How often have you wished that some aspect of your life could improve? For instance many of us desire greater abundance i.e. money, time, good friends, a good relationship, good health etc.
Many of us take the time to form an intention to achieve these in our lives.
The forming of an ... Views: 2
Contrary to what you may "think" the Law of Attraction is "always" at work. This is because it is by definition an immutable Universal Law. The real question is: Is it working for you or against you? If the latter is the case then the next questions are: 1) Why? And 2) How can I get it working ... Views: 2
Shyness is an epidemic that has severely limited the potential of many good and honest human beings.
Is it necessary to endure this fate if you are one of those individuals? No longer! Here I explain the roots of shyness and its inevitable solution.
Shyness: the fear of approaching and ... Views: 2
Do you spend much of your time making yourself attractive on the outside only to have it undermined by inner emotional neediness that drives people away? Do you know that it is now possible to completely make yourself over from the inside? How does one do that you ask?
Well, through a ... Views: 2
Ideally holidays are meant to be happy, joyous and life-affirming times spent together. Filled with joy and gratitude, inspiring us to connect with family and friends near and far. Opportunities to catch up with what everyone is doing, their lives, their children's lives, their adventures and ... Views: 3
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ... Views: 10
Have you ever been cheated on or sadly disappointed by your ex? Has this jaded your view of relationships and of the entire value of love? Have you reluctantly chosen to settle for a life of solitude or at best one of emotional solitude in a loveless relationship? Are you unhappy with this ... Views: 2
It is all too common to blame one's partner when a relationship is going through rocky times. Have you ever stopped however and reflected on whether you yourself are carrying some form of internal negative programming that is also contributing to the problem?
When a relationship fails it has ... Views: 8
Research conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. Long-term friendships are wonderful and valuable, but if you dont make ... Views: 21
When dating women with kids, there are a few things you have to realize. Not only does she have other priorities, you also have to realize you won't always be the first thing on her list. Soccer games, ballet, taking them to trips; these are just a few of the things a single mom has to do, when ... Views: 18
Tonight is my first night out with a mom's group. As a single mom, I haven't done much since having my baby. I don't really know what to expect. I know I shouldn't have any expectations, but it's hard not to when you are going into an unfamiliar situation. I don't know any of the ladies that ... Views: 20
I received a baby gift this weekend from a college friend. He is one in the group of guys I used to hang out with my sophomore year. I remember the days like they were yesterday. He used to knock on my door so we could grab breakfast before walking to class. I even remember what I ordered each ... Views: 10
B and I go on our second play group to a music sensory, and I'm not sure how it's going to go. The first play group with other moms and kids we went on two weeks ago could have gone better. There were about 25 moms everywhere and even more kids. I was overwhelmed, and he was ... Views: 9
What is an affair? What constitutes cheating? Infidelity? These are very personal definitions. Most people have their own version of what constitutes what. Here is a definition I have adapted from experts in the field that works well: An affair involves one of the partner’s passion being ... Views: 16
It’s very interesting to me to watch couples struggle and go around and around… I find that this happens with the ones where partners refuse to take ownership of their own contribution to their relationship’s status quo and are fixated with having their partner change… These are the partners ... Views: 18
It is very painful to experience betrayal in our relationships. I am primarily referring to betrayal by loved ones. This is the most painful betrayal. Betrayal may happen in many different forms and can be experienced by anyone at anytime during their life time
Betrayal might take place in ... Views: 12
The concept as well as the feeling of being in Love has become so distorted and confused these days that few can really tell you, when asked, whether they are truly in love with their partner. Why is that?
Well one of the most significant reasons is that true feelings of Love are often ... Views: 10
What is emotional intimacy? Well simply it is the ability to share your true and authentic self with your partner or lover in a way that enriches the relationship as well as your experience of being alive. Many feel this capacity to be known to another is one of the most powerful aspects of ... Views: 15
As a young boy and throughout most of my early adult years I suffered from paralyzing shyness.
Early in my life I was so anxious about meeting and speaking with people that I would find myself making every excuse possible to avoid social engagements.
I suffered especially during my medical ... Views: 14
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs are simply a series of hypnotic suggestions you were programmed with that continue to distort your perception of your self and your reality? Do you realize that all limiting beliefs are false? Do you realize therefore that you are living in an invisible ... Views: 14
Love is not something that can be described – it needs to be experienced, and when you experience it through loving yourself, you will know how to love.
We read many things about what love is and what it isn't ... Views: 10
First dates are both exhilarating and a bit frightening. And sometimes it’s hard to know the difference between these two feelings. No wonder — these emotions arouse virtually the same areas in the brain.
Even more confusing, when you feel anxious, you often ... Views: 9
It’s said that the feminine is rising. While having developed their 'masculine' capacities over the past 50 years since the onset of the women’s movement, women are re-connecting with their 'feminine' essence. However, women are often still socialized to be ashamed of their sexuality. So what ... Views: 17
Dear Dr. Romance:
We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ... Views: 22
Our wedding vows include the words: “for richer or poorer” – but as we all know, keeping this vow is easier said than done. For almost three decades, I’ve seen love diminish when couples fight over money! To avoid these damaging fights about money, follow these five (5) simple guidelines for ... Views: 9
If you are one of those people who experiences repeated self sabotage then you are likely being driven by the inability to allow positive experiences into your life. This is often linked to feelings of unworthiness and/or the belief that one is undeserving. Where do these feelings and this self ... Views: 13
Self worth is the ability to respect, honor, value and appreciate yourself. Unfortunately there is an epidemic of low self worth here on the planet. Why is that and what can be done to achieve what many believe to be impossible; Supreme Self Worth?
The main reason why most, yes most, ... Views: 18
In Chinese Astrology, the birth chart of a person allows us to determine the quality of spousal relationship through an intricate destiny analysis. One of the branches of Chinese Astrology known as Four Pillars of Destiny or BaZi can reveal the luck of marriage of a person.
In Ba Zi, the ... Views: 22
There is a reason you picked your partner, and there is a reason why you have friction in your relationship. The areas that are still unresolved are due to the inability to overcome the potentially meaningful challenges. If you are willing to take full responsibility for your life and make a ... Views: 30
Love is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion.
This can be something ... Views: 21
Dear Dr. Romance:
I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse.
I read "Motivation and How to ... Views: 36
Now although that may sound like a strange title it is more common than you think. Let me explain.
Self sabotage is essentially when an individual engages an old conditioned habit or way of being that undermines their success, integrity, self esteem, self worth, self confidence, their ... Views: 20
Do you know that many people harbor a fear of abandonment from past breakups that makes them needy, jealous, controlling, insecure, unattractive, ultimately sabotages their relationships and leads to more feelings of abandonment?
Do you know this vicious cycle can now be permanently stopped ... Views: 34
Once upon a time, In high school, I memorized a poem that has been a constant source of help and direction in my life and relationships. It’s simple and much more sentimental than today’s cynical age can handle, but the very simplicity of it made it a great navigational tool for me ... Views: 38
Dr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling.
1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ... Views: 43
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 39
Do you know that many people harbor the need to be accepted by others? Do you know this need enslaves you, your self esteem, self confidence, sense of normalcy as a person, and your life to the whims of others? Do you know that means you are not living your life but a life dictated to you by ... Views: 44
I am a great fan of technology and all the ways it enhances our lives and businesses, however it gives rise to a particularly 21st Century phenomenon, Cyber-stalking.
Cyber-stalking is defined as non-consensual communication that causes fear and alarm, where some people use the internet as a ... Views: 23
What is the Fun Quotient in your relationship? Couples have the tendency to become complacent in their relationship including the fun aspect of their relating. This is traumatic to the relationship as it stifles its energy flow creating a numb, stuck and disconnect feel and dissatisfied ... Views: 49
Do you know when you get on your partner’s nerves? There is a general underlying theme to the complaints couples usually share and that is that their partner is being egocentric. Egocentrism gets in the way of witnessing our partner’s beauty, gifts and contributions. It keeps us trapped in our ... Views: 38
After the infatuation and dating stage, fun and romance doesn’t just happen in relationships. Great committed relationships don’t just happen. We have to put in conscious effort to create the relationship we want. Here are some tips for creating and enhancing your intimacy, romance, passion and ... Views: 40
Do you know that feelings of low self worth are a major driver of the fear of intimacy that causes one to feel ashamed, vulnerable to rejection, anxious, inhibited, insecure, dependent, needy, unworthy, and unlovable? Do you know this fear causes one to withdraw physically and emotionally, ... Views: 32
Do you know that although many individuals truly want and desire a healthy and loving relationship they harbor within a deep fear of committing to one? This has been said to be truer of men but in my experience exists across gender lines.
Do you know that underneath this fear lurks deeper ... Views: 41
My is that most people on this planet repeatedly fail in various areas of their lives, be it in relationships, their careers, their friendships and so on? Well it's "all" because of how their subconscious mind has been programmed. So what programs the subconscious mind and what, if anything can ... Views: 25
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs recently reports that one in five combat veterans develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or after their service. However, while PTSD is becoming more widely-recognized, the illness was not fully accepted by the medical community ... Views: 24
There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle
OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. ... Views: 46
After all the hours of therapy and self-help, self-discoveries, self-realizations, and self-improvements I’ve made, I just identified yet another layer of unresolved issues that I need to deal with. Can you relate?
When will we finally be done evolving and growing into the person who we want ... Views: 37
Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully?
Louise asked me:
"Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ... Views: 27
Dear Dr. Wish,
Please help me get my thinking clear about my boyfriend “Don,” who has been divorced for two years and has seventeen year-old twin sons who live with his ex. We’ve been dating for a year. I have never been married and I don’t have any ... Views: 29
A whole lots of people are having problems in their marriage today because they allow barriers in their openness to their spouses,here let us check some of the barriers you must remove to give room for open ness in your marriage.
1.Ignorance. Many lack godly wisdom in marriage. ... Views: 29