Feeling lonely is painful. Often people who feel lonely exacerbate the situation by blaming themselves. Why am I lonely? Because other people donât like me. Why donât they like me? Because Iâm a loser. Itâs not hard to imagine how this internal conversation can go downhill very quickly and make ... Views: 1
Loneliness is a tricky thing to combat. Loneliness seems to beget loneliness. When you feel isolated you crawl into your shell and become more so. You feel separated from other human beings. You may have physical symptoms too, like an ache or a heaviness in your chest. Itâs not a good ... Views: 2
Summary: Rome is âthe Mother of Abominationsâ including Islam. The Bible describes well the destiny of both and projects war with militant Islam and the defeat of Iran. America gets âpaybackâ as suggested by the conquest of Babylon by the Medes and Persians (Iraq and Iran).
In his book, The ... Views: 4
Dear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ... Views: 21
I'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book.
A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ... Views: 26
Whether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ... Views: 27
Infidelity knocks you on your rear-end, and changes your world like almost nothing else can.
Even if you are the one who cheated, the trust you and your spouse had for each other is now gone.
Not only is the trust gone for the spouse, it's gone for yourself and even the entirety of ... Views: 10
Summary: Obedience to the laws of physics has put men on the moon. Freedom, Health, Happiness and Prosperity are based on obedience to laws. Re-writing those laws will not get us to the moon, and it can hijack us from a higher destiny in life.
If we Google Newton's Laws, we find a daunting ... Views: 30
If you've been in a relationship before and you're entering a new one you likely carry the war scars of the last one with you. What are the consequences to you and your new relationship of walking in handicapped?
Well you're likely feeling a bit defensive, somewhat jaded about the opposite ... Views: 15
As a man I know this fear well. If you've read any of my other articles here in this e-zine you'll know that I suffered from paralyzing shyness most of my life and of how I managed to release this destructive problem from my mind and body permanently.
Well the fear of approaching attractive ... Views: 24
Are you one of those unfortunate individuals who not only engages self sabotaging behaviors but then finds a harsh inner critic beating up on you making you feel guilty, bad, inadequate, stupid, incompetent, incapable, depressed, unmotivated and like giving up on your success?
Did you know ... Views: 15
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle". I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her ... Views: 29
How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this?
"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert ... Views: 11
No matter how successful and seasoned you are, you may still experience setbacks and disappointments.
Setbacks come in many shapes and sizes for each of us. Sometimes they are small, while other times they’re huge â or perhaps they just feel that way.
Read this sentenceÂ out loudÂ several ... Views: 6
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One of the most common challenges I have heard my clients express is their difficulty to deal with or accept changes. Whether it is a change at work, at home, in their relationships, in their body, in their income or lifestyle; they all find it ... Views: 20
Do you know how self doubt creeps into your decisions and puts the brakes on your motivation and enthusiasm to take action? Do you know how much of your life gets wasted by this unnecessary negative emotion? Do you know however that self doubt can be easily, rapidly and permanently deactivated ... Views: 19
Do you know most people feel a vague sense of emotional inertia that makes them feel like they are stuck in a life of quiet desperation? Do you know most never learn what is holding them captive and therefore never truly experience the freedom of a fulfilling and expansive life?
Do you know ... Views: 26
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 22
Is your special day just around the corner? If so, stress levels are probably high and you are feeling anxious about it. Though the perfect wedding requires a lot of preparation, you should learn how to relax and have a good time. Try the following checklist to get organised during your special ... Views: 27
In this 21st century whirlwind age of anything goes dating and mating, relationships stand a better than average chance of being torpedoed, due to inadequate care and attention. Below are eight ways to shore up your relationship and safeguard against any cracks and crevices that might ... Views: 23
Over and over again I meet individuals who carry the war scars of previous failed relationships. These scars create many problems, one of the most significant is the closing down of their hearts to ever being able to love again. From there on relationships become simply about making sure they ... Views: 12
There are 7 Vital Principles that make Great Leaders Great. Knowing what they are and how to cultivate them is essential for success.
First and foremost it is necessary to appreciate that great leadership is about building positive, strong and cooperative relationships. In that light what is ... Views: 29
Have you ever noticed how often you repeat the same negative patterns of behavior, find yourself attracting partners with the same negative qualities as in your past relationships, making the same kinds of mistakes or bad judgments, and continue to repeat the same self sabotaging habits? Have ... Views: 16
As a Psychologist, Dr. Romance knows that when we're surrounded by images of violence, it becomes "normalized" and we stop seeing it as unusual.
Anyone who watches the news is becoming aware that we live in a violent society: According to the Peace Alliance:
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Healthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ... Views: 43
When we live with someone we have to share many things from food to bed. In couples, usually arguments arise due to having a contradictory point of view about one object. Do you want to know what is the real truth about your partner with respect to love, sex and intimacy? Are you aware of your ... Views: 29
Many people feel, and rightly so, that the experiences of their early life have had a major influence on their self confidence. Yet many are also confounded as to what to do about that "unchangeable" past and often feel stuck in, imprisoned by and frustrated by it. Is there a way out?
Yes, ... Views: 29
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love".
For instance, how many times have you heard ... Views: 31
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 13
Why is it that some bad memories just continue to resurface in one's mind and life often intruding on one's thoughts and negatively affecting one's functional state?
Memories of bad events are over time stored in the subconscious mind i.e. they are made unconscious by a mechanism in the ... Views: 14
No matter what one has achieved or how old they are, they are going to times when they need another personâs guidance. And through another personâs guidance, one will learn about what they need to do in order to move forward in life or to undertake a certain task for instance.
This can take ... Views: 44
Parents do have a strong effect on their childrens personalities. Usually their attitude towards their kids and towards others is very important. Most of parental concerns are about kids education, leisure, social life and behavior in general, in terms of how they are getting along with all ... Views: 32
In this book I have highlighted a very serious custom of Pakistan named,rukhsati',which means sending off girls with their husbands on the wedding day. But in reality it feels like girls are the burden and guests in their parents home and are supposed to leave it one day to live finally in their ... Views: 30
Do you know that needy behavior is a huge turn off? Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don't know they are needy? So what constitutes needy behavior and what can one do about it? Find out here!
1. Have a fear of being alone.
2. Need others to ... Views: 34
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 34
Dear Dr. Romance,
I love reading your articles here and on Divine Caroline, and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he ... Views: 49
Creativity is the cornerstone of the human existence. Itâs a fact that a majority of the worldâs most remarkable creations were birthed by individuals with (what was considered) hair-brained ideas. Although, I believe creativity is a gift everyone has, I equally believe, most are unable to ... Views: 46
Maintaining long-term relationships can be a complex undertaking that requires significant time and attention. When things begin to go wrong, partners can take proactive steps to get the relationship back on track. These efforts can often make the difference between strengthening the partnership ... Views: 62
Do you know that through the Law of Attraction the majority of individuals attract negative rather than positive experiences into their lives? Do you know this is because a poorly known concept called their Magnetic Polarity is actually negative?
Do you know that a human being's Magnetic ... Views: 47
Have you ever been told that you were passive aggressive? This is not the most endearing of titles to be given by anyone. Why is that?
Well because it implies a number of things:
1. That you have trouble being open and honest about your feelings.
2. That you grudgingly accept something ... Views: 27
" You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." Christopher Columbus
Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don't want to see aspects of life for which we have no ... Views: 49
We see a lot of advice to write down your goals and dreams, but does it really help? Actually, it does. For one thing, it helps you get clear on exactly what you want, and makes the goals more imaginable. They seem more real when you have thought through them clearly and written them ... Views: 46
Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. These are shortcuts taken to try to ... Views: 33
What is radical ownership? Itâs seeing and owning that life is a mirror reflecting me back to me. All the things that happen in my life have one thing in commonâ¦ME. I am the common denominator in all that keeps showing up. Mike Dooley describes it beautifully in his Notes from The Universe: ... Views: 27
In my youth and throughout most of my early adult years I suffered from paralyzing shyness.
Early in my life I was so anxious about meeting and speaking with people that I would find myself making every excuse possible to avoid social engagements.
I suffered especially during my medical ... Views: 26
Isn't that what women expect and desire from a confident man? Of course most women expect that their man will have the maturity and the courage to be openly emotional when the moment calls for it. Yet many men find themselves severely handicapped in this department, often without really knowing ... Views: 26
In several other articles I have pointed out that because of men's socialization patterns many are not only unable to express their emotions they are more seriously also unable to "feel" them.
So how can one express what one doesn't feel? Well simply, you can't!
So how does one kick start ... Views: 24
You've gone through something horrible, a total breakdown of the trust in your marriage. You may wonder how anyone can ever overcome such a devastating blow, and also wonder if there is even a possibility that your marriage can be saved. The one differentiator to determining overcoming ... Views: 25
There are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships.
And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ... Views: 44
Dear Dr. Romance
Your web-site impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ... Views: 44