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- Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Projecting The Mother He Needed Into His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can be overly focused on his mother and do a lot for her, she might not appreciate or be grateful for what he does. Instead, she can simply expect him to be there for her. In this case, he will be giving her a lot of his time and energy, but he won’t be getting anything ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Like A Chameleon If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they more or less always adapt to others. So, when it comes to how they behave, it can depend on who they are with. For example, what can enter their mind is how they play the role of someone who is happy when ...
Views: 4 - OnlyFans Models: Are Some OnlyFans Models An Example Of ‘Toxic Femininity’? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some models on OnlyFans are not very well known, there are others that are very well known. When it comes to why some models are and some aren’t, it is likely to depend on a number of different factors. So, one thing that can play a part is what a model looks like, as her appearance ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Been Used By His Mother From A Young Age? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperNaturally, there is a big difference between a man being there for his mother from time to time and more or less always being there for her. The former will allow him to have his own life, while the latter won’t. But, although there is a big difference between these two scenarios, if a man is ...
Views: 4 - Mother-Enmeshed Women: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Life? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a woman may have seen a number of her female friends move forward in their careers and form loving and supportive relationships. However, she might not have moved forward in their career nor had a loving and supportive relationship, let alone be in one. Thanks to her inability ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can The Societal View Of A Mother Make It Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Individuate? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man is overly focused on his mother’s needs and has abandoned himself, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. Not only this, but his mother and the people in his life might not be aware of what is going on, let alone encourage him to change his behaviour. Thus, ...
Views: 4 - Let It Flow - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2025 from Rick HansonI think there are five key things we can do inside ourselves to be happier, stronger, wiser, and more loving this year: Drop the stone Let it flow Learn as you go “Us” all “thems” Be Amazed Previously, I explored the first of these: how to lay down ...
Views: 3 - Drop the Stone - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Rick HansonAs we begin a new year for many people, it’s natural to consider how to make it a good one. Besides taking action in the outer world – from fixing a dripping faucet to feeding every child – we can act inside our own minds . . . and take the benefits with us wherever we go. This year, what do you ...
Views: 5 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Being Noble By Putting His Mother First? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and overlooks his own life, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is what will go through his head. No, what it is likely to mean is that, deep down, he has ...
Views: 7 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Punish Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that she is often mean and even cruel toward men. She might see that she has been this way for quite some time. What could enter her mind is that part of her believes that this is how men deserve to be treated. This ...
Views: 8 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Move On From Early Deprivation By ‘Rewiring Their Brain’? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a less than nurturing childhood, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. For example, they could often experience anxiety and fear and feel low. As a result of this, it can be hard for them to function. Due to this, they are likely to want to find a way to ...
Views: 8 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed-Man Used By His Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a position where he is overlooking a number of his own needs, due to how focused he is on his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. But if someone pointed out that he does far more for her than he needs to, it doesn’t mean that it would go in. ...
Views: 7 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mothers Mirror? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is a separate human being, who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, it can be as though he is merely an extension of his mother. Therefore, he will meet his basic needs, or he might typically meet them, but that will ...
Views: 7 - How Magic Mushrooms Are Truly Impacting Mental Wellness And Changing Lives - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2025 from Christopher thomasMagic mushrooms, particularly those containing psilocybin, have emerged as a possible novel approach to assist individuals with mental health issues. Psilocybin treatment is effective for conditions such as depression, anxiety, PTSD, and cluster headaches. Studies keep showing how this natural ...
Views: 10 - The Impacts of the Human Trafficking Violence Trauma Experience - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2025 from William CottringerThe Impacts of the Human Trafficking Violence Trauma Experience by Bill Cottringer I’m tired. I just want to go home. ~Anonymous survivor. Helping survivors get past the violence trauma of a human trafficking experience is a challenging effort. It requires an informed understanding ...
Views: 12 - THE ALMIGHTY SELF - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2025 from William CottringerTHE ALMIGHTY SELF by Bill Cottringer Today I am graduating into my second year of my ninth decade of living life. So, I think I will venture down this rabbit hole for some profound insights into life, at least as far down the rabbit hole my current brain power will allow me to tiptoe. ...
Views: 12 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Why Would A Father-Enmeshed Woman Find It Hard To Implement Boundaries With Her Father? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, she may find that she spends a lot of time being there for her father and offering her support. She might see that she has been there for him for as long as she can remember. However, what might now stand out is that although she loves her ...
Views: 14 - Father-Enmeshed Women: Can A Father-Enmeshed Woman Sabotage Her Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship, it might not be long before it comes to an end. Now, this might not be because she is with a man who is not right for her or is treating her badly; no, it can be because of what her father thinks of the man that she is with. So, when she is with her father, he ...
Views: 12 - Father-Enmeshed Women: What Is A Father-Enmeshed Woman? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIt might not matter if a woman is at work, has finished work or is on holiday, as her father might often contact her. Now, if he does ask her how she is doing, he could soon talk about his own problems. Then again, he might rarely ask her how she is doing and could typically talk about his ...
Views: 11 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Self-Image Need To Die? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he acts like an extension of his mother, it is going to be normal for him to neglect himself. So, to say that he will live a life that is not very fulfilling will be an understatement. Naturally, for this to change, he will need to be less focused on his ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Will Someone Need To Experience An Emotional Birth If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. If they were to think about this stage of their life, they could think about how it wasn’t that bad. They might even have a fairly ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Tendency To Cheat? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship, they might have recently shared their body with another or had an affair. Now, this might not be the first time that this has taken place. Not too long ago, they might have behaved in the same way. However, even if this is the first time that this has taken ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s Emotional Self To Go Into Exile? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has an emotional self, in addition to a mental self, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that they could typically be out of touch with how they feel. What this is likely to mean is that they will spend most of their life in their head and be ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone Be Attracted To People Who Will Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone may have found out that their partner has cheated on them. Then again, they might have found out that this has taken place more than once, and that this has been going on for a little while. Either way, thanks to what has happened, they can be in a bad way, both mentally and ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Develop A Needless False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being, they could typically act as though they are independent. They are then going to have a number of needs, but, in general, they will create the impression that they don’t. Apart from their basic needs then, such as their need to eat and ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Growing Into A Man? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is going to be more like an extension of her as opposed to an autonomous human being who has his own life to lead. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he might not be consciously aware of this. Assuming that this is the case, there will ...
Views: 11 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Fear If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life. In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable ...
Views: 11 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Brought Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone acts as though they are merely an extension of their family, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can just be what is normal. As a result of this, their main focus will be on doing what they can to please the people ...
Views: 11 - Early Deprivation: Can A Goal Be Another Way For Someone To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is feeling low and is even depressed, they might believe that they need a goal to work toward. Then again, they could talk to a trusted friend or family member about how they feel, and this is what they could be told. Assuming that the latter takes place, this can be seen as a way ...
Views: 12 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Struggle To Make Unresponsive Women Responsive If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be dating a woman who rarely has time for him, and when she is around, she could typically be somewhere else mentally and emotionally. This might have been going on for a few weeks or months. Either way, thanks to what is going on, he is likely to spend a lot of time ...
Views: 13 - Dealing with Anxiety and Worry - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2025 from santosh krinskyMany people express the idea that simply living life without any form of planning or care about organizing one’s activities is the ideal ‘worry-free’ way of living. This conflates reasonable planning in the outer life with the internal process of worrying. Worrying is basically an inability ...
Views: 11 - JUPITER EXALTED: Our Saviors Walk Among Us - by Submitted on May 26, 2025 from joan pancoeTO ACTIVATE ALL LINKS AND VIEW ALL IMAGES (RECOMMENDED): https://joanpancoe.com/2025/05/24/jupiter-exalted-our-saviors-walk-among-us/ LISTEN ALONG ON YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@joanpancoemodernmystic1357 “The entire Universe is my true personality” —Anonymous Zen Master Dear ...
Views: 14 - Love Your Neighbor - by Submitted on May 26, 2025 from Rick HansonThis practice might sound extreme or pushy, and I want to tell you what I mean by it. Everyone has lots of neighbors, and they come in many shapes and sizes. Obviously, the people living across the street are neighbors, but in some sense, so are the people you live with. Friends, ...
Views: 13 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman A Powerless Victim If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman might be with a man who is emotionally unavailable and is often physically out of reach. If so, when she is with him, she won’t be able to connect to him emotionally, and she will rarely, if ever, see him. The reason for this is that he can be focused on his mother’s needs ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Try To Make Unresponsive People Responsive If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they continually end up with people who are emotionally unavailable. As a result of this, they are going to be used to being deprived in this area of their life. Additionally, they may have had a very similar ...
Views: 21 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that it’s as though they live in a desert. The reason for this is that they could seldom, if ever, receive what they need. So, they might generally be able to meet the needs that allow them to survive, but that ...
Views: 22 - Relationships: Can A Man Have The Need To Save Women If His Mother Was Abused By His Father? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could spend time with a woman who is with a man who is mistreating her. When they get together, they may or may not get affectionate and have sex, but he can spend a lot of time listening to her and being supportive. He can often tell her that she doesn’t deserve to be ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their Needs? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to focus on other people’s needs and ignore their own. This is something that can take place without them consciously choosing to behave in this way. Apart from meeting their basic needs, then, they will have the tendency to overlook their other needs. And ...
Views: 18 - Early Deprivation: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Handle A Loss If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, someone may have experienced a loss, and since then, they might not have been in a good way. If this is the case, they are going to be in a position where they find it hard to function. Now, they might have experienced a breakup or lost a loved one. Either way, they can find it hard ...
Views: 21 - Therapy: Can Therapy Be Another Way For Someone To Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels the call to have therapy, it can be due to a variety of different reasons. So, they could suffer from anxiety and/or depression, struggle to feel good about themselves, and/or they could have relational challenges. Either way, after they have found a therapist who is right ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Developmentally Stunted If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they might find is that they don’t have a strong sense of self. So, instead of feeling like a strong and capable adult who can direct their life, they can feel like a weak and incapable child who needs others to direct ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Receiving Attention With Being Humiliated If They Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have the need to be seen and heard, this need might rarely, if ever, be met. The reason for this is that they could do what they can to stay in the background. So, when they are at work, with friends and even with family, they could prefer to let other people talk and ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Believe That They Are Not Good Enough If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on May 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see is that no matter what they do or achieve, they don’t feel worthy or deserving of having their needs met. Instead, they can have the sense that they are worthless and undeserving. Now, if they were to reach out to a friend and talk about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 21 - Stand Up to Bullies - by Submitted on May 19, 2025 from Rick HansonHumans are profoundly social. Woven through the tapestry of our relationships are several major threads. One of these is power. The only question is, do we use it for good or ill? The abuse of power can be called many things, including intimidation, fraud, discrimination, and tyranny. ...
Views: 17 - Love What's Real - by Submitted on May 12, 2025 from Rick HansonBecause this practice could seem so abstract or so obvious that it’s not worth doing, I am going to take longer than usual to explain why it’s so important. As I grew up, my family and schools felt like shaky ground. I didn’t understand why my parents and many kids reacted the ways they ...
Views: 19 - What is the Gray Divorce? - by Submitted on May 07, 2025 from Cheryl GowinLet's take a moment to reflect on the show "Everyone Loves Raymond." In one episode, Debra notes the striking image of her in-laws, Marie and Frank, sitting silently at the lunch table. This scene prompts an important question: Is this portrayal of communication simply Hollywood, or does it ...
Views: 21 - What is the Gray Divorce? - by Submitted on May 07, 2025 from Cheryl GowinLet's take a moment to reflect on the show "Everyone Loves Raymond." In one episode, Debra notes the striking image of her in-laws, Marie and Frank, sitting silently at the lunch table. This scene prompts an important question: Is this portrayal of communication simply Hollywood, or does it ...
Views: 22 - Enjoy The Good That Lasts - by Submitted on May 05, 2025 from Rick HansonWhy? So many things change. Leaves fall, friends move away, and children leave home. My dad died some years ago, and my mom about ten years before that. I don’t know about you, but I’m getting older (darn, there is no fooling the mirror). The world changes, too. Evolving ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Act Like An Extension Of Others If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on May 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they typically act as though they are an extension of others. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and life to lead, but they won’t act like one. In general, ...
Views: 20 - Natural Trauma Healing – Less is More - by Submitted on May 04, 2025 from Darlene LancerThe conversation around trauma has become mainstream, as people seek to understand the effects of stress and emotional wounding on the body and mind. Countless books and studies have brought vital insights, exploring how trauma lodges in the nervous system and impacts our sense of safety, ...
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