Can you recall a time where you utilized silence to make a point? If you can consciously recall, you probably know your silence made more than just a point; it made an exclamation point ... and without a single word preceding it. Now that's powerful.
Silence is a widely-known, but rarely used, powerful communication tool. Why is that? Because it can be used to shed light or convey darkness. Utilizing the sound of silence is truly the "master's" art of communication. It quaintly epitomizes a Spiritually and socially acceptable passive assertiveness. The ability to remain quiet confirms that one is in total control. It also confirms that the individual is disciplined and will not be lead into conversations that are counterproductive and energy-draining.
Silence can help us listen, keep a secret, serve in love and receive the very core of what is being said. Silence can say "I really do care."
Have you ever had a conversation where all you were waiting for was for the speaker to pause, just so you could say, what you "needed to say?" You know, where you start planning to respond to that which hadn't even been said yet? We all have. When this happens, we don't absorb the full content of the conversation. Many variables influence our desire to lose focus on what our speaker is saying. For example: your schedule, what you may be watching on TV, your mental, emotional, and physical states and of the like. Listen so that both your brain and heart are passionately aligned to receive the speaker's words. Strive to increase your understanding and place it before your desire to be understood.
Learn to be comfortable with silence and master the self-control it requires. Only then will you be able to experience the "golden" within.
Fran Briggs is the founder of The F. Briggs Group, Professional Growth Facilitators. She is the author of several articles, manuals and books including her most recent "Does My Butt Look Too Big?" This prominent voice of inspiration speaks to audiences of children and adults of all ages and backgrounds with the aim of inspiring them to their respective level of greatness. Fran can be contacted at FranBriggs@aol.com.