One area that is sometimes overlooked when scheduling your kids’ time is how important it is to allow independent play.
It might not be necessary to have a literal scheduled block of time for play, especially if play still comes naturally to both you and your children, but if you find that ... Views: 20
Are statistics about the odds of women finding love and happiness getting you down?
Don’t fret — get smart and think about you instead!
Virtually all of the women in my study for my books said they had trouble “turning down the background noise” about what statistics and ... Views: 14
The suicide of Robin Williams has shaken—and awakened us up. News of his death has made many of us think:
If someone with family, fame, and fortune could do that, could that happen to someone like me who doesn’t have all those things?
I’ve been feeling really down lately, and ... Views: 20
Have you ever thought that you found The One—only to realize later after much heartache that the person was The Wrong One?
Finding healthy love is so important to your mental and physical health. It’s unfair that it’s so difficult to find the right person. It’s not fair. Here ... Views: 30
Dear Dr. Romance
I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries ... Views: 78
Dear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated.
I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you ... Views: 72
Summary: Obedience to the laws of physics has put men on the moon. Freedom, Health, Happiness and Prosperity are based on obedience to laws. Re-writing those laws will not get us to the moon, and it can hijack us from a higher destiny in life.
If we Google Newton's Laws, we find a daunting ... Views: 97
No matter how successful and seasoned you are, you may still experience setbacks and disappointments.
Setbacks come in many shapes and sizes for each of us. Sometimes they are small, while other times they’re huge — or perhaps they just feel that way.
Read this sentence out loud several ... Views: 44
Parents do have a strong effect on their childrens personalities. Usually their attitude towards their kids and towards others is very important. Most of parental concerns are about kids education, leisure, social life and behavior in general, in terms of how they are getting along with all ... Views: 74
I was deeply saddened to learn about the recent death of Hall of Fame baseball player Tony Gwynn. Tony was a star for the San Diego Padres in the 1980s and 1990s. In addition to being an incredibly talented and accomplished athlete, he had an infectious smile and personality. I didn’t know ... Views: 182
Uh-oh—another study about women’s unhappiness at home. The sociologist Arlie Hochschild wrote in her 1997 book, “The Time that Binds,” that time at home with spouses and children was more stressful than time at the office. The author described home as a place where couples had ... Views: 75
Father’s day reminds me of many years ago when I attended a different church. The pastor there was the head of the jail ministry at the local county jail. He would tell us of how on Mother’s Day they would bring Mother’s Day cards so that the inmates who were so inclined could send a card to ... Views: 112
Here are some thoughts that might surprise you. There is not necessarily a type of person who cheats.
Even nice people can be cheaters—and this concept can cloud your ability to see the signs that your partner is a cheater.
How many times have you watched true crime ... Views: 89
It might surprise you that size may not be the most important factor in choosing your cabin. Location and the amenities that are included in your cabin’s category can be much more important. Here are some tips to help you select the cabin that is best for you.
You may not be able to fulfill ... Views: 94
An adoption can be a stressful situation for all parties involved, and that is why planning is so essential. For those that want to make this process as smooth as possible, here are a few simple tips to keep in mind before and during the adoption.
Make Use of the Waiting Periods
An ... Views: 95
This Type A biz mom has fully embraced the concept of regular recreation and downtime to fuel excellence in my business. I need no convincing that the quality time—away from work and with my family and friends— charge my creative juices for optimal business results.
the kids are ... Views: 100
You don’t have to miss out on Catholic family fun this summer, just because you are busy mompreneur.
Successful Catholic mompreneurs know how to “be” with their families. They can cut loose when not working, which allows them to pour on the creative and energy into their work when it’s time to ... Views: 85
When Alyssa and Rick returned from their honeymoon in Italy, they were still squabbling. They rented a car in Tuscany because they wanted control of their itinerary. Instead, they ended up losing control of their temper over being lost, low on gas, and parking spaces. They drove to so many towns ... Views: 83
Everyone knows to bring food when someone is sick or recovering. A snack or a meal sends along a kind wish that lingers with every bite.
Yummy food is the perfect gift for helping a distraught family when the loved one has landed in the hospital with a sudden illness, an accident, scheduled ... Views: 191
Do you want to be happy in love? If you answered, “Yes”, then you need to know the signs of a good relationship.
Common sense will tell you to find someone you trust and like. But you can learn a whole more with research-based advice that delves deeper.
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Sick or exhausted parents can always use a short break. This is your chance to jump in to make a difference. Offer to spend an hour or two with the kids.
Here are ten quick and easy things you can do with children:
Watermelon seed spitting contest. Just slice up that watermelon, ... Views: 132
Q: My spouse and I often have arguments over the small stuff. How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering?
A: Ill bet neither of you would argue with your boss or work colleagues, or your childrens teachers the way you argue with ... Views: 110
Three Reasons Their Divorce Rate May Be Lower Than Their Parents
Baby Boomers, that group of children born after World War II, were extraordinarily lucky in many ways. They never had to fear the Nazis, war on their own turf, death camps or serious hunger. They were born after atomic bomb ... Views: 97
Yes—you broke up because it wasn’t working. Every relationship has unique details about unhappiness. You may still harbor some doubts, but, for now at least, breaking up feels the right thing to do.
It wasn’t easy—regardless if the relationship was very bad or just not a good match ... Views: 124
You only have one Mom. What would SHE like to get as a Mother’s Day gift?
To figure out what Mom would like as a gift, think from your mom's viewpoint. This way you can give her a gift SHE will really enjoy.
Gift giving can be disastrous. How? When a gift giver gives what the gift ... Views: 129
When I was younger, I had a vision for my life. I was going to be successful... that was always a priority of mine. To be successful. I always connected success with a career, never with a family. Yes, I would get married and have kids, but a successful career was of the utmost importance to ... Views: 103
Perhaps the end of your most recent relationship is a good thing regardless of who did the leaving. But now what’s the best next step for you?
Every situation has different details, but here are the top things to consider that emerged from my research and work with thousands of ... Views: 210
“Miracles do happen,” wrote Chaim Weizman , the first President of Israel “but one has to work very hard for them.”
To grow up and out of a painful, dysfunctional past and all its leftoversfeelings, memories, pain, confusion, anger, fear, and persistent ... Views: 174
Mommy really doesn't know much right now, but I promise you I will. The only thing I do know is mommy loves you more than words, more than actions. Mommy loves you as though you are her heart, spirit, and soul wrapped in one... without a beginning or an end. There is no depth or breath to my ... Views: 165
It still doesn't seem real. I can't believe it. It's taken me this long to get into a routine of things. Don't get me wrong, I had what I thought were routines. Then a week or two passed, and I would tweak them trying to see if something worked better. Sometimes routines put you in a rut, but as ... Views: 136
I’m sure many of you have wondered why a man didn’t call back — or call you at all after you had what you thought was a wonderful conversation.
It’s very confusing. Doubts swirl through your mind such as: was I too quiet or too opinionated? Did I talk about my ex too ... Views: 127
Sometimes you just have to end the relationship. But what are the best ways? Test your Break Up Smarts and take this quick quiz.
Break Up Quiz
1. Suzanne knows it’s not going to work out with Ron. They’ve been dating for a few months, and she already sees that Ron is ... Views: 130
I have a tendency to take myself a bit too seriously at times, especially when I get stressed, irritated, or scared. I’ve noticed that sometimes these feelings not only make me less effective in dealing with a difficult situation, they actually cause the difficulty itself, or at the very least ... Views: 163
Ideally holidays are meant to be happy, joyous and life-affirming times spent together. Filled with joy and gratitude, inspiring us to connect with family and friends near and far. Opportunities to catch up with what everyone is doing, their lives, their children's lives, their adventures and ... Views: 104
First dates are both exhilarating and a bit frightening. And sometimes it’s hard to know the difference between these two feelings. No wonder — these emotions arouse virtually the same areas in the brain.
Even more confusing, when you feel anxious, you often ... Views: 131
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs recently reports that one in five combat veterans develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or after their service. However, while PTSD is becoming more widely-recognized, the illness was not fully accepted by the medical community ... Views: 158
Dear Dr. Wish,
Please help me get my thinking clear about my boyfriend “Don,” who has been divorced for two years and has seventeen year-old twin sons who live with his ex. We’ve been dating for a year. I have never been married and I don’t have any ... Views: 148
What is the real nature of conflict?
Most think it has to do with one or more individuals trying to get their competing needs met at the same time.
If this is the mindset that individuals start with then attempts to resolve such conflicts in the face of such limitations are bound to ... Views: 176
Even if you are the one saying good-bye in an intimate relationship, you still may not feel strong, wise and happily single and alone again.
It is normal to feel scared and doubtful about your decision to leave.
Whether you are doing the leaving or you are the one who is being ... Views: 154
About one in five families of veterans will never be the same once a soldier returns from combat. That is because the U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs finds that one in five combat veterans develop a mental illness known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. PTSD can be developed after ... Views: 155
Trudy a twenty-nine year old local newspaper reporter and Max a thirty-three year old limousine company owner had endless fights about who was doing the lion’s share of parenting their two children. They argued about what to do, how to do it, when to do it and who should take the blame when ... Views: 162
Driving home from his last landscape design consult, thirty-three year old Craig’s stomach was in knots wondering if Sophie would have gotten over the row she had with her mother the other day. He felt bad for his wife who had tried and failed to arrange a family dinner, taking out her ... Views: 186
Yes, it can happen to you—the date with the man you always wanted. But don’t let your enthusiasm compromise your safety. Get smart and take the following precautions ahead of time.
How to Protect your Safety on Dates
1. Tell Friends and Family. Let your family, ... Views: 247
I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.
Then my son was born and sleep is no longer my friend. I still love sleep, but for some reason, it's mad at me. I'm not sure if it's jealous, because I'm spending more time with ... Views: 224
How would you know if you were the only sane person in an insane asylum? Now imagine yourself as a child with no prior knowledge of what is sane or normal. How would a child know if they were a sane person in a family with disturbed parents?
A significant part of the trauma of growing up ... Views: 195
The New Year seemed to have passed, and the sting of an unhappy, unromantic Valentine’s Day is over, too. No wonder you feel sad. No matter how much you fight the influence from what seem like manufactured holidays, it’s still hard to beat the blues from breakups and being alone. ... Views: 185
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
The truth is, for many couples, the empty nest is a time of great “re-discovery” of the love for each other. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage because the children have all left home. Now what? This is a question ... Views: 233
The Japanese call them “parasite singles”, the Americans “boomerang kids”. Sociologists refer to the “accordion family”: it expands and then contracts and then expands again as children return to what should have been an “empty nest.”
Why do youngsters opt to live with their parents rather ... Views: 215
Mental illness is a lifelong struggle, and many sufferers feel like they are left to deal with their conditions all on their own. Oftentimes, people who suffer from any sort of mental illness feel that they are completely alone and alienated by their condition. Many veterans diagnosed with ... Views: 169
Pets are precious parts of our family and have their own distinct personalities. This is a Memorium ro our beloved Cat Taz (who is he was and his personality. As a person would be a "Maritan personality " www.personalitypredictors.com/Martian. Intrepid, feisty and mischievous.) A Maine Coon ... Views: 198