While there are some people who are able to receive, there are others who are unable to do so. What this means is that although someone needs something, it is not possible for them to have it.
There are then going to be others who experience life differently, and it will be possible for them ... Views: 2
What happens in your relationships when you try to get your point across to someone who isn't open to your point of view?
One of the situations that often creates relationship conflict is when you become devoted to getting your point across.
Most ... Views: 14
Dating is no longer, what it used to be. You also have to realize that your boyfriend or girlfriend had his or her own friends’ priority to meeting you. Dating is about learning and exploring the possibilities that exist in a relationship and figuring out if the relationship can move to the next ... Views: 11
When a woman sees her husband is touched with tenderness toward her from Scripture and that he prays for God's blessing on their marriage, her heart is touched and she may even weep with love for God and him. This could be a secret wish or unidentified need of half the world's ... Views: 8
Ask yourself how well do you really know your kids? Do you know their favourite T.V. show, favourite singer or group, do you even know their favourite genre of music, or something as simple as their favourite colour. You would be surprised by the amount of parents or caregivers who do not know ... Views: 25
1. Stop asking “Where do we stand?”
This question lets me know that the terms of our relationship are up to my own standards.
2. Stop being so predictable!
I don’t need to know your every move. Besides you’re not my wife yet.
3. Respect my time and privacy.
Don’t assume I will always ... Views: 23
In my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ... Views: 20
Dr. Romance writes:
Telling a guy you won't stand for cheating is a waste of time. Instead, be open and accepting, and encourage him to talk about his sexual exploits. If he's cheated before, he probably will cheat again. The best protection against cheating is to have open and frank ... Views: 15
With so many demands on our time these days, even people in loving relationships often find it difficult to make the time or effort to show their mates how much they appreciate them. In many households, the roles we play and the things we do to fulfill those roles are expected and taken for ... Views: 25
Many parents want to teach their children at home, rather than turn over their instruction to a traditional public or private school. These parents often do not like the local school systems or live in a remote area, making traveling to school difficult. Additional reasons for homeschooling ... Views: 21
Every woman or man wants a pair of good shoes. No one would buy smaller-sized shoes or an uncomfortable pair to start with. We all like to mix and match while ensuring that we stand out at any event we attend.
Just like shoes, no one wants to be with the wrong partner. Here are three reasons ... Views: 31
The Narcissist in Custody Battles
Presentation made by Sam Vaknin
Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited”
In the 11th Annual and First International
Battered Mothers Custody Conference
HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN
1. ... Views: 28
According to the CDC: In 2013 (the most recent year for which full data are available), 41,149 suicides were reported, making suicide the 10th leading cause of death for Americans. In that year, someone in the country died by suicide every 12.9 minutes.
I read an article online about a young ... Views: 17
Speaking about social change and social justice can have dangerous consequences.
It can be dangerous if you speak out as someone who is or has been affected by the injustice.
People laugh at you.
They try to ignore you.
They try to say that “something is wrong with you”.
They try to say ... Views: 23
___________________________________________________________________Do you have the courage to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you?___________________________________________________________________
"I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the ... Views: 37
Relationships are relentless in mirroring back to us all that we need to be aware of, heal and transform. The common trap is to make the other person wrong and believe they need to change in some way for the relationship to improve. Truly transformational growth comes when we accept that they ... Views: 36
With the hectic 24/7 lifestyles in today’s modern world, parents of all different ages, cultures and backgrounds are routinely faced with multiple and often competing demands. With so many responsibilities and distractions from different sources, life can and does get overwhelming. Many times ... Views: 24
When two people enter into a relationship, it’s my belief they enter with intentions to freely share love, resources and energy with their mate. This mutual exchange of love, resources and energy cultivates fertile ground for the best friendships and love relationships ... Views: 23
I am willing to wager that you have a secret.
Your secret is a story--or many stories--that culminate in a shameful "truth" about yourself and who you think you are. You go through life hoping nobody discovers this truth. It would all fall apart if everybody figured out what you "really" ... Views: 20
What if there were no television, no Internet, and no parenting books?
What would we do differently?
Would we treat each other with more compassion? Would we feel better about ourselves? Would we have less anger?
How would we raise our children, if we weren't constantly being told that ... Views: 34
Relationships with other sentient beings always depend on the Law of Cause and Effect and the Laws of Vibration and Correspondence.
In particular, the causes driven by one’s intention that one sets in motion when dealing with other beings will have an effect and shape what kind of relationship ... Views: 22
Dear Dr. Romance:
THANK YOU so much for this dating tip! My girlfriend sent me your article "You Be The Judge" yesterday. I needed this. I dated this African guy for 4 months, 3 weeks in which we were actually together, and I was always upset and let-downed. Always, his way, his ... Views: 43
So many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military ... Views: 39
Dear Dr. Romance
I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ... Views: 34
There is healing power in the medicine of laughter and play. Living with stress, feeling uptight, being worried, not sleeping, and thinking limiting thoughts, kill the joy in your life—as well as your health and wellbeing.
One of the best anti-stress medicines we have is free, has no negative ... Views: 24
There’s nothing worse than escalation. Escalation occurs when partners respond back and forth negatively to each other, continually upping the ante while the conversation gets more and more volatile. Even just a minor negative comment can increase the level of arousal and soon a small ... Views: 42
Almost everyone has heard of the five stages of grief. These are the usual steps in the scattered time line of true grief.
The five stages do not always occur in the same order, and sometimes the different stages are revisited throughout the grieving process.
They exist because, as ... Views: 19
In California, there are three ways to end a marriage: divorce, legal separation, and annulment. At Peace Talks we want you to know your options and we will focus on legal separation in this article. The process for a legal separation is similar to filing for a divorce, but there are some ... Views: 27
The way your partner proposed to you might allow you to see into your future with this person.
Good card players can detect “tells”—those unconscious behaviors that give away information about a player’s hand.
When my clients described their feelings of disappointments or exhilaration ... Views: 38
After residing in China for the past twelve years, I had the opportunity to explore the exotic city of Guilin. Actually, it was my second visit to the city. However, during my first visit, I had no time to enjoy its magical scenery.
During my recent visit, I was accompanied by Chinese wife, ... Views: 28
It was 1 o’clock in the night in the winters of Delhi. Winters in Delhi particularly get harsh with temperature falling below 5 degree. After a long walk round the park, boy and girl- who were supposedly couple- took the seat in a white bench beside the street lamp.
“I have to tell you ... Views: 38
Discover the many good reasons for having animals in your life.
“Until a person has loved an animal a part of the soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France
People who love animals know that there are many very good reasons to have animals in your life.
Love and Presence
Animals who ... Views: 42
As a parent I know only too well the cost incurred with having kids. When my husband and I decided that I would stay at home to raise my kids, there were many sacrifices we had to make. However; I looked at the value I was getting by staying home. I got to be there with my kids to witness every ... Views: 46
In early March of 2011, I was sitting in my car in the parking lot of the Ritz Carlton Hotel in Half Moon Bay, California, where I was scheduled to speak later that morning. Although it was a pretty big event, I wasn't feeling all that nervous about it-I had other things on my mind. I called one ... Views: 55
Almost all couples have their share of challenges.
Financial hurdles, disputes over child rearing, differing priorities, intimacy issues and a host of other areas can make romantic partnerships difficult endeavors at times.
However, when one half of a couple has an anxiety disorder, ... Views: 59
It is often said that when one door closes, another door opens, and what this shows is that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another. However, in order for someone to walk through a new door, they will need to walk away from the old door.
Yet, even though the old door has closed, ... Views: 51
In Part 1 of this series, we looked at how adults can and do invalidate children’s feelings, thoughts and emotions.
Whilst our focus and emphasis is on the parent/child relationship, validation is an important component in other relationships and environments.
In this article in Part 2, we ... Views: 55
Parenting is one of the most remarkable experiences one can have. No one prepares for it. The skills develop as you go along. This is because every child brings on a different experience but raising children requires the similar adopted methods. However, as parents, we sometimes make the ... Views: 57
Once upon a time, in the city of Bathgate, Scotland, a full term pregnant girl, poorly dressed, was walking around the streets of the city aimlessly, carelessly but with great passion. She was quite educated, but no work at that very moment had put her in the most vulnerable situation. She had ... Views: 56
Dear Dr. Romance
I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ... Views: 54
Dr. Romance writes:
There’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ... Views: 66
I often write about good relationship habits, so this month, I thought I’d explore some of the bad habits I see in my counseling practice that lead to strife and struggle in relationships.
Hopefully, if you recognize any of these habits in your own relationship, you’ll work ... Views: 55
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask?
Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum at Lindenwood Colleges, and I used ... Views: 50
While someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves.
What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ... Views: 67
Since co-dependent relationships are not healthy for you, why is it so hard to extricate yourself? Why is it so difficult to get out of a situation that is harmful to you? Well, we all hate change, even if that change may be for the better. And if you’ve been in a co-dependent relationship your ... Views: 62
If someone was to spend their time around people who have just experienced a breakup, they are unlikely to have the same experience with each person. They could find that although one person is in a bad way, another could come across though they haven’t been affected.
And they could also ... Views: 72
I'm not sorry!
As my 21/2 year old son sat on his baby sisters head, while having covered it with a blanket, I tried to use the incident as a teachable moment. "We don't sit on anyone, and we don't place anything over their faces" I said calmly. "Your sister won't be able to breathe if you ... Views: 58
Are you in business with a spouse or significant other or do you know people including family members who are? If so, you may understand there are some very unique challenges in these types of businesses that require attention.
* Because these family run businesses are the backbone to our ... Views: 88
Are you asking your higher self for the loving action and not receiving answers?
Ernie was having trouble accessing his higher self. He wanted to know about the loving action toward himself, but he couldn't seem to receive any answers. Because his inner child often felt abandoned and unloved ... Views: 53
Alas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt ... Views: 71