Weâre all in denial. Weâd barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are ... Views: 4
Dear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated.
I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you ... Views: 16
Do you know most people find out too late they've been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind ... Views: 9
Emotional baggage is a term often used to describe the weight of limitation in the form of negative beliefs, perceptions, feelings, habits and behaviors that blocks us from realizing a joyful and fulfilling life. All of the above reside within your unconscious mind as a series of negative ... Views: 7
Do you know that without realizing it most individuals have been programmed with a simple "equation" that fundamentally stands in the way of fully embodying their self esteem? That equation is based on the conditioned notion that: one's self esteem is proportional to what one owns. Do you know ... Views: 13
Do you know that it's possible to permanently, positively and significantly boost your self esteem in a very short time simply by recognizing and deleting old negative emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind? Do you know that such baggage is the primary cause of low self esteem and ... Views: 9
One of the biggest costs of cheating in a relationship isn't the devastation it causes to the relationship; sometimes it's the loss of trust in you as a good person that is the biggest cost of all. The truth is, the closest relationship you'll ever have, is the relationship you have with ... Views: 11
When one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ... Views: 20
HOW PEOPLE SURROUNDING YOU CAN MAKE OR BREAK YOU
One of the most important ingredients in the formula of success is to surround yourself with the right people.
Who are the right people? No one is right for all times and for every project or relationship. A person will enter your orbit, ... Views: 10
Sustaining intimacy and fulfillment in a romantic relationship can be challenging. Often couples find themselves lacking true connection with each other as the daily routine of their lives take over.
Intimacy is a creation that has to be cultivated and tended to. When we take time to ... Views: 14
The spirit of femininity is generous, graceful, nurturing, supportive, sensitive, intuitive, and oriented towards love and care. Despite all of these wonderful attributes, feminine energy, especially as it pertains to sexuality, has been suppressed, condemned, and vilified on a global scale for ... Views: 13
The time during and post childbirth for a mother is signified by GIVING. No matter if you nurse or not you give continually to your baby for months. The first step to returning to intimacy is to give to yourself: This starts with listen more deeply to yourself and having moments and practices to ... Views: 11
There is a general sense that children today are unhappier and more ungrateful than a generation ago. On the face of it, it seems strange. Our children have more than we could have ever imagined possessing â more gadgets, more clothes, more experiences, more opportunities â and yet somehow it ... Views: 6
(A simple way to let go with dignity)
"The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa
If schools had offered a course called "Breaking up is hard to do", I suspect we all would have enrolled. Why aren't we taught these difficult challenges ... Views: 20
When is a "loving" relationship not a loving relationship? Well when the individuals in it are motivated to enter into it not by love but by fear impersonating love. So when does fear impersonate love?
Well when one is devoid of an experience of true love and rather is mired in fears that ... Views: 17
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviors, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 15
Have you ever felt moved while listening to a charismatic motivational speaker?
If you boil down to one factor what it was that moved you what would that be?
Well likely that the speaker was appealing to you as a human being, that is to your emotional heart. He/She likely awakened the ... Views: 17
One of the most significant characteristics of successful people is the ability to speak or express one's self confidently in public. Such individuals often convey a charisma that is contagious and that draws admiration, respect, trust and positive opportunities their way.
If I said to you ... Views: 15
There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking?
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
There is a very fundamental principle of psychology that ... Views: 43
Feeling lonely is painful. Often people who feel lonely exacerbate the situation by blaming themselves. Why am I lonely? Because other people donât like me. Why donât they like me? Because Iâm a loser. Itâs not hard to imagine how this internal conversation can go downhill very quickly and make ... Views: 18
Loneliness is a tricky thing to combat. Loneliness seems to beget loneliness. When you feel isolated you crawl into your shell and become more so. You feel separated from other human beings. You may have physical symptoms too, like an ache or a heaviness in your chest. Itâs not a good ... Views: 15
Summary: Rome is âthe Mother of Abominationsâ including Islam. The Bible describes well the destiny of both and projects war with militant Islam and the defeat of Iran. America gets âpaybackâ as suggested by the conquest of Babylon by the Medes and Persians (Iraq and Iran).
In his book, The ... Views: 13
Dear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ... Views: 40
I'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book.
A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ... Views: 45
Whether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ... Views: 43
Infidelity knocks you on your rear-end, and changes your world like almost nothing else can.
Even if you are the one who cheated, the trust you and your spouse had for each other is now gone.
Not only is the trust gone for the spouse, it's gone for yourself and even the entirety of ... Views: 16
Summary: Obedience to the laws of physics has put men on the moon. Freedom, Health, Happiness and Prosperity are based on obedience to laws. Re-writing those laws will not get us to the moon, and it can hijack us from a higher destiny in life.
If we Google Newton's Laws, we find a daunting ... Views: 42
If you've been in a relationship before and you're entering a new one you likely carry the war scars of the last one with you. What are the consequences to you and your new relationship of walking in handicapped?
Well you're likely feeling a bit defensive, somewhat jaded about the opposite ... Views: 22
As a man I know this fear well. If you've read any of my other articles here in this e-zine you'll know that I suffered from paralyzing shyness most of my life and of how I managed to release this destructive problem from my mind and body permanently.
Well the fear of approaching attractive ... Views: 41
Are you one of those unfortunate individuals who not only engages self sabotaging behaviors but then finds a harsh inner critic beating up on you making you feel guilty, bad, inadequate, stupid, incompetent, incapable, depressed, unmotivated and like giving up on your success?
Did you know ... Views: 26
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle". I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her ... Views: 43
How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this?
"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert ... Views: 15
No matter how successful and seasoned you are, you may still experience setbacks and disappointments.
Setbacks come in many shapes and sizes for each of us. Sometimes they are small, while other times they’re huge â or perhaps they just feel that way.
Read this sentenceÂ out loudÂ several ... Views: 12
Hello everyone and welcome new members
One of the most common challenges I have heard my clients express is their difficulty to deal with or accept changes. Whether it is a change at work, at home, in their relationships, in their body, in their income or lifestyle; they all find it ... Views: 29
Do you know how self doubt creeps into your decisions and puts the brakes on your motivation and enthusiasm to take action? Do you know how much of your life gets wasted by this unnecessary negative emotion? Do you know however that self doubt can be easily, rapidly and permanently deactivated ... Views: 27
Do you know most people feel a vague sense of emotional inertia that makes them feel like they are stuck in a life of quiet desperation? Do you know most never learn what is holding them captive and therefore never truly experience the freedom of a fulfilling and expansive life?
Do you know ... Views: 35
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 39
Is your special day just around the corner? If so, stress levels are probably high and you are feeling anxious about it. Though the perfect wedding requires a lot of preparation, you should learn how to relax and have a good time. Try the following checklist to get organised during your special ... Views: 40
In this 21st century whirlwind age of anything goes dating and mating, relationships stand a better than average chance of being torpedoed, due to inadequate care and attention. Below are eight ways to shore up your relationship and safeguard against any cracks and crevices that might ... Views: 28
Over and over again I meet individuals who carry the war scars of previous failed relationships. These scars create many problems, one of the most significant is the closing down of their hearts to ever being able to love again. From there on relationships become simply about making sure they ... Views: 18
There are 7 Vital Principles that make Great Leaders Great. Knowing what they are and how to cultivate them is essential for success.
First and foremost it is necessary to appreciate that great leadership is about building positive, strong and cooperative relationships. In that light what is ... Views: 38
Have you ever noticed how often you repeat the same negative patterns of behavior, find yourself attracting partners with the same negative qualities as in your past relationships, making the same kinds of mistakes or bad judgments, and continue to repeat the same self sabotaging habits? Have ... Views: 20
As a Psychologist, Dr. Romance knows that when we're surrounded by images of violence, it becomes "normalized" and we stop seeing it as unusual.
Anyone who watches the news is becoming aware that we live in a violent society: According to the Peace Alliance:
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Healthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ... Views: 51
When we live with someone we have to share many things from food to bed. In couples, usually arguments arise due to having a contradictory point of view about one object. Do you want to know what is the real truth about your partner with respect to love, sex and intimacy? Are you aware of your ... Views: 35
Many people feel, and rightly so, that the experiences of their early life have had a major influence on their self confidence. Yet many are also confounded as to what to do about that "unchangeable" past and often feel stuck in, imprisoned by and frustrated by it. Is there a way out?
Yes, ... Views: 35
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love".
For instance, how many times have you heard ... Views: 45
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 18
Why is it that some bad memories just continue to resurface in one's mind and life often intruding on one's thoughts and negatively affecting one's functional state?
Memories of bad events are over time stored in the subconscious mind i.e. they are made unconscious by a mechanism in the ... Views: 17
No matter what one has achieved or how old they are, they are going to times when they need another personâs guidance. And through another personâs guidance, one will learn about what they need to do in order to move forward in life or to undertake a certain task for instance.
This can take ... Views: 52