Positive Psychology Articles

How many times have you said to yourself, “I wish my mind would just shut itself off. I need to sleep!” Then you began thrashing around in bed, trying to find a comfortable position … never quite finding it. Mind on go. Body exhausted. Beating yourself up for having a sleep problem. Angry and at a loss for a solution.

When we love ourselves and trust ourselves all things are possible.

Holistic mental health counseling is a new and growing field based in traditional mental health wisdom, herbal and nutritional medicine and many other integrative therapies. Holistic mental health care is a total person approach that includes all aspects and layers of an individuals life. Most holistic mental health professionals believe that real and lasting healing begins on the inside, within the person’s heart, mind, body and soul and extends outward through positive change in thought and behavior.

The Rosebush - Mindful Gardening is an excerpt from Janet's mindfulness book, Pathwasy to Wholenss If we are being mindful (fully aware) of a newly purchased Rosebush, we carefully attend to it so that it can be planted, root, mature and thrive in a way that is mutually beneficial to the Rosebush, to ourselves, the environment surrounding the bush, and to the environment of our yard and beyond. • Compatibility of all living things

Inner Oasis is a term I coined ten or more years ago to help my clients and class participants create a lush, rich imagery of their core self. Our Inner Oasis is our soul-self, our inner wisdom, our inner joy and our innermost source of pure, unconditional love. It is ever replenishing, ever nurturing, ever there to support our jou ey and guide our life.

A jou al is a way to keep a record of something that is important to us. This jou al safely keeps our thoughts about the creation of Joy. I kept one for a long time, and now I think it would be fun if you kept one too. There is no better way in the world to have a visual of our daily blessings and all the little miracles that happen. Joy Jou alr

This article was first published in Sibyl on line magazine for women, December 1, 2011 “WHEN YOUR SENSE OF SELF IS NO LONGER TIED TO THOUGHT, is no longer conceptual, there is a depth of feeling, of sensing, of compassion, of loving, that was not there when you were trapped in mental concepts. You are that depth.” ~ Eckhart Tolle You are that depth. You have within you an inner oasis, a place of harmony and love. It is there to provided you with the comforting feelings of self-love, including the feelings of peacefulness.

Life feels positive when you experience happiness. Happiness is one of many ingredients that make a positive life positive. However, it takes many more ingredients to create the positive life you want.

We go through our days, busy and rather unaware. We run our errands, care for our family, go to and from work not really having consciously experienced all the wonderful moments of the day. Keeping a Joy Jou al is about becoming more conscious of your joys and less focused or your pain.

Academically Speaking “The field of positive psychology at the individual level, is about positive individual traits: the capacity for love and vocational courage, interpersonal skill, aesthetic sensibility, perseverance, forgiveness, originality, future mindedness, spirituality, high talent and wisdom. At the group level, it is about the civic virtues and the institutions that move individuals toward better citizenship: responsibility, nurturance, altruism, civility, moderation, tolerance, and work ethic.” (Seligman and Csikszentmihalyi, American Psychologist: 2000)

If you believe that greater happiness is something you can achieve on your own, think again. In his groundbreaking A Primer in Positive Psychology , Chris Peterson summarizes positive psychology in three words: "Other people matter." Happiness resides in the individual, in one-on-one relationships (dyads), and within groups. Although we can achieve happiness alone, we are biologically wired and evolutionarily selected to find happiness in our relationships with others. Pursui

What happens if I believe I am physically, emotionally and spiritually whole? Better yet, what if I take a leap of faith and I think, behave, make choices, and live within the belief that I am whole, healthy, secure, peaceful, loving and lovable? Belief Silence. We are born from silence. If we live from the silence within, we know our wholeness lives there too. It is limitless, ete al, trustworthy, joyous, compassionate, loving and real. Wholeness is not broken. It cannot be broken, as each piece is part of the whole and contains the mystery of the whole.r

Published in The Art of Wellbeing Magazine, 2009 There are various pathways that guide us in our quest for wholeness and unification with our innermost self. One pathway that I have come to cherish is Walking Meditation. This method seems to nurture me, relax me, and provide the space and time I need to be alone with myself in satisfying, restful and renewing introspection. This is true whether I walk or whether I simply practice Meditative Breathing and the other skills associated with this healing art.

Janet Gallagher Nestor, MA, LPC, DCEP Holistic Mental Health Therapist Just like most of humanity, my response varies on different days depending on what I am experiencing, where I am and what I am doing. My goal is to stay centered and balanced, but sometimes I choose to employ my self-care skills to help me through a rough patch of emotion.

Love, trust and forgiveness are the essentials of life. I know that I need these three nurturing ingredients, and I know you need them too. I have found that living within a family is a magnificent gift and a loving commitment. To make the family work, each member offers the gift of being physically, emotionally and spiritually available to the other family members. As insurance, we grow a connection between us so deep and strong that love, trust and forgiveness reach across time and distance to mutually nurture each others heart and soul.

BIG, HAPPY SMILES ARE FREE and they are instantly understood regardless of language or culture. Receiving a big smile, complete with twinkling eyes, is a gift. My heart opens wide to all the possibilities that shine within your smile.

EACH NEW YEAR WE ARE REBORN. The slate is clean. You choose the canvas, the medium, the brush and you'll paint 2012 with your own colors. The result of your art, the final product, is up to you. You build your new year one brush stroke, one thought at a time. Regardless of your past history, regardless of the problems you face today, your finances and the quality of your life, you choose how you live your life. You choose the thoughts you think, the beliefs you live by and the actions you take regarding your thoughts and beliefs.

Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be.rn- Eckhart Tolle When asked about being fully present and focused, my client answered something like this: I don't know that I am ever present or fully focused. My mind is all over the place and my friends tell me I don't know how to relax. I am a type A personality, and I am always busy.

From Pathways to Wholeness, p. 85-86 Recorded for you at www.mindfulpathways.com I created this exercise for my own personal healing jou ey, and share various versions of it with my clients on a regular basis. The exercise can be practiced daily. If we have physical health issues or any sort ofrndifficult emotional history or trauma, I suggest the exercise be practiced as often as possible. It is deeply soothing and healing and meant to help us contact our “authentic self” … the one that is exquisitely formed, whole, unified, and at perfect peace.

February/March Article written for Sibyl Spiritual EZine for Women

In my counseling work I see a lot of people with chronic physical health issues and chronic mental health issues. We all think that chronic illness begins with the diagnosis from the doctor. I don't think that is true. I know it is not true energetically. It takes a long time to get sick, and the chronic illness that is now official might have begun 20 or more years ago. This is why self-care and self-love are so important. The more love and acceptance we give to ourselves, the healthier we are in mind-body-emotions-spirit.

TO MAKE SENSE OF OUR FAST PACED WORLD and our hectic lives we need emotional balance. With balance comes a kinder more flexible life. When our inner environment is balanced we are free to enjoy ourselves and accomplish our goals. Without balance, we feel frustrated and hopeless, wondering how to survive life's rat race.

Some relaxation music to read by: Dolphins Delight by Ambient Space) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UThOseyShA8&feature=youtu.be You probably don’t like feeling stressed or that unidentifiable underlying unease that defines anxiety. Many of us lump all of our symptoms into one broad category and call it stress – but many of us are really suffering from chronic anxiety.

Pages 23-25 from my book Pathways to Wholeness All positive thought is based on the principles of unconditional love and by definition, contains the following ingredients: 1. Positive intention 2. Positive content 3. Positive outcome for self, others, and for all life in generalr Why is positive thought important? A thought is pure energy and therefore has a life of its own. Once the thought is formed, it drifts into an unseen current and becomes part of a universal collective of thought that affects life not only today, but throughout all time. If you thinkr

I don't know the percentage of people who come into my office living in abuse or needing to work through past abuse. The ratio is astoundingly high. When I worked in substance abuse residential care, the percentage was probably 99%.

I thought you might enjoy an excerpt from my new book, Nurturing Wellness Through Radical Self-Care: A Living in Balance Workbook. I hope you find the information helpful.

Positive psychology is a wonderful state of mind, a way of thinking that brings joy, happiness, fun, laughter and contentment into our life. This article, origninally written for Sibyl spiritual e-zine for women, is about a positive consciousness that allows all of us to be part of the wholeness of being human and spirit - a unity of being. Creation gives us everything we need, somtimes in the form of physical helpers and teachers. Sometimes in the form of experience. Recognizing our helpers, teachers and growth opportunities is our challenge. Earth Angels

“People Tested” suggestions that help us build and strengthen our existing inner resources. Enrich YOUR life one step at a time.

After a morning filled with an Easter Egg Hunt, moments of remembrance related to Easter's deeper meanings, and a breakfast fit for a prince and princess my husband and our grandson Kodiak went off for some time together. Our granddaughter Lucy and I went for a walk along the greenway that boarders our neighborhood and follows along beside a pretty little creek. We decided to walk toward the woods and then on into the trees as far as we could go. We did not expect the old narrow path to be so expanded, but it had been turned into a bike trail!

The detrimental effects of a negative attitude hinder your life’s progress and severely limit your life’s satisfaction and happiness. Effects Of A Negative Attitude Let me discuss some effects of a negative attitude, and how you can quickly banish it from your life. NEGATIVE ATTITUDE A negative attitude is the simple perception of seeing the bad things in life. This is a continuing and pervasive disease which is very common amongst adults. Psychologists have stated that t

I have chosen to share a philosophy of healing that was defined for me a year or so ago during meditation. This new way of thinking is going to change your life and the lives of those you love and cherish. You’ll change your self-talk and change the way you interact with members of your family when they are sick or suffering. It applies to the work you’ll encounter during your Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self-Care Program. You’ll have some new things to consider as you choose your strategies for a positive life jou ey.

I love books and I often go on a reading binge that lasts for weeks at a time. Pathways to Wholeness is about mindful meditation, personal growth, spiritual development and personal healing. I'd like to mention some of the books that touched my heart and inspired my personal wellness jou ey. Wayne Dyer: Your Sacred Selfr

Can love be real without sincerity? Most would agree that sincerity is what makes love what it is. Genuine love is true. And it is true love that we all want. We want to know we are sincerely loved for who we are. We want to know that it is with sincere motives that those who love us say and do the things they say and do for us. We want to know a love that enables us to trust without fear of being unloved and rejected. We want a love that remains loyal and faithful to us no matter what happens. We want to be loved sincerely. And that is how others want to be loved by us as well.

It is bad enough when a stranger or foe betrays you, but when it is someone you believed to be a close and trusted friend, partner, or spouse, it is especially hurtful. It might feel like you were taken advantage of, deceived, humiliated, despised, cheated, or stabbed in the back. Oftentimes it comes as a surprise. That is why it is so painful. You would not expect to be hurt so badly from someone you thought you could trust. So you are left in disbelief and unbelievable pain.

Published in the Dec/Jan 2010 issue of Sibyl On-Line Spiritual Jou al for Women Circuit: A partial or continuous path over which a current flows. Winter holiday excitement is literally floating in the air and into our hearts. Radio stations are offering continuous play of holiday tunes and our homes are festively dressed for celebration. We want these joyous feelings to last forever.

One of the most important decisions you will ever make is the decision of who you will spend the rest of your life with. Why is this so important? It is important because the direction of your life will be greatly influenced by that very choice. With time couples become alike in many ways. They learn from one another’s way of thinking and behaving, and they come to share values and world views. Their relationship shapes who they become, their level of happiness, their outlook, as well as their goals and dreams.

I have been wrestling with a very deep trust issue, one that has been with me since conscious memory. This morning in meditation I asked for understanding and I was guided through the meditation by a member of my spiritual family of guides and teachers. I think Mataji has been with me all my life. I don't remember how I first met her, but she was an “imaginary friend” when I was about four years old. At the time I named her Gently and Gently remained her name until about 1999 when an exceptional meditation teacher and clairvoyant showed me her picture and told me her real name was Mataji.

Introduction: Thoughts are much finer than the electricity. Human thoughts are the greatest dynamic force on the earth. A strong thought makes a man stronger from within. There is a famous and good quote in English that “Thinking makes the man”. Therefore, one should always have positive thoughts. Each and every thought has its own value and power. If one thinks positively, then positive energies are attracted towards him and he gets positive results and vice-versa. A fam

Why Detoxify? We live in a polluted world. Our environment, air supply, water and foods are full of herbicides, pesticides, chemicals of all kinds, and normal every day allergens like dust and mold. Our organs and our bodies get worn down by all the extra work they do attempting to filter out all of the pollutants and allergens. The world has seen an increase in cancer, lowered male sperm count, heart disease, birth defects – including developmental disabilities and many other illnesses and disorders since the early 1900's. Here are some statistics.r

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. - John F. Kennedy How trustworthy are our words if there is no action behind them? We can tell our kids not to smoke, but if they see us smoking, can we realistically expect them to listen? We can say we care about our health, but do our eating habits support our claim? The old adage rings true: Actions speak louder than words. It is not just the words we say that reveal the condition of our hearts. People watch what we do more than what we say.

by Janet Gallagher Nestor, MA, LPC, DCEP Holistic Mental Health Therapist Most women are multi-taskers. Our culture says we can do it all: Get a good education, be an engaging conversationalist, be beautiful, marry, have children, keep a size 6 figure, have a career, clean the house, drive the car pool and be a home room mother. Even more stressful, we are expected to do it all well … and sometimes all in the same day! Even after the children are grown, the facts remain the same. We are expected to have a life that is overflowing and too busy for one person to handle comfortably.

There is nothing that adequately prepares us for the most important job there is—parenting. Children and teens do not come with an owner’s manual, and most of our training is on the job. With our own parents as our most prominent role models, we tend to repeat what we have learned about parenting from them. We do our best, learn as we go, and make our own mistakes along the way; but we don’t have to leave our parenting to chance. We can become more effective parents. We can parent with more confidence instead of frustration.

A general definition of, "normal," according to the dictionary, is: "conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural." The Psychology definition is: "approximately average in any psychological trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment"; also, "free from any mental disorder; sane."

Thank God every morning when you get up that you have something which must be done, whether you like it or not. Work breeds a hundred virtues that idleness never knows. ~Charles Kingsley Work keeps our minds occupied. It forces us to set and meet goals that lead to a sense of accomplishment. It encourages us to put our skills and talents to use. Work helps us to develop confidence in what we can do and how we can contribute. It connects us to other people. It is an essential part of our lives and a human need.

If you want to be a healthy, happy person, it’s very important to learn to love the person you see in the mirror. Although loving yourself can be very challenging if you grew up in a dysfunctional family, it’s definitely worth the time and effort! Whether you feel stressed, anxious or depressed, or whether you are in a challenging relationship or going through a divorce, learning to love yourself is a crucial step in your healing process. When you honestly love yourself, your love overflows to everyone around you and everything in your life begins to sparkle and shine!

In our drive for the good life, it seems that we have become obsessed with the need to be “perfect”! Why can’t we just let our selves be who we are at the moment? As human beings we are constantly changing and evolving as our life changes. We cannot stop this process no matter how hard we try. We do not need to be obsessive about it! We raise our children to always want to be the best of the best. If they do not reach for the top and become superstars, we treat them like they are losers.

Mindfulness – So What? Most have heard of mindfulness while few truly practice it Mindfulness comes to us in two forms: the spiritual/meditative practice or as a tool in self examination and behavior control.

Relationship management becomes more important as you assume more professional responsibility. You need skills to build bonds, inspire, influence and develop others. All the while you need to be open to change, manage conflict and establish teamwork. Emotional Intelligence author Daniel Goleman believes it is possible to build better relationships one step at a time.

Law of Giving-Donate Your Money Giving has been called the First Law of All Creation. It has also been said that there is a Universal Law of Giving and Receiving, or that giving and receiving are the same.

Did you ever have so much to do that you didn’t know where to begin? So you just stared at what appeared to be a mountain before you, and you felt totally overwhelmed. Trying to take on too much at once can make you feel like you can’t handle any of it. It causes anxiety, distress and confusion. You lose your focus because your energies are scattered. And you feel pulled in every direction. Slowing down isn’t an option because then you would just get further behind and that would only cause more stress. What exactly is stress?

The majority of my clients resist mindfulness meditation at first, although the time commitment is small and the payoff is enormous. One insisted that it wasn’t necessary and that she didn’t have enough time in her day to devote to a regular practice. Then she went through the loss of a parent, and had such trouble coping that she couldn’t even drag herself out of bed. After missing work ten days straight, she called me for my advice. I told her to mindfully meditate while in bed. Terrified and bewildered, my client did and, in a few days, found that she could face going to work again.

Max Lerner says, "I am neither an optimist nor a pessimist. I am a possibilitist." If you agree with our learned friend Max Lerner then you can adopt a mindset that says “I can make it happen…or nothing is impossible”. We are well into 2005 now and often held back by our state of mind. Fear and anxiety keep us in a constant state of planning and preparation and what we need to do is engage the “forward” button and go with what we have.

Babies are always more trouble than you thought and more wonderful. ~Charles Osgood Expecting a baby is a very exciting time in the life of couples wanting a child. As this precious new family member is carried in its mothers womb, the couple immediately begins to connect and care and wonder.... What will he or she look like? Will she have moms eyes? Will he have dads sense of humor? They even think ahead into the future. What talents and interests will he have? What will she do with her gift of life? How will he contribute to this world?

“A List of Happiness” A list of happiness is things that would be listed of how thankful that you are about something or a list of things that make you happy. We take for granted sometimes the simple things in life such as life, health, and strength that allows us to function. We even forget about time, technology, and the mind that allows us to choose. I would encourage everyone to create their happy thoughts as an element of encouragement and being reminded about the benefits of creation.

Not all people believe this but the mental and emotional aspects of a person, when combined, can lead to better self improvement. Emotions can dominate our actions and reactions, even though we don't want it to happen at times. Society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to hiding them and focusing on the rational aspects of life more. It doesn't matter how strict and logical you might be, you will always feel in one way or another that someone or som

n n Overcoming Adversity nIt seems there are two main types of coaching clients: Those who are defeated by nothing and those who give up at the first "bump in the road". The operative word is "bump", not "hill", not "mountain", not "mountain range" but "bump”.nnWhat does this mean? This refers to the type of person who chooses a goal and plans a way to accomplish it, but gives up at the first minor setback, disappointment or adversity. Perhaps the goal is to get physica

What does it take to live the life you desire? Definitely, having goals you are passionate about, focus, and self-discipline give you a good start. Also there are stages in life that are natural times for thinking about living the life you desire. Many of these times signal a transition which means some part of your life is ending and another part is beginning. Graduations are like that. It is a time of opportunity.

With our environment consciousness these days, we are all being careful to ensure we use energy wisely. But what about our personal energy? Just as we want to make sure the heat doesn't leak out the windows and doors of our houses, we need to have the same awareness of the energy leaks in ourselves. Here are some tips to make you a better ecologist of you own energy: 1) Write down your energy expenditures.

When you look up the word accept, you get many definitions because it can be used in various ways, which we all know. I recently met a very intelligent, inspiring, and motivated individual. I enjoyed meeting with her because she is such an amazing entrepreneur that she caught my attention. Even though we had much in common when it comes to being an entrepreneur, there was one thing we did not agree on. The word “accept.” We both interpreted “accept” in Identity’s tagline, Ac

Compliment yourselves, believe in yourselves, and give yourselves credit. You are wonderful people; each and every one of you has many talents. You have achieved much in your lives. You are dear people. All you have to do is acknowledge it, believe in it and cultivate it. I once heard a dear person say – “The perfect person for being myself – is me”. And so, the most perfect person for being you - is you”. It is a wonderful sentence.

1. Do at least one thing every day that makes you smile. Maybe it’s visiting the pet store, going to a matinee, reading poetry out loud, or listening to the wind chimes on a blustery day. If you have no clue about what makes you smile, put a basket in any high traffic area in your home. Whenever something happens that makes you smile, jot it down on a piece of paper and drop it in the basket. After a week or two, empty the basket and you’ll be surprised by the things

Hank Rearden from Atlas Shrugged, reflecting on the steps he took over the years to invent a new metal alloy: “After a while, he realized that he was thinking of his past, as if certain days of it were spread before him, demanding to be seen again. He did not want to look at them; he despised memories as a pointless indulgence. But then he understood that he thought of them tonight in honor of that piece of metal in his pocket. Then he permitted himself to look. He saw the

What does it mean to be mature? According to Merriam-Webster, mature is defined as having completed natural growth and development. That is, being fully grown, complete, ready. I do not believe that we arrive at a state of complete emotional maturity with no further need for growth and development. Rather, emotional maturity is a life-long process. We continually grow in our experience of love, acceptance, stability, adaption, and so forth.

To be demanding isn’t all bad, but there are many ways in which it can be unloving. It is one thing to be persistent in asking or requiring something, but excessively demanding one’s own way regardless of others’ rights or how they are treated indicates self-centeredness. Overly demanding people are not conce ed with what others want because they are mostly conce ed with themselves. And they can be very insensitive and uncaring when it comes to getting what they want. Demanding people are often forceful in trying to get their way.

Let’s talk about your mental health. Note your initial reaction to that suggestion. What do you expect when someone wants to talk about your mental health? In our society, people often expect to hear some kind of criticism. The little man or woman inside may be accusing me of thinking you are crazy. Pay attention—I want to talk about your mental health—your mental and emotional assets. I believe that discussions about anything “mental” in our society should begin wi

Everyone always talks about living a fulfilling life or achieving one at minimum. The term fulfilling can be difficult because to one person with small children that might be fulfilling, while another person may not feel fulfilled until they have a million in the bank. Different things are important to different people so it is difficult to place a blanket statement on what fulfills everyone, in fact it is impossible. Instead the focus of finding fulfillment must be guiding o

Byron Katie, a spiritual teacher of the wisest kind, has given us the gift of seeing how arguing with reality only exhausts and stresses us. And that when we give up our story, we can find the freedom and peace we long for. Here is what I have learned from 15 years in the personal development industry: Your attachment to your story is stronger than you think. Your attachment to your story is what keeps you in that place of “everything is fine”. Your attachment to your story

There are many stress management techniques and ways to manage stress. Before we get into that let's quickly discuss some causes of stress before we learn these stress management techniques Most of these are those little four letter words like: work, kids, (Though they are also very much a blessing, I realize how stressful raising them can sometimes be!) Debt, Cash and it's four letter counterpart LACK. getting sick or being in pain are also causes of stress. Loss can cover a

In relationships, we are always on the lookout for ways to please the other person. Nothing wrong with that, except when you constantly try to seek validation from others and act in a manner that is not the natural ‘you’ then the relationship suffers. Personal empowerment and a belief in your self-worth are essential aspects for the success of any relationship. If you are depending on your relationship to fill the voids in your life, then you are looking for trouble. It is a much better idea to empower yourself.

If someone were to throw a punch at you, you would likely try to defend yourself from getting hit. And if you were to feel the heat of a flaming fire, you would keep yourself far enough away to avoid getting burned. Self-preservation comes naturally as no one wants to experience pain and injury. So threats to our well-being motivate us to distance ourselves from anything with the potential to harm us. It is a necessary and reasonable response in many situations.

Most of us live in a perpetual state of doing, doing, doing: creating lists, striving, working hard, reaching for goals, running on empty. Cultivating the capacity for stillness in the midst of your busy day can yield enormous benefits. The ability to be still… can nourish and sustain the mind and body in ways that might seem hard to fathom. These moments are like micro-vacations, providing relief from the stress of our every day lives. They can allow us to reconnect with a

A positive frame of mind is vital for several reasons. Confident positive thought patterns are normally shown to raise overall performance in productivity and quality. We very often will think much more creatively and function much better anytime we're feeling positive and well. If you are on top form, your esteem levels will go through the roof and this can only help you in your work and personal life. If you possibly could sustain yourself using regular challenges and also

Research by leading universities in the field of cognitive and behavioral science proves the existence of so called “automatic thoughts”, i.e. thoughts that come to mind involuntarily and effortlessly as an automatic response to certain stimuli. These are the thoughts that ultimately determine ...

Are you aware of the number of times every day that you either say “Yes” or “No,” to yourself? You are essentially saying one or the other with every thought you think, word you speak, decision you make or action you take. Or don’t. You’ll know which side of the scale your yeses and no’s are weighted on by how alive you feel. Or don’t. On Saying YES to You! Every “yes” you say to yourself increases your sense of aliveness. Your aliveness is the degree that

I am a nurse and shift work is hard on the body. I have 12 hour days and 12 hour night shifts to contend with which makes it hard on circadian rhythms and getting proper sleep. I also work every other week-end. Some workplaces that have shift work have two weeks on one shift and then two weeks ...

A lot has been written about the effects of our thinking on our life. By now many people know that in some way or another our thinking affects our life. We hear things like: “Think positive, there are two sides to the coin, the glass is either half empty or half full”. Does this sound familiar? ...

A person's mindset as well as thought process contributes significantly for their character. Individuals who stay positive possess a much better lifestyle as well as a driven attitude. They are factors which have an effect on your own belief with regards to making the kind of life you want. Research has shown that you simply perception of life also affects your wellbeing as well as nicely-being. Most of the negative thoughts come from presumptions all of us help to make. We

“Smiling and Laughing is Good for the Soul” Did you not know that smiling and laughing at yourself is good? A smile is a facial expression that displays happiness. A smile with a buildup of emotion goes from silence to sound, which is expressed in laughter. Yes, a build of happiness that must be echoed by your distinctive sound in laughter. In the practice of smiling and laughing one is able to bring healing to their body. Smiling can even make you look more attractive, younger, and improve your stress level. Are you smiling now?

We all have strengths and weakness. Our strengths are usually referred to in positive terms such as "smart," "strong" or "talented." Rarely do we view our weaknesses or deficits as potential clues to our strengths. Some common and negatively perceived characteristics can actually help us discover some very positive qualities and underlying strengths. Following is a list of 7 common negative labels and some other ways we might look at them:

The Acceptable 3 F’s (Faith, Family, and Friends)” Our focus today should be faith, family, and friends. I want to emphasize the importance of all three because each increases the quality of your life. Find time out of your schedule for each priority of faith, family, and friends. These three things will create a foundation for happiness. When you are overly busy with work and rushing from place to place, you will realize that an important area of your life is keeping in touch and connecting with your faith, family, and friends.

rnMy life has changed so much in the past year that it is truly unbelievable. I don't want to sound like someone who is trying to promote anything, but seriously, since I have began a life coaching relationship with Maia and went through her personal development program (YOU University) my whole everything has changed. The most noticeable to me is the way I feel inside. I am 42 years old and for the first time in my life I don't have internal turmoil going on inside of me. I

Here's a tip that I learned from my Grandma that works extremely well in the classroom. Growing up, when my grandmother would talk to my brother and I, she would finish sentences with the phase "Do you know what I mean?" or "Do you know what that is?" Constantly, confirming that my brother and I understood what she was saying. nn In truth, my brother and I, who were teenagers, found these verbal confirmations almost silly at time. I remember one time when she told us about he

If you've been following the personal development world, you might have come across a new product that's been launched recently. This product is called “Crack Your Egg” , and is made by Henk Schram. Henk is the creator of the previous “Revolutioniz” self improvement program. I'm on the mailing of many self help experts , and I notice that a number of them are emailing me about this product. Greg Frost of “Mind Secrets Exposed” promotes it. Dr. Robert Anthony of â€

Do you wish you had just a few skills to turn negative conversations you have with yourself and others into a solution-oriented problem solving direction, instead of a bitch session? The trick is in asking the right questions. Unconscious questions like "Why does this always happen to me?" often result in negative unconscious answers like "Because you're just not good enough." This kind of thinking can keep you in an endless cycle of chasing your own tail, often resulting in feelings of inadequacy.

Especially in the western world millions of people of average intelligence and education started with nothing and were able to create successful lives. In terms of success, background and education are not deciding factors. Your ability to continuously focus your mind on positive thoughts, ...

Understanding the role of the ego in how we live our lives is essential to understanding the mystery of life. Usually when people describe themselves they are referring to the egoic self or the personality, the finite side of the whole package we call me. We speak about our likes, dislikes, what we do to fill up our days. We speak of others regarding the actions they take in their lives.

n n Gratefulness nWhat would your day be like if you started and ended it by simply noticing all that you have in your life? If you count all your assets, you always show a profit. Gratitude is a natural high. When you live in tandem with your spirit, appreciating all of life and what you have, you discover more joy and kindness in the world. Miracles happen everywhere all the time, but only those with an “Attitude of Gratitude” seem to notice them. This circle of

I have come across many articles and discussions on infidelity lately and find that there is a consensus. Infidelity, adultery, having an affair, cheating, betrayal... or whatever it is you want to call it, is a growing problem. Why is this? Some say that our culture has contributed to an increased discontent and unhappiness in our lives. We seek pleasure and expect our partners to meet our needs. If they don’t, we blame them for our unhappiness. Marriage becomes more about meeting my needs and making me happy.

Evaluating your personal core values is an important part of any personal growth plan. It is a key factor in cultivating a positive attitude . rnPart of any good personal development plan should include an evaluation of your personal values. Values are: A principle, standard, or quality considered worthwhile or desirable. What do you hold as important in your life? I do not mean material things or even money. If you could just forget all that stuff for a bit and try to focus

Self talk is the dialogue or 'inner chatter' that plays out in our mind. Whether it's positive self-talk or negative self-talk this is a behavior that's ever-present in all our lives. We all talk to ourselves constantly throughout the day. Everything that goes on our life is usually accompanied by our own 'running commentaries'. The problem is however, much of our self-talk is of a negative nature. It is often colored with regrets and disappointments about our past, and fears

We all crave to be seen, heard and acknowledged. Whether I say that to individuals, groups or large audiences, heads nod in the affirmative. When I first began working in a counseling agency, I was thrilled with the supervision. My manager smiled, nodded and listened as I worked out my problems through non-stop, extroverted talking. As I exited from his office, I would turn, thank him for his time and he would respond with a generous laugh and a big “You’re most welcome.” I left notes of appreciation on his desk and the occasional homemade muffin.

Ever wonder why people are the way they are or where they learned to be a certain way? We cannot discount the influence of upbringing, peers, environment and genetics. Although we have very limited or no control over some of the things that shape our children, we can do our part to make a positive difference. We teach them by the way we treat them and the way we treat others. We can lead them by our example and how we react and cope with people and situations. It is empowering and encouraging to know that children can learn love and happiness when it is manifested in our own lives.

Segregating the genders in schools is nothing new. We've been doing this for centuries from the primary grades on. In the United States, this policy is largely limited to private schools, however, there are a few public and charter schools that do have separate classrooms for males and females. In other countries, separating the genders is standard procedure. <img border="0" height="320" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-T6LzjLzNb0E/UJ6wjaNUesI/AAAAAAAARGs/XFDLsfPVZOo/s640/IMG_1182.JPG" width="480">

Past experiences do shape our world view. Things we learn, often as children, keep us safe and teach us how to get along in the world. They also help us to form our view of the world and our beliefs about ourselves, other people and the world in general - we call these core beliefs. These beliefs affect our behaviour, attitude to self and others, and our thoughts and feelings. As we continue through life, we have other experiences, some add to our learning and some reinforce

The holidays are some of the best times and opportunities we have to continue our family traditions. Many of us can recall how our families celebrated Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, or birthdays every year. There are some extra special traditions we may remember. Maybe every Christmas we got together with our grandparents or we went out of town to visit friends or family members. Maybe we participated in the local Thanksgiving parade every year or there was a certain dish we especially enjoyed that was prepared specifically for Thanksgiving day.

If you were to write a list with all the things you need to be happy, what would you put on that list? While the list may vary from person to person, it is often interesting to see how many dependencies people put on happiness. Naturally, the answers will vary from a loving relationship to ...

I am Thankful for… A Healthy Mind & Emotions If we stop to think about it, there are so many things to be grateful for. As I was reflecting on all the good things, people, and blessings I enjoy, I starting compiling a long list. It seemed it would never end. In all actually, it never will end because our blessings are new every morning. In this series, I am going to share different areas of gratitude in my life. I am going to start the first of this Gratitude journal Series with: I am Thankful for A Healthy Mind and Emotions. 1. I am thankful to be free from negativity.

Have you ever wanted…. To be able to keep your self-control and presence of mind when everybody around you got panicked? To stay calm, when people around you annoy you and get on your nerves? Not to get angry or despaired when everything is messed up and circumstances are not in your favor? To know what to do if something unexpected happens to you? To be self-confident that even though everybody is against you, not to take offence personally and not suffer from it, especial

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” Harvey S. Firestone Bully: a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people .

Take care of yourselves, your body and your family and friends, with much love Both the vitality level and the energy level of our bodies are affected from the way we live our lives and from the way we treat our bodies. We are influenced by the food we eat, the drinks we sip and consume into our bodies and the physical activities that we do. These are all in turn influenced by the level of happiness and love that we have in our lives. And so it is important to be aware and to take responsibility for the way we feel and live. Foodr

Women love to feel sexy, and when they do, not only do they please their partners, but they feel better about themselves. A women's sex appeal can do a big number on her comfort, her happiness and most importantly, her self confidence. But in between taking the kids to school and picking up the ...Women love to feel sexy, and when they do, not only do they please their partners, but they feel better about themselves. A women's sex appeal can do a big number on her comfort, he

rnFeeling down in the dumps now that the holidays are over? If you're hoping for something uplifting on these dreary days and cold nights, you're not alone. T.S. Eliot, in The Waste Land, said, "April is the cruelest month." But studies have found that for the majority of Americans, January is the most depressing month of the year. Have you experienced any of this yourself? Your eager anticipation for the holidays is over, replaced by the reality of a celebration that didn't

I am Thankful for… A Fit & Healthy Body The first entry in this gratitude series focused on mental and emotional health. Here I will share my gratitude for physical health which I believe is a very significant part of our overall well-being. We sometimes overlook the mind and body connection, focusing on one or the other when trying to resolve problems. I know I did until I began to learn and discover how close this connection really is. A weak or sick body can have an influence on a person’s mood or motivation.

He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. ~unknown Anyone who loves and owns a pet knows the joy of companionship and love they provide. Pets are our devoted friends. Following are just some of the many benefits that having a pet can bring: Love & Affection Pets offer humanity one thing that we all need and seek, that is, the miracle-working power of unconditional love.

There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. ~Nathaniel Branden You may have heard it said that you can not love others if you do not love yourself. Having self-love means you care about and like yourself in a healthy and balanced way. It means you have self-respect and believe you are worthy of love.

Although similar in many ways, jealousy and envy are not the same. Deep insecurities often lie at the root of jealousy. When someone is jealous they are afraid of losing something. They try to guard and protect what they fear losing. In doing so, they may become very possessive, competitive, and resentful. For example, they might be jealous of someone they fear can steal their boyfriend’s heart away from them, someone who got the promotion they worked hard for, or the person who got the praise and adoration they felt they deserved. Jealousy can be fear of losing any of the following:

Miracle Brain System is a self improvement program that was recently launched on 10 December 2012. This program is created by Chris D'Cruz, author of Universal Life Secrets and other self help products . The author's claim is that his system can help you to access your cerebral powers to achieve success, using a method he names the “Miracle Mind Magic Stimulator”. But does it work? This is the purpose of this short Miracle Brain System review. In the next paragraphs I wil

There is something truly inspiring about genuinely kind people. They have the ability to see positive things in people that are difficult to get along with. They can make you feel better with just a few words. Kind people even have this uncanny ability to bring light and positivity to a situation, simply by being present. Have you ever wondered how they do that?

Pain is a part of life. More so for some people than others of course. It seems that some people have the resources or strength or luck or skills to work through their pain and come out the other side unscathed, almost as if they hardly felt a thing. We comfort ourselves with the thought that such people are thick skinned or stupid or less sensitive than we who feel every slight, every sting to our wounded pride, every curse, every slur, every failure more deeply. For we secr

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Positive Self-talk and Affirmations are pretty much the same thing with the very subtle difference that affirmations are more often verbal or written while Self-talk is more often played out in our heads. rnI got to know about the idea of Self-talk quite recently through a book by Theodore Bryant called “Self-Discipline in 10 Days”. It is one of those ideas that if I had read it out of context or didn’t read long enough about its underlying psychological implications, I

It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth -- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up -- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had. ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

I recently (in 2010), got back in contact with an individual, who was literally my heart and soul. You know, one of those people you thought you loved unconditionally, until things started to reveal itself. The late musicia Rick James used to say, “Cocaine is a hell of a drug.” Cocaine, my dear people, is not ANYBODY’S friend. The fact that it is widely available across the globe, really destroys lives, and relationships. However, the effects of cocaine (having seen someone

Pastor’s Wives- Going Through Without Wavering A glimpse at the splendor and respect attached to the office of a pastor can lure any woman toward becoming the wife of a pastor. Surely, most women would embrace the thought in the belief that such relationships, being founded on the solid rock of Christian religion, are bound to stand the test of time. However, there are more to being a pastor’s wife than meets the eye; and the truth is that for most of them, the center fails to hold in the long haul.

The Bench Press is a tried and true exercise that has delivered results to men for generations. The hardgainer and muscle building exercise works your pectoralis major and pectoralis minor, otherwise known collectively as pecs. This muscle is basically the big muscles fanning across your chest and hardgainer or not, everybody needs to work this out to gain muscle. The Bench Press also works the front deltoids and the triceps, but those are minor muscles compared to the pecs.

Before you can truly get the good that you desire, the good that God intends for you ... before you can get that good into your mind ... You are going to have to clear your mind of a lot of hatreds and 'hurtreds' that are keeping you from your blessings ... You are going to have to ...

The Way to Success Consciousness Based Education Doesn't it just break your heart to know that young school-kids are being scanned for weapons when they enter school in the mornings? And that is for a reason. Conflicts, threats and high level stress and even violence fill the air at school. It is totally amazing that young kids and schools are faced with such intense STRESS.

True passion is one of the most powerful feelings one may feel in their lifetime. One can become so passionate about something that they feel they would die for it (and sometimes do.) It may be one of the most powerful of all human emotions. Passion can be harnessed for good, or for evil. It is when people harness their passions in positive ways that the world is shaped in a beautiful way.nnnnPassionate people who act upon their passion either create amazing things, or in som

Making a big deal about the “little things” can make your life richer and more fulfilling. We’ve all heard the phrase “Don’t sweat the small stuff” and I wholeheartedly agree. We must not let life’s little daily annoyances and irritations cause us to “lose our cool” or bring us to a place of tension and stress.rn rnOn the flip-side, it is easy to overlook the right “little things” or “small stuff” unless we intentionally decide to rnMake a Big Deal A

Everyone likes positive feedback. It is known that it is helpful in building self-esteem and success. In fact, schools and parents have been doing a good job giving more positive feedback since the push in the seventies and eighties to build children’s self-esteem. Research indicates self-esteem scores have jumped significantly for children in the last thirty years. I was actually part of that movement as I wrote my dissertation on the interaction of self-esteem, anxiety, and achievement.

rnJust when we feel like things are looking up, we turn on the news or check our email and we hear another bout of bad news. Between a suffering economy and killer viruses, it's easy to sink into negativity and self pity. But that's no way to live. And when you are feeling negative, you are in no position to find real solutions to your challenges. Here are essential tips for staying positive when the going get tough. 1. Take care of yourself. I know you just want to skim over

What's the real difference between people who enjoy wealth and freedom, and those who struggle to find the time and money to live life on their own terms? It's not uncommon to find two people with the same background, same education, same amount of intelligence, almost the same amount of luck, but leading two entirely different lives - where one is leading a life of abundance and riches, while the other is struggling to make ends meet. Then what is the defining factor if not

Money is the hot topic these days. Whether you have it and are afraid of losing it or you don't know where your next paycheck is coming from, right now we all seem to share some form of 'money fear.' What if your beliefs about money were fueling how money flows in, or out of your life? Take this simple test to find out your FEQrn(Financial Emotional Intelligence) “Money Money Money Money, MONEY — Some people got to have it …..- Some people really need it…Almighty Dollar!

Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.’ ~Lao Tzu It seems we are always searching for ways to improve upon ourselves. We fill our minds with as many books, seminars, workshops, CDs, movies, lectures, radio & TV shows, programs, blogs and more to overflowing. We exercise and eat the right foods to strengthen our body, practice meditation to quiet our mind, and yoga to nourish mind, body and soul.

We only have one body; we sometimes take that for granted. When we are young most of the times we abuse our bodies, and take things for granted. Forgetting how fragile our bodies really are. We abuse or neglect our bodies in several ways. I for one can admit that I am guilty of this. When I hear the words “Health Food”, “Low Fat”, “Non Fat”, : Low or No Sugar” In the back of my mind I always think “tasteless” or worst it will taste like cardboard. Just the idea of giving up

So you’ve just ended a phone conversation where you were looking for some concrete help, and now you feel frustrated! Thinking back on it, you realize that “yeah but” was repeated (by you) at least three times. You want advice, yet the conversation took turns that didn’t feel satisfying. When we listen, and what wells up and out is “yeah, but” this may signify a warning that some boundary is being impinged upon. That though, may not be bad. Here is a short list of warnings that may indicate stop or move ahead:

These past few weeks, billions of fans watched athletes from around the world compete in the London Olympics. These diverse games reflect the delicate balance between reality and entertainment; the Olympics can satisfy the yearning for distraction from your immediate concerns about economic instability and caring for your family-in-flux. The Games provide color, drama and a broad demonstration of excellence. In addition to news about the venues, there is information streaming

n n "Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact." - William James nnAttitude is everything. I know that you've heard this before and either agreed or disagreed. Either way, you were confirming its truth. Attitude is a filter for everything going into your mind and everything coming out of your mind. Right now, I have no idea what you are thinking because your attitude is unique to you. It's not a matter of having a bad or good attitude. Everyo

A happy woman is content in her life. She feels much peace of mind and also a healthy level of enthusiasm as she goes through her day. Of course, she can become upset or angry, just like anyone else. But her happy nature works to her benefit and soon enough she will find a way to return to a pleasant state of being that we call ‘happy’ for lack of a more perfect word. How is this so? Is she from a different planet than the rest of us women? Certainly not. She simply has learned and practiced many behaviors that help regenerate a state of happiness again and again.

There is overwhelming social pressure to identify who we are to others with labels, and to put labels on other people. For example, it is hard, when we meet others socially, to keep from asking that person what they do for a living, as well as tell them what we do to earn a living. Suggestions on how to overcome doing this in a social situation have been around for a long time now.

"Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force." Tom Blandi Maintaining a positive attitude is important for you to achieve success in your life. Keeping a good upbeat attitude will also lead you to a happier and contented life. The challenging part however, is maintaining this kind of attitude during times of challenge and a

When we hear the words “Soul Mate,” most people conjure up visions of that special someone specifically molded and made for them and only them. Someone who understands us as no other person can. And, like synchronized swimmers, “Soul Mates” are in tune and in rhythm with one another, navigating through any challenges in their relationship with ease and grace. They fit together like a puzzle. Now I ask you, do you know any couples who fit that description? Um..hmm…that’s what I thought.r

THE ENCHANTED SELF teaches you how to access positive states of well being again and again. These positive states are what we typically call 'happiness' and are unique to you. They actually reflect your interests, talents, and potential. In other words, what makes me happy might not make you ...

Anywhere you go these days; it is common to see people with music players like iphones blasting music into their ears. In fact, it seems like those of us who choose to listen to the world going on around us are becoming an anomaly. A report in The Hindu reports that teenage deafness is rising at alarming rates. For the full report please copy and paste this link into your URL bar when you have finished reading my blog. http://www.thehindu.com/health/policy-and-issues/article579504.ecernr

The Seven Powers for Self Controlr Lesson 1: The Power of Perception No one can make you mad without your permissio It really is true that no one can make you angry without your permission. We all like to believe that someone outside of ourselves is responsible for the way we respond in any given situation, but the reality is, it is a choice that we make. It is so much easier not to take responsibility for our actions, but as we mature we understand that we must be responsible for what we do. We must set the example for our children so that we model for them the way they should be.

There is Power in Volunteering If you volunteer your time it will make you happy instantly. Happiness is like a perfume that you can't spray without someone smelling it. Anytime that one is productive and providing a service to another to bring about a positive change or encouragement, it is gratifying. Volunteering is powerful because it is a goal that is obtainable and grants immediate results. It is reinforced from the recipient of the service granted. There are more smiles, more laughter, and even more power obtained in volunteering because more people are happy.

What makes some men more successful than others is that those who've achieved extraordinary results in their lives have done so because they had an immutable belief in themselves. They knew that if they are to make their dreams a reality and accomplish their goals, they have to believe that they are capable of doing so. This level of personal belief, confidence, an self-esteem comes from the deepest part of our inner core. It is this internal source that powers our abilities,

What is hydrocephaly? Hydrocephaly or hydrocephalus - also known as ‘water on the brain’ is a brain disease that affects 1 in every 500 births, making it one of the most common developmental disabilities - more common tha Down syndrome or deafness. It was first described by Hippocrates, the ancient Greek physician. It wasn’t until the 20th century that effective treatments were developed for it, and there is still no known cure. So what is it? Our brains are suspended in a

7 Most Inspiring Books Sometimes it just seems as if life circumstances cause you to hit an emotional wall. It is during these times that taking the steps required to live a life that is happy and fulfilling is nearly impossible. The tasks of building success in your career and relationships can feel virtually insurmountable. This is when you need a bit of inspiration to keep you going. If you are an avid reader, here are a few inspirational books that you should definitely consider picking up the next time you are at the library or bookstore.

Are you a bold risk-taker or an introverted, deep thinker? Many contend that our handwriting reflects our personality traits and that, despite the conformity of cursive writing training all of us received in school, our handwriting ultimately developed its own unique style based upon who we are inside. So, what does your handwriting say about you? Here are a few basic revelations, and, before you go any further, take an unlined piece of paper and write out the phrase: “I am selling my car on Craigslist.”

How do you perceive life? By Pierre Ah-Fat, MBA, Transformation Coach The story of the two frogs Two frogs fell in a small well. They both started asking themselves what they should now do. One said: ‘Let us try to climb and get out of this well. We shall then be free to see the world.’ The other one responded: ‘What world do you want to discover? Can’t you see the sky from this well? I am fully satisfied with what I can see from where I am.’ In fact both frogs could in fac

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEDITAITONS ? What do Oprah, Paul McCartney, David Lynch, Russell Brand, and Russell Simmons have in common? They all meditate as part of their daily routine. In fact, they all practice the Transcendental Meditation® technique and they love it. Oprah wrote an article about her experience,and had her company learn, too www.tm.org/research/home.htmlDavid Lynch founded the David Lynch Foundation to help Veterans, children in inner schools, homeless people etc davidlynchfoundation.org

Your stress relief is right here, right now. Literally, in the here and now, the current moment, there is absolutely no stress. Just stress-free happiness. So read this article over and over, pausing only to eat or sleep and you will be stress-free and happy. I’m just kidding. But reading is one way to live in the current moment. So are all your favorite activities. That is why you enjoy them so much. They keep you focused in the current moment and your stress is temporarily suspended.

Autosuggestions or affirmations are easy positive declarations which could be repeated everyday to make a positive personal change or just improve your life. They are vehicles in which you could free yourself from the over-dependence on other persons’ opinions, feelings or attitudes about you and so it will lead you to feel great about yourself. Autosuggestions should be positive and self-healing scripts you offer to yourself to contradict your negative self-programming or

IF THERE’S EVER BEEN A TIME in your life to be persistent, it’s right now. Now is the time for you and me and all the folks we know and love to wake up every day with the mindset of “Positive Persistence.”nnFYI ACTION IDEA: Do everything in your power to stay motivated and inspired. Read, listen and watch more personal development books, CDs and movies. Hang around positive people in your life who are thriving and who will encourage you to do the same.nnBig “by the

Depression is very serious and often goes untreated in children and teens. Symptoms are commonly overlooked or minimized as part of growing up or something that will pass with time. Child and teen depression has a negative impact on development, school performance, and relationships. Children and adolescents with depression feel sad or hopeless. They might be easily irritated or angry. They lose interest and motivation for the things they once enjoyed. They may feel bad about themselves and lack in confidence.

You cannot be grateful and bitter. You cannot be grateful and unhappy. You cannot be grateful and without hope. You cannot be grateful and unloving. So just be grateful. ~author unknown

It’s challenging sometimes to know what’s wrong in your relationship. If you’re like many other people, you probably want a loving relationship more than anything else in the world. Maybe you’ve tried and tried and tried to make your relationship work and yet somehow you just seem to be going back over the same old arguments again and again. Questions to consider about control or verbal abuse: • Does your partner always monopolize the conversation? • Does s/he always need to be right? • Does s/he regularly judge or criticize you for things you do and say?r

Part of the Hardgainer Workout philosophy is to exercise as efficiently as possible in the gym, and one of the easiest ways to gain healthy weight is by using free weights. Today I want to talk about one of the most productive, muscle building exercises that you can do in the gym: the DEADLIFT. Don’t be intimidated by the name. The deadlift is a whole body, multi-joint, ultra-metabolism boosting exercise that should be incorporated into your routine. You need this Hardgainer exercise in order to gain muscle mass and build your body.

Dreams are as centrally exposed and driven as you make them. Either they're important or they're not. It's your night of esoteric surrender. However, dreams do mean different things to different people, depending upon the relevance one places on the content. If you are not interested in investing the time to study, energy to accrue the relative symbolism and most emphatically, simply can’t relate to the messages offered, considering them to be a bunch of hodge-podge nonsense, then that’s precisely what they are.

We are either the masters or the victims of our attitudes. It is a matter of personal choice. Who we are today is the result of choices we made yesterday. Tomorrow, we will become what we choose today. To change means to choose to change. ~John Maxwell What kind of thoughts come to your mind when you think about your life? How about your family, your work, your future? Suppose your thoughts could change your destiny. Would you want to change or improve any of them?

Research by leading universities in the field of cognitive and behavioral science proves the existence of so called “automatic thoughts”, i.e. thoughts that come to mind involuntarily and effortlessly as an automatic response to certain stimuli. These are the thoughts that ultimately determine ...

In today’s tough economic times, many people are facing very difficult life situations. There is mounting uncertainty in the air because so many people have already lost their jobs and their homes. It’s not easy to stay cool, calm and collected when you don’t know what to expect tomorrow. You may feel that staying lighthearted is impossible in today’s world. But after working as a psychotherapist for 30 years, I have found seven simple tools that have proven themselves again and again for coming through the darkness to a more lighthearted way of living.

______THE SCIENCE BEHIND SHOELACE TYING Almost always, you put on either your right shoe initially or your left shoe. Usually, you tie your shoes by either passing the right-hand lace around back of the left-hand lace, or vice versa. Tomorrow morning decide which shoe you put on first and how you lace up your shoes. Now, by putting on the other shoe earlier and tying your shoelaces in a contrary way, consciously resolve that for the next 21 days you are going to structure a n

In order to address the importance of self affirmations, one must first know the definition of the word 'self'. The dictionary defines 'self' as the true nature of a person. It is the 'self' which makes one person different from other people. This might be termed 'the individuality of a person'. It may be said that 'self' is the very essence of who we are. ‘Self’ is the “I”, which is the distinguishing facet of our very existence. Now that we have formulated a definit

Whether you are watching a movie, riding in an elevator, listening to a commercial on the radio, or simply shopping, you will find that there is always some kind of background instrumental music playing. You may not even be aware of it, but it is there setting the mood. In a movie, it becomes a part of your experience. You grip your seat as you feel the tension building. The excitement makes your heart race. You feel the sadness and are moved to tears. In an elevator, background instrumental music may comfort and soothe you, or it may help you to relax and slow down a little.

The term Ayur-Veda is well known both in India and in the Western world. Much of what is called Ayur-Veda today in India and around the world has, in fact, been fragmented, lost or forgotten over time, or known to just a few experts. The effect of foreign invasions of India, including the British, has been very detrimental to the knowledge and practice of Ayur-Veda. The knowledge has been distorted through incorrect translations, the practice of Ayur-Veda has been disrupted and in many cases prohibited.

All sorts of things can trigger irritability in people, from minor traffic jams to major headaches. Everyone gets upset or annoyed sometimes. We all have lost our temper and reacted without thinking. We have succumbed to anger that drives us to say and do things we normally wouldn’t. And it is when we lose control over our thoughts and feelings, that our irritability and anger can do some major damage to our relationships and lives.

Many people cling to the myth that those who are successful inevitably feel good about themselves and are free from self-doubt and insecurities. I’ve worked with many clients whose résumés, personal achievements, and reputations garner the deepest respect and admiration, yet their negative self-talk is often utterly brutal. Despite their low opinion of themselves, they’ve managed to fashion lives that many would envy.

I remember when I was a child how much I loved my grandmother Rose Silverman's things. They were not just the functional plastic items, earthenware and stuffed sofas that most families had when I grew up. All of the furniture and things in her apartment were 'alive' with romance, magic and ...

We’ve all heard the horror stories of young adults and children having hurtful or embarrassing photos, video and/or speech about them posted on the Internet for the world to see. But did you know that cyber-bullying can be as simple as sending an email to someone who has indicated they do not want to have any further contact with you? I also have a personal dislike for all the chain emails that go out, especially those that indicate something will or won’t happen if you don’t forward it on to ten or more of your friends.

Even in the best of times, life can be challenging. Sometimes failing health or loss of a job may be at the root of our concerns. Other times it may be smaller things, such as feeling left out, being criticized or feeling judged by others that sends us for a loop. And that’s the focus of this piece.nnDisapproval may feel uncomfortable, but it can also be instructive and helpful. When someone reacts negatively to you, or doesn’t respond at all, it may actually be their iss

To find the good life you must become yourself. ~ Dr. Bill Jackson We all want to be liked by others. We want to be accepted for who we are, and we want to feel free to be our genuine selves around them. But sometimes we feel pressured to live up to a certain image or expectation of what we think will please or impress others. So we try to become someone we are not. And we might even compromise our values and beliefs to receive the approval we seek.

There is nothing quite as agonizing as waiting. We wait for people. We wait for reports and news. We wait to get to where we want to go. Waiting slows us down and it also speeds us up. It speeds us up in that we get restless, anxious and agitated. We might become even more motivated and ...

“Have you Decided to Be Happy?” Happiness is a state of the mind. Therefore one must decide to be happy. It is an emotion that can be controlled. However, the focus should not be limited to if one obtains tangible things. For example, I will be happy if I get a house, a car, or a higher paying job. When an individual base their happiness on the “if contingency,” they are limiting their emotion.

“Take a deep breath” you must have heard these words many a times but hardly anybody knows how it helps us. Breathing is very important part of our life. If we don’t eat we might survive for one week or if we don’t drink then we might survive for 3 or 4 days but if we don’t breathe then we can’t survive for more than 2 minutes. So let’s understand how deep breathing works and what are its benefits.

How many times have you told yourself, "It's just your imagination"? How many times, particularly when you were young, were you told, "It was just your imagination"? Have you ever told anyone, when they confided an experience to you, "It was just your imagination"?

One of the greatest challenges in loving others is to forgive them when they have wronged us and caused us pain. Every time we are wronged, we have to choose how we are going to deal with the hurt. Ultimately, we have to decide if we will forgive the person or persons who have wronged us, or if we will hold on to the hurt. If we hold on to the hurt, it will keep us from loving them. It will keep us angry and upset. We will not be open the release the hurt. Instead, it will continue to fester and grow. Unresolved hurts that are not forgiven continue to cause pain.

People in today’s world are continuously on a move. They rarely find the time to vent their thoughts and emotions in real life. In earlier times, men had less work and ample free time. They found the time to share their different thoughts through various mediums. They resorted to writing letters, penning the deepest thoughts of life in the personal diary. As days progressed, people became busy with various activities. Life became too fast. They could rarely find the time to

Awhile ago, I attended a beautiful wedding. A young Jewish couple came together in joy and the room was filled with happiness. Outside of the banquet room I noticed a group of older women sitting near the door collecting charity. They all looked very pure and plain at the same time, young seniors and older seniors, nothing fancy about them. Their hips were full. They were wearing comfortable walking shoes and somewhat frumpy looking clothing. There wore either wigs or kerchiefs.

Five Joyous Habits Human beings are moral animals. According to Dr Martin Seligman we each exhibit six virtues common across cultures and traditions. They are wisdom and knowledge, courage, love and humanity, justice, temperance, spirituality and transcendence. These virtues encapsulate the notion of good character. The way in which we each achieve the virtues is dependent on our individual strengths of character. Using our strengths produces good consequences and positive emotion, not only in yourself but in those around you who witness the display of a strength.

Divorce is a major stressful event for children and adults. To children, divorce is confusing. They have so many conce s and questions about how their lives will change. They cannot control what is happening to their family, and they often think that they are responsible for their parents divorce. Strong emotions are experienced such as hurt and anger. For adults and children, divorce is an adjustment that takes time. It is more difficult for some than others, depending on a number of factors. Conflict between parents creates more stress and difficulty for children of divorce.

Practicing gratitude is one of the best habits we can develop. It not only changes our lives, but it affects others around us. Our gratitude is like a positive energy that can inspire and energize others. I knew a woman who always confessed that she had a black cloud that followed her wherever she went. And guess what, it did! That black cloud was her negativity and lack of gratitude. Although she had much to be thankful for and some good opportunities in her life, she always found something to grumble and complain about. This woman was one of the most unhappy people I have ever known.

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How do you typically embrace the world? Are you constantly waiting for the storm to arrive, or do you look forward to a day of uncertainty? Do you typically see the good in most situations, or are you constantly looking over your shoulder? nnI am a firm believer that the lens through which you see the world can color all your experiences in life. I was lucky enough to have been brought up in a loving and enriching home, where we expected the best and survived the worst. My mo

This is the century in which the introvert will “shine.” In the past, we have valued the extrovert more in the marketplace, because communication, negotiation, marketing/sales, etc. always occurred face-to-face, and the extrovert thrived in an atmosphere of “people presence” and lots of activity. The introvert, on the other hand, tended to be the back office person, perhaps the “number cruncher” or the researcher, but never the big deal closer or the one responsible for the successful marketing campaign. How things have changed!

I believe the current popular 'Models' for PTSD, depression and suicide are not accurate, as they are not time efficient. n nAt this time, November 2008 the widely applied and acceptable therapies are not brief, and the disabilities go on for years, if not decades. If the symptoms were relieved or addressed in a brief time, that would show the model of depression is correct. n nContained here are over 20 years of my own experience and directed education. This education and ex

People have a need to be listened to because of an increased sense of isolation at home and at work. Listening to someone shows that you care for that person. When we do not listen, we are showing that we really do not care about the person who is talking. Listening creates connection, caring, a sense of community or belonging and can be a catharsis for the speaker. It is one of the most important aspects of a helping relationship. Also, listening is good for your health.

It comes as no surprise, but stress isn’t good for you. Well of course, you knew that already but the question for most people is how to tame it. Here’s a secret I discovered: In actuality there is no such thing as a ‘stress thing’ outside of us. It is our interpretation of the events in our life that causes us to feel stressed or not.

Mindfulness – So What? Most have heard of mindfulness while few truly practice it Mindfulness comes to us in two forms: the spiritual/meditative practice or as a tool in self examination and behavior control.

When I was a younger person, anger and anxiety were my "best friends". I never went anywhere without them. I did not like how they felt but I also did not like the feeling of being without them because they had become so familiar. It was almost like a void if they weren't present. My nervous sytem is very sensitive, so it was constantly in a state of overdrive. I lost my temper easily and could not function very well in a situation that required focus.

Living a balanced life has almost become a fashionable thing to do. Between work, fitness, intellectual stimulation, entertainment, planned relaxation and healthy eating it seems that we have identified all the right ingredients for a healthy and balanced life. While doing all “the right things” ...

We all need a sense of wonder and mystery in our lives. Sometimes a fast paced adventure movie or a good mystery read will satisfy that urge inside of ourselves. But sometimes we need to reach into the past and see that all through the centuries people have reported strange phenomenon, and of ...

So, you are at the point where you realize that you have Binge Eating Disorder and you want to make a change in your life for the better… But what do you do next? If you are like how I was, a mixture of emotions used to begin to fill my head about what my new self would be like. I was excited ...So, you are at the point where you realize that you have Binge Eating Disorder and you want to make a change in your life for the better… But what do you do next? If you are like how I was, a mixture of emotions used to begin to fill my head about what my new self would be like.

To overcome adversity and live a meaningful life that contains within it many opportunities for happiness is a healthy human goal. To get there it is important to practice two behaviors that help to make life the greatest joy ride of all. These two behaviors are staying connected and taking ...

Negative thinking takes a huge toll on our energy. It prevents us from enjoying every moment that life has to offer (good and bad) and from reaching our goals. We work a job that we really don’t care for instead of making our vocation a vacation (the act of enjoying what you do for a living). I know what this is like because I spent most of my life thinking negatively and had no clue what was wrong with me. What was it that made me different than others who were successful

We are often told to aim high in life, but we must aim at what we would hit instead. A general purpose is not enough. The arrow shot from the bow does not wander around to see what it can hit on its way, but flies straight to the mark. ~Og Mandino

So I said to myself, I want to create something with such paramount value that people love me, my wife and my company. Here it is: How many people in the world do you think are just 'content' in their lives? Most people, for lack of statistics, are NOT happy in their lives. They take pills for anxiety, depression, they overeat, they buy SELF HELP books and don't even open them because they are that far gone!!! Can you believe that? Better question, did I just describe you?

Personal freedom is essential for happiness, for mental well-being and to feel comfortable as an Enchanted Self - someone able to access positive states of meaning again and again, while living a life of meaning and purpose. In the past I have talked about the Exodus from Egypt as a metaphorical ...

This article contains an excerpt from my book, THE ENCHANTED SELF, A Positive Therapy. The message is so important to all of us attempting to overcome adversity and to live a live of meaning and joy. I hope you enjoy the following and please try the exercise that follows. Time continues to ...

Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses. ~ George Washington Carver There never was and there never will be another person exactly like you. Your way of thinking, your appearance, you inherent talents and interests, your skills are like no other. You have untapped potential inside you yet to be discovered and released. As Og Mandino would say, you are "nature's greatest miracle." Are you living like the successful person you were born to be?

Today let's concentrate on being happy. Live life like a child! If you capture the spirit of a child, life becomes much easier. Never let life's pressures bring you down! This is the day the Lord has made--we will rejoice and be glad in it! ~Rev Run Take a moment and think about how you began ...

Matt has an online relationship with a woman from another state. It isn’t anything serious, so why worry his wife? Katie has been hiding her spending sprees from her husband that has put them into serious financial debt. She is afraid if he finds out he will never forgive her. Jason never told his wife that he got fired from his job, but rather, that he got laid off. He did not want her to lose faith and respect for him.

Why would a psychologist take her hand to fiction? Of course because I want people to overcome adversity and live a life worth living, filled with positive emotions. But even more specifically to my own disposition, I am a kind of visionary in the sense that I am always looking for new ways ...

While the Inner Critic is universally destructive and squeezes joy from many lives, its intention is to be a helpful force. It is there to protect. It shames you in an attempt to shield you from experiencing humiliation from exte al sources. Unfortunately while trying to help, it becomes abusive. The Critic believes the best path to receiving love and support is to follow a rigid and limiting set of rules. Those rules, which may have been somewhat helpful when you were a chi

Life is the greatest roller coaster ride we will ever take. The ups and downs, the unexpected changes, the twists and turns, are all a part of living. The roller coaster ride of life can be miserable and uncomfortable or exciting and rewarding. Our states of mind and body are key factors in how ...

In a world where so many people are facing difficult circumstances, what can they do to overcome negative emotions and find happiness? For decades psychologists have been identifying key factors associated with happiness and with depression. However, researchers have rarely looked for a comprehensive formula that can predict happiness and depression accurately.

What every new Mom needs to knowr Seven ancient secrets to restoring happiness and vitality after childbirth: Childbirth — a turning point in a woman's life. But there is often a big gap in the care that is available to new mothers during the first 6-7 weeks after giving birth -- the postpartum period. Usually the first medical check up is after 6 weeks. But this is a time when the new mother can be quite delicate and vulnerable and faces innumerable challenges. It is also during this time that the “baby blues" and postpartum depression often occur.

In case you hadn't heard, there's a new-ish field within psychology, called positive psychology, which is very relevant to self growth. The premise of the field is that throughout the history of psychology, far too much emphasis has been placed on mental illness and disorder, and getting people from a "minus 5 to a zero." The aim of positive psychology is to look more deeply into the factors that cause people and groups to thrive - getting people from "zero to plus 5". One

7000 years ago, or so, Sadashiva, the founder of yoga, said that one of the seven secrets of spiritual success is to have a balanced mind. What does this mean? One should not have a superiority complex, nor should one have an inferiority complex. Everyone knows that a big ego is an impediment to spiritual growth. However, just as the “umbrella of ego” can prevent you from feeling the rain of spiritual grace, an inferiority complex can cause you to stop striving for perfectio

Once more, mindfulness is being totally present and in the moment and avoiding judgment. So how do we connect our increased practice with mindfulness to our eating behaviors and attitude to food? Sadly, we let our lives become so busy that things become automatic, even some of the things we should devote more of our focus and energy toward. Eating is one of them. Even if a person doesn’t have issues with overeating, it has been proven that being mindful to our food and digestion when we eat is much healthier for us.

Want to make a change in your life? Whether it’s losing weight, a career change, or remaking a relationship if you want to make any real and lasting changes then you can’t do it alone. I work with hundreds of patients and workshop attendees who desire to transform their lives and one of the first points I tell them is that for real success they initially need to build a Wisdom Council of Support. Like an owner assembling a start-up baseball team you begin with those players who are already available to you, being mindful of the strengths and weaknesses of each.

As a therapist in Los Angeles I’ve seen more than my share of patients who are dealing with various forms of depression and unhappiness. One common personality trait I’ve found with them is their unwholesome thoughts and beliefs that come from what I call the “wanting mind.” In wanting mind, we feel that our current state of unhappiness can only be cured if we have more money, recognition, fame, or power.

In this Article, I want to discuss Jou aling relative to discovering what we Believe and, perhaps, how our Belief Systems have affected and/or created our present Reality. It may come as a surprise, but few individuals know what it is they believe, only periodically becoming upset and angry when the Beliefs are challenges

Finally, after a summer of moving to Maryland, editing, and working with the publisher, my new book is about to be born. It is due out before Christmas and will be available on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel. I am excited because this book is a reflection of my work over the years, both as a educator and as a counselor. It combines my love of life with my love of energy psychology, mindfulness, meditation and jou aling. These amazing mind-body balancing tools are a part of my personal life and my professional life, and I am now able to share them with you.

Just imagine for a moment what life would be like if each individual on earth were allowed to own just one automobile per lifetime. Do you think you would be more motivated to take better care of your vehicle—getting routine tune-ups and oil changes, rotating tires, keeping it clean, and so forth? Some of us might have a very different attitude about it altogether. We might take our responsibility to care for it more seriously. And we would most likely appreciate and cherish it much more.

There aren’t too many things in life that ever stay the same. Sometimes that can be a good thing and other times it simply isn’t. Life presents us with new and unexpected challenges that block our goals and force us to make some major adjustments. When we have our eyes set on a goal, we don’t ...

Success through a positive mental attitude might be hard to understand for some, especially if you're looking for an explanation based on pure logic and science. However, when you think of it deeply, you'll understand that developing a positive attitude can get things done for you. It works like magic. When you think positively, you surround yourself with positive energy. It's not visible to the eyes but everyone can feel it, including the people around you. What's more comfo

1. Laugh until it hurts- Laughing is contagious and brings you immediate happiness and joy. Check out a laughing yoga class, it is a great way to let go and laugh until it hurts. 2. Appreciation- when you feel true appreciation in your heart it automatically brings happiness into your soul. Appreciation makes us happy to be alive.

Negativity Not Allowed - Determined Optimism It seems like every conversatio I have had with someone lately, they have brought up the terrible state of the economy. I’ve started off many conversations with my friends this week with the sentence, “No negativity allowed.” I refuse to accept the “ain’t it awful mentality” of the masses. I know that I make my own reality and so do you. Let’s visualize a better tomorrow. Let’s know in our hearts everything is just fine…because it

Mindfulness – So What? Most have heard of mindfulness while few truly practice it Mindfulness comes to us in two forms: the spiritual/meditative practice or as a tool in self examination and behavior control.

We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it. ~John Lennon

Ever since the Secret made its movie debut back in 2006, there has been an onslaught of information and -- in my opinion -- misinformation about what the Law of Attraction is and isn’t and how we measure success. I suppose first and foremost it is a personal interpretation, yet many if not all of the law of attraction programs presently being promoted have its key focus on material success as the gold standard (pun intended) of what success really means.r

Conscious discipline can be defined as an approach to address behavior that is multidisciplinary. It is different from behavioral approaches that target specific behaviors and presents a neurodevelopmental model of the brain which is an adaptation from the works of various people including Bruce Perry, Allan Schore, Daniel Siegel, Joseph LeDoux, Alexander Luria, Louis Cozolino and Paul MacLean. A disciplined brain state model shows us and enables us to understand better the s

In my years as a psychologist, I have come to believe that most people seeking psychotherapy are unhappy. This is not only due to earlier hurts and traumas, as well as present frustrations and problems, but because they cannot access earlier happy moments often enough. The unfortunate result is ...

Why does it seem that most of us fear letting ourselves become quiet? In truth, I must be included in this unfortunate generalization. Virtually every person I have spoken to has readily stated that being quiet is either a daunting challenge or something they have no concept of. How many times, as a child, were we chided for “doing nothing”? Sitting around dreaming seemed to be something that really irked our parents. Even the Bible says something about “idle hands are the devils workshop”.r

Recently, my daughter made a trip to the town where she was born. Unfortunately, it was not a happy occasion. The daughter of one of her childhood friends had committed suicide. The girl was 15 years old when she decided that she could not tolerate any more bullying. The only way she could stop the pain and humiliation was to take her own life. The day of her funeral, the daughter of another friend was found unconscious on the bathroom floor in her home. She had overdosed on some prescription drugs she had found in the medicine cabinet.

“Freethinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own customs, privileges, or beliefs. This state of mind is not common, but it is essential for right thinking.” ― Leo Tolstoy (1828–1910) The Optimum Happiness Index Project recognizes that happiness is not merely about the individual but the human family, intrinsically linked as a community of influence. The worldview of a person

Whilst there is certainly more to life than money, neglecting to pay attention to it's importance will soon catch up with you. Some people say "Money isn't important" " I don't care about money" nand such like, well I'm pretty sure your supermarket care about your money, your car dealer, your health care provider and so on. The point is, regardless of your current belief system; money is important, it provides both the necessities and luxuries to nanyone living in a civilized

People take criticism in two ways. Either they take it as an insult or as a feedback. Criticism can be used as a positive advice to make our self better or it can be looked as rude behavior and can spoil relationships. In this article we will discuss as how to handle criticism. “Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.” Frank A. Clark

What on earth has redundancy got to do with pyjamas? And more importantly, how can the notion serve your business operation ? Well, let me explain. With the advent of the industrial revolution came radical change which continues today. Business’s are restructuring, and with that, the job you had 3 weeks ago…is gone ! Any of you who have been through that process will know of the shock and the isolation. Any of you who have had to orchestrate it will know how difficult it is for everybody on staff.

When the nightly news is filled with the major tragedies of today, it is very hard to stay positive and upbeat. Even if these terrible things weren’t done to us or to someone we love, they still affect us. They are all around us. They are being done to people who are like us, who have families and friends, dreams and goals. Everyone is affected.staying positive That’s what terrorists are trying to do to us…affect us in a negative manner. They want us to be as unhappy and mis

Are You Being Active and Making Healthy Choices? In the pursuit of happiness, one must always challenge themselves to be productive. It is not always good to just sit around and allow the mind to wonder. Yes, brainstorming is good to make a decisive decision but an idle mind can create boredom and unhealthy choices. Often, we find ourselves restless, eating, drinking, or smoking to compensate for a peace of mind. This is not the answer.

What is opportunity, and when does it knock? It never knocks. You can wait a whole lifetime, listening and hoping, and you will hear no knocking. None at all. You are opportunity, and you must knock on the door leading to your destiny. You prepare yourself to recognize opportunity, to pursue and seize opportunity as you develop the strength of your personality and build a self-image with which you are able to live. ~Maxwell Maltz

Happiness is itself a kind of gratitude. ~ Joseph Wood Krutch When I first came across this quote, I had to stop and think about it. Why would happiness be a kind of gratitude? According to Webster's Dictionary, to be grateful or thankful is to be conscious of a benefit being received and to be well pleased.

We’re all advised to avoid sarcasm in our personal communications. But it turns out that sarcastic exchanges can enhance and boost your creativity. Sarcasm is frequently used as a way to hurt, demean, or belittle others. It also, too often, serves as a veil for hostility, when direct confrontation would actually get to the heart of the matter. In addition to this, sarcasm is frequently used as a tool to bully the naive and innocent. Knowing all of this, your takeaway might be that sarcasm is a terrible form of communicating and should be avoided at all costs. Hold that thought.

It seems that every time we hear about the untimely and tragic death of a celebrity it is due to a lethal combination of recreational drugs, prescription medications and alcohol. And in the midst of the controversy is the issue of irresponsible doctors prescribing antidepressant medication like candy. In similar fashion are we not prematurely drugging a nation of young children with drugs such as Ritalin and Adderall that have the potential of adversely affecting their developing brains?

“Understanding how context moves us and an over dependency on content sucks as a means to being Mindful”rn By Kenneth Silvestri, May, 2013 (Excerpted from my forthcoming book Living Systemically: How To Make Your Life Better)rn“The major problems in the world are the result of the difference between how nature works and the way people think it works” rn― Gregory Bateson For many years I have been looking at the world in a systemic manner, how we and our environment

“Beware of the Unhappy List” So I am sure many are wondering, why I would make an unhappy list after I have made a happy list? The unhappy list serves as a matter of identification of those things that disrupts the flow of happiness in our daily lives. It can be used as a practice to set goals to eliminate challenges that just make things complicated. Yet, it ultimately challenges each of us to find a solution.

We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, rn so as to have the life that is waiting for us.rn -Joseph Campbell Developed by Dora M. Kalff of Switzerland, Sandplay has become more popular throughout the United States since Kalff began presenting lecture in California in the ‘60’s. Sandplay evolved through Kalff’s combining and refining Carol Jung’s work, the sand tray World Technique developed by Margaret Lowenfeld at her Institute of Child Psychology

In general, most of us are very careless about the words we use, or consider how the words we use could be affecting our life experiences, let alone tale responsibility for them. Currently, only a relative few individuals would give credence to the possibility that the words that we use, and those used by others in our hearing, can have an affect on us psychologically as well as physically. It is believed--we have been conditioned to believe--that words are, "just words."

How wonderful it would be if we could help our children and grandchildren to learn thanksgiving at an early age. Thanksgiving opens the doors. It changes a child's personality. A child is resentful, negative—or thankful. Thankful children want to give, they radiate happiness, they draw people. ~ Sir John Templeton

‘You don’t have to play sport to be an Australian, but you do have to have a sense of humour” says author Pete Crofts in his book How to use Humour in Business and Life. As an Australian I know they have many “winning ways” and I believe this is strongly linked to their good humoured view of the world. Is there a formula they and others use to aid their success ? Four of the so called “formulas for good humour” include exaggeration, understatement, saying the opposite, and unexpected punch lines.

One thing I absolutely love about a new year, or a new day for that matter, is that it gives us a fresh start to set new goals and implement new plans to pursue and achieve. I have recently set some new goals that have been keeping me very busy, motivated, and excited. One of my many goals began about three weeks ago. I cut desserts out of my diet. It started with a chocolate fast. I was literally consuming at least one bar or 5 pieces of dark chocolate every day, and that is not including cookies, icecream and other desserts I love.

When you strike out in anger, you might miss the other person, but you will always hit yourself. ~Jim Gallery Striking out with angry words is the cause of so many relationship problems. Words are powerful. They can encourage, strengthen, and change destinies. They can also destroy potential and robs us of hope and peace. Most major fires begin with just a small flame. Before long the fire spreads and becomes more and more difficult to contain. It damages or completely destroys everything in its path. Do we realize how quickly unmanaged anger can do significant damage?

I am thankful... for simple acts of kindness

Silchar is the 2nd biggest city in Assam and is situated 420 km south-east of Guwahati. It is a favorite commercial centre of Assam due to its tea cultivation. Sichar is located on the banks of the River Barak and is famous as Barak Valley. It is the economic gateway to Manipur and Mizoram states, and the main office of the Cachar District. The town is visited by large community of traders from distant various parts of India every year. The place has got the name “island of

Reflecting on the Seasonal Changes in Life ©Jane A. Simington, PHD. August, 2013 For me, August is the time when I begin in earnest to harvest what I have sown in the spring. As I walked amongst the plants this morning, I ruminated on how fruitful some of my efforts were, and of how unproductive other gardening labors have been. As I mulled over some of my early spring decisions about plant choices and planting locations, I was drawn to ponder, one more time, on the metaphor

Many people are sick today and no one seems to understand why this is so. We live in the best of times and the worst of times. We used to think of pollution as smog, such as not being able to see the blue sky in Los Angeles. Today, In 2011, we have many forms of pollution. We live in a contaminated world. Not only do we have all of the ills of the industrial age, with its carbon emmissions, but we have new particles that can make us sick. We live in an age of electromagnetic pollution, weapons/grade biotoxins, chemical toxins, noise pollution, nuclear radiation.

Before you got into a couples relationship, you had your own friends to hang out with and have fun. You never had to worry about a partner who did not like your friends or did not want to hang out with them. You never had to conce yourself with problems that could arise if you simply wanted to spend some time with your friends rather than your partner. But once you left the singles scene and became a couple, some things regarding friendships began to change.

Negative thoughts can have serious and damaging effects on our life. To get the most out of life you must find ways to overcome negative thinking. We have all at some time or other harbored self-defeating, limiting thoughts when embarking on a new goal, challenge, venture or experience. For many, such negative thinking often leads to the abandonment of so many goals and dreams. When negative thinking takes a hold, it robs you of the opportunity to thrive, achieve excel in the

Now that fall has arrived, I have been winding down a little and making time to watch some movies. A friend once recommended Walk the Line, based on the true life story of Johnny Cash, so that is what I decided to watch and I am so glad I did. I thought it was an excellent movie--very sad and touching, yet inspiring and moving. The pain and rejection that Johnny experienced early in his life almost destroyed him. In his music, the artist within was able to express himself, release some of his pain, anger, hope and faith.

The Comfort Zone Concept I have never seen the phrase comfort zone in the dictionary, but if it were there, I suppose it would read something like this: Comfort Zone- A mental state in which no progression toward one’s potential takes place.

Think Positive While speaking my thoughts can be a very powerful tool in developing meaningful relationships with those around me, it could also prove to be very detrimental, based on what my thoughts revolve around. With that reasoning, I feel comfortable making the assertion that before I master speaking my thoughts, I need to master positive thinking..

Life can be hard, unfair, painful, and confusing. Sometimes it is overwhelming and we feel defeated. We may face situations that we do not think we can overcome and we just want to give up. We may lose faith and give up on ourselves, on others, and sometimes on life itself. Following are simple words of encouragement to remind you that you can and will make it through the problems you face if you do not quit. Today, you can choose to believe for the best in your life, receive God's strength, get back up, and be encouraged to never give up!!

When people see the word “meltdown”, they often think of a young child who is overtired, overstimulating, and who has finally hit a point of emotional overload. The resulting meltdown usually coming in the form of inconsolable crying or flailing tantrum. We tend to forget that, as adults, we also have emotional limits, and when those limits are exceeded we are also capable of emotional meltdown.

Water does not worry about how it will take the shape of the glass into which it is being poured! Yet as humans we can be caught up in worry and anxiety over what might happen. In order to survive and thrive we need to be in what I call inspired action. To achieve that space we need to have factored in some down time that allows for reflection and relaxation. When we consistently do that, the mind can much more readily summon forth inspired ideas and thoughts, that when acted on bring great results.

As a writer of personal development or self actualization articles, I find that I am often confronted with the remark: “If you know all this stuff, how come you aren’t perfect?” Believe me; I make all kinds of mistakes in my life. I am about as far from perfect as anyone else. I have my fears, foibles, quirks, etc just like everyone else.

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. ~Winston Churchill We live in a give-and-take society. When we give, we usually expect to get something in return. But sometimes we give for the sheer joy of giving. We don’t expect anything in return. It just makes us feel good to know that our giving has made a positive impact; it has helped in some way or it has made someone happy.

We now know a lot more about procrastination and willpower than we ever did before. Where procrastination was a weakness and willpower was something akin to the force, we now understand it’s a little bit more complicated than that.r

“The fact is,” said Rabbit, “we’ve missed our way somehow.” They were having a rest in a small sand-pit on the top of the Forest. Pooh was getting rather tired of that sand-pit, and suspected it of following them about because, whichever direction they started in, they always ended up at it, and each time, as it came through the mist at them, Rabbit said triumphantly, “Now I know where we are!” (The Tao of Pooh, Benjamin Hoff)

We are all doing our best, trying to meet our needs, shlepping along the road of life without a map. Much of the time, we do what we do and after we’ve done it, we wish we hadn’t. Much of the time, what we do doesn’t get our needs met and actually gets us the opposite result, but it’s all that we know how to do. Anybody ever do something that you wish you hadn’t and it didn’t even get you what you wanted? “Man, why did I yell at my children for yelling at each other? I wish I could rewind to before my self-prescribed therapy of four large hand-fulls of chocolate chips!

Is a therapeutic method so unique that only the therapist in a therapist – client relationship, can use it? When asked this question some therapists will tell you that it is their education and training that make the method of therapy successful. Others may respond with “an untrained person won’t understand it”, “a therapist is required for therapy to take place”, or “a person needing therapy is at risk”. This article will offer a different perspective of therapy and ask you this when experiencing difficulties in life is having a therapist always necessary?

A lot of people who don't have experience with religion or spirituality or existential questioning (like wondering what your life means) can hold the idea that spirituality is something mysterious, unattainable, or even meaningless especially in this day and age of making ends meet, managing busy lives, endless distractions, and just keeping up.

When we ask ourselves, our friends, family, colleagues and so on, every individual will answer differently to what it means to be happy. Some want wealth, others want love, knowledge, health, peace, challenge and so on. Everyone will say what they think they lack the most at that moment; in other situations they may desire something else, more of what they already have or they might even get stuck trying to answer, not sure at what they wish for. It is almost like we always w

No one gets married thinking they will get divorced some day. Most people have goals and dreams of being together forever, raising a family, and sharing life for better or for worse. They plan on being a team, growing together, and supporting one another. But somewhere along the line, they hit bumps in the road. They come up against walls, floods, and storms. Their marriage is put to the test. They are challenged to work together on successfully making it through problems and restoring their relationship. But this doesn’t always happen.

Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become attached to anybody, as soon as it’s over I look back and can’t believe how many things I overlooked because of my blinding emotions.

Hello, I am Dr. Grant Kruhly, Chiropractor, Nutritionist, Life Guide and Sensei of Japanese Sword and Meditation. I’d like to briefly explain the comprehensive system of Health and Wellness care I offer to my patients. With these highly advanced healing systems, I have been very successful ...

I recently rejoined the Pacific Tai Chi Society. I realized after much prompting from my body (and my mind!) that I needed to get more physical exercise as part of my stress release and relaxation program. When I was an active member several years ago, I had just come out of a messy relationship so my mind was fraught with noisy self accusations and useless innuendos. I had not learned how to manage my mind very well back then, not that I am perfect at it now, so the noise was alost unbearable.

Everyone has ways that the next person doesn't like. We all have an angel and devil on our shoulder at times, but we have to figure out how to ignore the devil. Sometimes we go with the devil instead of the angel because we are not in a good mood, we don't think, and vice versa. I will begin to tell you three things to help you become a better person. These three things are a great start at living a better life. Religion, Supporting others, and letting go of anger are the big

I am beginning another new venture. It's something I did, a very long time ago, but I enjoyed it and I think I will enjoy it again. It involved working with people of all ages so that makes it a good thing. It involves my faith, so that also makes it even better. It's not like I needed something to fill my time, because my time really is full with all the activities I have taken on over the past five or six months, but I needed a little something to bring in some money and this will do that very nicely. Another thing that I love added to the 'pot.' Life is really good!

Before we set out to accomplish anything at all, we must begin with a clear picture in our minds of already having achieved our goal. We wouldn’t even imagine trying to glue broken pieces of pottery back together without any idea of what it’s supposed to look like. So, why should we go through life without a clear purpose? Once we begin to visualize something, we can begin to figure out how to make it happen. Following are steps to consider in setting goals: A Clear Purpose

Sometimes it looks like things cannot get much worse. We may not be able to see how anything could possibly turn around. The world feels like it is crashing in on us from every side. A man I know, I will call him Brad, hit rock bottom a little while ago. He lost his job of over ten years and with it his means to provide financially for his family. People all around his neighborhood were losing their employment and many lost their homes. Times were tough. Businesses were shutting down. Jobs were scarce and no one was hiring.

Especially in the western world millions of people of average intelligence and education started with nothing and were able to create successful lives. In terms of success, background and education are not deciding factors. Your ability to continuously focus your mind on positive thoughts, ...

Anyone who has ever met me might think I've always been confident and assertive, but that is simply not the case. I was so self-conscious and afraid of not being liked that I fainted in speech class at the very idea of expressing my own opinion to people I hardly knew. But as the years passed, I have learned how to identify my fears and compassionately address them so that I can go after what I really want instead of settling for less. Last week's Bizarre Bazaar and High Tea is a perfect example of how powerful the spoken word can be.

Oprah is helping the distraught 50 year old Sarah Ferguson, Duchess of York (known as Fergie), get out of a very tough and embarrassing situation. Oprah has even featured Fergie in her own show called Finding Sarah Ferguson. You may or may not know that Fergie, after building a lucrative business selling her children's books, ended up in big trouble when she agreed to take 500,000 pounds or close to three quarters of a million dollars for arranging access to her ex-husband, Prince Andrew, The Duke of York. The whole thing was a media set-up.

People will forget what you did; people will forget what you said; but they won’t forget the way you made them feel. ~unknown We all love to be around people who make us feel good. They may make us laugh and not take life too seriously. Their attitude and perspective may encourage us. They make us feel at ease and free to be ourselves. And, we may feel appreciated and loved when we are around them. When we think about the people we like to be around, what is it about them that makes us feel good?

"With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts."Eleanor Roosevelt Very few people might know that how we spend our day depends on how we start it. Have you ever noticed that your entire day becomes a mess if something goes wrong in the morning like, you could not find your shirt you wanted to wear or you missed your daily bus or train or you had a fight with your spouse. We can make every day best days of our life if we start it in a positive way. We just need to give a positive momentum and everything else will be taken care of.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy ~Leo Buscaglia What is worry? Worry is negative meditation. To meditate is to be occupied in thought, to ponder and reflect. So when we worry, our thoughts are occupied with things that cause us distress, fear, or dread. Worry puts stress on our minds and bodies. It can literally make us sick. Studies have found links between stress and illness. Stress weakens our immune system, making us more vulnerable to viruses and other illnesses. Worry clouds our perception. Decision-making is impaired.

We are either the masters or the victims of our attitudes. It is a matter of personal choice. Who we are today is the result of choices we made yesterday. Tomorrow, we will become what we choose today. To change means to choose to change. ~John Maxwell What kind of thoughts come to your mind when you think about your life? How about your family, your work, your future? Suppose your thoughts could change your destiny. Would you want to change or improve any of them?

People are happiness seekers. We want to be happy and yet happiness eludes many of us. We say to ourselves, “I’ll be happy if I get that new car” or “I’ll be happy when I re-do the kitchen.” While these new things will increase our happiness for a time, their novelty wears off and we go back to our baseline. However, there are concrete practices we can incorporate in to our lives, here and now, that will help make us happier in both the short-term and long-term. H

Everything has a Belief System; "everything," in this writing refers to all sciences, all religions, all cultures, (including their languages), and all professions. It also includes all fields of study, referred to as the "soft sciences," such as psychology, biology, sociology, geography, anthropology, and political science, as well as all theories of human behavior.

Do you suffer from a lack of conversation confidence? When you make conversation with other people, is your mind constantly saying a lot of very harsh things to you about your conversation ability? Does your mind criticize every thing you say? Do you put yourself down for being shy or awkward? If you really want to improve your shyness and overcome your difficulty in making conversation with other people, the first step is that you have to start noticing exactly what you are

Conversation is probably the most important part of your dating experience. Sure, looking your best and having a good attitude matter, but most of your time together will in some way be spend in conversation. Following are a few tips to make your conversations more interesting, comfortable, and enjoyable. ⥠Have a good balance of talking and listening. If you tend to be talkative, remember to ask more questions and take time to listen to your date. If you tend to be on the quieter side, elaborating more on things can help you get in the flow of conversation.

A person can live forty days without food, seven days without water, and a few minutes without air; but he cannot live one second without hope. ~unknown Sometimes life can be so difficult, frustrating, and painful. There are times when we need someone to talk to who will listen, understand and care. There are times when we feel stuck and just don't know what to do. It can be something that has been going on for a very long time, or it might have come on suddenly and unexpectedly. Either way, these are times when we need help. We need hope that things can change and get better.

Recently, I watched a short video presentation by Dan Dennett, a modern Western Philosopher, who considers himself a Philosopher of Consciousness. He indicated that other modern Philosophers look down on him with scorn, because they believe there is no such thing as, "human consciousness." In his presentation he quoted an idea of another modern Philosopher, to the effect that, "All philosophy is based on rational arguments." Professor Dennett then went on to explain that, in actuality, what people consider to be their consciousness is a, "bag of tricks."

Just before Halloween, Great healthy Pumpkin Stews: 1. with chicken, 2. Vegetarianr Two great healthy pumpkin stews, One with chicken, Second with chickpeas for vegetarian. Very healthy, very tasty and very easy to cook. Prepare for the great pumpkin taste. Pumpkin Chicken Stew The Ingredients: 2 chopped onions 2 tablespoons of olive oil 2 ¼ cups of water 4 potatoes cut into halves 2.2 pounds (1 kilo) of peeled diced pumpkin 1 tablespoon of sweet paprika 2 tablespoons of tomato paste 3-4 pieces of chicken (for those in diet you can remove the skin) 1 teaspoon of saltr

We live in a world where value is captured in thoughts or it goes unnoticed. Imagine really desiring something without being able to express it in words. Desires have power when they are put into words. Because our focus is on thinking most of the time , we would seldom strive for what we wanted if thoughts didn’t capture it. Thinking is the vehicle our consciousness travels in when our ego does the driving. That is how we get what we want…but that is actually a very small pa

We can all live with purpose because there is so much to live for. There are things we can pursue, discover, or accomplish that fill our lives with meaning and purpose. We can have vision for our lives, dream dreams, and fulfill our callings. There is always something for us to do. Pursuing interests, developing skills, setting goals, and prioritizing our time all help us to grow and give us something to anticipate. We can make each day count and live with purpose.

“Time for a change of scenery,” we told ourselves before arranging for a trip to Maui.

Our Intellect, regardless of how developed it is, seldom taps our powerful inner resources as we face challenges. The power of a confident self image is not an idea. The empowerment of simple self trust does not come from intellectual understanding. The ability to focus accurately does not come from reading a book. Our most useful life skills are developed as our past conditioning meets our challenges and we trust our deepest wisdom. Learning how to develop conscious habits g

Have you ever tucked a hotel towel in your suitcase? Tut, tut! It’s not an uncommon act. Regularly, we hear reports of millions of dollars worth of company property stolen by employees. Little violations happen very day like disappearing packages of paper, boxes of paper clips, file folders, and the occasional stapler and hole punch. Then there are the major breaches of public trust. Sherron Watkins was applauded on the cover of Time for whistle-blowing Enron’s big scam.

I recall as a teen my sister was an exchange student in France and since then I have always wanted to visit the historical country. I have plans to attend the upcoming Lille Metropole GospelFest. And I am now studying the city, country and language for the tour. Facts: The French are known to be vibrant and experts in the field of art. It is the foremost tourist destination of the world. Paris is called a place for lovers. France is known as the French Republic located in western Europe. Notre Dame Cathedral is in Paris which is the capital.r

"The first thing to do, when you find yourself in a hole, is to stop digging," quipped one of our most beloved figures from the past, Will Rogers. Our current nearest, less humorous, equivalent is to, "Think outside of the box." Just as people have a hard time understanding how they can, "think outside of the box," (because they don't understand that their Belief Systems are, "the box"), when in a hole, they can't figure out how to "stop digging," (because it is their habitual ways of functioning in the world, based on various Beliefs, that causes them to, "keep digging.").

To start taking responsibility for ourselves requires getting to know who we are. We take much for granted in our lives; the part we take most for granted is ourselves--who we are as individuals, and what we stand for, (believe in). The vast majority of what we believe, we have bee Indoctrinated/Programmed to believe. We literally live and die according to those beliefs. Therefore, in order to begin to take responsibly for our own lives, and discover, "who we are," we must discover what we believe.

My father called Mom and me, “The stupid females.” My grandma Effie, called Mom and me, “My darlings.” My husband calls me “Ma dear.” Some people think I am naïve and too nice. Others think I am delightful and kind. Some people think I am scattered and disorganized. Others think I am a creative genius. Yes, I have spent my fair share of time worrying about what people think of me. What’s the fear? The fear of: • being rejected or not accepted • having a poor reputation • feeing less than • being perceived as a failure or stupid • being unworthy

Hard work has a future payoff. Procrastination pays off NOW! The idea of using humor to enhance business, to increase creativity, to improve relationships, to minimize stress and to develop client attract-ability is not a new one. It’s been around for over twenty-five years. A 1985 survey by the staffing firm, Robert Haft International, concluded that only 15% of employees are fired because of incompetence. The remaining 85% are let go because of lack of people or social skills. They just plain do not get along with others.

“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘thank you,’ it will be enough.” Meister Eckhardt When was the last time you made note of your good fortune? It is the most economical and easily accessible way to avoid depression, especially in touch economic conditions. I feel grateful when I think of living in Canada, my supportive and long term marriage, the work I do, the welcoming places I have visited, my friends and the qualities I have had the privilege to develop.

Don’t some thoughts really bug you? They show up when you least need them and often won’t go away without some sort of force. So let’s look at these thoughts wandering around in our heads. Where do they come from?

Many of my students and clients admit that they are tired of working on themselves, because “self-improvement” causes them to feel like they should continuously be aspiring to be better, rather than affording opportunities to rest in who and where they are. I couldn’t agree more. Learning how to accept yourself as a work in progress, to cultivate compassion in place of criticism, and nurturing and nourishing instead of neglecting yourself, is what I consider living your life as “a path of enlightenment.”

Once upon a time there was a young man who was well known and very much respected throughout his community, as he was active in civic affairs and had done many good deeds. He went to church regularly and lived a good clean life. One night, at the early age of 42, he was stricken with a fatal heart attack and within minutes he passed into eternity. The town folk were shocked at the sudden death, and they all agreed that he had been such a good man – he surely would be missed

Self-care is the essential practice of engaging in regular activities or practices to reduce stress, maintain and enhance our physical, emotional, mental well-being and health. It’s learning to take care of yourself, knowing your limits, and not sacrificing your health for others. More people are learning about the importance of making sure they fill their own tank first. This can also be manifest in giving more importance to your own needs than to societal stigmas that you

Time has been called, "The 4th Dimension" by some thinkers, but, at minimum, it seems to shrink or expand, not obeying any kind of "Natural Law." Individually, few of us feel like we have enough of it to do all we want to do, let alone making space and time for ourselves.

Have you tried positive thinking, self talk, affirmations, read books on the power of suggestion, autosuggestion, watched "the secret" or taken courses on how to materialize your goals and are still waiting for results? If so, you may be positively surprised by what you're about to learn. ...

The benefits of meditation are many and varied from reducing stress, blood pressure, heart attacks, and strokes to increasing one’s cognition and creativity. As well meditation decreases our need for sleep by heightening our concentration, allowing us to be more productive. Ray Kroc, who took over McDonald’s in its early days and built it into a business of outstanding success, once reported that he’d spontaneously fall into states of meditative reverie during the day and thus didn’t need a lot of sleep.

I often see patients in my psychotherapy practice who are unable to make changes in their life and do not understand why they keep sabotaging their efforts. Usually this is due to a hidden resistance or unwholesome belief associated with the desired change. There are five hindrances that I’ve found to be particularly common in the experience of resisting needed or inevitable change: the hindrances of wanting, illusory thinking, sleeping mind, restlessness, and doubt.

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” Norman Vincent Peale Many times in life we face situations when everything is uncertain. We feel like we are lost in the dark and there is no hope to get out of it. We desperately need help from other people to take us out of dark, but we forget that we have light with us, within us. That light is nothing but belief in yourself. Belief that I can handle this and everything will be fine.

How do we overcome adversity? How do we create a life worth living? How do we manage to have more positive than negative emotions? How do we get happy and how do we stay happy, most of the time? See the answer below! Discovered: The Secret Ingredient to Happiness is Ourselves! As many of you ...