Had rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures?
Well, here’s the good news: rotten pasts for ... Views: 35
I’ve often told my clients that at any moment World War III could break out in your intimate relationship—if you let it. You really do have to pick your battles and your moment, tone, words, and emotional intensity. Here are some key ideas from Part 1.
Quick Review: Managing ... Views: 36
Have you said these words and then realized another hour or two went by before you were finished? You see the disappointed faces of your family, you order take-out dinner again, and you miss yet another yoga class. Instead of spending time on our family and relationship, we find we spend our ... Views: 43
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Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws
Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ... Views: 69
When you’re unhappy in love, it’s often hard to know if you are being too picky, too “sensitive” or just wrong in your assessment of the situation.
You wonder what “counts” as being a legitimate reason for you to fall out of love or feel distant from your ... Views: 70
Too Capable to Surrender
If you were asked to do too much too soon, take on too much responsibility at a young age – either physical responsibility such as household chores or emotional responsibility – caring for siblings, a sick parent or feeling responsible for an emotionally challenged ... Views: 6
Suffocation or Existence
When a child is asked to fulfil the needs of a parent, especially its mother, then it faces one of the biggest dilemmas that can continue well into adulthood and later years. If at a young age we exist to fulfil the needs of our mother then the main way in which ... Views: 7
Traditional sex – the heady cocktail of lust and emotional bonding - is all but dead. In a culture of casual, almost anonymous hookups, suppressing attendant emerging emotions is the bon ton and women and men drift apart, zerovalent atoms in an ever-shifting, kaleidoscopic world, separated by a ... Views: 103
Busy-ness has been a common topic to discuss amongst people as well as my coaching clients and it often is a complaint to many others. Do you complain about being too busy in life? I know I have and mostly I simply THRIVE when I am, so you can only imagine what it was like for me to be so ... Views: 114
Are you outwardly successful but inwardly do you feel like a big kid? Do you aspire to be a loving parent but all too often “lose it” in hurtful ways? Do you crave intimacy but sometimes wonder if it’s worth the struggle? Or are you plagued by constant vague feelings of anxiety or ... Views: 104
Through many years of experience and learning I have found there are different types and levels of friendships and relationships. I want to discuss this in my article and see if anyone agrees. I have been around for many years and have learnt so much about people and especially about myself. I ... Views: 208
My little boy Liam is now four months old. While I was pregnant, I received a message from my guidance suggesting that I take 4 months of maternity leave. Now that time is coming to an end and I am transitioning back to working more again, it seemed a good time to reflect and share with you what ... Views: 139
Inspiring Quotes for Moms
“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” ~Jamie Paolinetti
My advice for Moms is to take the time to breath. Really breathe. I just did a 2 week cleanse – an amazing cleanse, that I will ... Views: 102
For some couples, the decision to have children is something that was discussed long before marriage---in some cases; I am told, on the first or second date ! But for many couples, deciding whether or not to have children can be one of their most daunting issues. With couples getting married ... Views: 101
Flash games are a source of big fun for people of all ages. Since online games don't require expensive software they are particularly attractive in today's down-trending economy. Free computer flash games are easy to find on a wide range of interests from fishing to fashion or ... Views: 151
7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members
If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ... Views: 196
How healthy are your boundaries? Maybe you think about this directly and often, maybe not. Boundaries weren’t something I personally spent much time thinking about for many years. I’ve often related to the concept of boundaries in a negative way. Of course I’ve known they’re important, ... Views: 191
Richard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year.
No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ... Views: 174
Thanksgiving is right around the corner now. Friends and families are planning and gathering for the day. Is it going to be turkey, or goose, or maybe we'll even try turducky! How many side dishes this year? Remember last year we forgot the broccoli! Do we really have to have candied yams and ... Views: 193
Raise your hand if you think the holidays bring out the best and worst in us. It always seems that by the time Thanksgiving rolls around, the year seems to circle the drain at breakneck speed. So much to do — so little time. The lives of past holidays flash before our eyes as we try to focus on ... Views: 152
With the holidays fast approaching, our emotions seem to jump all over the place. We’re excited, anxious, stressed, because there’s so much to plan, and we want the holidays to be perfect. Yet, the thought of the holiday dinner quickly reminds us of past events that have been anything but ... Views: 70
When we look outside for self-definition and self-worth, we are giving power away and setting ourselves up to be victims. We are trained to be victims. We are taught to give our power away.
As just one small example of how pervasively we are trained to be victims, consider how often you ... Views: 128
What do the kids want for Christmas?
Where shall we celebrate Christmas?
How far shall we travel for Christmas?
Who shall we invite for Christmas?
How much money shall we spend this Christmas?
What food shall we cook for Christmas?
Many people are currently investing time ... Views: 67
The Holiday season will soon be upon us. And for many it will be accompanied by a hectic pace, bah humbug attitudes, or the holiday blues. Already, spouses are beginning to cringe at the thought of spending a portion of the holiday season arguing with the family or spending long hours traveling ... Views: 67
Our children are being bombarded with candy from every direction. Chocolate bars, gum, suckers, and assorted gummy candies line the checkout lanes in grocery stores. School fundraisers sell candy bars, cookies, and brownies in the hallways during lunch hours. Every mall, skating rink, soccer ... Views: 212
With summer vacation recently over and the Fall holidays just beginning, there may be more family time than you can handle! Along with lots of family time can come conflict.
Whether you and your spouse disagree as to how to deal with the in-laws or whether you are having an issue with a ... Views: 143
Disagreements regarding your children are natural when a marriage or relationship ends. Each parent's life moves on in a new direction and as a result disagreements arise about custody, visitation, and decision-making regarding the children. A look at the policies behind California's custody ... Views: 245
Does your tummy churn at the thought of speaking in public? Do you feel cotton-headed when you get to the podium? And, unbelievably, did you forget to make the most important point? Welcome to the vast majority of people who fear speaking or performing in public. You’re in good company with ... Views: 139
Teaching our kids certain skills and personal habits just isn’t good enough. We need to lead by example and live the skills and traits we teach.
Not only when it is convenient, but all the time.
Here is a list of what I believe to be the seven most important characteristics and skills we ... Views: 198
Actually, with some practical tips, you can minimize the stress and depression that often accompany the holidays. You may even end up enjoying the holidays more than you thought you would.
Recognize holiday triggers
Learn to recognize common holiday triggers, so you can disarm them before ... Views: 79
Caregiving in any form is highly stressful and emotionally draining, but Alzheimer’s disease can be particularly challenging because of the mental deterioration it causes. You are not only contending with a decline in physical health, but a host of other difficult issues such as hallucinations, ... Views: 85
Can you remember a time when children went outside to play because it was safe and there was so much to do? Now there are many that spend time indoors playing video games. Some would argue that this is a waste of time, and that kids should be doing other things. This was said about radio, ... Views: 245
No parent I know, including myself, learns to parent in one fell swoop. Parenting is a process. We learn new things with every new challenge that presents itself. Each child and each situation builds new parenting skills and each challenge, no matter how difficult or trying, offers new ... Views: 157
Many people have no idea what or who is a life coach and why in the world would they need one?
OK, I will attempt to explain it to you.
A life coaching is the relationship based on trust. The life coaching process helps people to identify what makes them frustrated and unhappy in their ... Views: 109
YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD
Really...you're not, whether you want to rekindle the romance that once was with the person you are with, or if alone, to find love.
August is National Romance Awareness month. Time for you to let love in, and send it out.
How to do that? First, ask yourself: ... Views: 249
All these years later, I still think about what kind of mother I used to
be. It took me three years to become a real one after the birth of my
daughter. Motherhood is much harder than most will tell you or admit
to. I couldn’t understand why people said that it was so worth it. I was
32, ... Views: 208
It's summer now, and you are going on a summer vacation with your children (do not forget them:D). The question is what is necessary to take with you. Of course, resting with the child, it is not the same as resting with a company of adults. It is necessary to think over everything, nothing must ... Views: 249
Family Photography: A Source To Create Everlasting Memories
Family photography is the source of family photographs, which is one of the most important stuffs you can have in your home. While your life alters around you, it's so nice to have a long-lasting reminder of your family at a specific ... Views: 129
Your children are your legacy. If you want them to be happy in life, then it's important for them to have social confidence, so they can make friends and build great relationships. Here's how to help them achieve this.
Many children grow up lacking social confidence. The environment they ... Views: 227
Naming your baby is in general a big ceremony for you, your relatives and the general society. Under general circumstances, an individual holds his or her name during the course of his life time. The name actually provides individuality to the person. It differentiates a person from the other ... Views: 118
For example, I used to have issues with emptying the dishwasher. I would put it off all day, as the awaiting dirty pots would stack up around the kitchen. Then one day I clocked how long it actually took to do it – about 2 or 3 minutes! I was letting a couple of minutes-worth of work rob me of a ... Views: 104
It's easy to get excited about organizing a family reunion. Are you celebrating a special anniversary or event? Maybe yours is a big family, for which big gatherings are hard to arrange because of the sheer numbers and logistics involved, and it's just time you got together? Or perhaps you're ... Views: 110
With Halloween directly upon us, millions of children are getting their costumes ready. As they make last minute adjustments to their costumes, parents should make sure that the costume is safe. This includes not only looking out for small objects or parts that can injure others, but eye safety ... Views: 175
Finding wholesome family activities is crucial for everyone. While we have so many potential activities available to us in the modern world, not all of them are created equal. Working as a family on a project tends to be more fulfilling than simply sitting together and watching television, for ... Views: 236
What is the big deal about cleanliness?
If our homes are our own, to enjoy as we went, why must we all conform to the same standards of good housekeeping?
One word: health. Good hygiene is the basis of a healthful environment. Without it, it will not be long before illness becomes a ... Views: 117
One of the hardest tasks stay at home parents have is to be the disciplinarian to their children. This is because children usually see the stay home parent as the nurturer, while the parent who works outside of the home is often tasked with the role of disciplinarian. With the increase in the ... Views: 168
Times are particularly tough for families, with such a fast paced world we live in that's currently experiencing one of the biggest economic downturns in centuries it's clear to see why!
That's why in the following article I want to set a theme of strengthening the bond between families. One ... Views: 126
Spring cleaning can bring a tear to most parents eyes. What does it take to rally against all the dirt, grime and clutter to assure you keep your sanity in check afterwards?
You want to make sure that you have no distractions and can give your attention to the task at hand. It is important to ... Views: 316
Fatherhood and history often repeats itself. I woke up this morning with an old Harry Chapin song from back in the 70’s playing in my head. The song is called “Cats in the Cradle" and the lyrics that stuck in my head and keep playing over again go something like this….
“My child arrived just ... Views: 319