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- Unpacking Intrusive Thoughts - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOver the years, I’ve worked with many clients who have suffered from the intrusive thought, “What if my partner is gay?” (or “What if my partner is straight?” for those in a same-sex relationship), and while I’ve written several posts on the “What if I’m gay?” spike I haven’t written about what ...
Views: 19 - Pregnancy Anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAs I’ve written about before on this blog, one of the privileges of being the position of guiding people through the darkest aspects of their psyche and soul is that they share thoughts and feelings with me that they wouldn’t share with anyone else. Part of the reason why they share openly about ...
Views: 20 - Something is Wrong - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulFear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law school and graduated at the top of its class. This character, terrified of change, will gather ...
Views: 20 - Live the Questions - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulI recently came across the following in a book called “The Middle Passage” by James Hollis: “What the frightened individual wishes above all is the restoration of the sense of self which once worked. What the therapist knows is that the symptoms are helpful clues to the place of injury or ...
Views: 11 - When It's Time To Say Enough - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulFor those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous that it was going to spike you. But hopefully you have enough faith in my site that you know ...
Views: 16 - What If We Don't Have A Strong Enough Connection? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThe following is from course member findingpeace28, who shared this on the e-course forum two weeks after her wedding. As soon as I read it, I knew had to share it with those of you struggling with relationship anxiety and, in particular, the connection spike, to offer you a lifeline of hope and ...
Views: 28 - Perfection and The Fear of Failure - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“It’s better to make a mistake with the full force of your being than to carefully avoid mistakes with a trembling spirit.” – Dan Millman, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior When I was in graduate school many ago, my classmates would often ask me how I was able to write papers so quickly and ...
Views: 24 - Recovering from a Breakup Emotional Healing and Personal Growth Tips - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2018 from Catherine PalmerAccording to the latest statistics from the American Psychological Association, as many as 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Unfortunately, that percentage is even higher among those who have been married before, and even more alarmingly, the number of breakups occurring between unmarried ...
Views: 35 - Signs Of Depression That Shouldn’t Be Avoided - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Rachel MinahanDepression is something that shouldn’t be ignored. It can occur to anyone and most often the depressed person will need some help from loved ones or maybe a professional to go through this unpleasant period. An unhappy person is not the same as depressed person. There are certain signs that can ...
Views: 43 - Cultivating Good Sleep Hygiene - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Pax TandonGet rid of any electronics or devices in the bedroom. It’s meant for two things: sleeping and sexing (I said sexing, not sexting). When you allow too much of the outside world into the bedroom, distractions infiltrate the sacred space meant solely for rest, relaxation, and procreation. Shut ...
Views: 28 - Be The Body. - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Rick HansonAs a kid, I was really out of touch with my body. I hardly noticed it most of the time, and when I did, I prodded it like a mule to do a better job of hauling "me" - the head - around. This approach helped me soldier through some tough times. But there were costs. Many pleasures were numbed, ...
Views: 15 - Science Of Gratitude - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Matt O'GradyThe Science of Gratitude Learning to cultivate an attitude of gratitude is not only simple, it’s good for us on so many levels. It increases our vibration, it nourishes the soul and it begins to shape our lives, enabling us to manifest every joy and happiness into our lives. But it’s not just ...
Views: 28 - Gardening and Mental Health: 10 Ways Gardening Promotes Self Growth - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Mercy Adhiambo OgingaGardening can improve your mood, foster healing and even help overcome anxiety. Studies have revealed that gardening has a positive effect on human health. Gardens and the process of gardening can improve your health and general well-being. A garden can stimulate and relax your ...
Views: 29 - Why Hating Your Boss is Bad for Your Career - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Jack EleverHow do most people feel when their boss walks in the door? There is a general belief that bosses and employees are often at odds with each other. This idea is often showcased in the media, entertainment and people’s social media statuses. But is this true? Do many employees find their bosses ...
Views: 75 - Getting Help: 3 Ways Therapy Can Keep You out of Trouble - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2018 from Brooke ChaplanWhen you break a bone or become ill, most people wouldn’t think twice about going to see a doctor. When it comes to trauma or other mental health issues, however, there seems to still be a great deal of shame that surrounds the idea of seeking out the help of a counselor, therapist or other ...
Views: 36 - How Often Are You Aware Of Your Intent? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Margaret PaulLearn to practice awareness of intent, to move out of your painful feelings and into your inner peace. Those of you who have been practicing Inner Bonding know that the basis of the Inner Bonding process is the intent to learn about loving yourself and others. It is the intent to learn ...
Views: 65 - Back to Basics. - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Rick HansonIn middle school, I thought it would be cool to play a musical instrument and picked the clarinet. My wise parents rented one rather than buying it, and I started practicing. (In the garage because it sounded pretty screechy.) After a week or two of doing scales, I got bored and picked my way ...
Views: 28 - What Lies On The Horizon For Mental Health Science? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Kalyna KapurDeveloped nations around the world are facing an unprecedented mental health crisis. Policymakers are facing a struggle to tackle a problem with complex origins and many continue to suffer in the meantime. A burdensome regulatory process prevents effective treatments from going mainstream in ...
Views: 54(1 vote) - Beyond The White Dress - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Dominique NicoleAs a Divorce Coach and Consultant, by the time people find me, they are well beyond marital bliss and about to embark on one of life’s major life changing events, we know as divorce. There are woman that sit in my chair and as I listen to their stories and the history of their marriage, I ...
Views: 163 - How to Stop People Pleasing - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Desiree PattonPeople pleasing occurs when a person puts his or her wants and needs aside to please another person. An example of people pleasing includes saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want” when someone asks what restaurant you’d like to have lunch at, even though you really do have a preference about ...
Views: 60(1 vote) - Where Anxiety Hangs Its Hat - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAnxiety can hang its hat on almost any hook. It can focus on relationships, fertility, parenting, health, the world, money, career, death. Within each of these topics, there are endless sub-topics that lure anxiety into its lair. If we’re talking about relationship anxiety, for example, the hook ...
Views: 69 - The Fear of Losing Control - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen we spiral down into the deeper layers of anxiety – whether relationship anxiety or any other form that anxiety takes – we find some universal root causes that live at the center. These exist on both the emotional and psychological/spiritual planes, and they all need our attention if we’re ...
Views: 49 - Breathe It In - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThese are words I find myself saying multiple times a day: to my clients, to my sons, to myself. Breathe it in. We see a prairie dog hit by a car lying on the side of the road. I turn to look at my son’s face to see if he sees it. As we live in a rural area, he’s learned over the years of ...
Views: 37 - The Critical Moment to Break Free From Anxiety - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl If we could slow life down to micro-moments, if we could literally alter time like a movie turning it into sloooooow ...
Views: 60 - Intrusive Thought: "What if I Harm a Child?" (POCD) - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen the same thought, image, dream, or motif shows up across cultures and crosses all of our lines of classification (age, gender, geography, race, religion), we call it an archetype. For example, the dreams where you show up at school without your pants on or have forgotten to study for a test ...
Views: 29 - Caught in a Thought - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA coaching client recently shared the following (shared here with her permission): A few weeks ago, I found myself obsessively thinking about a situation with a friend of mine – someone to whom I’ve given my power for many years. I was completely caught by this theme and I couldn’t get out ...
Views: 44 - Ways to Stay Relaxed in Stressful Situations - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from MD Rasel MIahWhat is stress? It is a factor per emotional or physical reaction to mental tension. It is something that all humans face as the struggles and demands of everyday life can cause grave amounts of stress. Do you ever feel that stress has pushed you beyond your ability to cope? If so, do you ...
Views: 80 - What Are Smart Drugs? First Fact: They’re Legal - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from MD Rasel MIahWhat would you do if you could enhance your cognition all the way around, and perform better than you ever have before? Would you work on building wealth and creating the lifestyle you have always wanted? Would you choose a major problem that the world is currently facing, and devote your newly ...
Views: 56 - How Can Mindfulness Help You Overcome an Addiction? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Rachelle WilberMindfulness describes a concept that’s all about consciousness. It’s about being in tune with the things that are going on around you at this specific moment. Meditation is a big part of mindfulness, too. If you’re an addict who wants to leave that lifestyle behind, mindfulness may be able to ...
Views: 64 - September is National Suicide Prevention Month - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Diana RaabEach year more than one million Americans attempt suicide, and approximately 45,000 will succeed. In fact, suicide is the tenth-leading cause of death in the United States. Over the past few years, the suicide rate has skyrocketed among youth, as well as those between the ages of 55 and 64. For ...
Views: 43 - Know You're a Good Person. - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Rick HansonFor many of us, perhaps the hardest thing of all is to believe that "I am a good person." We can climb mountains, work hard, acquire many skills, act ethically - but truly feel that one is good deep down? Nah! We end up not feeling like a good person in a number of ways. For example, I once ...
Views: 54 - Your Imagination Can Take You Where Knowledge Cannot Go - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Margaret PaulAre you limiting yourself to knowledge gained externally? Try using your imagination and opening to the limitless information available from the universe! "Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the ...
Views: 59 - 6 Unique Niches in Psychology - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Mark JohnWhen the word psychologist comes up, most of us picture the stereotypical image of someone sitting with pen and notebook calmly listening to a patient stretched out on a couch unburdening their innermost secrets. The field of psychology, however, is so much broader than just clinical psychology. ...
Views: 63 - VENUS RX’S FALL FOLLIES: All Our Karmic Kinks Are Coming Up for Review - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2018 from joan pancoeTo view all visuals and activate all links, CLICK HERE: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=129 “In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.” RAM DASS Dear One, Welcome ...
Views: 63(1 vote) - 5 Tips To Get The Most From Focus Supplements - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2018 from Nancy AhujaBrain enhancing products are in common use today. These supplements are no longer for the elderly alone to prevent memory issues. Brain supplements offer tremendous benefits when used in the right way. These help fight fatigue, increase focus, memory and recall, overall brain health, and thought ...
Views: 56 - Work Life Not in Balance - Now What is Underway? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2018 from Gregory Reece-SmithAugust has almost gone and with it the intense eclipse season. Ideally you are now in balance as the cosmos is setting the scene for your “turning point” month ahead – September. The launch pad was prepared by three consecutive days of Saturn and Uranus completing an aspect which encourages ...
Views: 42 - Dear Dr. Romance: It really makes sense to me - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been reading your advice at your website. I like what you have to say, and it really makes sense to me. I would like to tell you that you have helped me without even meeting. I have been thinking about meeting with a therapist for a while, and have tried in the past, ...
Views: 76(1 vote) - 3 Everyday Coping Tips for Life after Drug Rehabilitation - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Brooke ChaplanSpending time in a drug rehabilitation center can go a long way towards helping you live clean and sober. Maintaining the same sobriety outside of a treatment center, however, can be challenging. Inside a treatment center, you are surrounded by others struggling with the same things you are as ...
Views: 64 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Preoccupied With Feeling Safe? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be. On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ...
Views: 92 - How to Make your Home Secure Than Ever in Pennsylvania? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Perfect Home DefensePennsylvania crime statistics in 2016 show that 1 in 316 residents are at risk of being a violence victim and 1 in 57 homeowners in Pennsylvania can be a victim of a property crime. Most burglaries take place during the day between 10 am, in morning, to 3 pm in the afternoon. This is a time ...
Views: 34 - Discover the science behind Ayurveda, Unani and Yoga - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Naturoveda Health WorldAyurveda, Unani and Yoga have been known to treat diverse diseases as well as preventing numerous disorders since time immemorial. It has also been observed that alternative treatment methods are steadily gaining ground as people are becoming more and more aware of the harmful effects of ...
Views: 53 - Bullying and The Codependent Part IV: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownI assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were ...
Views: 50(1 vote) - Bullying and the Codependent Part III: “The Smelly Turd in the Pretty Package” - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownEven though it is interesting to note that recent reports state female workplace bullying is on the increase, causing more people to say they would rather work for a man, we are going to stay focused on the female family serial bully. I believe bullies know they are bullying. I believe you ...
Views: 55(1 vote) - Whose Feelings Are You Responsible For - Yours or Others? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you believe you are responsible for causing others' anger, hurt, sadness or anxiety? Is this causing you to feel guilty? "My wife is so upset that I have to travel more on my new job," Chuck told me in our phone counseling session. "She feels so alone and lost when I'm gone. When I talk ...
Views: 119 - Feed The Wolf Of Love. - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Rick HansonI once heard a Native American teaching story in which an elder, a grandmother, was asked what she had done to become so happy, so wise, so loved and respected. She replied: "It's because I know that there are two wolves in my heart, a wolf of love and a wolf of hate. And I know that everything ...
Views: 48 - Passive Aggressive Behaviour. - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2018 from David HarmI am becoming more and more aware that in my past I was a master at passive aggressive behaviour. I played head games with people to try and make them do things that I wanted them to do. The reason for this awareness is because for well over the last year it has been being done to me. ...
Views: 70 - Teen Suicide and Social Media - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2018 from Sam VakninTeen Suicide and Social Media By Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Social media and the devices that they run on are designed to be addictive, as many industry executives have confessed. Addiction is always punctuated by periods of withdrawal and its “cold ...
Views: 59 - What Should We Do with Our Old Books - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2018 from Thomas RichardBooks are hoards of knowledge, fun, stories, and literacy and who would want to get rid of such a treasure? But once you have read all the books available at home, they seem to be of diminishing utility. My family and I are book lovers and we usually pick up 2-3 books every time we visit a ...
Views: 100 - Is Your Child Bipolar? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2018 from Tali ShenfieldThe incidence of bipolar disorder has increased quite a bit over the last decade, especially in the case of children and adolescents. Until recently, it was unheard of for children as young as six years old to display symptoms of bipolar disorder. Although some mental health experts state that ...
Views: 61(1 vote) - What is the real "culprit" of dementia? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2018 from Alex MillerSeptember 21st is the 24th World Dementia Day, a disease that has severely devastated the body and mind of the elderly. Once suffering from dementia, all the memory in the patient's brain will begin to be erased. Even the former US President Ronald Reagan and former British Prime Minister ...
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