A Preview From Randi G. Fine’s Upcoming Book
Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: Surviving Pathological Narcissistic Abuse
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As an Adult Child of Narcissistic Abuse you can learn ... Views: 66
Today, more than ever, we need to learn how to handle fear. We are definitely a frightened people and our fear seems to be increasing every day. If we don't learn how to confront and control fear, we risk losing our emotional and physical health and ultimately the joy of living.
A life ... Views: 173
Last Monday, I just watched another hair-raising season finale of the Walking Dead.
I watched this series from the beginning and I am always pleased how they usually end its season.
A t.v. series that shows about zombies invading the world is quite new and interesting because you can only ... Views: 125
Sometimes good parents find themselves all alone when it comes to finding help for their troubled teen. Maybe they were single parents from the start, maybe they’re divorced, their spouse had died, or maybe they are still married but the other parent is not interesting in being helpful but no ... Views: 114
Why the clothing industry?
In our country the clothing sector is witnessing an economic boom, no matter whether if it is men's wear, women or kids wear. Not many industries are recession proof. Clothing industry is one such segment of industry for doing business which creates beneficial as ... Views: 127
The holiday season seems to come upon us earlier and earlier each year. Even before Thanksgiving, I started to notice all of the signs -- colorful lights strung in front of houses, a glimpse of lit trees through windows and cheerful holiday tunes on the radio. Along with the high spirits the ... Views: 131
The change that occurs when a child becomes their aging parent's caretaker is profound. It leads to a wide range of emotions on both ends, sometimes including resentment, depression, and frustration. Caring for anyone is never easy, and professionals agree this change in roles is one of the most ... Views: 106
Something has bothered me for a long time. The use and understanding of the phrase “Real Dad.” A real dad, to me, is someone who raises you, who guides you, and sets an example for a healthy way to live with some morals attached. So many people come from blended families and two of my three ... Views: 127
Are you concerned that you or someone you love might be suffering from an eating disorder? Eating disorders are serious and lengthly debilitating illnesses. Studies in Australia found that the average duration of bulimia is 5 years, and 8 years for anorexia. The quicker that one gets help for ... Views: 145
Ensuring the safety of your kids is one of your main priorities. And where else is it better to start than in your home. Naturally, as a family we spend large amounts of time in our homes and it is very important that you keep the place not only beautiful and fun but also safe for your toddlers ... Views: 155
Family law is such a wide area in matters of dispute resolution; it covers areas such as divorce, child custody, child support, alimony, property divisions etc. There are also common laws and laws of equity that are covered in as long as they affect the family or on the other hand the ... Views: 151
Minnesota is a land of abundant natural beauty, sparkling blue lakes, vibrant night life and easy going people. It offers you every opportunity to follow your passion. That’s why you see many families add Minnesota to their vacation list. Choosing a destination is not the only major decision ... Views: 159
Can Your Children Be Honest?
Parenting Advice: Establishing Open Communication and Trust
I often hear parents say, “My child does not tell me anything.”
Children go through phases, particularly during their adolescent years, when they see no logical or justifiable reason to communicate ... Views: 215
Narcissistic Parents Divide Their Children Through Triangulation
Conflict is a normal part of family dynamics. The fact that a family argues from time to time does not make it a dysfunctional family unit. What makes a family dysfunctional is the emotional pain and confusion that prevails ... Views: 211
Should Narcissistic Abusers Be Held Accountable for Their Actions?
Excerpt from January 7, 2014 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Whether to Forgive or Not Forgive the Narcissistic Abuse
Many recovering victims of narcissistic abuse struggle with the dilemma of whether or not to hold the ... Views: 213
When Children Don’t Stand a Chance
Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ... Views: 220
Have You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation?
To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Is there one sibling in your family who is your ... Views: 172
Is One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler?
To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ... Views: 166
In the world where we are constantly bombarded with information, expectations, ‘must-haves’ and ‘must-bes’ it can sometimes be difficult to know who you really are and what you really want from life. Perhaps you’ve grown up under the influence of your family’s or friends’ expectations, maybe ... Views: 164
Cleaning the house is real boredom. It steals our precious time which otherwise would have been spent on relaxation or doing the stuff we like to do. How to deal with our laziness and still have a clean home and more spare time for friends and family? Well, the answer here is really simple, you ... Views: 186
A common mistake that parents make, is to encourage their kids to fight back in situations when they are being bullied by other kids. Probably disappointed by the inability and aversion of their schools and teachers to adequately cope with the problem or disappointed by harassing kids, they ... Views: 207
Dear Dr. Romance
I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor.
I am a single parent about 9 ... Views: 182
Determining custody after a couple has split up can become a complex and confusing affair. Even couples that feel as if they parted ways in an amicable manner could run into issues months or even years down the road. With over 50 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it is important for all ... Views: 183
There are many different kinds of rugs. We have modern, contemporary, traditional and even Persian rugs just to mention a few. Most of these rugs are quite good and when you get an original one, it can last a very long time. The treatment that you give to the rug will determine the outcome of ... Views: 149
Traditional, Persian or you can say hand-knotted rugs, all of them are precious and adorable. They are masterpieces which transform your home into an exotic place. Owner of such rugs make many common mistakes when it comes to keep their maintenance. Overly conscious users have some misconception ... Views: 118
The indoor and outdoor physical environment affects and fosters the optimal growth and development of both children and grownups as it provides them with an opportunity to explore and learn. It has a significant impact on the level of engagement of the kids, their academic achievements, ... Views: 189
Onam is a harvest festival which is celebrated in south India, especially in Kerala with a great grandeur and gaiety. This is one of the most important festival celebrated by all communities across the state of Kerala. The Onam carnival lasts almost for 10 days. It is a tribute to King Mahabali ... Views: 150
If you’ve messed up the first date, you are not alone. Read these three true stories from my clients.
1. “Alyssa” agreed to meet Allen in person after ten days of emails, text messages and phone calls. She was really looking forward to meeting someone who seemed good for her.
The problem ... Views: 283
When buying a real estate in Toronto it is wise to have a real estate lawyer by your side during all transactions in order to protect your rights and also to make sure that you get everything for what you have paid. You must choose a lawyer who specializes in real estate transactions of Toronto, ... Views: 210
Today, most parents attempt to exert absolute control over the lives of their children. Without any doubt, they are following on the footsteps of their own parents.
We tend to be afraid of changes. Since our own parents raised us with the approach of controlling every aspect of our lives and ... Views: 199
I’m a successful, single business woman in my late thirties. My trusted friends told me I seem unhappy. I think my friends are right. I’m not unhappy about anything specific, and I don’t feel any more stress than usual. I searched the Internet for tips, but some of the tips are ... Views: 229
Among many major festivals in the world, Eid is known as one of the biggest festivals. Muslims across the globe celebrate this festival with a great zeal and fervor. It is a day that celebrated at the end of holy month of Ramadan. Muslims keep fast from dawn to dusk and offer prayers to almighty ... Views: 202
The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote:
“We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings”
I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ... Views: 215
You’ve read the dating articles. You feel armed with enough of the “right” questions to ask so you’ll never get fooled again.
You know to ask about their values, recent breakup, favorite music and movies, where they live, what they do for a living and whether they like animals and their ... Views: 283
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Narcissistic parents of seriously ill children derive narcissistic supply from onlookers, friends, family, colleagues, and community by attracting attention to their role as saintly caretakers. They are demonstratively and ... Views: 242
Friendships are an important part of being healthy, but they can be rough too. Most people change over time and this affects their relationships, including with their friends.
As a parent, it can be hard to watch your child go through a difficult time with their friends pulling away -- even ... Views: 261
Unhappy with your primary doctor or specialist for a long time but too busy or unsure what to do about it?
If you are nodding your head yes, you are not alone. I’ve spoken with hundreds of professional women who say any or all of the following things about changing their doctor:
•“I don’t ... Views: 276
Over eight days in June, there is the trifecta of Father’s Day, my father’s birthday, and the anniversary of his death 36 years ago. If alive, my father would be 101 this year.
This particular trio activates memories of a father who graduated a Jesuit college as a philosophy major (and, boy, ... Views: 227
Abusive situations in families do not happen in isolation. It is neither bad luck, nor is it the fault of the victim of abuse. Abuse happens within a culture of abuse. That is, there is something that is handed down over the generations that encourages those who abuse and allow those around the ... Views: 330
Just a few generations ago, few people had to worry about their physical fitness. Life was hard. Without luxuries like cars, elevators, or even washing machines and other labor saving devices, their lives were busy doing all the things we take for granted. Machines didn’t do everything for ... Views: 285
What if there were no television, no Internet, and no parenting books?
What would we do differently?
Would we treat each other with more compassion? Would we feel better about ourselves? Would we have less anger?
How would we raise our children, if we weren't constantly being told that ... Views: 330
The way your partner proposed to you might allow you to see into your future with this person.
Good card players can detect “tells”—those unconscious behaviors that give away information about a player’s hand.
When my clients described their feelings of disappointments or exhilaration ... Views: 351
After residing in China for the past twelve years, I had the opportunity to explore the exotic city of Guilin. Actually, it was my second visit to the city. However, during my first visit, I had no time to enjoy its magical scenery.
During my recent visit, I was accompanied by Chinese wife, ... Views: 233
Many people don’t believe in the existence of guardian angels but I do. They live among us and shower us with their bottomless treasure of love and affection. They, generously, sacrifice their lives to cater for our needs without ever complaining. They are our mothers.
After carrying us for ... Views: 268
Colleges Rejected You?
Learn Top Tips of Intuitive Parents and Students—and Get Accepted!
Got rejected or wait-listed by your college or grad school? I got rejected in my senior year in high school by all the colleges I applied to! And, later, I got rejected on my first attempts at ... Views: 333
As the single and sole parent of my five children for over 18 years now (2 boys and 3 girls), I hoped I would be a natural role model to my boys for the way to grow to be successful men. I wanted my boys to man up as soon as they were old enough. Work hard, be a leader, be kind to everyone, ... Views: 332
There were several instances over the past 18 or so years as I raised my 5 children as a single parent, where the reality of my kids moving on to their next necessary chapters of life, has suddenly hit me. I had such a moment last week, as I watched my middle daughter Rebecca get fingerprinted ... Views: 307
As Easter approaches, family and friends will be gathered at the table for Easter dinner. Mom’s prized turkey and Aunt Linda’s delicious casserole will be served. The Easter bunny is there and the Easter Egg Hunt is underway. Laughter and shouts of, “I found one,” can be echoed throughout the ... Views: 285
There is NOTHING WRONG with choosing these men–but be sure you can trust your intuition to know how to detect the difference between a “take charge” man and a man who wants to take charge of YOU!
These tips come from my research with thousands of women for my book “Smart Relationships: How ... Views: 396
Although providing care for grandchildren on a temporary basis is commonplace, there is a growing number who are now substantially responsible for raising them on a longer term basis.
Usually, this is because their children have found themselves in a situation where they are unable to care ... Views: 317