Our most intimate partners know how to trigger us. Sometimes we get annoyed or even angry. We take the bait and we’re in reactive mode. It’s not a matter of “if” we will get triggered, it’s a matter of how often and what we can do to stay grounded and accept the gift being offered.
Yes, you ... Views: 22
If someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either.
This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ... Views: 30
Have you ever wondered why you have not found the love you deserve? Are you getting frustrated about finding your match?
What you need is not far from you, you just may need to take a closer look within.
We often have after thoughts of meeting the wrong people, especially when we initially ... Views: 20
Whether you have been married for only a brief period of time, many years, or even decades, you want your marriage to be the best that it can be! You may have encountered some serious difficulties in your marriage, or you may simply wish to improve what is already a good relationship. The good ... Views: 28
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ... Views: 27
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my 15 year old son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor.
I am a single parent about ... Views: 21
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. ... Views: 27
Do you FEEL like it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to make sure that someone else is happy? BUZZARDSKORNER OF LOVE RADIO will talk with you about my OWN experience with KNOWING that it is NOT for me to make sure that someone else is happy, how I made it alright with myself WITHOUT THE GUILT, and instead ... Views: 32
We all come to know about ourselves through our relationship – relationship with people, with other living beings and even with the inanimate things. Bringing in our self-awareness into this aspect of life, we can transform ourselves spiritually.
Human beings who have paid attention to the ... Views: 31
As the single and sole parent of my five children for over 18 years now (2 boys and 3 girls), I hoped I would be a natural role model to my boys for the way to grow to be successful men. I wanted my boys to man up as soon as they were old enough. Work hard, be a leader, be kind to everyone, ... Views: 24
There were several instances over the past 18 or so years as I raised my 5 children as a single parent, where the reality of my kids moving on to their next necessary chapters of life, has suddenly hit me. I had such a moment last week, as I watched my middle daughter Rebecca get fingerprinted ... Views: 27
During the period of a peaceful divorce and emotional confusion, we sometimes say and write things to our partners that are offensive and inappropriate. Instead of clearly communicating our thoughts and calming down the situation, we respond with critical, judgmental words that inflame passions ... Views: 18
[I would love to share with you the advice of my friend Ed. I found his experiences and advice to be rather profound and didn’t want to keep them all to myself. That’s why today I am sharing his story with you. Enjoy! Luke]
I believe everyone has a soul mate they can spend the rest of their ... Views: 24
Remember Eleanor Rigby by the Beatles? All the lonely people. She kept her face in a jar by the door. We all have these faces, they are our defense mechanism to protect our vulnerable self. The problem is not that we have them but that we don't know the false from the true. We live ... Views: 26
While someone can look attractive, it doesn’t mean they feel attractive or that their self-image matches up with how they look. In this case, the impression that they have on others doesn’t match up with what is taking place within them.
However, this is not to say that whether one is ... Views: 50
The definition of discipline as a noun is: the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behaviour, and to teach self –control and self-discipline. Other words to describe discipline are training, teaching, direction, instruction, regulation, coach.
The definition of punishment as ... Views: 28
Recently writing about “Bully Types” resurrected an emotion I have grappled with much of my life: a) being part of a family, especially as a child and teen, riddled with mental illness and shrouded in family secrets, b) as a child and young teen, threatened and emotionally bullied by peers for ... Views: 29
As Easter approaches, family and friends will be gathered at the table for Easter dinner. Mom’s prized turkey and Aunt Linda’s delicious casserole will be served. The Easter bunny is there and the Easter Egg Hunt is underway. Laughter and shouts of, “I found one,” can be echoed throughout the ... Views: 27
It's so easy to become gullible with words without paying close attention to the actions in the words uttered. This usually happens when a woman has been alone (without a date) for a while.
There's the longing and yearning to be with someone even though it may sometimes be denied. There's the ... Views: 41
How is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship?
What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship?
When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one ... Views: 39
When someone's behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them?
We Are Not Separate
Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others' unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that "Sticks ... Views: 41
Are you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.
Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply ... Views: 35
It is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable.
The image that they present to the ... Views: 53
There is NOTHING WRONG with choosing these men–but be sure you can trust your intuition to know how to detect the difference between a “take charge” man and a man who wants to take charge of YOU!
These tips come from my research with thousands of women for my book “Smart Relationships: How ... Views: 36
Being a Muslim author and educator, I have been. Frequently, asked by some of my students about ISIS and why it is becoming a fixture in the media. I attempted to explain to them that ISIS has nothing to do with Islam or its principles in vain.
I realized that due to the extensive coverage of ... Views: 46
Although providing care for grandchildren on a temporary basis is commonplace, there is a growing number who are now substantially responsible for raising them on a longer term basis.
Usually, this is because their children have found themselves in a situation where they are unable to care ... Views: 37
I must follow on from my interpretation of ego as the root cause of climate change. On a spiritual level that may well be so, but what other more tangible explanations are there for this horrific destruction of our planet and species? A phenomenon we are almost paralysed to resolve.
I say it is ... Views: 42
Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often ... Views: 58
"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.
Dr. Romance knows that self-determination and self-respect are the ... Views: 70
Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step Programs
So many of you have written and e-mailed to ask about The Real 13th Step that I'm delighted to have this new edition in print. It's the ... Views: 40
Dear friend, we all have formed our own definitions of happiness right from childhood. A lot of these perceptions are because of conditioned development i.e. they are a part of our habits due to repetitive inculcation by parents, teachers and the society in general. That is why, none of us has ... Views: 51
“Learn the art of taking your stand on the Truth within. When you live in this Truth, the result is a fusion of the mind and the heart and the end of all fears and sorrows. It is not a dry attainment of mere power or intellectual knowledge. A love which is illumined by the intuitive wisdom of ... Views: 46
Your wedding is one of the most exciting days of your life, but the time is often hectic. Will you have enough time to deal with everything and make the wedding perfect? Which should you pay attention to?
Having a checklist can make it much easier to get organised and to prioritise the most ... Views: 36
DR. BARRY HAMMER
Developing empathy, or experiential insight into the feelings and needs of other individuals, is the key to developing related altruistic qualities such as, genuine caring, compassion, sympathy, generosity, patience, and tolerance for diversity. The ... Views: 66
DR. BARRY HAMMER
The energy of sexuality and erotic sensual attraction is a physical expression of the sacred energy of love, or the urge for union, and the actual experience of union, or intimate communion of our energies at every level of our being. The urge for physical ... Views: 40
HEALING OUR EMOTIONAL PAIN AND RELATIONSHIP PAIN
DR. BARRY HAMMER
An important key to emotional self-healing is to fully embrace our emotional pain and relationship pain with an open, nonjudgmental, nonpartisan, compassionate, warmly loving heart. That warmhearted, compassionate, ... Views: 49
FINDING OUR TRUE SOUL FAMILY:
A KEY TO INNER ALCHEMY
DR. BARRY HAMMER
Our individual life energy form feels inwardly empty, deficient, dissatisfied, restless, until it is filled with the relational energy substance of life as love by connecting in empathic vibratory attunement to other ... Views: 47
When going to court to finalize your divorce case it is the culmination of months, maybe years, of a strained domestic relationship and marital discord. When you go to court for a jury trial or bench trail you need to leave your emotions at home if you want to have a possible favorable outcome. ... Views: 35
When I go to the gym to workout, I want to untie the knots and jelly beans in my back and shoulders, unhook from the day’s residue of stress, release my brain’s “feel good” chemicals and build all-over body muscle power. I don’t want to deal with difficult people. Do you?
When you go to work, ... Views: 63
Most couples believe they need better communication skills and that would change their relationship for the better. They claim that they either argue because of misunderstandings or that one or the other don’t discuss their problems openly.
Communication (or lack of it) is often NOT the ... Views: 60
With half of marriages ending in divorce and so many married couples still unhappy, this topic begs a look. Many might be happy if they kept two points in mind.
This author thought he was happily married when his first wife of 20 years left him. He was in a stressful marriage for 19 more ... Views: 60
Infidelity is one of the top causes of marital discord, and is one of the primarily reasons for the high divorce rate in this country. Infidelity has the potential to rip apart a seemingly perfect relationship, whether it was a prolonged affair or a onetime mistake. Spouses on both sides of an ... Views: 31
Relationships are the one of the most rewarding and challenging parts of our life. There are types of personal development that we are unable to do unless we are in relationship and there are ways that relationships push us to do work that we would not be otherwise motivated to do.
One of ... Views: 67
Although morning sickness and unusual cravings are to be expected during pregnancy, there are a number of other conditions and ailments that can accompany the nine months of a growing baby inside of your womb. For many women, there can be a range of symptoms that are normal and are not a threat ... Views: 58
The topic of forgiveness is getting attention from the health and wellness industries. And many studies have shown that long-term inability to forgive builds up toxic energy in your body – which can lead to both mental and physical illness.
Research has found that:
1. People who forgive ... Views: 65
Learning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the power to move on.
Forgiveness begins with learning to forgive yourself for any damage you may ... Views: 81
I want my ex boyfriend back; Has your relationship ended and you are feeling like you are in limbo. Not sure what's going on. Occasionally we go through refutation that we might have actually broken up; the relationship was going so well. I think my ex wants me back; Apparently something was ... Views: 87
Is my ex over me; Your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you and you were surprised not being sure what to do. You’re heartbroken and miss him or her and you want to try to get him/her to come back to you. Signs your ex is over you; What do you need to do to get him/her back?
Signs that ... Views: 69
Do exes come back; What does it take to win back the love of your ex? Getting them to fall in love with you again can be awkward depending on why you separated in the first place. Once you have figured out why your ex left you will be better able to figure out how to get them back.
When you ... Views: 68
Will my ex come back; You have been separated from your boyfriend or girlfriend for some time now and miss him/her badly. Now you are wondering, how to get your guy/girl back or if it's even possible to get him/her to come back to you. There are definitely proven methods you can use to get her ... Views: 66