If you’re struggling with codependency, I want you to know that codependence recovery is an important part of getting through your issues and gaining some freedom. Not everyone’s path will look the same, but committing to some sort of recovery will be most beneficial to you.
Breaking the cycle of codependency
Characteristics of codependency can become a cycle and in order to break that cycle, it is important to utilize resources designed to help you. This includes professionals who have experience working with codependents and support groups such as Codependent’s Anonymous.
The journey through codependence will take some people a short time and others longer; it will certainly vary in each person. One thing is for sure: You will not get break codependency behaviors over night. It will take time and effort, but it is well worth it.
Steps to overcome codependency
Underneath the umbrella term of codependency are a host of negative emotions and behaviors that must be faced and dealt with. Most experts assert that the characteristics stem from a dysfunctional childhood or early trauma, but no matter why you are codependent, the issues you face are real and there are steps that you can take to lessen and completely break free from it.
The 12 step program Codependency Anonymous is a wonderful support group for you to become involved in. The first step prompts you to admit that you are powerless over your codependency and your life has become unmanageable. It is important to acknowledge that you are having the issues that are affecting you and your relationships.
It is not easy to admit that you’re struggling with little self-worth, controlling behaviors, jealousy, clinginess, self-hate, and so no. I understand. I’ve been there and it is a vulnerable place, but I knew that I needed to own it in order to really break free and move forward. I know that sharing my story helped shame to lose its power over me and it is my goal to help others do the same.
Recovery will help you keep codependency under control
Some professionals state that there really isn’t a cure for codependency and others state that there is. Either way, recovery is helpful for the long haul. I know for myself that when I would slack in the area of recovery, the 12 steps, or simply reading about codependency, I would start to slip right back into codependent characteristics.
It is a good idea to stay on the track of recovery to keep your characteristics at bay. There are some excellent books out there on the topic and plenty of Codependent Anonymous support groups near the major cities. Simply go to www.coda.org to find the nearest one to you. There you will find other who struggle with codependency and they can offer you support and excellent advice on how to overcome your issues.
It is always nice to find a group of people who will love you unconditionally and offer unlimited support. Once you start going, get yourself a sponsor or mentor to help you along your journey. Sponsors can relate to you one on one and you can even work through the 12 steps with them. I found my sponsor to be a life saver!
Codependency does not have to keep you down. Go ahead and take the first step today and admit that you have some codependent characteristics. Commit to taking the next step and getting the help that you need to face and get through them. I know you can break free because I did. I believe in you! Declare that you will not allow codependency to rule you anymore.
Dominica Applegate, M.A., is an Author, Speaker and Coach specializing in codependency and personal development. She offers an eCourse entitled “Overcoming Codependency” and holds workshops regularly. She has a deep passion for discovering and sharing authentic spiritual truth that transforms people from the inside out. She is dedicated to the sacred art of self-discovery, creative expression, and adding value to humanity. Feel free to connect with her at www.dominicaapplegate.com and receive her free eBook, Recycle Pain: It Has a Purpose.