlessly. The subtext embedded in the question is, “Is there something wrong with me?” or “Why am I being singled out or ...
Views: 78 - Critical Thinking: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Their Health? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are people out there who don’t give a damn about what goes into their body as long as it fills them up. On the other hand, there are people out there who are very careful when it comes to what they put in their body. When someone can relate to the former, they might find ...
Views: 56 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Feel Good About Themselves When They're In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may find is that they are able to feel good themselves, even if they are not in a relationship. It will then be clear that they are not going to be dependent on anyone else in order to experience positive feelings. Being this way is most likely going to stop them from starting a ...
Views: 70 - Emotional Strength: Is Someone Weak If They Can't Control Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is often believed that someone’s feelings are caused by their thoughts. Thus, if someone wants to change how they feel, it will be essential for them to change the thoughts that are running through their head. The reason this is widely believed is partly due to the ...
Views: 68 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Work Themselves To Death When They Don't Feel Good Enough? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone drinks a lot or takes a lot drugs, they can soon be labelled as having a problem. However, if on the other hand, someone has the tendency to work a lot, they can be seen as a model citizen. It is then as though there is nothing wrong with working at lot, as it is something that ...
Views: 53 - Emotional Problems: Does The Need To Look Strong Stop Some Men From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBoth men and women experience emotions, but it is often a lot harder for men to open up about how they feel. Now, if emotions were things that could simply be overlooked, this wouldn’t matter. The trouble is that this is not the case, which is why it can lead to all kinds of problems when a ...
Views: 60 - Critical Thinking: Does It Matter If A President/Politician Is Male/Female? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how their needs to be more female politicians. The view that is often put forward is that there are far too many men who hold these positions and that progress needs to be made so that the gender gap changes. This is then something that not only ...
Views: 57 - Victim Mentality: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone sees themselves as an empowered human being, it means that they won’t have a victim mentality. Likewise, if someone has a victim mentality, they won’t see themselves as an empowered human being. What this illustrates is that one can’t be both; they are either one or the other. At ...
Views: 71 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Support? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are not their own island, it means that they need others in order to survive, let alone thrive. So, regardless of whether it relates to emotional or financial support, it will be provided by other people. But, even though there will be people on this planet who find that the ...
Views: 67 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Oppressed? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about how oppressed certain people are, with this being something that is often spoken about on social media and in the mainstream media. This is often seen as something that primarily affects minorities and women. Therefore, white men are in a very ...
Views: 81 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Slander To Control People? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the alternative media came along, the mainstream media pretty much had complete control. What this meant was that it was normal for most people to believe just about everything this source came out with. Nowadays, thanks to the alternative media, this source doesn’t have the same ...
Views: 65 - Anger: Do Some People Use Anger To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in today’s world who have trouble with their anger, with this being something that has taken over their life. But, while there are people like this who reach out for support, there are others who don’t. If someone in this position was to reach out for assistance and ended ...
Views: 74 - Self-Hate: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Own Self-Hatred? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIs someone hated themselves, and they were to embrace how they feel, it would undoubtedly have a negative effect on their wellbeing. In the same way that filling a boat up with water would cause it to sink, embracing their self-hate would most likely cause them to sink. It would end up being ...
Views: 92 - Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Own Success? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone holds themselves back in life, there are at least two things that can take place. If one is not aware of the fact that they are holding themselves back, they can come to see themselves as a victim. On the other hand, if one is aware of the fact that they are the ones who are ...
Views: 91 - Teaching in the 21st Century - A Call to Service - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2018 from Dr Ana GarciaI was a teacher at the age of 23. After many years of wanting to be an engineer, I finally managed to get myself into the engineering university only to find out that I had a problem with my back and had to be hospitalized for a few months to correct the unhealthy curvature of my spine. By ...
Views: 92 - Teaching in the 21st Century - A Call to Service - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2018 from Dr Ana GarciaI was a teacher at the age of 23. After many years of wanting to be an engineer, I finally managed to get myself into the engineering university only to find out that I had a problem with my back and had to be hospitalized for a few months to correct the unhealthy curvature of my spine. By ...
Views: 0 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Want People To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is easier than ever before for someone to find out about what is taking place in the world. They no longer need to turn on a TV or a radio, for instance; the only thing that they need to do is to use their Smartphone. Through having a device like this, they will be able to ...
Views: 71 - Inner Child: Your Inner Child Can Heal You - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the ways that someone can change their behaviour, what is taking place within them, and their relationships, is to heal their inner child. Or to be more precise; to heal the inner children that are within them. What this comes down to is that although many, many years may have passed ...
Views: 126 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to end up in a relationship that is abusive, there are at least two things that they can do. They can end up cutting their ties and moving on, or they can put up with what is taking place. If they end up drawing the line and decide to move on, it will be clear that they are ...
Views: 168 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men will have certain standards when they are in a relationship, there are going to be others who don’t. As a result of this, not every man is going to have same experience when they are with a woman. When it comes to the former, a man like this is not going to get carried ...
Views: 451 - The Poetry of Loss - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulMy son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these lyrics made me cry every time: Those men who lust for ...
Views: 106 - The Fear of Getting Old - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe live in an ageist culture. It’s not only that we’re terrified of death and hurry to sequester the topic away under the nearest rock or stuff it into the closest corner; it’s that, in a culture that reveres youth, beauty, and physical perfection, we fear aging itself. We fear the lines that ...
Views: 94 - Relationships: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Rejected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although rejection is part of life, there are some people who experience it more than others. Now, at times this will be due to how someone lives their life. For example, let’s say that someone is an entrepreneur, who is constantly putting their ideas in front of ...
Views: 78 - Past Lives: Can 'Past Lives' Allow Someone To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that they only have one life, and, once our current life is over, that will be it. If someone has this view, they can believe that someone would need to be crazy to believe anything else. They will have made their mind up and there is not going to be much ...
Views: 76 - True-Self: Does Someone Need Approval From Others If They’re Out Of Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, it can be normal for them to look towards others for approval. This can then result in them doing what other people want, or they can try to achieve things. In their eyes, what they need to feel better will be given to them by people who they ...
Views: 106 - The Best Piece of Advice I Can Give You to Reduce Your Anxiety - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOur era has been called the Information Age, the Technology Age, and the Digital Age. But it could also easily be called The Age of Anxiety, for anxiety is rampant and can manifest in so many ways: social anxiety, test anxiety, work anxiety, relationship anxiety, sleep anxiety, fertility anxiety ...
Views: 162 - Critical Thinking: Does The ‘Chemical Imbalance’ Theory Show How Disconnected We Have Become? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to suffer from mental and emotional problems. This is then not going to be something that they struggle with from time to time and can, therefore, put to one side; it will be something that makes it hard for them to handle their day-to-day life. If ...
Views: 96 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Vegetarians Eat Meat When They Are Drunk? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, more and more people have turned their back on meat and other animal based by-products. In the past, it was often a rare occurrence to come across someone who lives in this way, but nowadays, it can be a regular occurrence. What has unboundedly played a part in all this is ...
Views: 92 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some White People Hate Their Own Race? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether someone has spent time at university and/or on social media, they may have come across white people who hate their own race. This could be something that has made them scratch their head, so to speak, or it might not have simply gone over their head. When someone ...
Views: 284 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act As Though They Are An Extension Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won’t believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals. It will be as though other people have nothing going ...
Views: 118 - “My Partner Isn’t Smart Enough” - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know what we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom. You must be wisdom… The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The ...
Views: 144 - The Truth About Love (and my thoughts on Instagram) - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to ‘take in’ the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work.” – May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude I recently decided to join Instagram. ...
Views: 158 - You Can't Stop the Waves but You Can Learn to Surf - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAt the core of anxiety – whether health anxiety, death anxiety, relationship anxiety, or generalized anxiety – is the need for safety. As I’ve been writing about in my last few posts, left to our own unguided minds, the ego will latch onto our stories to try to gain a foothold into the ...
Views: 136 - The Scars of First Heartbreak - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere’s nothing like the first. The first family. The first friend. The first kiss. The first job. The first baby. The first heartbreak. The first time or experience or relationship lays the groove of a blueprint for how we navigate later, similar experiences. Our first experience of a family ...
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