Does your sex life have about as much dazzle as an old, beat up penny? Do you love your partner, but feel sad that sex just isn’t the same as it used to be? It doesn’t have to be that way. Here are the top 8 ways to put the passion back into your relationship.
1. Plan for passion. Maybe you don’t remember, but some of your best lovemaking sessions happened when you knew you had a special date. Spontaneity is nice because it doesn’t happen that often. So, plan.
2. Make your partner feel wanted. Tell your partner they’re hot, sexy, and gorgeous and that you can’t wait to get them alone—and mean it.
3. Stay fit. If you have a paunch, it isn’t fair to complain about your partner’s pot belly being a turn off. You should both make a commitment to keep your bodies in decent shape for yourselves and for one another.
4. Admit your feelings. No point hiding your boredom. If you haven’t said anything yet, do. Your partner might feel the same way. Now you can work on having some fun together.
5. Go exploring. You may think you know every inch of your partner’s body, but I’ll bet you don’t. When was the last time you kissed your partner’s ankle? The inside of their thigh? The nape of their neck? Either find body parts you’ve missed, or go back and revisit a few faves.
7. Do something new. No, not a new toy, potion, or lotion. Something more exhilarating. Go mountain-biking together. Play tennis. Try a Vietnamese restaurant. Something to wake up all of your senses, not just your privates.
8. Use fantasy. And use it together. Tell one another your most erotic ideas. (Best to leave out relatives and close neighbors, though!) Make a rule that there’s no judgment, and that you don’t have to act them out. Maybe you’ll see that your partner’s mind is a whole lot sexier than you realized.
Eight ideas for pumping up passion, but surely you can think of more. When it comes to sex, humans are very creative creatures! Let go of your inhibitions, and you’ll probably find out that there’s lots more you can do to ignite a sex life that’s gone cold.
You can learn more about passionate sex by downloading Dr. Stephanie Buehler’s free e-book, Sexual Discoveries, at yourpassionexpert.com. Dr. Buehler is a leading psychologist, sex therapist, author, and speaker, and Director of The Buehler Institute in Irvine, CA.