Are you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people?
Have you found yourself repeatedly 'falling in love' with an unavailable person? Have you wondered why you keep doing this?
This is the question Wanda asked:
"What about our wounded self causes us to attach so ... Views: 6
You've met someone that you believe is your twin soul and it feels like your whole world’s changed. You feel this incredible love and desire to be with them which is unlike anything you’ve ever experienced. It feels like you’ve known them all your life, even if you’ve just met and you can’t ... Views: 4
Modern day technology has not only had an impact on how relationships begin, it has also had an impact on how they end. In the past, one would have met someone in person and then it would have been possible for them to develop a relationship or something more casual.
Nowadays, the first step ... Views: 9
Just got a breakup? There is no problem when you know how to recover from a breakup quickly.
In this article, you will get some of the best tips on breakups. These will help you to get over a broken heart in almost no time. Getting over a breakup won’t take that much long time. So follow ... Views: 9
Everyone knows that dealing with breakups is always hard. There is not so good advice on how to handle breakups on media. Therefore, most people handle breakups in a wrong way and they suffer that much.
Anyway, if you are struggling to handle a breakup, follow these tips. You will feel better ... Views: 8
Whether you’ve been married for one year, ten, or fifty, your wedding anniversary should be a special day every year. It’s a time set aside to remember your promises to each other, and enjoy the company you decided to keep years ago. Don’t confine yourself to just dinner and a movie, here are a ... Views: 10
On one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen.
However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ... Views: 12
If one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience.
And when they feel good, there is not ... Views: 12
Among many major festivals in the world, Eid is known as one of the biggest festivals. Muslims across the globe celebrate this festival with a great zeal and fervor. It is a day that celebrated at the end of holy month of Ramadan. Muslims keep fast from dawn to dusk and offer prayers to almighty ... Views: 17
As a man, one of the hardest things to do is to get over a girl who has cheated on you. Remember that she was the one who cheated on you and dumped you for somebody else.
It hurts your ego to a great extent.
Some guys call and text their exes in such a way to make them regret about their ... Views: 28
Fear of an uncertain future can stop us from doing great things, and it can keep us holding onto things and habits that are hurting us. Today I will share 5 steps to deal with separation and divorce anxiety.
I think it is fair to say, that the majority of us from time to time wonder what the ... Views: 21
Are you struggling to forgive your ex or current partner for something they did?
Are you still carrying a grudge, feel resentment or anger towards them?
In all romantic relationships (past and present) there will be times where the one you love will hurt you. It could be something small, ... Views: 20
You surely don’t want to end up looking and feeling unattractive, especially when you want a stable relationship with a woman. It is profoundly significant to know what is it exactly that a woman notices in a man when she is meeting him for the first time. Of course, the first impression may not ... Views: 36
It was always one of the more depressing aspects of aging, at least to me... an inevitable loss of "manliness" and potency as one gets older. Well the good news is, a decrease in testosterone levels is NOT something that has to be accepted as you age.
Studies have shown that it is ... Views: 36
There are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ... Views: 31
Have you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you?
Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic.
This was very confusing to ... Views: 26
There are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ... Views: 37
Q & A with a Dr. Romance reader:
Q: I would like your advice and input. I have been working in business for 12 years as a CPA and have recently been quite frustrated with it. Recently I did some career/interests/aptitude testing and found that the work I do now is pretty much what I ... Views: 41
Dear Dr. Romance:
I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ... Views: 28
The revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote:
“We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings”
I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ... Views: 36
You’ve read the dating articles. You feel armed with enough of the “right” questions to ask so you’ll never get fooled again.
You know to ask about their values, recent breakup, favorite music and movies, where they live, what they do for a living and whether they like animals and their ... Views: 27
If someone loves you then they do. If they don’t then they don’t. That’s it.
However, it is utterly painful to forget someone who doesn’t love you.
It’s hard to see that your LOVE is not returning the feelings to you. I was in the same situation. I felt a lot for her but she always ... Views: 32
It’s hard to admit, but…
You’ve been lying to yourself about your partner.
There’s an ever-widening gap between the person you want him to be and the person he really is.
You have an idea of what constitutes a healthy relationship, yet you forgive your partner when he commits serious ... Views: 21
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Narcissistic parents of seriously ill children derive narcissistic supply from onlookers, friends, family, colleagues, and community by attracting attention to their role as saintly caretakers. They are demonstratively and ... Views: 31
Friendships are an important part of being healthy, but they can be rough too. Most people change over time and this affects their relationships, including with their friends.
As a parent, it can be hard to watch your child go through a difficult time with their friends pulling away -- even ... Views: 42
Restorative Justice is a discipline program that is gaining support in urban schools across the nation. The reason it is gaining acceptance is that a disproportionate number of minority students are being punished for inappropriate and irresponsible school behaviors, and federal guidelines are ... Views: 32
Women Embrace Your Truths
1. Never Give Up on Your Dreams
It is okay to help your man achieve his dreams but never ever give up on your own.
Your dreams are just as important as his dreams.
It is okay to encourage him to achieve his ultimate goals but do not lose sight of your own ... Views: 36
While some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment.
However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ... Views: 57
We all need a minimum sense of safety and security to relax and get on with our life, whatever we are doing. That level will vary from person to person but the need is universal.
The following story is typical and scenarios similar to this get played out in many relationships.
Michael ... Views: 68
Child custody remains one of the biggest issues the family court system has to deal with every day. When a couple decides to divorce the court has to determine who will live with the children of the marriage, who will pay for their upkeep as well as what would be in their best interest. Child ... Views: 30
Are you addicted to fixing others? Do you believe this is loving rather than controlling?
Many of us were raised to base our identity on helping or fixing others. Fixing others is often the addiction of choice for people who have a naturally deep level of empathy and who easily feel ... Views: 54
Dr. Romance writes:
Many of my clients have come in complaining of a lack of motivation; from not being motivated enough on the job, to not being able to diet, quit smoking, or get out of bed in the morning. They desire to achieve both positive and negative motivations — positive motivations ... Views: 62
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ... Views: 49
One of the most powerful ways I found to stop being a doormat in relationships was to learn emotional self-control. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she can easily draw you into a fight that stops you both from focusing on fixing the problem.
Self-control is not easy. In ... Views: 50
When you expect to get the love you didn’t get as a child from your partner, you are stuck in the pattern of hope and struggle that you cannot win. This is a pattern that is created in childhood that seeps into our relationships (as most patterns do). The pattern comes about because the love we ... Views: 65
A lot of things in your life have probably started to slow down as you’ve aged. Maybe your digestion isn’t as effective and running around isn’t as easy. These are to be expected as we grow old. But there’s one aspect in our life that can actually get better over the years and that’s intimacy ... Views: 48
Divorce is never an easy process, and it becomes even more difficult when there are children involved. Here are five steps you and your soon-to-be ex need to take so your children go through the experience with as little trauma as possible.
Keep the conflict away from your children
You and ... Views: 47
Sending online greeting cards has become a popular trend in the recent years. With the help of advanced technology, you can reach out to your dear ones with your warmest wishes whenever you want.
If you think that you will miss the opportunity to hold that paper greeting card and give it to ... Views: 36
No matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted.
And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ... Views: 66
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The narcissist regards his disabled or challenged child as an insult, a direct challenge to his self-perceived perfection and omnipotence, a constant, nagging source of negative narcissistic supply, and the reification and ... Views: 46
Everyone wish to have a beautiful home which is decorated with beautiful decorative entities of their choice. Though, there are numerous ways and infinite ideas available, you can use your creative side and accentuate your home interiors with simple and eye-pleasing things. Rugs are one of such ... Views: 28
If anyone googles "Stephanie Adams" they will find that I am the first Playboy Centerfold to come "out" as a lesbian...who eventually married a man and started a family. Is sexuality "fluid", something that is forever changing, never the same? I will elaborate more on that topic...Sexuality is ... Views: 59
For over two decades Coach Hu Dalconzo, along with his staff of HuMethod™ Spiritual Life Coaches have demonstrated time and again that their well field-tested coaching exercises will create Permanent Behavioral Change for anyone who is willing to internalize and emotionalize them as ... Views: 51
How it feels when you receive a warm message from your friend, brother, sister or mother? certainly, you feel very happy, loved and remembered. Your message for your loved ones conveys your emotions and feelings towards them. A value of beautiful message that conveys love and care cannot be ... Views: 43
So you loved someone from the bottom of your heart, but he didn’t care about it.
Or maybe you just got a devastating breakup. Either situation sucks, doesn’t it?
However, do you know that it isn’t end of the world? There is a high possibility that you will find someone better than that ... Views: 68
Dear Dr. Romance :
I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ... Views: 79
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am having issues with my boyfriend. I was searching something on WebMD and found an article that spoke of your book How to Be a Couple and Still be Free. I started doing some research on you and your other books (It Ends With You, How To Be A Couple and Still Be Free, ... Views: 61
Greetings are vital to make that first good impression, establish good relationships with your loved ones and set a positive tone for any conversation whether it is with your friend, boss or client. If you want to be an effective personality, you should not ignore the importance of greetings. ... Views: 44
“The trees do not hold on to dead leaves but lose them in order to create room for new ones. We can learn from this, by letting go of the past and focusing on the now. We cannot change the past but we can make the present and future brighter and better not bitter.” ~ Kemi Sogunle
We all go ... Views: 52
There is a hidden source of power or pain that often goes unaddressed by many individuals. Truth is expectations can have a far-reaching impact on how people live their lives and the goodies they reap along the way. Expectations are assumptions about the future – what will occur or what should ... Views: 58