Everyone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself.
Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues
* If you are disappointed, and the ... Views: 17
Lately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month. ... Views: 33
If you are among the fortunate ones who’s blessed with a caring, loving and extremely warm wife, who has recently given birth to her and yours first baby, then you must be looking for ways to thank her with some sweet gestures on upcoming Mother's day. Since her kid is too young to even ... Views: 26
In this just finished period of holidays, we often get together with people that we would rather not be with, or would like to be with for a limited period of time only. Yet, we tell ourselves: “ you have to be with them, because they are your parents/in-laws, brothers/sisters, etc...”
If we ... Views: 32
Making and keeping New Year’s resolutions is challenging—especially when you want to make the best resolutions about dating.
Don’t despair. You can make smart resolutions — and use your brain’s ability to undo old habits to keep your resolutions! Let’s start first with smart resolutions that ... Views: 34
Playing pretend games with children can be a very fun and special thing to do. All it takes is a little imagination and the willingness to act a little silly. Among all of the pretend games I have played with children, two or my favorites are Fishy Fish and Unwrap the Present.
Fishy fish is a ... Views: 36
As a parent, I know how excited you must have been when your child uttered his/her first word. This milestone marked the beginning of lots of talk, right? Perhaps from time to time, though, you imagine what it must be like to carry on a thought in your own mind without the seemingly constant ... Views: 55
Even though you may see your child every day, it's always a bit challenging to find enough time in the day to spend with him or her. As a dad, it is important to make sure that in the time that you are able to spend with your child that you pass down the different skills that have shaped you ... Views: 36
I grew up in a large family, more exactly, a large extended family. We lived on tight budget, so we could not afford any fancy meals, let alone eating out in a restaurant. Our dinners were always very simple and plain, but I enjoyed every minute of the family dinner time. During that time, ... Views: 54
Dear Dr. Romance:
To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate
she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ... Views: 82
We rarely hesitate to send our children to public school for 7 1/2 hours every day. After all it is required by law that we educate our children!
As a homeschooling family, I admit, we didn't always spend a full 7 1/2 hours in formal educational exercises; but we probably spent more than 7 ... Views: 73
Dr. Romance wishes you a Happy New Year!
Every New Year feels like a new beginning. The sun, at its furthest point at Winter Solstice, has begun its annual swing closer to Earth, you change your calendar, and we all feel the renewal of the fresh, new year. With this sense of ... Views: 101
Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on external circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get in charge of your life ... Views: 83
I worked before at a playground, encountering different kids. Nevertheless, I loved my job. Their giggles are just so lovely and even in a short span of time, I’ve collected a fair share of musings.
Photo courtesy of playgroundquipment.com
The playground is vital to a child’s development. ... Views: 80
A married woman with children has so many different responsibilities while starting a new career at home. Her primary role is to take care of the needs of her children and husband. Management of time and financances is key to the long term goal of building a business. Our children and spouses ... Views: 59
One day, “out of the blue,” when I was trying to find ways to help my clients, the idea of writing a list of Ten LoveCommandments came to mind.
My clients and research participants ask me many questions, and one of the most common one is: “How do I keep that spark alive with my partner?”
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This question obviously applies mainly to people who have their own children, but can equally apply to people who as children are aware of their own upbringing, and can also apply to how an individual treats other people in his life who he effectively has some responsibility for, either at work ... Views: 69
The answer to this to some extent depends on who the person is, and what the behaviour is, and how much their behaviour affects you and in what ways. Obviously this is a very broad question but there is an important point behind it, in terms of an individual's willingness to let other people be ... Views: 99
The reality of how much time and thought you give to your family is of course in many ways a unique question that can only be answered by the individual themselves. The reason it is so important is because in a significant number of cases the amount of focus that an individual puts on the family ... Views: 120
Many years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it
by Edwin Markham
He drew a circle that shut me out
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.
But Love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a ... Views: 109
Dr. Romance wishes you a Happy Thanksgiving!
A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ... Views: 102
It’s difficult enough to meet someone who seems like a good love match. But then, over time, things happen between you and your partner that make you wonder: “Is this the right person for me?”
It seems as though it should be such an easy question to answer. But once you fall in love, your ... Views: 97
Richard and I just indulged in our favorite December traditionwe watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year.
No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ... Views: 115
Here is the age-old question: Can a man and woman be friends and stay strictly platonic? The answer is “Yo and Nes”—each word, as you can see, is a combination of Yes and No. So, how do you know if your friendship with a person of the opposite sex might cross over into “dangerous ... Views: 83
"It’s the most wonderful time of year" for some, filled with anticipation and excitement. And, it’s the most difficult time of the year for others who are barely putting one foot in front of the other due to illness or sadness. Now’s your chance to bring some holiday cheer to someone who could ... Views: 167
If your spouse is an alcoholic, knowing how to help him or her can be challenging. Addiction puts a severe strain on even the healthiest marriage. But if he or she is prepared to attend a comprehensive recovery program such as Willow Tree Recovery, you may be on the path to a healthier life ... Views: 69
Many of us wish to become entrepreneurs to become their own boss. But while it sounds exciting and easy to run your own business, entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone. Successful businessmen actually make more sacrifices than any ordinary career person would. One common observation is that ... Views: 177
How Women Can Boost Their Travel Mindfulness & Intuition
I’ve been fortunate enough to travel a lot – often alone – to give workshops and talks. I’ve also lived in another country that is very different culturally from my home in the United States. I mention this information because I was ... Views: 81
Only 16% of all murder victims are members of the defendant’s family?
That’s according to the PDF file that pops open (or opens in your browser) when you click this link – and you must have the free Adobe Acrobat reader to see it. (Fortunately, it is included with most computers ... Views: 103
Don’t tell me you actually believe that Pilgrims, dressed in black, sat down with Indians, wearing feathers and colorful beads, for a big meal of turkey, cornbread, cranberries and pumpkin pie and created what we know as Thanksgiving?
If you do, we need to talk. Fast. It’s almost ... Views: 146
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my daughter in law . I I love her. She and my son had a relationship for more than fifteen years and were married for six. They have two preschool age children. I always thought My daughter-in-law and I got along, but now we can only ... Views: 140
"Seedlings turn overnight to sunflowers,
Blossoming even as we gaze
Swiftly fly the years
One season following another,
Laiden with happiness and tears…"
- “Sunrise, Sunset,” Fiddler On The Roof
As any parent will know, the moment a child is ... Views: 151
Yep—soon it will be time for you to get: HOLIDAY SEASONAL STRESS DISORDER.
Symptoms of this disorder include:
Dreading being with some of your family members—and not knowing how to fend off those not so nice family comments about YOU!
Feeling lonely and unhappy
Spending too ... Views: 116
The family setting is an interesting arena that is rife with a gamut of emotions, trials and tribulations
Sometimes relationships can get strained and individual family members can be singled out to bear the brunt of the family strain.
Scapegoating is something that happens in any setting, ... Views: 83
What is PLAY?
Image via Flickr
Play is simply a time for kids to use their toys and have fun ... or at least that's how it seems.
One day I watched my three children play. My eldest boy, Miggy (7 years old) took out his lego blocks while his younger siblings, Julia and Mikee surrounded him. ... Views: 172
Consider the following examples for a while:
a. You are on your way and you come across a mother with her sweet toddler child. You start cuddling him/her and ignore the mother totally (no eye contact)
b. You meet someone you know on your way, with his or her spouse. For you, the spouse is a ... Views: 162
When life throws us a curve, the gift of a "spa moment" can be the perfect touch. A local spa offers healing relief and is perfect for those who can’t venture far from home or the hospital.
Since spas typically offer a variety of massages, manicures, pedicures, facials, and packages, a ... Views: 284
I love traveling. I love it so much that while I am on vacation, I am already planning my next one! But I sure don't like packing. And unpacking is even worse! I must be a slow learner because it took years of making mistakes to learn what to take and what to take it in. You may not use all ... Views: 153
Travel is great medicine for boosting your sex and love life. Don't have the money or time? Don't worry. All you need to do is cut back on a few unnecessary purchases such as that magazine, or comfort food, or that movie that you don't really need - and then find a day and a half to be together. ... Views: 144
I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap.
On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore ... Views: 163
Secrets to Hiring Smart: New Ways to Mix Wisdom with New Formats, Questions and Intuition
In my career the task of hiring always landed on my desk. There were other “sets of eyes” on the potential employee, but I was often the first or last set of eyes. Over the years, I relied on a unique ... Views: 127
It’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare. What went wrong?
Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others. You are most ... Views: 129
If you have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to think: Why doesn’t the person just get out of it?
Well, think of these things:
An abuser knows exactly what emotional buttons to push in his or her partner.
The abuser is a master of finding that chink in the partner’s ... Views: 140
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Love Child - by Rev. Kelli Wilson - Find It. Feel It. Heal It.
Do you ever look at your child, I mean really look at him or her and think to yourself, “Wow, here is an amazing small human being in my care”? Of course you do, you’re a parent.
I have been given the amazing responsibility to care for these human beings to the best of my ability for at ... Views: 186
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 159
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 134
We tend to give our partners more than second chances—even when they have betrayed, disappointed or hurt us physically or emotionally.
It’s as though we’ll do almost anything to defend against rocking the boat, and being alone or wrong about our love choices.
In this brief article ... Views: 122
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rocks the world. This hand also prepares the family’s meals, drives kids to school, pushes the swing, gives a pat on the back, and lends itself selflessly, among many other wonderful things a mom does for her family.
What are the traits of a ... Views: 225
When I read a recent article citing single mothers for the recent decline in newspaper sales I was appalled. I couldn't believe Chris Powell, the Managing Editor of the Journal Inquirer, actually blamed single moms for his not being able to sell more newspapers. What shocked me even more than ... Views: 137
Even through my 38 weeks of pregnancy, I never once imagined what motherhood would be like. I really never thought about being a single mom. Yes, you hear things will change, but I never truly understood it, which seems to be the case with most things, until you experience them.
After ... Views: 177