There is a dark side to every positive personality trait. You may not even notice that you’ve gone out of balance with a value, even when it’s causing great pain in your life.
I have high standards of integrity, especially when it comes to business. In the past, if I witnessed someone being dishonest or not delivering on a promise, my blood pressure would rise and I stewed over it for days. Often I’d tell them what I thought of their sketchy behavior.
Am I being a good leader? Maybe. Is that healthy? Definitely not. I created my own emotional suffering by shifting a good value into overdrive.
I don’t know if you know this, but owning a business will reveal all of your weaknesses and trigger intense emotions. One of the emotions I see most is guilt or shame.
It shows up in thoughts like …
* I can’t believe I forgot that appointment!
* My profit was XXXX this month but it should’ve been XXXXX.
* Ack, I just blew that deal.
* I’ve been in business X years and I’m still not making enough money.
* I can’t afford to pay that bill.
* I can’t afford to hire someone.
* Why am I procrastinating?!
* That person didn’t buy; I must’ve done something wrong.
* I’m late … again.
* I’m always overwhelmed.
Being professional, responsible, and keeping your word are all wonderful things to strive for in business but they can also kill your profits and joy when used against yourself.
Self-awareness is great for personal growth and learning. Being self-critical will make you miserable and sick.
At one time or another we all mess up. We back down when we feel fear. We don’t take a stand or we take too much of a stand.
So what?! We’re human. Humans run businesses. It’s okay to mess up, play small and say the wrong thing. Get over it. Once you let it go, you can step more fully into your power and course correct.
It’s impossible to have fun when you’re beating yourself up, right?
My vote is to run a guilt-free business so that you can experience more joy, connect to your Inner Business Expert and experience massive prosperity.
BAM!
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