Believe it or not we control our own frustration levels. We create our own frustration by our reactions to events and situations. We ask ourselves over and over again why does this keep happening to me? Many times when “things” happen to us , we believe it is because of other people. When it is actually our reaction and how we respond that creates the situations we find ourselves in. When someone cuts me off in traffic I can decide if I am “gonna get even!!” or if I am going to say to myself “better they are in front of me so that I can see what they are doing”. We really can control our own frustration simply by the way we talk to ourselves.
Being locked into or attached to the outcome can be a big part of why we get frustrated. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves “Why am I so attached to this particular outcome?” I know for myself many times when I let go of my specific desired outcome and let other ideas in - the end result can be much better than I originally pictured.
If we use frustration wisely it can actually drive us. In my current efforts of building a home based business a huge part of my growth and personal development has come from using frustration to my advantage. Now I allow that frustration to drive me to do something different when things “just ain’t going the way I want them to”.
In the past when I was frustrated with a project or task I would walk away from it. Now I ask for help or assistance. Previously, I would go back to projects and tasks that I had walked away from, but in many of the cases, I only created the same frustration and would get myself into a vicious circle of frustration and walking away. The end result would be not completing the task or project. Now by asking for assistance I can learn a new way of doing something, apply it and “YAHOO” the project or task is completed.
We need to be clear in exactly what we want. Take a really close look at what you want. Are you doing the things you need to do on a daily basis in order to achieve what you really want? Make a list; keep it in front of yourself EVERY DAY. Because what we focus on is what we get.
Decide how you are going to use your frustration . Frustration creates energy, and we need to make a DECISION how we are going to use that energy. One of my first real success examples is when I quit smoking. At the time I had a 4 year old nephew he kept asking me “When are you going to quit smoking Auntie Carla?” then he would add the kicker “I don’t want you to die.” Now I know my sister and mother coached him on saying that but it still worked. People used to wrinkle their noses and move away from me in public arenas. Many of my friends had quit smoking and no longer invited me to all the social gatherings. My frustration with all of those different events happening in my life at the same time drove me to making the third and final attempt to quit smoking. I am happy to say that it was successful, not always easy but well worth it!!
What are you going to do to let frustration drive you? Send me an email let me know how the article has been beneficial for you and I would love to hear your success stories; even if you believe it is only a minor success. I believe that one small change now can change your future so please do send share with me about any and all of your success stories.
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Carla McNeil is currently a Human Resources Consultant in the Federal Government of Canada.
About 4 years ago she realized that there was no way she was going to be able to achieve the life of her dreams by working for the Federal Government or anywhere in corporate Canada. Having spent 20+ years in the hospitality industry she realized that if she continued doing what she was doing she would retire dead or dead broke just like 97% of the population.
Carla has now discovered the beauty of a home based business. She is building a team of champions who want to make a difference in this world and live the life they were meant to live.
Carla assists, coaches and mentors her team to get out of the “corporate slave camp” and do What they Want – When They Want – With Whom They Want.
Carla is actively recruiting for new team members who want to make a difference in the world and live the life of their dreams.