While one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive.
And if this was an area of life that ... Views: 19
Years ago, I could not find my feelings.
I could give you words for miles, but I couldn’t tell you how I felt.
Even in romantic settings I didn't know how to say what I felt.
This is all in hindsight.
Once I understood that at any given moment there's a mixture of feelings going ... Views: 46
Human beings have the need to reach out and to connect and the need to pull away and be by themselves. This is normal and the amount of time that is required with another and by oneself is naturally going to vary from person to person. It can come down to what is going in their life and how they ... Views: 39
The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
-George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ... Views: 39
The single biggest problem in communication
is the illusion that it has taken place.
-George Bernard Shaw, playwright
Communication is the glue that holds relationships together. So, the question is – Do you believe that you communicate often enough and in the right way to create and ... Views: 36
Evolving Relationships and Sexuality Calls for a new kind of Therapist
Sex is simple, except it's not. As our society becomes increasingly exposed to sex, increasingly educated and connected, and more aware of sexual potential, a gap in the area of education and teaching has become glaringly ... Views: 57
We’re wired for attachment – why babies cry when separated from their mothers. Depending especially upon our mother’s behavior, as well as later experiences and other factors, we develop a style of attaching that affects our behavior in close relationships.
Fortunately, most people have a ... Views: 90
In my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK. Not asking for what you want means you’ll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought ... Views: 101
There can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed.
Conflict is then ... Views: 80
Lack or breakdown of communication is the primary reasons marriages fail. Couples have to learn to talk and listen to each other if they desire a solid marriage.
Communication, most especially verbal is what makes us different from other animals and that is the foundation of all human ... Views: 84
It’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one.
This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ... Views: 154
Just because one has the need to experience something, it doesn’t always mean that this need will be fulfilled. And this is something that can be said when it comes to ones need to connect to another person.
For some people, intimacy is going to be something that they have always ... Views: 102
“Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” SOS 4:16b
The way your man sees sex, is quite different from your perception of sex. It means much more to your husband than to you. He is passionate about it and might even be “crazy” about it. ... Views: 95
Have you ever found yourself thinking about your crazy schedule and experiencing a time crunch that impacts the quality time spent on your relationship? Balancing work and family with couple time, is a major concern that most couples express.
You may see yourself in part in the following ... Views: 154
Sustaining intimacy and fulfillment in a romantic relationship can be challenging. Often couples find themselves lacking true connection with each other as the daily routine of their lives take over.
Intimacy is a creation that has to be cultivated and tended to. When we take time to ... Views: 209
The spirit of femininity is generous, graceful, nurturing, supportive, sensitive, intuitive, and oriented towards love and care. Despite all of these wonderful attributes, feminine energy, especially as it pertains to sexuality, has been suppressed, condemned, and vilified on a global scale for ... Views: 111
The time during and post childbirth for a mother is signified by GIVING. No matter if you nurse or not you give continually to your baby for months. The first step to returning to intimacy is to give to yourself: This starts with listen more deeply to yourself and having moments and practices to ... Views: 110
There are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships.
And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ... Views: 152
Everyone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership.
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Although one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear.
And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ... Views: 197
This Type A biz mom has fully embraced the concept of regular recreation and downtime to fuel excellence in my business. I need no convincing that the quality time—away from work and with my family and friends— charge my creative juices for optimal business results.
the kids are ... Views: 155
There’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ... Views: 227
Great, mind blowing sex can be healing and transformational, making you feel alive and full of energy, but unfortunately, it’s rare.
Common complaints about sex that is less than satisfying are selfishness, lack of interest, poor hygiene, low energy, being too quick or slow, being too ... Views: 217
Myths abound surrounding the topics of sex, promiscuity, and spirituality.
Consider this anonymous feedback we received from "Emily": "So two guys who obviously aren't into commitment write about what a less-than-desirable ideal sexual commitment is, with no thought of feeding the kids. How ... Views: 196
“Lovers don’t just finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” -Rumi
In this article you’ll find out how the power of scent can help:
Attract your soulmate/life partner
Strengthen your love connection
Enhance your love making experience
Get unstuck from creating the same ... Views: 257
When we think of codependence we think of it in terms of its association with substance dependence. We think of a partner who is codependent with a substance dependent partner. But this is not the case. Codependence can be a condition and state of being and dealing with life all on its ... Views: 254
Here is a topic that we all know can go in several different directions, but remember that this is simply my opinion using my personally developed philosophy and not something that should be considered fact. You, the reader, can determine whether or not you agree after reading this and I welcome ... Views: 245
While human beings are physically separate, it doesn’t mean that they are emotionally or intellectually separate. And as connecting to another human being involves opening up and allowing another person to open up, there are going to be moments where one merges with another.
This is not only ... Views: 231
Love is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion.
This can be something ... Views: 266
After the infatuation and dating stage, fun and romance doesn’t just happen in relationships. Great committed relationships don’t just happen. We have to put in conscious effort to create the relationship we want. Here are some tips for creating and enhancing your intimacy, romance, passion and ... Views: 247
There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle
OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. ... Views: 247
A whole lots of people are having problems in their marriage today because they allow barriers in their openness to their spouses,here let us check some of the barriers you must remove to give room for open ness in your marriage.
1.Ignorance. Many lack godly wisdom in marriage. ... Views: 226
The majority of the couples that want to improve their relationship identify that communication is an issue for them. They share how they can’t see eye-to-eye, convey their feelings and perspective, or understand each other. They report they end up fighting every time they try to address ... Views: 326
There is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes.
Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have ... Views: 256
“Can two walk together except they agree?” Amos 3:3
Openness abhors secrecy, unfaithfulness or infidelity. Effective communication makes openness possible. Two cannot agree except they communicate.
You must be ready to speak to your partner without lies and ... Views: 208
Couple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent ... Views: 331
When a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ... Views: 255
The average person pays more attention to what she’s saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are “landing” on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using ... Views: 242
Oh My G-Spot!
What is the G-Spot? Do you know? Do you know where it is? Now days it seems if you are not a G-Spot expert you are just not the lover you think you are. Funny thing many women don’t know either. They are pretty sure they have one and they have been told that G-Spot orgasms ... Views: 241
Can Food Really Enhance Your Sex Life?
“The link between food and sex drive isn’t just wishful thinking” says Cynthia Sass, RD, author of S.A.S.S Yourself Slim. “Studies show that certain foods or nutrients do play a role in boosting libido and supporting a healthy sex life.”
This is a ... Views: 263
You might not have a chance if you keep this up: A tendency to look for weaknesses, gaps, holes, things to improve, deficiencies and the like, and miss the boat on capitalizing on strengths in your relationship. We bring this tendency to how we view our partner and how we relate with them. We ... Views: 293
Many couples lack some basic courtesies needed to build intimacy in marriage. Rudeness, careless words, disrespect for one's spouse, criticisms, public embarrassment do not portray politeness.
Before the wedding, most singles ensure they are courteous as they put their partner ahead of ... Views: 239
Our relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true treasure chest worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!!
To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the gems on the ... Views: 345
To make our marriage better and enjoy intimacy in our marriage,one important thing we need to know about ourselves and our partners is to understand our sexual desires, how we are sexually wired, the way we act and do what we do. Why some want sex often, others don’t. This may have to ... Views: 237
When was the last time you were physically intimate with your partner? If you say a long time, you are not alone! A lot of couples share their sexual life is in the toilet. They struggle getting along, among other things, to the point that being physically intimate is the furthest thing from ... Views: 346
It is easy for people to throw caution into the wind after weeding, disrespecting their spouses, removing courtesy hurting each other deeply.
Many wrong things we cannot do to outsiders are what we do to our spouses, this is totally wrong.
To have intimacy in your marriage, to enjoy ... Views: 273
One thing that is lacking in many marriages that makes it difficult for many is transparency. Many people in marriage are simply not open to each other, this gives to lots of crisis and conflict in the family, if your home must be joyful, peaceful and blissful you and your partner must be ... Views: 223
You’re 40 years old and married 15 years. You have two children. Your husband/wife is climbing the corporate ladder or is a stay at home parent and is a nurturing, and attentive, parent to your children. You’re living in a beautiful home, and have a relatively comfortable lifestyle. Then you ... Views: 162
Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ... Views: 265
“The Universe is a stage on which your mind dances with your body, guided by your heart.”
As we enter into the month of Love, how is your relationship? As we examine the quality of our intimacy, we may be asking the question “What is love”? Is it an emotion, is it a feeling? Or is it ... Views: 229