The situation with men and women who can really give a female an orgasm is scandalous. If you ask any girl how many good lovers she had in her entire life – she counts them all by the fingers of one hand. This website and series of articles on sexuality have as a goal radical improvement in this area of life.
If you did not know, an average duration of a sexual intercourse among couples who live together longer than one year is about 7(!) minutes.
No wonder that so many women are unsatisfied and infidelity is such widely spread phenomena.
Although main reasons for infidelity are due to negative social programming - we will concentrate here only on (in)ability to give a female an orgasm.
People tend to do the same thing the same way over and over again. For many, there is just ONE method. They learned it long time ago. They think that their One Bulletproof Method of Satisfying Women ALWAYS works. However, women they meet don't want see them again for some mysterious reasons.
Why? Because there is no such a method. Because becoming good lover is an art form. Any art form includes diversity and inspiration. No two women are alike. It's time to learn new things.
Basic rules on how to give a female an orgasm:
Rule #1: TAKE IT SLOW. VERY SLOW
The key is to understand that this is a slow road. Enjoy every second of that ride. Remember that sexual intercourse is a PROCESS, not a destination.
Most men rush to the finish line like a Formula-1 car. Instead, make everything to take up 5 times as much time. Make your sensual touch slide along her back for a whole minute instead of a few short seconds. Apply this rule to ALL your actions.
Rule #2: COMMUNICATE
Make your woman communicate with you. It is not just important. It is CRUCIAL. Many lesbian couples never ask each other even the simplest things including how sensitive their respective clits are.
As a result, each thinks that her partner’s clit is the same as her own and so she proceeds to handle it as such. However, her partner’s clit is too sensitive for that kind of treatment (or as an opposite - not sensitive at all).
At the end, one or both girls imitate an orgasm and later go alone to the shower to complete the process. Simple talk solves this issue within minutes.
Rule #3: LEARN
Learn how female brain and body work. Your woman is not a light switch. She is a volume knob. Her arousal begins long before you start a foreplay.
Her ability (or inability) to have an orgasm today may be influenced by many factors including but not limited to:
* Where is she at her menstrual cycle.
* Issues at work.
* General emotional state.
* Hormones play at her particular age.
Rule #4: TAKE HER PAST INTO ACCOUNT
Her past often has a strong say in the question of how to give a female an orgasm. Psychological traumas, previous boyfriends/girlfriends/one-night stands/teenage experiences often play a significant role.
What do you do here? Be patient. Communicate. Keep learning.
Rule #5: ACHIEVE SEXUAL MASTERY
Learn it FOR REAL. Read, apply, ask for feedback, learn from your mistakes, and apply again.
Spend at least 100 hours in bed with different girls working on various techniques and asking them for feedback. This is how you become an EXCELLENT LOVER.
For beginners, even basics such as not rushing for clitoris in a first two minutes of your foreplay can bring you very far. Know to stay away from erogenous zones for at least half an hour. Build things up.
Rule #6: WATCH FOR SUBTLE SIGNS
Keep your eyes and ears open. Listen to her breath. Watch her subtle moves. When your woman is approaching her climax - she might forget talking to you.
In fact, she forgets the whole world. Let her enjoy the silence if she likes to. Guide yourself by calibrating your actions based on her subtle signals.
Rule #7: SET UP THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT
Make sure the setting is appropriate. She must be able to feel relaxed and excited at the same time. Many will tell you to put on some soft music, burn candles, and dim the lights.
My advice here is to find out what turns HER on. One girlfriend of mine was not able to get an orgasm in any “usual” kind of sphere. Due to her past, she could only fully relax and reach her climax in the shower.
While mastering the art of how to give a female an orgasm - go beyond what mainstream media teaches you. Once you take time to learn those subtle things about your woman – you are on the way to becoming a GREAT LOVER, the rare one. The “keeper.”
Alex May was born in environment where sexuality and intimate life were strongly suppressed. Feeling powerful attraction towards opposite sex and discovering the excitement of being in love from a very early age - he never felt entirely at home there and left right after his university graduation.
Being fascinated by women and female body Alex May went through the world studying a huge variety of sources on different relationship styles and human sexuality.
He learned secrets of sensual Tantric massages, old Indian techniques, ancient shamanic practices, and modern Western trends and methods.
His quest for sharing that knowledge along with rising people’s consciousness so that they are able to access and freely enjoy their sexuality and intimate relationships actually never ends.
Right from the start Alex May felt an intuitive disbelief towards monogamy paradigm he was born into and raised to believe in.
His own experience plus tons of observations combined with in-depth research into various relationship issues and divorce rate statistics made him feel that he was on the right way.
Not relying too much on theories or other people’s words Alex May got a first-hand experience of a huge variety of relationship styles.
He later expanded his knowledge and experience into the area of social dynamics and male-female psychology including today’s international dating scene.
He stresses the importance of re-assessing people's REAL wants, needs, and beliefs, along with making conscious choices and heart-centered decisions. In short, this can be described as "unplugging from the matrix" for a while and finding your TRUE SELF.
Alex May lives in Amsterdam, the Netherlands. He travels internationally giving seminars, workshops, and private consultations with a single aim for people to have passionate, sexually charged, long-term, happy, and fulfilling relationships.