Maintaining long-term relationships can be a complex undertaking that requires significant time and attention. When things begin to go wrong, partners can take proactive steps to get the relationship back on track. These efforts can often make the difference between strengthening the partnership ... Views: 7
Do you know that through the Law of Attraction the majority of individuals attract negative rather than positive experiences into their lives? Do you know this is because a poorly known concept called their Magnetic Polarity is actually negative?
Do you know that a human being's Magnetic ... Views: 2
Have you ever been told that you were passive aggressive? This is not the most endearing of titles to be given by anyone. Why is that?
Well because it implies a number of things:
1. That you have trouble being open and honest about your feelings.
2. That you grudgingly accept something ... Views: 4
" You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." Christopher Columbus
Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don't want to see aspects of life for which we have no ... Views: 15
We see a lot of advice to write down your goals and dreams, but does it really help? Actually, it does. For one thing, it helps you get clear on exactly what you want, and makes the goals more imaginable. They seem more real when you have thought through them clearly and written them ... Views: 15
Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. These are shortcuts taken to try to ... Views: 8
What is radical ownership? Itâs seeing and owning that life is a mirror reflecting me back to me. All the things that happen in my life have one thing in commonâ¦ME. I am the common denominator in all that keeps showing up. Mike Dooley describes it beautifully in his Notes from The Universe: ... Views: 7
In my youth and throughout most of my early adult years I suffered from paralyzing shyness.
Early in my life I was so anxious about meeting and speaking with people that I would find myself making every excuse possible to avoid social engagements.
I suffered especially during my medical ... Views: 10
Isn't that what women expect and desire from a confident man? Of course most women expect that their man will have the maturity and the courage to be openly emotional when the moment calls for it. Yet many men find themselves severely handicapped in this department, often without really knowing ... Views: 8
In several other articles I have pointed out that because of men's socialization patterns many are not only unable to express their emotions they are more seriously also unable to "feel" them.
So how can one express what one doesn't feel? Well simply, you can't!
So how does one kick start ... Views: 6
Youâve gone through something horrible, a total breakdown of the trust in your marriage. You may wonder how anyone can ever overcome such a devastating blow, and also wonder if there is even a possibility that your marriage can be saved. The one differentiator to determining overcoming ... Views: 8
There are many things that one can do to make a positive impression and this is going to include the impression one makes when they meet someone for the first time and in their existing relationships.
And as human beings are not perfect, it is only natural that they are going to do things ... Views: 18
Dear Dr. Romance
Your web-site impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ... Views: 17
I met a guy a year ago. We dated weekly for 2 months. Our dates were fun and passionate.
Then after that he started asking me out on dates every couple weeks or so for the next 4 months. The dates were still very passionate and so much fun.
One day he started to invite me ... Views: 21
âWeâre drifting apart,â Sara said during our first meeting. Her husband, Daniel, agreed. They got along well enough, but lived more like roommates than a married couple.
Itâs not just couples who drift apart, of course. Friends lose touch, colleagues move on, children forget ... Views: 20
Dear friend, asking for what you wantâand setting boundaries around what you donât wantâis a key life skill. But sometimes in our enthusiasm to practice this skill, we over-do our own assertiveness and end up with a partner who shuts down, gets angry or feels resentful. Here are four tips for ... Views: 24
Discover how to manage panic in a way that allows it to dissipate rather than escalate.
"That's the strange thing about panic â when we lean into it, it loosens it's grip on us." Daniel Siegel, M.D.
"The power of reflection allows us to approach, rather than ... Views: 14
For many, love is a mystery.Â We grow up hearing fairytale beliefs about love from our family members and our friends.Â Many times these beliefs don’t serve us as we are searching for true love.Â I have discovered some myths that I feel don’t really hold true for my clients and ... Views: 17
Do you know that a relationship breakup can damage one's self esteem to the point that it can take 3 to 5 years, or more, before the individual regains enough courage to re-enter the dating scene? Do you know this is unnecessary time wasted? Do you know that it is possible to completely erase ... Views: 12
Do you know that your relationship conflicts are determined not by external inter-relational factors but by deeply buried internal "emotional landmines" that control you and cause you to be "out of control" whenever something happens in your relationship that triggers them and leaves you ... Views: 20
Do you know that most people, without realizing it automatically operate from a series of subconsciously driven programs that cause them by default to feel and behave like dependent, small, helpless and needy children? Do you know this makes them unattractive, unsuccessful in relationships, feel ... Views: 20
My counselor Eleanor recently said to me, âMike, if youâre trying to prove something, it means you donât actually believe it yet.â Her words hit me right between the eyes, as they often do. She was right and as I reflect on certain aspects of my life, I can see that where Iâm overly attached to ... Views: 38
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ... Views: 43
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 26
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviors, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 19
Do you know that all self sabotage in relationships arises from an internal hijacker that many refer to as their "inner child"? Do you know this hijacker a) is not you rather poses as an imposter that tries to unconsciously convince you that it is part of you so that it can continue to reside ... Views: 19
I have had numerous individuals come to me for help after being frustrated by years of endless psychotherapy that left them poorer but not better. Is it just that they had bad psychotherapy or is there a deeper issue here?
I can speak personally about this matter because during my own ... Views: 18
Many therapists and coaches who are attempting to help individuals overcome their shyness have taken the view that:
1. It is not possible to fully over come it,
2. That is has something to do with having inadequate social skills and,
3. That social skills classes help you become more ... Views: 31
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 20
Do you know that many people walk around in life feeling and being weighed down by old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories from their past? Do you know that this "weight" is real, drains one's Life Force Energy, their confidence, self worth, self esteem, optimism, hope, strength, ... Views: 19
Everyone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership.
... Views: 46
Last week I talked about how easy it is to be caught up in a destructive cycle of enabling someone you love. You may have begun by trying to help. You covered up or filled in for someone who let his responsibilities slide due to dysfunctional behaviorâoften addition. Over time you got stuck in a ... Views: 22
Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this.
I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ... Views: 17
Want to make sure your relationship is a success? Here are ten ways to bring the sparkle back and keep it going.
Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage
1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other --about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, ... Views: 71
Do you ever feel like life is against you? Do you walk around feeling angry most of the time? Do you spend a lot of your time feeling envious of others? Do you feel cheated or that life has been unfair to you? Well if you answered yes to any of the above then you will likely agree that you feel ... Views: 22
Have you ever noticed that negative undesirable self sabotaging behaviors tend to occur often outside of your direct control in an automatic pre-programmed manner? If you are supposedly in control of your mind, your behaviors and your life this would seem to make no sense at all. The fact ... Views: 42
Do you follow the crowd and lose your true self or do you strike out on your own and live a rich creative and fulfilling life that you are passionate about? Do you regularly make new and adventurous heartfelt choices that enrich you, help you to express your true authentic self or do you simply ... Views: 30
We have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude weâve received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer.
"What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ... Views: 52
Just because someone is available at one point in time, it doesnât mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of.
However, without even going into how much ... Views: 35
Recently I attended my stepsonâs wedding and when the best man stood to speak, not only could we not hear him, but he also did not know his material. Stuttering and stammering, this unprepared young man made a fool of himself. He knew it; we knew it; and, we all suffered. It was embarrassing ... Views: 36
Dear Dr. Romance:
How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ... Views: 62
Dear Dr. Romance:
Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ... Views: 36
Do you know that many individuals make themselves martyrs and door mats because they believe deep down they'll be rewarded for doing so?
Do you know that there is no "reward" for this self destructive strategy besides death? Do you know that this tendency to submit as the punching bag of ... Views: 33
Do you know that a controlling personality actually controls the very person who has it? Do you know that the need to control others is driven by a need to compensate for deeply buried emotions such as: the fear of feeling disappointment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of feeling ... Views: 46
Do you know many individuals feel like needy, dependent, weak, vulnerable, helpless, frightened children inside? Do you know this "personality state" robs them of their self confidence, inner strength, courage, ability to trust and assert themselves, and ultimately of any real success or ... Views: 48
How do you stop thinking about someone? Perhaps he betrayed you, she broke up with you, or maybe itâs someone you donât even know. He enters your mind all the time and you know it isnât healthy. Sometimes people take up residence in our minds and itâs difficult to get rid of the thoughts. ... Views: 39
Non-stop deception, contradictions, mis-information, and false flags, are âdistractionsâ on purpose to slow down, divide and conquer, people of good conscience.
Thankfully people 'are' waking up to reality, and taking peaceful action to end lawlessness. The time is now to pool our knowledge ... Views: 49
While some people will only know what it feels like to be with someone who can love them, there are going to be other people who only know what it feels like to be with someone who canât love them. And this is going to mean that each person has a radically different experience on this ... Views: 41
Although one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesnât mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear.
And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ... Views: 62
Everyone starts out in life wanting to be safe, loved, and accepted. Itâs in our DNA. Some of us figure out that the best way to do this is to put aside what we want or feel and allow someone elseâs needs and feelings take precedence. This works for a while. It feels natural, and thereâs less ... Views: 51