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I'm old enough to remember a time when people usually answered "good" when you asked them the standard, "How are you?" (often said "harya?"). These days the answer is commonly "busy."
In the last few months I've been very busy myself and starting to feel dispersed: juggling a dozen priorities ... Views: 6
Did you know that the absence of worry is the state of Supreme Self Confidence? So by getting rid of worry altogether means one can achieve this much treasured state. The only question, which I answer here, is how does one actually accomplish this?
Worry is a state which is supported by ... Views: 15
I'm doing a series on my personal top five practices (all tied for first place), and have so far named three: meditate (including mindfulness, self-awareness, and, if you like, prayer), take in the good, and bless (including compassion, generosity, and love).
I saw one way to bless on a ... Views: 13
When life hands out lemons, why not make lemonade! This approach is deciding to view all situations and circumstances as an opportunity of seeing everything in a good way. The more we practice viewing things positively will help us to shift our attitude away from ‘I can’t…’ towards “I can!”
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Lately, I've been wondering what would be on my personal list of top five practices (all tied for first place). You might ask yourself the same question, knowing that you can cluster related practices under a single umbrella, your list may differ from mine, and your practices may change over ... Views: 13
MoHow Posted By Dr. MO In my opinion life is much better for each one of us when we are able to identify negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones. Negative thinking is much too prevalent in our communications and our thinking and most people are actually unaware of ... Views: 43
Your environment and your behavior affect how you feel physically and emotionally. For example, if you are in a stressful environment at work and at home, you feel anger and anxiety which can make you prone to heart attack and any disease epidemic that there is. Whether it's the flu, a stomach ... Views: 37
Do you know that negative intrusive thoughts, although residing within your mind, don't actually originate from you? Do you know that all negative thoughts emerge from the subconscious mind where they are regularly produced and supported by negative memories of negative events that serve as the ... Views: 38
I had a powerful conversation with my counselor Eleanor a while back about insecurity. She said to me, "Mike when you're feeling insecure, it's important to understand which aspect of yourself is feeling insecure. The child within you is asking, 'Am I getting enough?' The adolescent within you ... Views: 53
Below is a 6 step Negative Belief Buster process…
Possibly the number one reason people do not reach their goals, or even attempt to reach them in many cases is – negative beliefs.
If you fall in to that category then in this post I aim to give you some tactics to move past ... Views: 54
If you’re expecting good things most of the time, please stop right in this moment and give yourself a pat on the back! Bravo to you! Realistically we should all be expecting good things at all times. Truth appears that most times, most folks tend to expect somewhat unfortunate outcomes. Think ... Views: 54
Meditation is to the mind what aerobic exercise is to the body. Like exercise, there are many good ways to do it and you can find the one that suits you best.
Studies have shown that regular meditation promotes mindfulness (sustained observing awareness), whose benefits include decreased ... Views: 18
If your typical day involves lunching ‘Al Desko’ and your idea of a quick break is to grab another double espresso, perhaps it’s time to rethink your stress management strategy and incorporate this little ‘chill pill’ into your daily routine.
Dubbed a ‘mini vacation’ this is like the little ... Views: 54
Feeling both the world and myself these days, one phrase keeps calling: lived by love.
Explicitly, this means coming from love in a broad sense, from compassion, good intentions, self-control, warmth, finding what's to like, caring, connecting, and kindness.
Implicitly, and more ... Views: 37
It seems like almost everyone has some ideas related to time management. And realistically most of us are still not sure how to consistently manage our time. How about instead of managing our time, that we choose to make better use of our time?! Perhaps you might agree, that when we are in ... Views: 83
Many times we blame outside circumstances and other people for our own stagnant position in life. We remain stuck because we have not basically said "yes" to our goals or to whatever is calling us. It is so easy to indict a bad childhood, a divorce or some other force for our failure to ... Views: 36
One slice of the pie of life feels relaxed and contented. And then there is that other slice, in which we feel driven and stressed. Trying to get pleasures, avoid pains, pile up accomplishments and recognitions, be loved by more people. Lose more weight, try to fill the hole in the heart. Slake ... Views: 32
MoStory Posted bt Dr. MO One day all the employees of a large company reached their head office and when they walked through the front entrance they saw a big notice board on which was written: “Yesterday the one person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We ... Views: 73
[If for you the breath is associated with trauma and discomfort, you probably shouldn't try this practice in its form below. But you might adapt it to something that is more nurturing for you, such as a saying or image.]
Breathing brings you home. Body and mind twine together in the breath. ... Views: 39
Emotional eating is often an unhealthy and uncomfortable attempt of trying to distract ourselves from facing something we deem as unpleasant. So often we overeat without realizing we may be trying to cover up some level of insecurity. We may also be using food as a means to avoid doing ... Views: 113
The details related to our childhood, and things that we’ve experienced in the past, are still very much running in our subconscious minds. Our childhood memories are affecting how we are living our lives today. As children, we may have fallen out of the bed or down a flight of stairs. Or ... Views: 101
Waking up is like the sun rising. At first it's mostly dark, as glimmers of consciousness begin to light the shadows. Emerging into full wakefulness, the fogs and veils dissolve and the whole plain of your mind comes into view. It's quiet: a restedness in the body, sleepy still, not yet much ... Views: 43
Accept me as I am; whatever my faults may be, my weaknesses and my strengths. Like me and love me unconditionally. The old is the old, change has taken place, and time has put a divider in between friends.
Learn to look through new eyes, a new perspective, and with new hope. Look through ... Views: 73
Many people define themselves by their past. If you had physical, emotional, or sexual abuse in the past you are angry, depressed, anxious, resentful, mistrusting of people and can't do anything about it, it's just the way it is. However, more people now are discovering that you choose how you ... Views: 57
Negative thoughts seem to be a common experience that consumes many individuals' motivation and life energy. Is it actually normal to have negative thoughts floating through one's mind ever? Although many of you may think so in fact it is "not" normal! Here's why they're there and what you can ... Views: 83
I did my Ph.D. dissertation by videotaping 20 mother-toddler pairs and analyzing what happened when the mom offered an alternative to a problematic want ("not the chainsaw, sweetie, how about this red truck"). Hundreds of bleary eyed hours later, I found that offering alternatives reduced child ... Views: 41
Do you know that most of what commonly flows through the conscious mind are randomly generated negative thoughts that float up from the subconscious mind where they are generated by negative emotional baggage from early life? Do you know that baggage occurs in the form of negative early memories ... Views: 73
Negative thoughts seem to be a common experience that consumes many individuals' motivation and life energy. Is it actually normal to have negative thoughts floating through one's mind ever? Although many of you may think so in fact it is "not" normal! Here's why they're there and what you can ... Views: 76
Hustling through an airport, I stopped to buy some water. At the shop's refrigerator, a man was bent over, loading bottles into it. I reached past him and pulled out one he'd put in. He looked up, stopped working, got a bottle from another shelf, and held it out to me, saying "This one is cold." ... Views: 46
What Is The Moral of Your Story?
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
The answer to this intriguing title question ... Views: 166
The mind can play tricks on you. These tricks manifest themselves through your ability to spot imperfections that nobody else seems to notice. Many people want something more; want to be a little bit better and a little bit prettier. It seems like happiness and self-esteem depend on these ... Views: 80
Do you feel haunted by a harsh and punishing voice that comes after you whenever you make a mistake in your life? Do you feel like you're at the mercy of this internal berating energy? Does this voice undermine your self confidence, yourself worth, your self esteem, your sense of adequacy and ... Views: 88
So why is it that some individuals find themselves ravaged by a weakened will? To answer this it's necessary to understand the underlying causes of this problem. If you look at your own personal experience you'll readily see that your will is weakened by the multitude of other thoughts, emotions ... Views: 131
One time I watched a three-year-old at her birthday party. Her friends were there from preschool, and she received lots of presents. The cake came out, she admired the pink frosting rose at its center, and everyone sang. One of the moms cut pieces and without thinking sliced right through the ... Views: 48
The Myth of Elderly Care
There has been much discussion about the rising cost of care for our aging population. We read about peoples’ life savings being swallowed up and leaving incapacitated pensioners without support at a time when they are least able to negotiate for better ... Views: 109
Let’s face it–if we are stressed about work, we are also stressed in all areas of our life. Unless we change what we are holding in mind, we will continue to experience stress. Stress is an unnecessary choice that we are fueling by holding the wrong things in mind.
Job stress comes in many ... Views: 137
Perhaps you’ll agree that when something is bothering you, it prevents you from being at peace. In truth, the more we try to figure out “what-to-do” or “what-not-to-do” actually keeps the situation from changing. Take a moment and look at this consideration more carefully. Whatever we are ... Views: 125
Is it really possible to permanently delete negative thoughts? Indeed it is and here's why.
Negative thoughts are life depleting and life derailing forms of energetic programming that are associated with their corresponding negative or traumatic memories that got "downloaded" into your ... Views: 74
I once heard that if you take away just one idea from every Self Help thing you do, you’ll soon have a blueprint for living that will allow you to become the person you've always wanted to be.
Perhaps there’s a Self Help seminar, a DVD, an Ebook or an Ecourse you’re considering. Try it. You ... Views: 91
When you're young, the territory of the psyche is like a vast estate, with rolling hills, forests and plains, swamps and meadows. So many things can be experienced, expressed, wanted, and loved.
But as life goes along, most people pull back from major parts of their psyche. Perhaps a swamp of ... Views: 50
The world is filled with people who are unhappy and even angry because they can’t get the love that they want. Most of us think that we need to do something different or be with someone different in order to get what we think we need—love from someone else. We have to be better, do more, achieve ... Views: 123
The human body has about 100 trillion cells (plus another ten quadrillion microscopic critters hitching a ride, most of them beneficial or harmless). Each one of your cells has aims - goals, in a sense - controlled by its DNA: cells conduct processes aimed at particular functions, like building ... Views: 57
Dear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ... Views: 97
A positive mind set is not only achievable it is your birthright. To learn why you are so sidelined by negative thinking and how to find the way home read this.
A positive "mind set" connotes a state of mind that includes such things as: clarity, peace of mind, the ability to focus, ... Views: 111
The issue of facing challenges is a very interesting point. Take a moment and check in with yourself and see “How do you face challenges?” Notice if any of these suggestions rang true with you:
* Avoid dealing with person or situation that feels challenged
* Complain about challenges
* ... Views: 139
"Tell the truth." It's the foundation of science, ethics, and relationships.
But we have a brain that evolved to tell lies to help us survive. As I've written before, over several hundred million years our ancestors:
* Had to avoid two kinds of mistakes: thinking there's a tiger in the ... Views: 59
Are you feeling controlled by negative self destructive thoughts, feelings and behaviors? Well if you'd like to learn where they come from and how you can permanently delete them so as to take back your mind read this.
Negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors, contrary to popular opinion, do ... Views: 73
Do you know that destructive negative thoughts have a life of their own? Do you know that such thoughts are not actually generated by you rather emerge like toxic fumes from the depths of your unconscious mind from negative memories of the past?
Do you know that as long as those memories ... Views: 129
Do you know how much of your time and energy is wasted by the constant flow of negative thoughts through your conscious mind? Do you know those thoughts behave like "friction" in the mind slowing you down and making life feel difficult and effortful? Do you know those thoughts undermine your ... Views: 115
Do you know that negative thoughts emerge steadily like toxic fumes from the subconscious mind and pollute one's conscious mind?
Do you know this flow undermines one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, energy, strength, optimism, sense of adequacy, courage, ability to make clear and ... Views: 126