Evolving Relationships and Sexuality Calls for a new kind of Therapist
Sex is simple, except it's not. As our society becomes increasingly exposed to sex, increasingly educated and connected, and more aware of sexual potential, a gap in the area of education and teaching has become glaringly ... Views: 2
The term Erotic Hypnosis invokes mystery and allure, a tantalizing combination of words that sounds extremely exciting, and more than a little dangerous. So what is it? I use erotic hypnosis in my practice as an intimacy educator and consultant, and will outline the most common uses, then go ... Views: 1
Not long ago within our culture, there was a myth that women were not very sexual. If they were, they did not enjoy it, much. It was also not long ago that sex toys were hidden and shameful. It is safe to say that toys and aids have gone main stream. Women are inherently sexual beings and it is ... Views: 1
Recently, I adopted a rescue dog - a one year old German Shepherd - and as is true of most rescue dogs, he was an anxious, insecure puppy. Nonetheless, as I stood in front of him and gently petted his head, I was surprised when he cringed and backed away. Then I remembered that his experience ... Views: 1
Discover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society.
I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding.
Those of you who have worked ... Views: 2
Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior?
Most of us really don't like it when someone is angry with us. We don't like it when someone goes into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We ... Views: 2
A father figure provides a tremendous boost to the development of children. Recently, social research has been showing just how much kids need their dads. Children with active fathers learn to read faster, demonstrate more empathy, are less likely to take illegal drugs and are more likely to ... Views: 6
Dr. Romance writes:
There was a time when life seemed very hard, so hard I tried not to think about it.. Several times I helped to destroy some very viable relationships. Changing myself, my life and my loves has been very exciting and fulfilling, yet I am still growing. Love Styles is intended ... Views: 27
Recently, I went through very unpleasant and difficult dental work, and the outpouring of kindness I receivedfrom my husband, who held onto my ankle all through the two and a half hours (and had nightmares that night about it) to my dear friends, who offered me support and encouragement to ... Views: 11
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Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your video about couples fighting over finances
I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife Mel is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't ... Views: 27
Why the Nice biscuits are nice? I do not know if you think they are nice. Anyhow, there could be several reasons for them to be nice :
They are sweet
They are inexpensive
They are available
Some has brought them for you
Being a child, your mother used to offer them to you
Your friend ... Views: 41
When life throws us a curve, the gift of a "spa moment" can be the perfect touch. A local spa offers healing relief and is perfect for those who can’t venture far from home or the hospital.
Since spas typically offer a variety of massages, manicures, pedicures, facials, and packages, a ... Views: 15
Arguing is a natural and even healthy part of any relationship. It gives you an outlet for your frustrations and helps open the lines of communication. You can air out your grievances and walk away feeling happier and healthier. While fighting is healthy, it can also indicate a more serious ... Views: 12
I grew up in the 1980's and was a teenager in the 1990's. Most of the kids of my generation were exposed to virile and resourceful representations of men. Take American mainstream media; we had movies like Terminator, where a fit male character did everything he could to protect those he loved, ... Views: 7
I love traveling. I love it so much that while I am on vacation, I am already planning my next one! But I sure don't like packing. And unpacking is even worse! I must be a slow learner because it took years of making mistakes to learn what to take and what to take it in. You may not use all ... Views: 12
Travel is great medicine for boosting your sex and love life. Don't have the money or time? Don't worry. All you need to do is cut back on a few unnecessary purchases such as that magazine, or comfort food, or that movie that you don't really need - and then find a day and a half to be together. ... Views: 9
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, but in light of all the recent publicity I decided to write about it now. A few years back I wrote a 4 part series, you can go to Blogs and then Domestic Violence to find the articles, they are broken down by the following categories: The ... Views: 24
At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ... Views: 23
We’re wired for attachment – why babies cry when separated from their mothers. Depending especially upon our mother’s behavior, as well as later experiences and other factors, we develop a style of attaching that affects our behavior in close relationships.
Fortunately, most people have a ... Views: 41
1. Your bubbliness and extroversion does not distract us from the fact that you are fat.
Observe a group of girls in a bar. There is always one who is louder, acts crazy and seems to dance and drink more than everyone else. She's very talkative and laughs a lot - she's the centre of attention ... Views: 24
In the world of personal development there seems to be two lines of tought with regards to personality change. On one side of the spectrum, some say yes - you can and have to change. After all, you need to change in order to become the person you want to be. On the other hand, you have those who ... Views: 21
In my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK. Not asking for what you want means you’ll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought ... Views: 53
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several years. We were married according to tribal custom, which he later denied happened and disowned me in the courts where he was ... Views: 30
While each gender has the same value, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels this way. One can believe that men/women are worth more and this is then going to cause them to feel less than the opposite sex.
This could stop one from being able to have an intimate relationship on one side and on ... Views: 48
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ... Views: 51
THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE
“We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ... Views: 37
I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap.
On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore ... Views: 35
Secrets to Hiring Smart: New Ways to Mix Wisdom with New Formats, Questions and Intuition
In my career the task of hiring always landed on my desk. There were other “sets of eyes” on the potential employee, but I was often the first or last set of eyes. Over the years, I relied on a unique ... Views: 16
It’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare. What went wrong?
Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others. You are most ... Views: 20
If you have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to think: Why doesn’t the person just get out of it?
Well, think of these things:
An abuser knows exactly what emotional buttons to push in his or her partner.
The abuser is a master of finding that chink in the partner’s ... Views: 19
What makes a good parent? What does it take to be successful in the noblest task of raising children? This job is daunting because there are no rules, no formula, no one to tell you exactly how to do it.
Science can sometimes do the trick in helping a parent raise an achiever. For example, ... Views: 45
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Love Child - by Rev. Kelli Wilson - Find It. Feel It. Heal It.
Do you ever look at your child, I mean really look at him or her and think to yourself, “Wow, here is an amazing small human being in my care”? Of course you do, you’re a parent.
I have been given the amazing responsibility to care for these human beings to the best of my ability for at ... Views: 36
The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his ... Views: 35
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 16
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 17
Fighting a lot? Dr. Romance recommends:
No matter what you’re fighting about: money, sex, kids or something else, the fighting is an indication that your communication isn’t working. If this happens only occasionally, such as when one or both of you are tired or stressed; it’s not too big ... Views: 60
When you use smart decisions and self-awareness to shape your life, it will reflect your deepest aspirations and your fondest dreams.
1. Make your life your own. Decide to re-decide. Re-examine your goals and dreams. Don't just assume that what you wanted yesterday is ... Views: 45
Dear Dr. Romance:
I stumbled upon your article "Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice" while I was searching for advice on dating a divorcee. I can't help but wonder what advice you would give to a girl who has never been married who is currently seeing a divorcee. I ... Views: 50
It is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met.
And while being selfless is often ... Views: 48
We all want to get our needs met, but manipulators use underhanded methods. Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in ... Views: 47
There can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed.
Conflict is then ... Views: 43
Now, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety.
It is not unusual that your child may have ... Views: 22
Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS
Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become ... Views: 29
Dear Dr. Romance:
My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are grown. We own our home , but have a mortgage. Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity: When we got married, my husband was evading bills from retail stores. I ... Views: 75
Children often experience the ugliest parts of their parents' divorce, feeling guilty for the demise of the marriage and feeling at a loss of whose side to choose. There are plenty of ways you can help your child work through the pain of your separation and help them learn how to accept ... Views: 22
Does the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision?
Do you ever have trouble making decisions? Which rug to buy for your floor? Which couch to choose? What color to paint your walls? What you feel like doing on your days off? What kind of work you ... Views: 42
A dimensional Earth shift on 12.21.12 to a ‘positive timeline’ explains the unmasking of extreme deception and assault on life world-wide. Imagine it this way. Earth changed lanes from negative to positive on the Cosmic Highway compelling each of us to replace negative thoughts and feelings with ... Views: 47
It can be quite cumbersome and time consuming when you are trying to find the right wedding photographer. Besides, you want your wedding photos to be very unique and special. Doing your research and planning ahead will help you to select the most suitable photographer. This will also help you ... Views: 63
Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. ... Views: 72
In a previous article “From Struggling to Solving” I discussed how to get from arguing to solving problems. Getting into the right frame of mind is a great start, but many of my clients also need steps for how to solve problems. Here are three of my most effective ... Views: 55