Have you ever tried reaching out for your workmates or colleagues and close friends to tell them regarding your situation or experience with being bullied at the workplace, but they were not there for you? And Why Does This Takes Place? There are top 3 reasons why sympathy and support might not be present for you when you are dealing with a situation regarding adult bullying: 1. They never realized that empathizing or the mere act of listening could greatly help, even if they don’t know what other actions to carry out. 2. They might not care enough to help or support.
Most individuals will care if they only know how to help solve the case of workplace bullying situations, but they don’t. 3. They don’t know what to do to support or help. Putting an end to bullying in the workplace is not an issue they know how to coach or cope with. Here Is What You May Encounter When You Share Or Discuss About Your Adult Bullying Situation. 1. You are interrupted or bothered. 2. Most of them listen just to hear some gossip, and not for your best interests. 3. Some of them use patronizing comments like, “How is your bullying at the workplace condition coming along?” 4.
Some of them change the topic repeatedly or let themselves be disrupted. 5. Some of the people do not to hear you out—they immediately jump right in, trying to tell you to do this and that, and they expect you to be able to fix or solve your bullying problems and difficulties fast. 6. These persons re-directs the conversation back at themselves: “Oh yeah...which reminds me of that time when I was also...”7. Or some of them disagree with your feelings or sentiments regarding your workplace bullying predicament. So What Could You Do In Order To Gain Support In Helping You Handle Workplace Bullying? 1.
For more sound advice, seek guidance and professional help. When choosing a therapist, choose a person who has a specialty in workplace and adult bullying and more importantly, in conflict resolution. Be sure that you feel comfortable and safe with them. You can also ask about their results so far. 2. Look for a close friend or an officemate or colleague who is kind enough and caring and understanding to be an empathic listener that will not criticize or judge you harshly. 3. Let your workmate or buddy know that they don’t have to listen to really solve the problem; you just want that comforting concern and care.
4. Keep in mind that the support of your workmates and colleagues could be empowering and influential, not to mention comforting. And having two or more friendly and sympathetic co-workers who are willing to serve as moral support or a witness when you take a formal action to your support needs could be a great help. 5. For some support at work, ideally you can approach your boss for protection. But if your boss is the bully, then you could try the HR of the Employee Assistance Program representative.
The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Click here to get more info about this Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You.