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Emotional eating is often an unhealthy and uncomfortable attempt of trying to distract ourselves from facing something we deem as unpleasant. So often we overeat without realizing we may be trying to cover up some level of insecurity. We may also be using food as a means to avoid doing ... Views: 13
The details related to our childhood, and things that we’ve experienced in the past, are still very much running in our subconscious minds. Our childhood memories are affecting how we are living our lives today. As children, we may have fallen out of the bed or down a flight of stairs. Or ... Views: 31
Waking up is like the sun rising. At first it's mostly dark, as glimmers of consciousness begin to light the shadows. Emerging into full wakefulness, the fogs and veils dissolve and the whole plain of your mind comes into view. It's quiet: a restedness in the body, sleepy still, not yet much ... Views: 13
Accept me as I am; whatever my faults may be, my weaknesses and my strengths. Like me and love me unconditionally. The old is the old, change has taken place, and time has put a divider in between friends.
Learn to look through new eyes, a new perspective, and with new hope. Look through ... Views: 21
Many people define themselves by their past. If you had physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in the past you are angry, depressed, anxious, resentful, mistrusting of people and can't do anything about it, it's just the way it is. However, more people now are discovering that you choose how you ... Views: 17
Negative thoughts seem to be a common experience that consumes many individuals' motivation and life energy. Is it actually normal to have negative thoughts floating through one's mind ever? Although many of you may think so in fact it is "not" normal! Here's why they're there and what you can ... Views: 32
I did my Ph.D. dissertation by videotaping 20 mother-toddler pairs and analyzing what happened when the mom offered an alternative to a problematic want ("not the chainsaw, sweetie, how about this red truck"). Hundreds of bleary eyed hours later, I found that offering alternatives reduced child ... Views: 17
Do you know that most of what commonly flows through the conscious mind are randomly generated negative thoughts that float up from the subconscious mind where they are generated by negative emotional baggage from early life? Do you know that baggage occurs in the form of negative early memories ... Views: 31
Negative thoughts seem to be a common experience that consumes many individuals' motivation and life energy. Is it actually normal to have negative thoughts floating through one's mind ever? Although many of you may think so in fact it is "not" normal! Here's why they're there and what you can ... Views: 36
Hustling through an airport, I stopped to buy some water. At the shop's refrigerator, a man was bent over, loading bottles into it. I reached past him and pulled out one he'd put in. He looked up, stopped working, got a bottle from another shelf, and held it out to me, saying "This one is cold." ... Views: 23
What Is The Moral of Your Story?
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
The answer to this intriguing title question ... Views: 66
The mind can play tricks on you. These tricks manifest themselves through your ability to spot imperfections that nobody else seems to notice. Many people want something more; want to be a little bit better and a little bit prettier. It seems like happiness and self-esteem depend on these ... Views: 47
Do you feel haunted by a harsh and punishing voice that comes after you whenever you make a mistake in your life? Do you feel like you're at the mercy of this internal berating energy? Does this voice undermine your self confidence, yourself worth, your self esteem, your sense of adequacy and ... Views: 42
So why is it that some individuals find themselves ravaged by a weakened will? To answer this it's necessary to understand the underlying causes of this problem. If you look at your own personal experience you'll readily see that your will is weakened by the multitude of other thoughts, emotions ... Views: 64
One time I watched a three-year-old at her birthday party. Her friends were there from preschool, and she received lots of presents. The cake came out, she admired the pink frosting rose at its center, and everyone sang. One of the moms cut pieces and without thinking sliced right through the ... Views: 28
The Myth of Elderly Care
There has been much discussion about the rising cost of care for our aging population. We read about peoples’ life savings being swallowed up and leaving incapacitated pensioners without support at a time when they are least able to negotiate for better ... Views: 56
Let’s face it–if we are stressed about work, we are also stressed in all areas of our life. Unless we change what we are holding in mind, we will continue to experience stress. Stress is an unnecessary choice that we are fueling by holding the wrong things in mind.
Job stress comes in many ... Views: 81
Perhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ... Views: 71
Is it really possible to permanently delete negative thoughts? Indeed it is and here's why.
Negative thoughts are life depleting and life derailing forms of energetic programming that are associated with their corresponding negative or traumatic memories that got "downloaded" into your ... Views: 45
I once heard that if you take away just one idea from every Self Help thing you do, you’ll soon have a blueprint for living that will allow you to become the person you've always wanted to be.
Perhaps there’s a Self Help seminar, a DVD, an Ebook or an Ecourse you’re considering. Try it. You ... Views: 55
When you're young, the territory of the psyche is like a vast estate, with rolling hills, forests and plains, swamps and meadows. So many things can be experienced, expressed, wanted, and loved.
But as life goes along, most people pull back from major parts of their psyche. Perhaps a swamp of ... Views: 33
The world is filled with people who are unhappy and even angry because they can’t get the love that they want. Most of us think that we need to do something different or be with someone different in order to get what we think we need—love from someone else. We have to be better, do more, achieve ... Views: 84
The human body has about 100 trillion cells (plus another ten quadrillion microscopic critters hitching a ride, most of them beneficial or harmless). Each one of your cells has aims - goals, in a sense - controlled by its DNA: cells conduct processes aimed at particular functions, like building ... Views: 40
Dear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ... Views: 68
A positive mind set is not only achievable it is your birthright. To learn why you are so sidelined by negative thinking and how to find the way home read this.
A positive "mind set" connotes a state of mind that includes such things as: clarity, peace of mind, the ability to focus, ... Views: 69
The issue of facing challenges is a very interesting point. Take a moment and check in with yourself and see “How do you face challenges?” Notice if any of these suggestions rang true with you:
* Avoid dealing with person or situation that feels challenged
* Complain about challenges
* ... Views: 98
"Tell the truth." It's the foundation of science, ethics, and relationships.
But we have a brain that evolved to tell lies to help us survive. As I've written before, over several hundred million years our ancestors:
* Had to avoid two kinds of mistakes: thinking there's a tiger in the ... Views: 45
Are you feeling controlled by negative self destructive thoughts, feelings and behaviors? Well if you'd like to learn where they come from and how you can permanently delete them so as to take back your mind read this.
Negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors, contrary to popular opinion, do ... Views: 46
Do you know that destructive negative thoughts have a life of their own? Do you know that such thoughts are not actually generated by you rather emerge like toxic fumes from the depths of your unconscious mind from negative memories of the past?
Do you know that as long as those memories ... Views: 90
Do you know how much of your time and energy is wasted by the constant flow of negative thoughts through your conscious mind? Do you know those thoughts behave like "friction" in the mind slowing you down and making life feel difficult and effortful? Do you know those thoughts undermine your ... Views: 75
Do you know that negative thoughts emerge steadily like toxic fumes from the subconscious mind and pollute one's conscious mind?
Do you know this flow undermines one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, energy, strength, optimism, sense of adequacy, courage, ability to make clear and ... Views: 88
Do you know that self sabotage is controlled by subconscious negative thoughts such as: I am unworthy, inadequate, undeserving, a loser, a failure, deficient, defective, incompetent, unlovable, bad and so on? Do you know such thoughts subtly derail any conscious efforts to achieve success and ... Views: 75
In deciding to review past resolutions, intentions or goals, means we are continuously willing to keep moving forward and challenge ourselves to be positive. We are determined to overcome whatever issue that we would like to resolve. If overeating, smoking, drinking, excess internet gaming, etc. ... Views: 127
Do you know that negative thoughts can be permanently, rapidly and effortlessly deleted from the conscious mind? Do you know that means they must first be deleted at their source?
Do you know that source resides in the subconscious mind? Do you know few know how to access that source and ... Views: 77
Stress kills. Maybe not directly but it is definitely one of the leading causes of ailments and diseases worldwide. There are many stress induced ailments that have great potentials of leading to early morbidity or, at the very least, make peoples live full of physical difficulties such as high ... Views: 105
Do you know that negative thoughts are like an internal "mental storm" that often never ends leaving one feeling hopeless, despairing and like giving up? Do you know it is possible to create perpetual sunshine of optimism, hope and enthusiasm for life even in the midst of the worst mental ... Views: 115
Do you know that negative thinking is automatically driven by subconscious programs that you have no control over? Do you know those programs are founded on a platform of early negative memories that play themselves out on the screen of your mind regularly? Do you know most people believe that ... Views: 118
Do you know most people believe that they have free will and are fully in control of the choices they make? Do you know this is absolutely false? Do you know that most of ones "choices" are directed by subconsciously stored programming that invisibly limits the natural expansiveness of your ... Views: 125
Do you know that there are 7 simple and irreversible steps to achieving a positive mindset that no one can take away from you? Do you know that these steps are based on a powerful new coaching modality that was developed a decade ago by a psychiatrist who gave up his entire practice after ... Views: 115
Do you know that automatic negative thoughts are not only beyond your control they also don't actually originate from you? Do you know they are generated by a subconsciously stored program that has its foundation in the cumulative negative memories from your Life History?
Do you know these ... Views: 115
Do you know that negative self talk consists of many internal voices in the back of your mind that regularly comment on how inadequate, worthless, useless, unattractive, vulnerable, undeserving, unsuccessful, ineffective, defective, deficient, incapable, incompetent, stupid etc. you are?
Do ... Views: 121
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs hide out in your subconscious mind and from there wreak havoc on your life? Do you know most people aren't even aware of the large repertoire of negative limiting beliefs they carry, only the carnage they leave behind?
Do you know such beliefs have ... Views: 120
Do you know that most individuals carry within them an internal critic that pervasively criticizes, judges, diminishes, undermines, and abuses (to name a few) you whenever it, not you, feels you have been anything less than perfect? Do you know this critic only serves to lower your self ... Views: 146
In response to my previous JOT - Find Stillness - a wise therapist, Betsy Sansby, reminded me that sometimes a person just can't find any stillness anywhere. Maybe you have epilepsy or chronic pain, or are wildly worried about a child or other loved one, or have been rejected in love or had the ... Views: 65
Do you know that negative thoughts are generated deep in your subconscious mind for the express reason of controlling you and your actions? Do you know this means you already live in a "Matrix-like" mental prison in which your mind has been violated without your knowledge or consent? Does this ... Views: 85
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs such as: I'm inadequate, I'm incapable, I'm a failure, I'm stupid, I'm defective, I'm lacking and so on are essentially hypnotic suggestions that get rooted in the subconscious mind as a result of negative or traumatic experiences had in early life? Do ... Views: 140
Awareness of our relationship to the child can help our inner transformation as part of our soul-search. It would also ensure that the child grows in an atmosphere of love unsullied by the grownup’s emotional attachment and self-interest. All in all, it is a sacred involvement.
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Do you know that like a puppet controlled by strings manipulated by an invisible puppet master subconscious negative programming works clandestinely from the deep recesses of your mind to usurp practically all control of your life away from you?
Do you know it also makes you believe that you ... Views: 132
If you haven’t yet recognized this fact, nothing good comes from being jealous. Jealousy is a deep-rooted emotion in the realm of pride. Jealousy damages relationships. Reasons for being jealous include: thinking we can’t have something… believing we aren’t good enough… lacking confidence ... Views: 195
So often we get so caught up in complaining that we forget that we have an option to choose to do something else. We have also conditioned ourselves to COMPLAIN about anything we dislike. And without realizing it, we have further given ourselves both a negative and deconstructive outlet in ... Views: 157