While each gender has the same value, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels this way. One can believe that men/women are worth more and this is then going to cause them to feel less than the opposite sex.
This could stop one from being able to have an intimate relationship on one side and on ... Views: 2
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ... Views: 21
Anger is a common emotion experienced by individuals whose relationship has recently ended. Many would like to be able to dispense with such feelings but instead find themselves caught in the endless loop of having to fuel the anger by reminding themselves of the hurts, deceptions, lies, abuse ... Views: 12
THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE
“We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it ... Views: 22
What is emotional intimacy? Well simply it is the ability to share your true and authentic self with your partner or lover in a way that enriches the relationship as well as your experience of being alive. Many feel this capacity to be known to another is one of the most powerful aspects of ... Views: 11
I am really angry—and sadden by how the media and the National Football League handled the domestic violence incident of Ray Rice against his fiancé, Janay Palmer, who is now his wife. For those of you who don’t know the details, here is a recap.
On Monday, September 8, 2014, the Baltimore ... Views: 7
Secrets to Hiring Smart: New Ways to Mix Wisdom with New Formats, Questions and Intuition
In my career the task of hiring always landed on my desk. There were other “sets of eyes” on the potential employee, but I was often the first or last set of eyes. Over the years, I relied on a unique ... Views: 8
It’s very scary to think you found Your Soul Mate, but you found instead Your Love Nightmare. What went wrong?
Getting smart about dating, mating, and relating relies, in part, on maintaining your ability to turn on your awareness lights about your observations of you and others. You are most ... Views: 9
If you have never been in an abusive relationship, it’s easy to think: Why doesn’t the person just get out of it?
Well, think of these things:
An abuser knows exactly what emotional buttons to push in his or her partner.
The abuser is a master of finding that chink in the partner’s ... Views: 8
What makes a good parent? What does it take to be successful in the noblest task of raising children? This job is daunting because there are no rules, no formula, no one to tell you exactly how to do it.
Science can sometimes do the trick in helping a parent raise an achiever. For example, ... Views: 22
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Love Child - by Rev. Kelli Wilson - Find It. Feel It. Heal It.
Do you ever look at your child, I mean really look at him or her and think to yourself, “Wow, here is an amazing small human being in my care”? Of course you do, you’re a parent.
I have been given the amazing responsibility to care for these human beings to the best of my ability for at ... Views: 18
The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his ... Views: 15
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 7
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 8
Fighting a lot? Dr. Romance recommends:
No matter what you’re fighting about: money, sex, kids or something else, the fighting is an indication that your communication isn’t working. If this happens only occasionally, such as when one or both of you are tired or stressed; it’s not too big ... Views: 33
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 16
Are you afraid to fully open up to your partner sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? Does this create an insurmountable barrier between the two of you? Is this barrier manifesting itself as self sabotaging behaviors that push him/her away ad leaving you feeling frustrated, angry with ... Views: 17
When you use smart decisions and self-awareness to shape your life, it will reflect your deepest aspirations and your fondest dreams.
1. Make your life your own. Decide to re-decide. Re-examine your goals and dreams. Don't just assume that what you wanted yesterday is ... Views: 24
Dear Dr. Romance:
I stumbled upon your article "Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice" while I was searching for advice on dating a divorcee. I can't help but wonder what advice you would give to a girl who has never been married who is currently seeing a divorcee. I ... Views: 25
It is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met.
And while being selfless is often ... Views: 20
We all want to get our needs met, but manipulators use underhanded methods. Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern in mind, but in ... Views: 29
There can be times when ones relationships are free from problems and then there can be moments when this is not the case. One could also be in a position where this is the only thing they know and they have never experienced relationships that have flowed.
Conflict is then ... Views: 21
Why do most relationships fail? Is it because of a fear of commitment, a fear of being honest, a fear of intimacy, the result of co-dependent neediness, etc.? Well would you be surprised that many of these are only the surface veneer to a much deeper problem that each individual presents with ... Views: 32
Now, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety.
It is not unusual that your child may have ... Views: 15
Thoughts, Words, and FEELINGS
Emotions for me are a necessary evil. I absolutely hate the way emotions can completely blind a mind from logic. This is one of the main reasons that it takes me a long, long time to become emotionally attached to anybody. It seems that whenever I become ... Views: 17
Dear Dr. Romance:
My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are grown. We own our home , but have a mortgage. Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity: When we got married, my husband was evading bills from retail stores. I ... Views: 53
Children often experience the ugliest parts of their parents' divorce, feeling guilty for the demise of the marriage and feeling at a loss of whose side to choose. There are plenty of ways you can help your child work through the pain of your separation and help them learn how to accept ... Views: 16
Does the fear of making a mistake immobilize you when you need to make a decision?
Do you ever have trouble making decisions? Which rug to buy for your floor? Which couch to choose? What color to paint your walls? What you feel like doing on your days off? What kind of work you ... Views: 34
A dimensional Earth shift on 12.21.12 to a ‘positive timeline’ explains the unmasking of extreme deception and assault on life world-wide. Imagine it this way. Earth changed lanes from negative to positive on the Cosmic Highway compelling each of us to replace negative thoughts and feelings with ... Views: 32
It can be quite cumbersome and time consuming when you are trying to find the right wedding photographer. Besides, you want your wedding photos to be very unique and special. Doing your research and planning ahead will help you to select the most suitable photographer. This will also help you ... Views: 43
Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it’s no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. ... Views: 49
In a previous article “From Struggling to Solving” I discussed how to get from arguing to solving problems. Getting into the right frame of mind is a great start, but many of my clients also need steps for how to solve problems. Here are three of my most effective ... Views: 33
Do you know that old negative memories of failure that are stored deep in your subconscious mind are the single most destructive force keeping you from a life of success, abundance, fulfillment and happiness?
Do you know such negative memories are responsible for negative thoughts, feelings ... Views: 31
How often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive?
How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just ... Views: 31
We tend to give our partners more than second chances—even when they have betrayed, disappointed or hurt us physically or emotionally.
It’s as though we’ll do almost anything to defend against rocking the boat, and being alone or wrong about our love choices.
In this brief article ... Views: 24
In todays modern lifestyle, everyone is stressed up, tired and bore, especially the parents. In most of the parts of the world, parents are usually engaged in earnings and greatly tired when back home. Even if one of the parents is not working hand, he or she must be doing house chores and at ... Views: 32
If you have a happy, stable, fun, loving marriage, you should count your blessings, right? Right.
But what if that marriage is happy, stable, fun and loving without sex? Would you still count your blessings?
In other words, can couples be happy without sex?
The answer is, it depends. ... Views: 29
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Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage?
Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did.
Consider these ... Views: 70
In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s ... Views: 66
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rocks the world. This hand also prepares the family’s meals, drives kids to school, pushes the swing, gives a pat on the back, and lends itself selflessly, among many other wonderful things a mom does for her family.
What are the traits of a ... Views: 63
There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to ... Views: 73
I was a bit emotional today. My son was scheduled for his 15-month check up tomorrow. His pediatrician calls, and I miss it. I return the call, and luckily I do, because she tells me my son is no longer covered by his insurance. What? I am shocked. As I dial the number to his insurance, I can ... Views: 49
When I read a recent article citing single mothers for the recent decline in newspaper sales I was appalled. I couldn't believe Chris Powell, the Managing Editor of the Journal Inquirer, actually blamed single moms for his not being able to sell more newspapers. What shocked me even more than ... Views: 31
As another year winded down and a new one begins, I feel a sense of pressure. Don't get me wrong I'm excited to see where this next year leads, but there's this thing creeping up. I have successfully pushed it away before, but I feel it coming again. I used to work in a restaurant, so every New ... Views: 56
Even through my 38 weeks of pregnancy, I never once imagined what motherhood would be like. I really never thought about being a single mom. Yes, you hear things will change, but I never truly understood it, which seems to be the case with most things, until you experience them.
After ... Views: 38
Positive and Negative Intentions are Directions.
Which Direction do you Choose?
The past couple of days I've been covering the topic of love. I stated that love is a choice based on your intentions/thoughts not your feelings. I also pointed out that in order to start attracting more ... Views: 63
One area that is sometimes overlooked when scheduling your kids’ time is how important it is to allow independent play.
It might not be necessary to have a literal scheduled block of time for play, especially if play still comes naturally to both you and your children, but if you find that ... Views: 74
Jealousy can be one of the most and disruptive and harmful of emotions. Often jealousy in relationships is directed at the present or the future. It is rooted in a fear of future loss - fear that one may lose their partner to something that is happening currently, or might happen in the ... Views: 58
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ... Views: 70
I was speaking with a client today about his burn-out in his career. This is a man who’s been very successful, earned a lot of money, and worked hard for a big, national corporation. I told him he was burned-out, and on strike, because he had put himself in a box about work. The box ... Views: 92