Physically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits.
And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ... Views: 10
Do you know that the main reasons individuals have trouble with relationship breakups is because they interpret such events as rejection, abandonment, being unlovable, unwanted, inadequate, worthless, unattractive, and as the harbinger of perpetual loneliness?
Do you know that all of these ... Views: 17
Do you know that even the most emotionally confident individuals harbor, somewhere deep down, a fear of rejection? Do you know this fear has a life of its own and often hijacks individuals into behaviors that appear needy, weak, desperate, manipulative, self destructive, self negating, self ... Views: 26
Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 21
When there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal.
As ... Views: 15
Consciousness is what drives and shapes everything. This means ultimately everything in the universe including all matter is Consciousness, in the most subtlest and dense form. http://youtu.be/y9bVd3BspIQ
Consciousness, Creativity, and the Brain.
I share this video to emphasize ... Views: 19
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Increasingly, there are folks who post lots of vacuous stuff on the Internet who purport to be experts. They imply through their postings that they are all-knowing – that they have actually written widely about their topic, done the research to ... Views: 56
Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love:
1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re ... Views: 41
Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date!
You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes:
1. Pay Attention!
You Have Things to ... Views: 27
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love". For instance, how many times have you heard yourself ... Views: 32
In recent articles on "Why Most Relationships Fail" and "Selfishness vs. Self Esteem" I make the following points:
1. That most individuals come into a relationship from a place of need.
2. This "needy" state originates from the stored "traumatic" experiences that one carries in their ... Views: 29
So you're an adult now and engaged in a relationship but you find yourself at times behaving like that frightened and shy child who is still inside. You find yourself having trouble expressing your true feelings to your partner for fear that he/she will find you undesirable and reject you. This ... Views: 31
Do you know that the major factor contributing the fear of committing one's self to a relationship is the fear of rejection and/or abandonment? Do you know these deeper fears are rooted in early experiences of rejection/abandonment that remain stored within the subconscious mind? Do you know ... Views: 20
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
For the past several years the economy has been in decline, the unemployment rate has gone up, and home ownership has taken a dip. Sometimes, watching the Evening News causes one to wonder if the good old USA is in decline, if the financial state of ... Views: 45
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a major impediment to ever having or sustaining a successful and healthy relationship? Do you know most people who find themselves unconsciously sabotaging their relationships harbor this fear deep within them? Do you know that this fear often arises ... Views: 22
Do you know that many people harbor an addictive needy inner child inside that is responsible for feelings of loneliness, the inability to be alone, feelings of immaturity, feelings of low self worth and self esteem, poor self confidence, manipulative and controlling behaviour patterns, envy, ... Views: 33
Do you know that the fear of rejection can generate a level of insecurity that can lead one to be needy, clingy, smothering, controlling, manipulative, jealous, immature, and possibly even lie about one's self in order hang onto their partner?
Do you know that all of the above are perceived ... Views: 33
If You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This
Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ... Views: 46
We begin forming relationships from the moment we’re born, yet by the time we’re adults, it’s easy to feel completely inexperienced. Whether we’re raised in loving, nurturing homes or in a less open environment, relationships often leave us feeling vulnerable, uncertain and insecure.
A key ... Views: 40
Bullying Never Works In Love
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Bullies--don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks ... Views: 60
Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays?
The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ... Views: 31
Break the Rules Preventing an Awesome Relationship
Do you experience déjà vu, broken records and same old stories in your disagreements with your partner? Do you feel stuck and find yourself repeating patterns and fights without knowing how to break the impasse? You are not alone … This is an ... Views: 37
One can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends.
There ... Views: 30
Take a journey with me to the other side of the fear of rejection.
I'm sure you are aware of what this does to you and to your relationships. It leads to an inability to be truly honest with your partner, to be unable to be spontaneously your self, to have to hide behind a mask that will ... Views: 33
In a recent article I mention that the second most important factor that feeds the need to rescue others is fixed by early emotional trauma that gets re-evoked in the rescuer by their partner's self sabotaging behavior.
Let me elaborate on how this works so that it is clearly ... Views: 48
So here you are, in a new relationship and you unconsciously hold many expectations of your new partner that you hope will be met. How wise is it to have expectations at all? Some would say that expectations are their way of assessing whether the relationship is on track and right for them. That ... Views: 32
Envy is characterized by an emotional state where one on the one hand covets the success of another and on the other hand also despises them for it as well. It is a destructive emotional state to become seduced by yet many find it a regular part of their lives. In truth it is also associated ... Views: 39
Every couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ... Views: 49
Divorce usually happens because individuals exhibit relationship habits that are destructive to their partner, to the relationship and therefore to themselves.
Such habits include some of the following:
1. Being too needy.
2. Being too controlling.
3. Being too dependent.
4. Being ... Views: 41
If you are in the midst of a divorce I'm sure there is a great sense of confusion and cloudiness to your thinking largely brought on by the emotional pain of sadness, anger, grief, fear, emptiness, loneliness and so on that pervade your entire being at this time. This pain is likely affecting ... Views: 37
Do you know the fear of commitment leaves millions of individuals feeling alone, frustrated and living unsatisfied lives? Do you know this fear is generated by subconsciously stored feelings of betrayal, rejection, dependency, inadequacy, and more? Finally, do you know all of that can be ... Views: 45
Do you know that feelings of low self worth are a major driver of the fear of intimacy that causes one to feel ashamed, vulnerable to rejection, anxious, inhibited, insecure, dependent, needy, unworthy, and unlovable? Do you know this fear causes one to withdraw physically and emotionally, ... Views: 41
Do you know that the fear of intimacy is a permanent impediment to having a successful and fulfilling relationship? Do you know it drives self sabotaging behaviors that irreparably damage one's most prized relationships?
Do you know that one of the more significant drivers of this fear is ... Views: 27
Have you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war?
"God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa
I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle ... Views: 30
Had rotten parents who abused, neglected, criticized or abandoned you? Or something happened to you later in life such as assault or rape? Or your disappointing love relationships hover overhead like mylar balloons glinting at your failures?
Well, here’s the good news: rotten pasts for ... Views: 38
On a physical level, men and women are clearly very different; with men having features that relate to the masculine and women having features that relate to the feminine. And while this much is obvious and easily recognisable, what they are like within is not as easy to describe.
But as a ... Views: 47
Many relationships end miserably. Why is that? Well it's largely because the foundation upon which such relationships are initially based is inherently faulty. Let me explain.
If you ever stop to reflect on the underlying reasons why many individuals enter relationships in the first place you ... Views: 65
The fear of being honest.
Isn't that something you've struggled with at some point in your relationship? Well I'm sure more than once.
They belief is that honesty can be hurtful to the other person and therefore could have negative repercussions for you. Perhaps make you feel like a ... Views: 50
What does it mean to be or feel like a whole person?
Well if you've felt it you already know. Most however have never felt it.
If the latter is you it essentially means that you feel afraid of and avoid facing all the challenges in your life in some way.
In other words you feel ... Views: 39
Do you find yourself stuck in a bad relationship?
By bad I mean one that feels empty, where there are no feelings of intimacy or love, where there is emotional or physical abuse and so on.
One of the main reasons that individuals remain caught in such unsatisfying or abusive relationships ... Views: 36
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ... Views: 66
Do you know that many men suffer from inadequate sexual self confidence? Do you know that this manifests as impotence, shyness with women, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety in love making, loneliness, low self confidence, low self esteem, low self worth, feelings of inadequacy as a man ... Views: 44
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Our heartfelt congratulations to Ann and John Betar of Fairfield, Connecticut on the occasion of their 81st Wedding Anniversary! Worldwide Marriage Encounter has verified that the Betar’s are the longest married couple in America. When they took ... Views: 78
When it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone.
But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ... Views: 50
Do you know that low self esteem leaves you feeling like a second class citizen who must regularly submit their wishes to the whims of others? Do you know low self esteem is something that is "programmed" into you by negative memories of early childhood which continue to reside in your ... Views: 44
Do you know most people find out too late they've been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind ... Views: 93
Do you know most men, when in the company of attractive women, feel shy and weak, intimidated by their beauty, feel inadequate and anxious, get tongue tied, lose all self confidence, and appear needy and unattractive? Do you know this is a real turn off for many women? Do you know that it is now ... Views: 62
Do you know that needy behaviours regularly hijack even the most confident of individuals and leave them feeling unattractive, weak, foolish, inadequate, clingy, and prone to being rejected by their partner? Do you know such behaviours are generated and driven by subconsciously stored programs ... Views: 42
Patients afflicted with the Factitious Disorder colloquially known as “Munchausen Syndrome” seek to attract the attention of medical personnel by feigning or by self-inflicting serious illness or injury. “Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome” (Factitious Illness or Disorder by Proxy, or Imposed by ... Views: 39
4 Real Ways To Make It Work
Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help.
1. Give your blended family a chance to bond.
Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ... Views: 57