Ideally holidays are meant to be happy, joyous and life-affirming times spent together. Filled with joy and gratitude, inspiring us to connect with family and friends near and far. Opportunities to catch up with what everyone is doing, their lives, their children's lives, their adventures and ... Views: 7
First dates are both exhilarating and a bit frightening. And sometimes it’s hard to know the difference between these two feelings. No wonder — these emotions arouse virtually the same areas in the brain.
Even more confusing, when you feel anxious, you often ... Views: 10
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs recently reports that one in five combat veterans develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or after their service. However, while PTSD is becoming more widely-recognized, the illness was not fully accepted by the medical community ... Views: 25
Dear Dr. Wish,
Please help me get my thinking clear about my boyfriend “Don,” who has been divorced for two years and has seventeen year-old twin sons who live with his ex. We’ve been dating for a year. I have never been married and I don’t have any ... Views: 29
What is the real nature of conflict?
Most think it has to do with one or more individuals trying to get their competing needs met at the same time.
If this is the mindset that individuals start with then attempts to resolve such conflicts in the face of such limitations are bound to ... Views: 39
Even if you are the one saying good-bye in an intimate relationship, you still may not feel strong, wise and happily single and alone again.
It is normal to feel scared and doubtful about your decision to leave.
Whether you are doing the leaving or you are the one who is being ... Views: 33
About one in five families of veterans will never be the same once a soldier returns from combat. That is because the U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs finds that one in five combat veterans develop a mental illness known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. PTSD can be developed after ... Views: 47
Trudy a twenty-nine year old local newspaper reporter and Max a thirty-three year old limousine company owner had endless fights about who was doing the lion’s share of parenting their two children. They argued about what to do, how to do it, when to do it and who should take the blame when ... Views: 51
Driving home from his last landscape design consult, thirty-three year old Craig’s stomach was in knots wondering if Sophie would have gotten over the row she had with her mother the other day. He felt bad for his wife who had tried and failed to arrange a family dinner, taking out her ... Views: 57
Yes, it can happen to you—the date with the man you always wanted. But don’t let your enthusiasm compromise your safety. Get smart and take the following precautions ahead of time.
How to Protect your Safety on Dates
1. Tell Friends and Family. Let your family, ... Views: 105
I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.
Then my son was born and sleep is no longer my friend. I still love sleep, but for some reason, it's mad at me. I'm not sure if it's jealous, because I'm spending more time with ... Views: 83
How would you know if you were the only sane person in an insane asylum? Now imagine yourself as a child with no prior knowledge of what is sane or normal. How would a child know if they were a sane person in a family with disturbed parents?
A significant part of the trauma of growing up ... Views: 75
The New Year seemed to have passed, and the sting of an unhappy, unromantic Valentine’s Day is over, too. No wonder you feel sad. No matter how much you fight the influence from what seem like manufactured holidays, it’s still hard to beat the blues from breakups and being alone. ... Views: 60
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
The truth is, for many couples, the empty nest is a time of great “re-discovery” of the love for each other. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage because the children have all left home. Now what? This is a question ... Views: 106
The Japanese call them “parasite singles”, the Americans “boomerang kids”. Sociologists refer to the “accordion family”: it expands and then contracts and then expands again as children return to what should have been an “empty nest.”
Why do youngsters opt to live with their parents rather ... Views: 84
Mental illness is a lifelong struggle, and many sufferers feel like they are left to deal with their conditions all on their own. Oftentimes, people who suffer from any sort of mental illness feel that they are completely alone and alienated by their condition. Many veterans diagnosed with ... Views: 66
Pets are precious parts of our family and have their own distinct personalities. This is a Memorium ro our beloved Cat Taz (who is he was and his personality. As a person would be a "Maritan personality " www.personalitypredictors.com/Martian. Intrepid, feisty and mischievous.) A Maine Coon ... Views: 67
My heart is sad. You send your kids... your babies off to school. You entrust others to watch over, care for, and feed them. It would never occur to me that food my child may eat would be tainted. How does this happen? How are people that irresponsible and careless? That something so preventable ... Views: 77
Can a man and woman manage not to mix together eventually? The answer is “Yo and Nes”—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how can you tell if your friendship is going to remain a friendship or turn into something more?
In the movie When Harry Met ... Views: 69
Many couples are aware of Couvade syndrome, or “sympathetic pregnancies,” where husbands experience some of the same symptoms as their pregnant spouses. But did you know that a similar psychological episodes exist with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD?
It is usually assumed that ... Views: 99
The National Institute for Mental Health finds that about 7.7 million American adults suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. PTSD usually occurs after an individual has either endured or witnessed a traumatic event, but the disorder can even affect people of close relations to ... Views: 91
Well, you got through your divorce, settled in to your new life as best you can, and now you are in your first important, post-divorce intimate relationship.
You’re excited and relieved — yet also wary. You wonder if this new relationship is a go? Your doubts are not unfounded. After all, ... Views: 156
In a recent article entitled "Some Evidence On How We Are Spiritually Connected" a case study was presented that revealed how individuals who share common traumatic memories can help each other release the trauma at a distance. In this article I will elaborate some of the potential applications ... Views: 111
Your divorce is final, and you are glad, sad, excited and scared all at the same time.
You love your nights to yourself — for a while — and then you wonder if you can ever be optimistic about finding love again.
The good news is that this roller coaster of feelings and doubt is ... Views: 172
Dear Dr. Romance:
I need some of your advice. You're the only one I could think of who would give me a sensible answer. Well, this situation might seem easy when viewed from the outside, but going through it myself really created stress for me. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ... Views: 153
As a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs.
1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional ... Views: 124
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
When we said our marriage vows 48 years ago and promised “Until Death Do Us Part,” we never imagined those 48 years would go by so quickly. But they did.
This year, we will celebrate our 48th Wedding Anniversary. Just imagine, being successfully ... Views: 153
Are you an adult child of divorce? If so I'm sure you're familiar with the consequences of carrying within you the memories of your parental divorce. If not let me highlight them for you so you can find a way to release them once and for all.
The consequences of carrying these memories within ... Views: 220
Many New Year’s resolutions are broken by the end of January. If that sentence describes you, don’t fret. New Year’s resolutions are hard to keep because we humans—and probably most primates—have brains that are designed for pleasurable sensations and encounters such as ... Views: 123
Oh—so you think that just because you are together with your family that it’s a good time to have one of those heart-to-hearts where you grab the opportunity to air your emotional hurts and open wounds. Well, not so fast. It just may not be the best time to settle your grievances.
Why It ... Views: 110
No matter how seasoned and successful you are, you still may experience disappointments and setbacks. Here are tips to empower you.
Read this several times:
No one is immune from experiencing career setbacks, disappointments and regrets and making mistakes big and small.
Setbacks come in ... Views: 217
Bad boys have edginess. They’re risk-takers, a trait that’s present in successful, charismatic men of power, status, wealth and savvy.
So, what’s wrong with being attracted to them? The answer is “almost nothing,” as long as you don’t allow the exhilaration ... Views: 267
Has dating etiquette about money really changed from the days when men paid for everything? Yes and No. In the not too long ago past—talk to your parents and grandparents—men paid for almost everything on a date. Oh, once in a while the woman would treat him to something that was not ... Views: 224
Many of us have probably heard the word “mindfulness,” but what does it mean? And more importantly, why should I bother?
Obviously, I think it’s important, otherwise I wouldn’t be mentioning it. So, I’ll start by attempting a definition. Mindfulness is the ... Views: 169
Had rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures?
Well, here’s the good news: rotten pasts for ... Views: 172
What is your tradition for family meals during the holidays? Do you have one? I bring this up because, as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for 23 years in private practice, I've heard it all: from great times to grim times.
When you think of gathering everyone together, do you cringe? I am ... Views: 92
I’ve often told my clients that at any moment World War III could break out in your intimate relationship—if you let it. You really do have to pick your battles and your moment, tone, words, and emotional intensity. Here are some key ideas from Part 1.
Quick Review: Managing ... Views: 185
Have you said these words and then realized another hour or two went by before you were finished? You see the disappointed faces of your family, you order take-out dinner again, and you miss yet another yoga class. Instead of spending time on our family and relationship, we find we spend our ... Views: 157
Horses are natural peacemakers
As I was growing up, I often found myself in the role of family peacemaker and wondered what it would take for people to focus more on the ways that connected them rather than divided them particularly within families.
I guess this is one of the reasons why ... Views: 44
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Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws
Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ... Views: 216
An Australian Y-Genner graduate, Alex Haigh, recently coined the term “Phubbing.”
I guarantee that even if you don’t yet know what it means, you’re all ready phed-up with it!
Phubbing is the anti-social act of someone having their face glued to a smartphone rather than the person they are ... Views: 49
Holiday traditions are essential, and there is a reason why we have kept them a part of our lives for so many centuries. Simply put it is because they add meaning to our lives, and help bond us to those we love. Last weekend I was watching Christmas Vacation (one of my guilty pleasures during ... Views: 58
When you’re unhappy in love, it’s often hard to know if you are being too picky, too “sensitive” or just wrong in your assessment of the situation.
You wonder what “counts” as being a legitimate reason for you to fall out of love or feel distant from your ... Views: 199
Too Capable to Surrender
If you were asked to do too much too soon, take on too much responsibility at a young age – either physical responsibility such as household chores or emotional responsibility – caring for siblings, a sick parent or feeling responsible for an emotionally challenged ... Views: 115
Suffocation or Existence
When a child is asked to fulfil the needs of a parent, especially its mother, then it faces one of the biggest dilemmas that can continue well into adulthood and later years. If at a young age we exist to fulfil the needs of our mother then the main way in which ... Views: 170
Traditional sex – the heady cocktail of lust and emotional bonding - is all but dead. In a culture of casual, almost anonymous hookups, suppressing attendant emerging emotions is the bon ton and women and men drift apart, zerovalent atoms in an ever-shifting, kaleidoscopic world, separated by a ... Views: 261
Busy-ness has been a common topic to discuss amongst people as well as my coaching clients and it often is a complaint to many others. Do you complain about being too busy in life? I know I have and mostly I simply THRIVE when I am, so you can only imagine what it was like for me to be so ... Views: 286
Are you outwardly successful but inwardly do you feel like a big kid? Do you aspire to be a loving parent but all too often “lose it” in hurtful ways? Do you crave intimacy but sometimes wonder if it’s worth the struggle? Or are you plagued by constant vague feelings of anxiety or ... Views: 244
Through many years of experience and learning I have found there are different types and levels of friendships and relationships. I want to discuss this in my article and see if anyone agrees. I have been around for many years and have learnt so much about people and especially about myself. I ... Views: 474
My little boy Liam is now four months old. While I was pregnant, I received a message from my guidance suggesting that I take 4 months of maternity leave. Now that time is coming to an end and I am transitioning back to working more again, it seemed a good time to reflect and share with you what ... Views: 281