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Dear Dr. Romance:
This is something that's puzzling me for along time. I often do want the playgirl, but they like the more bad boy type.
I know for sure I want sex without strings attached, many men get this, but I simply attract women who want a boyfriend, and I ... Views: 46
For many couples, getting married is the happy conclusion of a long-lasting relationship. However, getting married doesn't mean that you'll never need to put in any serious effort to keep your relationship blossoming. Going on dates, taking vacations and giving each other gifts can help you ... Views: 34
While there are some people who are able to experience intimacy, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, it could be said that that their relationships are going to be extremely different.
When it comes to the former, someone will be used to being with people who ... Views: 108
Create real understanding and communication with your partner.
Learn the best techniques and strategies to ignite the love, passion and excitement you felt at the beginning of the relationship.
Marriage ... Views: 79
I could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ... Views: 138
In order for someone to experience intimacy, it will be important for them to open up to others. However, this is not to say that they should simply open up to anyone, and this is because doing so would lead to problems.
When one opens up to another they are putting themselves in a ... Views: 96
Speaking briefly on this, because although the subject of soul mates is not central to the services I provide, it occasionally arises within my work with individuals who are expanding their businesses. Women seem more susceptible to it than men, so since I work primarily with men, I’m ... Views: 92
When a relationship comes to an end it doesn’t mean that one will be willing to walk away. Instead, they may feel the need have the other person in their life again, and it might not be enough for them to see the other person from time to time.
This could then be a sign that ... Views: 110
If someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life.
On one ... Views: 55
While one can share their life with people who support them, they can also be in a different position. As a result of this, the people they are closest to could be the ones who hold them back.
When one has people around them are able to support them, their life is going to be ... Views: 65
While someone can be in a position where they are around people who they can open up to, there is also the chance that this is not the case. When one can relate to the former, it could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember.
Having said that, there is also the chance ... Views: 72
If one was to get in touch with someone they know it could be because they need something. However, it doesn’t mean that this will always be the case, as there could be times when they don’t need anything.
During these moments, one may want to find out about what they have been ... Views: 61
There are some people who are able to connect with others, and then there are others who are unable to do so. When one can do this, there is a strong chance that they are going to be used to having people in their life that they are close to.
One on side this could mean that they will have ... Views: 99
The two of you have had a massive fight. You're worried because it's been several days since it happened and you have yet to hear from him. Being a woman in this position is never easy. You replay the conflict back over in your mind and you wish with everything that you could find a way to ... Views: 175
Is there anything more mortifying than making a fool of yourself in front of the ex boyfriend you still love? If you've done it, you're likely going to say it's the worst thing that can possibly happen to a woman. It's not, not in the big picture of life, but it is awful in the moment and in the ... Views: 88
There is a cruel game being played on and in our romantic relationships. It is one that I have devoted my adult life to conquering, attempting to give one individual at a time the tools necessary to be victorious. Unfortunately, we enter romance with no experience and zero preparation. Our ... Views: 123
Should you tell your ex boyfriend you miss him? You do so wouldn't the right thing be to express that to him? It will make him realize just how much he means to you and he'll want you back, right? Wrong! Telling your ex how much you truly miss him is actually an incredibly bad idea for several ... Views: 117
Love doesn't come along every day. Most women know this all too well, so when they do find a man they love, they will likely do everything in their power to hold onto him. Unfortunately, sometimes relationships end. However, those deep feelings of adoration can't simply disappear. If you are ... Views: 92
If you and the woman you love aren't together anymore you are either feeling one of two things. You may be feeling as though the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders because the relationship was incredibly difficult and tense. On the other hand you may be saying to yourself I ... Views: 130
Are you worried that your ex will never come back to you and you will never be able to get him back? Do you miss him and wish that you knew what to do to get him to change his mind? Do you dream of being held by him again and wish that this whole nightmare was over with and that he would just ... Views: 127
What does it mean when a guy says he wants to take a break? By far, this is the one question that women most often ask me about their boyfriends. It’s one of those very obscure things that men say that we can’t quite understand. We want to believe it means one thing. That’s because all of our ... Views: 84
You’ve suffered through the break up and now you’re trying to put your heart back together. It’s hard, isn’t it? Emotions are fluid and constantly changing as you try to absorb that you and your boyfriend aren’t together anymore. The situation takes on an even more sombre tone if you haven’t ... Views: 93
“I want him back!” That’s the tune you seem to be singing these days, isn’t it? You and your guy have gone through a rough patch that ended in a break up. Now that the emotional dust has settled and you’ve had a chance to survey the damage to your heart, you’re ready to jump back into a ... Views: 55
Sons of narcissistic fathers are driven by lack of confidence. Raised by a self-centered, competitive, arrogant father, they feel like they can never measure up or be enough to garner their father’s approval. Their father may be absent or critical and controlling. He may belittle and shame his ... Views: 126
We are attracted to people for many different reasons, some of them conscious, some unconscious. Some of the conscious reasons have to do with how the person looks, how they act, the sound of their voice, the sensation of their touch, and other sensory cues. These are things we can identify and ... Views: 134
There is an African saying goes like this:
A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel ugly; your wholeness ... Views: 108
While some people can find that they can function whether they are with someone or if they are by themselves, there are others who are not in the same position. In this case, one can find that they struggle when they are not with someone.
On the other side, one could find that they it is not ... Views: 131
Difficult moments are not all that uncommon in committed relationships. When we are courting each other in dating, it is hard even to fathom that these two connected and unconditionally loving individuals could possibly have a disagreement, let alone a hard time bringing up a difficult subject. ... Views: 161
When someone starts a new relationship there is a strong chance that it will be their intention to be with someone who is available. In this case, one is in a position where they are ready to share their life with someone else.
It could then be said that they have the right outlook, and it ... Views: 171
From ancient wisdom to cutting edge science there are innumerable ways to boost our libidos naturally. Every culture throughout history has searched for, experimented with and embraced an amazing variety of ways to elevate our sexual drive and pleasure to greater and greater heights. Thousands ... Views: 91
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ... Views: 126
Emotional intimacy is a foundational aspect of all great relationships. The word “intimacy” refers to the experience of being fully seen and comes from the Latin “intimus” meaning innermost. When we share this experience with another, we feel whole, complete, and at one with the world. Yet we ... Views: 178
Dr. Romance writes:
When I met Richard , my husband, October 10, 1981, he was sitting outside, and the sun was glinting off his red hair, and my whole body and soul said "wow!" We married on May 9, 1982, and thirty-four years later, we’re still happy. It ... Views: 123
I often receive a version of the following email:
"Is indifference a sign of relationship anxiety? My partner and I haven't seen each other in two weeks and I feel nothing. I've shut down. I don't care if we split up. My partner even cheated on me and I felt nothing. I don't seem to care ... Views: 154
If someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ... Views: 213
As current divorce rates show, staying in love is not something we can take for granted. Despite this realization, modern society does not prepare couples well for making their relationship last.
For instance, romantic movies typically end at the point where a lifelong relationship begins - ... Views: 289
When one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes.
As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ... Views: 213
"Lovers are those for whom no minute is like any other, people between whom nothing habitual takes place, just what is new, unprecedented, unexpected. In such connections there exists an almost unbearable happiness. When we understand our lives correctly, we can slowly grow into such happiness ... Views: 214
Have you ever utilized the power of positive affirmations?
Some say you can reach any goal, including improving your sex life, with positive thinking. Though we believe some things are out of reach no matter what you do, positive affirmations can help you with what is within reach. ... Views: 181
If one was to go and see their doctor, there is a strong chance that they would be the point off focus. This is primarily due to the fact that one is likely to be there because they have a problem and the doctor is there to assist them with what is taking place.
One way of looking at this ... Views: 250
If one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need.
And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered ... Views: 233
As a relationship coach, I am and always will be deeply immersed in studying human behavior. I read the books. I read scientific literature. After it all, I have identified a common theme as to why relationships die or thrive. There is an underlying catalyst that goes unnoticed by even the ... Views: 298
Dear Dr. Romance:
Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ... Views: 233
On one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance.
And when it comes to the former, it could relate ... Views: 224
When someone is in a relationship, there is the chance that it will last until their life comes to an end (or until their partner passes on). There is also the chance that it won’t last this long, and this is due to a number of different factors.
For one thing, people move around more than ... Views: 353
Dear Dr. Romance,
My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ... Views: 358
Couples often come in to Dr. Romance's counseling office soon after they move in together, because they’re arguing about differences in design and life styles. Whose furniture to use, where to put it, who can use each room, or how to work out the division of labor. These squabbles are ... Views: 318
Although having needs is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with them. There will be some people who are in touch with their needs, and there will be others who are not.
However, even if one is in touch with their needs, it doesn’t mean that ... Views: 290
Women, contrary to popular belief, actually have similar sex drives to men, but there is an emotional basis for this sex drive, and interpersonal conflict does nothing to establish the sex drive. We will talk in depth about why women have low sex drives after pregnancy. Too often, I am ... Views: 305
On one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are.
As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ... Views: 334