In the children’s book When Sophie Gets Angry – Really, Really Angry, the little girl, Sophie, gets so angry she runs out into the woods and climbs up a tree. After a very short time, she is calm and returns home to her family.
It is no wonder that Sophie got so angry. A young ... Views: 2
I became a mother when I was seven years old. An all consuming love happened in an instant, as it does for some new mothers, when my angelic brother, just having been adopted, was brought home at seven days old. When I first saw him, gorgeous as a crescent moon, with blond tiny ringlets, I was ... Views: 1
Are you one of those individuals who craves to have friends around you all or most of the time? If so have you ever wondered what motivates your craving? Have you ever wondered how discriminating you are when it comes to the types of people you choose to invite into your life and into your ... Views: 8
Have you ever noticed how often you repeat the same negative patterns of behavior, find yourself attracting partners with the same negative qualities as in your past relationships, making the same kinds of mistakes or bad judgments, and continue to repeat the same self sabotaging habits? Have ... Views: 15
Do you know that your subconscious mind has a "mind" of its own that takes charge of your freewill leaving you enslaved to choices that are not entirely beneficial to you?
Do you know this is the result of a pre-programmed state generated by early memories that automatically condition you to ... Views: 9
It’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one.
This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ... Views: 21
Dr. Romance writes: A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or ... Views: 21
We are all in a time of high stress, and
national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not
dealt with, they can lead to acting out behavior,
such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money
problems as a distraction. To avoid ... Views: 18
Dear Dr. Romance:
My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her lastbreakup. I loved her wholly, with all my ... Views: 19
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 19
Have you ever had the experience where you find yourself losing your identity or the sense of yourself once you get into a relationship? If you're not sure what I'm talking about here let me elaborate.
You start out having perspectives, preferences, opinions, desires and attitudes that you ... Views: 10
Self confidence is the ability to always know one's inner truth, value it, trust it, and live it joyfully, peacefully and with an inner knowing that one is worthy of it. Does this describe you? If not then whose life are you living? Certainly not yours! To get back on track I help you understand ... Views: 11
When one experiences pain and it is not possible for them to face the pain that they’re experiencing, they’re going to end up using a number of defence mechanisms. This could be due to how traumatising the experience is or because it would be too much for them to face how they feel.
A ... Views: 17
Just because one has the need to experience something, it doesn’t always mean that this need will be fulfilled. And this is something that can be said when it comes to ones need to connect to another person.
For some people, intimacy is going to be something that they have always ... Views: 17
Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship
“Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson.
A writing colleague and dear friend of mine who is ... Views: 19
Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy.
"Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of ... Views: 15
Do you allow your natural kindness to shine forth?
"Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things even if we do not get anything in return. It is the joy of our life to do them. When we do good things from this inner desire, there is kindness in everything we ... Views: 13
Depression and anxiety are, by far, the most common mental health problems. Nearly 20 percent of the US population struggles with or will struggle with one or both of these problems.
The most common treatment today for these issues is medication—typically prescribed by the primary care ... Views: 16
“Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” SOS 4:16b
The way your man sees sex, is quite different from your perception of sex. It means much more to your husband than to you. He is passionate about it and might even be “crazy” about it. ... Views: 15
The suicide of Robin Williams has shaken—and awakened us up. News of his death has made many of us think:
If someone with family, fame, and fortune could do that, could that happen to someone like me who doesn’t have all those things?
I’ve been feeling really down lately, and ... Views: 12
You are correct if you say we communicate using words- partially though! We also employ voice tone, gestures and body language, emotional state, clothing, the physical location (aka time/place setting) we occupy, and more; this is, in addition to the words we use. Even the lack of communicating ... Views: 16
When your wife cheats it's difficult to keep your head on straight and think clearly about the choices you are going to make right now that can affect the rest of your life. If you've found yourself in this situation you should consider the biggest mistakes that betrayed husbands often make when ... Views: 10
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 33
Do you know that positive self esteem is not something you have to earn or prove you deserve to have? Do you know that it's actually a natural part of you much like the color of your eyes? Do you know the reason you don't experience positive self esteem is because you have been subliminally ... Views: 26
Are you one of those people who still carry old emotional baggage that undermines your sense of adequacy in your relationships or career? Do you know that it is no longer necessary for you to remain at the mercy of this old outdated programming and that it can now be easily, effortlessly, ... Views: 16
Do you know that all needy behaviors have an underlying cause that can immediately and easily be discerned, unearthed and deleted from your life? Do you know that such behaviors are based in old negative memories from your past that are stored in your subconscious mind and which serve as ... Views: 21
Certain emotions are often seen as positive and others are often seen as negative, and this can cause people to embrace some and to deny others. But regardless of the label they’re given, they all have a purpose.
What matters is: how one responds to how they feel and not how they feel. If ... Views: 13
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ... Views: 31
When someone has been abused as a child they have already gone through enough, without having to prolong the pain of what happened. However, there are certain things that can add to this pain and one of these things is when one finds that the people around them don’t believe them or it could ... Views: 27
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 28
Do you know that becoming a great leader rests on the ability to master one's internal emotional landscape? Do you know that greatness is manifest by individuals who are able to display courage, inner strength, integrity, high moral values, clarity of vision, empathy, understanding, self ... Views: 33
Do you know that the most significant killer of self confidence is subconsciously stored negative memories of past failures, mistakes, humiliations and losses? Do you know those memories act behind the scenes of your consciousness and are responsible for a barrage of negative beliefs and ... Views: 30
I was recently sitting in my favorite coffee shop, and remembering my dear friend who used to meet me there and who died not long ago. As I get older, I’m experiencing more and more loss, and so are my friends of a similar age. Those of us who survive loss still have to “keep calm ... Views: 43
When it comes to pleasing others, ideally, this will be a choice and not something one feels they have no control over. If one feels that they always need to please others, it is going to interfere with their ability to listen to their own needs and emotions.
And when one feels the need to ... Views: 45
In my clinical experience, I've encountered many clients who are afraid to admit they’re wrong. This comes from a culture of blaming and accusingwhere one's early family may have picked a “culprit” when something went wrong, and focused on blame, rather than on fixing the ... Views: 59
Do you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner?
Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and ... Views: 18
Have you ever thought that you found The One—only to realize later after much heartache that the person was The Wrong One?
Finding healthy love is so important to your mental and physical health. It’s unfair that it’s so difficult to find the right person. It’s not fair. Here ... Views: 21
Jason, 14 is like most male adolescents. He is into video games, hockey, and, of course, hanging with his friends. If you ask him the classic question adults love to ask teens, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Jason will reply, “I don’t know—maybe a ... Views: 21
Perhaps you have heard that in business it’s all about location, location, location! However, this dating coach believes that for relationships, it’s all about values, values and values! What do I mean about values? Let me explain:
Your values are what you treasure. ... Views: 30
While some things have stayed the same over the years, there are other things that have radically changed. For instance, it could be said that today’s world is far more permissive than it used to be.
And this can be seen with how children are raised and how sex is generally viewed. It wasn’t ... Views: 26
Whether you are the one who committed adultery or your spouse is the one who cheated it's likely that you're trying to overcome it and survive the affair. Whether that means going through with a divorce or trying to save your marriage, some people deal with infidelity with erroneous ... Views: 18
The concept as well as the feeling of being in Love has become so distorted and confused these days that few can really tell you, when asked, whether they are truly in love with their partner. Why is that?
Well one of the most significant reasons is that true feelings of Love are often ... Views: 25
What is the source of those common and hated feelings of neediness? Although many of us define ourselves by them are they really natural and normal human traits? What would it feel like not to be needy? Wouldn't you rather feel totally self confident and self sufficient? Is this possible? ... Views: 29
Do you walk around feeling inferior to others, small, insignificant, less than others, invisible, like you constantly need to prove yourself to others, offended by comments others make slighting you, inadequate, with low self confidence, low self esteem and so on? Want to get rid of your ... Views: 40
Do you know that negative thoughts emerge steadily like toxic fumes from the subconscious mind and pollute one's conscious mind? Do you know this flow undermines one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, energy, strength, optimism, sense of adequacy, courage, ability to make clear and ... Views: 35
Are you getting ready for the most exciting day of your life? Getting the perfect pictures will be an integral part of the experience, providing you with sweet memories to go over again and again.
Choosing the right wedding photographer is the key to getting the perfect pictures. How can you ... Views: 31
If there’s one thing that every parent should be able to agree on, it’s that society today isn’t particularly moral. Pornography, drug use, and criminal activity are rampant; raising a child in such a world is emotional and nerve-wracking for any parent. Protecting your ... Views: 28
There is a genius to courageous loving because we have to access something we've forgotten and make it a real part of our lives again. It exists in each and every one of us yet it takes courage to access it. We can only access it when we become aware and we are ready for it.
I believe, we are ... Views: 44
Does this sound familiar? You go to a loud club and your friends tell you that they can’t hear you even though you’ve been talking in a louder voice. Your throat feels raw and sore or perhaps you have lost your voice after an hour or two of straining to be heard.
What you are experiencing ... Views: 53
Do you walk around experiencing self doubt about your decisions, your relationship choices, your business strategies, your friends and so on? Do you often wonder if you even know what it is you really stand for if anything? Does this make you feel like a leaf blowing in the proverbial wind, ... Views: 35