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I've always liked lizards.
Growing up in the outskirts of Los Angeles, I played in the foothills near our home. Sometimes I'd catch a lizard and stroke its belly, so it would relax in my hands, seeming to feel at ease.
In my early 20's, I found a lizard one chilly morning in the mountains. ... Views: 15
I had a lightbulb moment recently: I was feeling stressed about all the stuff I had to do (you probably know the feeling). After this went on for a while, I stepped back and kind of watched my mind, and could see that I was thinking of these various tasks as things, like big rocks that were ... Views: 25
We all lead encounter some form of stress. Many times we
clients go to psychics they are
hoping for ways to cultivate decompressing from stress. For most people, a
certain level of everyday stress is inevitable in these modern times. The
structure of our lives seems to ... Views: 33
Ever just go through the day and feel as if you can’t change your life for the better? Everything has been decided for you and you have no choices in what you do, wear or say? Some days can feel like that, but have too many in a row and you just might be drifting aimlessly through life.
Then ... Views: 64
In every life, reminders arrive about what's really important.
I've recently received one myself, in a form that's already come to countless people and will come to countless more: news of a potentially serious health problem. My semi-annual dermatology mole check turned up a localized ... Views: 44
Vibrations define and form out lives. Everything, whatever happens, whatever we
think and feel affects us and forms our future and our health. It helps or prevents
in achieving our goals.
Our greatest donation is that we are able to affect these vibrations and the
frequency of our thoughts. ... Views: 69
While it may be easier said than done, staying positive after an injury may help you heal faster both mentally and physically. By maintaining a positive outlook, you will be more likely to engage with those around you and work harder to take the next steps in your rehab. A positive attitude will ... Views: 47
Your brain evolved in three stages (to simplify a complex process):
Reptile - Brainstem, focused on AVOIDING harm
Mammal - Limbic system, focused on APPROACHING rewards
Primate - Cortex, focused on ATTACHING to "us"
With a fun use (to me, at least) of animal themes, the first JOT in ... Views: 56
Once upon a time, a scholar came to visit a saint. After the scholar had been orating and propounding for a while, the saint proposed some tea. She slowly filled the scholar's cup: gradually the tea rose to the very brim and began spilling over onto the table, yet she kept pouring and pouring. ... Views: 46
This practice is definitely a case of teaching what you need to learn: I've been working through a big bucket of tasks lately with little chance to rest. (I console myself with knowing that the bucket is emptying a lot faster than it's filling with new tasks.)
Sometimes you can really feel ... Views: 60
TOP TEN REASONS to CELEBRATE 2016 (Even If You’re Still Hungover from Last Year)
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“If everything seems under control, you’re probably not moving fast enough.” MARIO ANDRETTI
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We spend so much of our time trying to get somewhere.
Part of this comes from our biological nature. To survive, animals - including us - have to be goal-directed, leaning into the future.
It's certainly healthy to pursue wholesome aims, like paying the rent on time, raising children well, ... Views: 59
Glucose levels in the body affect the productivity of your employees more than you might believe. A steady glucose level throughout the workday, ensures that workers will be able to achieve a more astute focus while completing their work and have higher levels of attention to detail. Accuracy in ... Views: 101
In every moment, you and I and everyone and everything else - from quantum foam to fleeting thoughts, intimate relationships, rainforest ecosystems, and the stars themselves - are each a kind of standing wave, like the ever-changing though persistent pattern of water rising above a boulder in a ... Views: 56
What Is It About Henry or Mary?
By Bill Cottringer
“Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. ... Views: 169
In 2011, George S. Everly, executive director of Resiliency Sciences Institutes at the University of Maryland, was asked, “What’s the difference between those who choose to sink or swim in times of adversity?” He stated two factors:
a) A lack of perspective stemming from inadequate preparation ... Views: 148
Religion defines God based on a specific set of doctrines and rituals. Spirituality refers to a sacred energetic flow and way of being in the world. It cuts across all religious beliefs and traditions and influences your attitudes, feelings and behaviors toward yourself, others, nature and ... Views: 78
Mindfulness requires constant practice. The more you do it, the better you are at being mindful. However, it is almost impossible to be mindful from the moment you wake up in the morning to the time you fall asleep at night. So, instead of trying to be mindful 24/7, it is easier to focus on ... Views: 139
Lately I've been thinking about a kind of "case" that's been running in my mind about someone in my extended family. The case is a combination of feeling hurt and mistreated, critique of the other person, irritation with others who haven't supported me, views about what should happen that ... Views: 64
Life is full of tradeoffs between benefits and costs.
Sometimes, the benefits are worth the costs. For example, the rewards of going for a run - getting out in fresh air, improving health, etc. - are, for me at least, worth the costs of losing half an hour of work time while gaining a pair of ... Views: 62
When people see the word “meltdown”, they often think of a young child who is overtired, overstimulating, and who has finally hit a point of emotional overload. The resulting meltdown usually coming in the form of inconsolable crying or flailing tantrum. We tend to forget that, as adults, we ... Views: 85
We’re about to head into what is likely your busiest time of the year, and yet songs joyfully remind us that it’s THE most ‘wonderful’ time of the year.
Most people wouldn’t agree.
Expectations for the holiday season seem to grow exponentially each year, but in reality, all you need to do ... Views: 156
Each Thanksgiving holiday, we are reminded to be thankful. When times are tough, finding reasons to be thankful may be challenging or even seem inappropriate or impossible. This year, before we sit around the dinner table, let's think about the myriad benefits to saying thanks, and how to truly ... Views: 60
As our ancestors evolved over millions of years in small bands, continually interacting and working with each other, it was vitally important to communicate in hundreds of ways each day. They shared information about external "carrots" and "sticks," and about their internal experience (e.g., ... Views: 68
Let's start with what counts as a complaint. If you tell your doctor about your headache, for example, that's not a complaint. That's because there's a good chance your doctor can help. So here's the definition: a complaint is talking about something you don't like to someone who can't ... Views: 138
Truth be told, I am mildly obsessed with Serena Williams. Her talent and intelligence on and off the court, the longevity of her career, her comebacks, the authenticity of her ambition, her grit and determination, and her overall appeal are hard to ignore.
Other than Serena herself, no one ... Views: 208
Getting caught up in wanting - wanting both to get what's pleasant and to avoid what's unpleasant - is a major source of suffering and harm for oneself and others.
First, a lot of what we want to get comes with a big price tag - such as that second cupcake, constant stimulation via TV and ... Views: 81
“We live who we believe we are”
I have recently enrolled in the part-time Psychotherapy program at Transformational Arts College here in Toronto (Thanks for the recommendation GY!). Part of the reason I enrolled was the realization that throughout my ... Views: 216
"A love without reproof is no love."
---Rabbi Yosi ben Chanina
Reproof is defined as rebuke or criticism. You may feel safer by seething silently when irked by a potential or actual marriage partner's behavior. But sometimes speaking up, with kindness and respect, at a time when both ... Views: 204
The truth of anything is like a mosaic with many tiles, many parts.
One part of the truth of things is that they are robust and enduring, whether it's El Capitan in Yosemite or the love of a child for her mother and father.
Another part of the truth is that things bruise, tear, erode, ... Views: 78
We come into this world exposed. Our whole selves open for display. Our minds to fragile, with no experience to be ashamed or be shy with our exposure. As we age, we begin to build little walls around us, not letting everyone see the "real" person. We begin to gain friends and our parents send ... Views: 98
“Yoga is not an ancient myth buried in oblivion. It is the most valuable inheritance of the present. It is the essential need of today and the culture of tomorrow.” Swami Satyanada Saraswati
We see it all around us. People are not well. High rates of depression, anxiety, and sleeplessness ... Views: 119
I think as long as I live, I will try to be a "success." I have a good idea of what the term means to me, but, the family I grew up in, pictures success as cash in the bank, money in stocks, a fancy home (or two), driving new vechiles, the list can go on forever. You get the picture. But as you ... Views: 90
This video blog post (http://mike-robbins.com/take-care-of-your-animal/) is inspired by an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert and my friend Jonathan Fields on his podcast, The Good Life Project. Elizabeth talks about the importance of taking care of her “animal” (aka her physical body) so that ... Views: 147
Take a breath right now, and notice how abundant the air is, full of life-giving oxygen offered freely by trees and other green growing things. You can't see air, but it's always available for you.
Love is a lot like the air. It may be hard to see - but it's in you and all around you.
In ... Views: 66
If you do for others and neglect your own needs, you are not nurturing yourself and you are not aligned with your true self. Often people are told they are selfish if they think of themselves and and put their needs before others, but really we strengthen ourselves when we listen to our own ... Views: 161
Life gives to each one of us in so many ways.
For starters, there’s the bounty of the senses – including chocolate chip cookies, jasmine, sunsets, wind singing through pine trees, and just getting your back scratched.
What does life give you?
Consider the kindness of friends and family, ... Views: 79
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 123
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 119
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 103
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 108
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 85
Visualize LeBron James as he leaps for the basket; Alisha Keyes at the piano singing This Girl is On Fire; a Navy Seal as he jumps out of a helicopter and races towards Bin Laden's hide-out. What do they have in common? All of them are masters of performing under pressure. Although we tend to ... Views: 89
The human brain is an incredible creation and we have not yet scratched the surface of its real potential. The purpose of this article is to give you a framework for how to use your brain to perceive a broader view than we usually use. The majority of us have a constant focus on our thinking ... Views: 136
Sometimes you have to take a stand for your own happiness!
I have a client who, on one hand, says she's always considerate and helpful to her husband, making valiant efforts to please him. But then, in the next breath, she complains that he treats her like a doormat.
She continues doing ... Views: 158
Are you in a bad mood or just unhappy? Don’t worry. There are easy ways to beat a bad mood or even a bad day. Good moods or a peppy personality is not a disposition you are born with or without. And, you’re not doomed to stay unhappy the rest of your life. Your level of happiness is a ... Views: 112
Painful experiences range from subtle discomfort to extreme anguish - and there is a place for them. Sorrow can open the heart, anger can highlight injustices, fear can alert you to real threats, and remorse can help you take the high road next time.
But is there really any shortage of ... Views: 73
For the most part we have been looking forward to the coming of Spring.
We enjoy the warmer, longer days and watching the plants blossom and grow with new life.
The longer days bring about a sense of joy, a renewal of our vision and inspiration to review our goals: maybe set new ones and ... Views: 112
“Every moment of light and dark is a miracle. I believe a leaf of grass is no less than the journey-work of the stars. I do not ask any more delight–I swim in it, as in a sea. Oh while I live, to be the ruler of life, not a slave, to meet life as a powerful conqueror, and nothing exterior to ... Views: 110
It's one thing to stick up for yourself and others. But it's a different matter to get caught up in wrangles, contentiousness, squabbles . . . in a word: quarrels.
Similarly, it's one thing to disagree with someone, even to the point of arguing - but it's a different matter to get so caught ... Views: 66