I thought if I played by the rules and did everything the way THEY said I should like a good little Catholic girl, I’d feel safe. I’d grow up, get married and have lots of kids like my Mom and live happily ever after.
Why would I even think that since Mom wasn’t living happily ever ... Views: 1
The idea of detachment mesmerized me when I heard about it in Al-Anon. To let go of the ones you love seemed unloving and uncaring and certainly not Christian. But it also seemed to be the NIRVANA you could reach even while living with an alcoholic.
I detached from my alcoholic father by ... Views: 1
Could it be that all of our problems stem from not listening to God? If prayer is talking to God and intuition is God talking to us, maybe we need to listen more. When I was in the midst of my crazy life with alcoholics from my father to my husbands, I felt abandoned by God because I prayed and ... Views: 1
There is a big difference between wanting to experience a sense of control over one’s life, and wanting to control other people. When one experiences a sense of control over their life, it means that they’re not going to feel as though they have no control and as though they are a victim.
... Views: 5
What do “sexy” women do differently?
Have you ever seen a woman who is physically less-than-perfect, maybe touting a larger schnozz or carrying an extra ponch, and yet somehow she manages to steal all of the glances in the room -- oozing sex appeal?
On the other hand, the physically ... Views: 6
Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re staying in a troubled relationship because you’re addicted or in love? It’s complicated, and lust and love and addiction don’t always exclude one another. Endless ... Views: 9
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships?
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ... Views: 3
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet.
How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes ... Views: 4
Talking sweet is about finding your "sugar" even if you're not happy and want to discuss a problem with your man. This is about speaking your power and speaking from your feminine.
Using words describing your feelings in order to say what does not feel good to your man is how you talk ... Views: 40
Dear Dr. Romance:
My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were ... Views: 25
Addiction is a serious problem that affects millions of people all over the world, and it isn’t exclusive to just adults. There are even children and teens out there addicted to prescription and illegal drugs.
That’s one of the main reasons that family life is getting so much scrutiny when it ... Views: 13
When life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ages of 12 and 18. ... Views: 18
Have you ever noticed that the best speaking voices in the business are deep, rich, and warm? Think of those actors – both men and women – who are known for having a great sound. Who is your favorite? James Earl Jones or Sean Connery or George Clooney? How about Angelina Jolie, Felicia ... Views: 43
When you go for shopping, you come across many products of your choice and you choose something that you like obviously in terms of beauty, quality, and price. When you have no choice available, you go to the item you are in need of. When there are some choices, you do a little comparison of ... Views: 31
While one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive.
And if this was an area of life that ... Views: 21
Life, to many, seems like it is a series of popularity contests. The only people who don’t like popularity contests are those that either believe they will lose them, or worse, do lose them. They hold their breath each time they walk into a room, get up to speak, raise their hand in class or go ... Views: 39
Sometimes, when you hear devastating news about someone you love, you know what you feel in your heart, but the right words don’t come forth or they just don’t sound right or the wrong words are spoken. If this happens, don’t despair. It is not a relationship that is now lost. Look at it as ... Views: 59
There's a lot of misinformation about divorce, and Dr. Romance would like to clear up some of the confusion.
Here are 11 things people will not tell you about divorce.
1. Divorce will not make you happier, unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship.2. Divorce sometimes seems ... Views: 44
It is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier.
This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ... Views: 34
Often you lose two things in a divorce: your marriage and what feels like a piece of your identity. Marriage has a funny way of making two people seem inextricable, two sides of the same coin to use a cliché. But then somewhere in the marriage, its sanctity fell apart and you’re left wondering ... Views: 22
My interest was piqued when I saw the commercials for the new ABC series called “Selfie.” The new series starred Karen Gillan, a Scottish actress who I knew because she starred in my favorite TV show of all time, Doctor Who. It also starred John Cho an actor whom I knew from the reboot movie ... Views: 51
It’s starting in only a couple of weeks. You’ve starved yourself to fit into the outrageous Halloween costume you’ve chosen this year, your Thanksgiving plans are set, the talk in your office is already about plans for the end of the year celebration, and before you know it, it’ll be time once ... Views: 39
What is PLAY?
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Play is simply a time for kids to use their toys and have fun ... or at least that's how it seems.
One day I watched my three children play. My eldest boy, Miggy (7 years old) took out his lego blocks while his younger siblings, Julia and Mikee surrounded him. ... Views: 34
We all have different kinds of mind-sets, personalities, attitudes, beliefs, values, predispositions, perceptual tendencies, and habits overall. We live by our behavioural, cognitive and emotional trails in one way or the other. These traits are our identity, pride, recognition, esteem, and ... Views: 40
Dear Dr. Romance:
I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ... Views: 59
Want to be powerful in your relationships? Learn emotional self-control. Learning to take charge of your emotions means you can’t be “set off” by someone else. You control your reactions, they don’t control you. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she ... Views: 54
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your Dr Romance Blog and a small paragraph on "10 Reasons to Dump a Guy." I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I ... Views: 37
Many people feel trapped in a relationship, yet fail to do anything about it.
The reasons for staying stuck are numerous, including assuming it’s better for the children to stay, illness or lack of physical mobility or stamina, financial restrictions, fear of retaliation, fear of being ... Views: 24
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Positive feelings (about oneself or pertaining to one's accomplishments, assets, etc.) – are never gained merely through conscious endeavor. They are the outcome of insight. A cognitive component (factual knowledge regarding ... Views: 34
Consider the following examples for a while:
a. You are on your way and you come across a mother with her sweet toddler child. You start cuddling him/her and ignore the mother totally (no eye contact)
b. You meet someone you know on your way, with his or her spouse. For you, the spouse is a ... Views: 48
“You cannot change the people around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.” -Unknown
Human consciousness is shifting. We are splitting in two very different ways as a society. While one group moves closer to chaos, war, violence, and consumerism, the other is shifting ... Views: 45
"We are our own dragons as well as our own heroes, and we have to rescue ourselves from ourselves.” – Tom Robbins, Still Life with Woodpecker
I’ve walked away from many relationships, both platonic and romantic, over the past two years. Those people may never understand my decisions, but I ... Views: 68
Human beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling.
For instance, one could be in a relationship and ... Views: 73
It is a parent’s responsibility to educate their children about the dangers of drunk driving before they hit the road intoxicated. A single conversation can save countless lives, but the talk can be difficult. Here are some tips for persuading them of the undeniable dangers:
Stay ... Views: 27
If you want to be a cool person who other people like, respect, and gravitate toward, there are just five key things you need to do to make that happen.
But before I tell you what they are, let's first define what or who a cool person is.
And the best way to do that is to first reveal what ... Views: 79
Despite how it appears on the 24-hour news channels, domestic violence is not likely to be any more prevalent between professional athletes and their partners as in relationships in other segments of society.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time and does not respect age, gender, ... Views: 21
Maybe it’s just me. But lately, I’ve run into far too many people who I would best describe as “life-diminishing.” They are filled with judgments, criticisms, and negativity. They are quick to tell others what they must do, what they must refrain from doing, what they should and shouldn’t do, ... Views: 74
Years ago, I could not find my feelings.
I could give you words for miles, but I couldn’t tell you how I felt.
Even in romantic settings I didn't know how to say what I felt.
This is all in hindsight.
Once I understood that at any given moment there's a mixture of feelings going ... Views: 48
For the past twenty years when I present to mental health providers on how to develop, manage, and market a private practice I always ask members of the audience to raise their hand if they practice without an assistant. Depending on the group and location, typically half or even more of the ... Views: 30
Shopping for a birthday or holiday gift for your significant other can leave you with the gift day blues. There are only so many times that you can give him tickets to a game or a gift card before even he'll start rolling his eyes. This year you can surprise him with something completely ... Views: 62
Your 25th wedding anniversary is a huge milestone indicating a deep and beautiful commitment. Show your spouse you still know how to spice things up with an amazing anniversary surprise.
A Surprise Trip
A little quality time in an exciting location is a great way to reconnect without the ... Views: 46
In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ... Views: 48
How parents introduce their children to others impact on their personalities strongly. There are many examples that may clarify the concept better. Let us consider:
A parent is introducing his/her child to his/her relative/friend and says with a smiling face-
a. She is too aggressive. ... Views: 41
Human beings have the need to reach out and to connect and the need to pull away and be by themselves. This is normal and the amount of time that is required with another and by oneself is naturally going to vary from person to person. It can come down to what is going in their life and how they ... Views: 41
These quick tips will help you re-activate your sex life.
Is your sex life going down the drain?
Do you think you're losing the sex-edge and need to quickly get back on the pleasure track?
Don't worry... here comeWha'andato the rescue.
Here are 3 quick tips you should try ... Views: 39
Do you ever feel stressed out about the demands of day-to-day life?
My clients Ava and Leo were doing their best to balance high-pressure jobs with the needs of two school-aged kids and time for themselves.
Their work got done, and well. But the number of tasks they juggled every day made ... Views: 49
Getting ready for the big day can be tremendously stressful. Every wedding photographer has a lot of experience based on observations. If you want to simplify the task of planning the perfect wedding and having a great time throughout the day, you can rely on the following wedding photographer ... Views: 26
Dear Dr. Romance:
For several years, I’d been a self proclaimed lesbian who was only attracted to women and only involved in intimate relationships with women (the idea of intimacy with a man, even when one hit on me in public, literally made me nauseous)The one exception was my childhood ... Views: 61
Divorce can be a uniquely painful affair, especially for the children involved in a couple’s separation. To avoid inflicting any additional trauma, it is smart to calmly discuss the issue beforehand. Here are some tips for easing the talk:
Emphasize Personal Importance
Stress their ... Views: 45