Last year I was reading one of the articles submitted to Gary Craig's Newsletter (founder of EFT) and it suggested that we pick up and sense a lot more of the world in the womb of our mother then we are aware of. We pick up on emotions and thoughts that our mother and father have during pregnancy. When I read that a chilling thought came through me. My hair was standing on my arms. Even though I have known this for years and while I was pregnant myself did a lot of meditations, walking, listening to my body to it needs. My memory of my last pregnancy came as clear as a bell.
I wanted a girl so bad and visualized how it would be to buy dolls, dresses and jewelry. My first-born was a boy, so now I wanted a girl. One of each! When the news came from the doctor that I was going to have another boy I was heart broken. I was sad, but also happy that I had a healthy baby with all toes and fingers intact growing in my belly. It took me a few weeks to get over my shattered dream of having a girl. In my meditations I kept seeing a healthy boy and a quick and easy delivery.
Now 5 years later I had a sleeping boy in bed with long, straight and blond beautiful hair. Everyone who saw him thought he was a girl and every time we met someone new he would be quick to say: "I am a boy" and look them straight in the eye. We would get a chuckle each time. The only thing about him that looked like a girl was the long hair down his back. The rest, clothes and behavior screamed BOY.
When I thought about how he never wanted his haircut and would cringe every time I brought the scissors. At least I was able to cut the bangs and once in a blue moon split ends. It all came to me so fast when I read the article, now I knew. I knew why he wanted to have long hair! It was very emotional to realize what my own thoughts and emotions had "done"!
The next afternoon, when my son came home from school, I asked him if he would tap with me (do EFT). He said sure, mom. We went into the bedroom so we could have privacy. We sat comfortably on the bed and he repeated after me while tapping on the karate chop point;
"Mommy wanted a girl"
"She got sad when I was a boy"
"That's Ok now, she loves me anyway"
"So now I have to have long hair"
"I need to look like a girl"
"She'll only love me if I look like a girl"
"If I cut my hair short, my mommy might not love me"
"What if she would love me anyway”?
"I know she loves me. She gives me hugs and kisses all the time"
"She tells me many times a day that she loves me"
"No, she really wanted a girl"
"And I am not a girl"
"Would she love me with short hair”?
"My mommy loves me. Loves me very much"
"More than a million"
"It's Ok to have short hair, because my mommy loves me no matter what"
"I am her little boy and she loves me"
"I could cut my hair shorter if I wanted too"
"It would be Ok"
"Cause, now I know that she loves me very much with long or short hair"
"My mommy loves me for who I am, not my hair"
"She loves me"
"My mommy loves me and everything is Ok"
"Oh, that makes me so happy inside"
"I am warm and I love my mommy too"
We kept on going back and forth. After a few minutes I asked my son how he felt about it all. He responded that he was Ok and felt really good. The next day, during the shower time, he told me he wanted to cut his hair to the shoulders. I told him we could do that, but also asked him if he was sure. He then wanted to think about it. Five minutes later, he told me he was sure. I cut his hair to his shoulders, he wanted it straight across. The long hair in my hand got a hair-band on it and in my treasure box.
The next day I was substituting at my boy's school and ran into my son’s teacher. She had a huge smile on her face. The teacher said my son's hair looked fantastic and he was sitting straighter and his whole energy was more confident. It made me so happy and my heart got warmer. My son used to get into trouble for not listening and talking to much in class, after doing EFT he barley gets into trouble anymore and wants to do his homework.
To me EFT has been and still is a life savior in many ways for myself and my family. Now my goal is to share this amazing tool with as many as possible.
You can read more about EFT and Rev. Mary Madeline Day at www.toolboxforemotionalmastery.com
Rev. Mary Madeline Day, EFT-ADV