1. Know who you are.

Stop focusing on things, situations and conditions outside of yourself. I know it can be hard to do this when things are not as they should be in your health, relationships, business, career or finances.

Remember that your creator made you great and that your natural state is perfect health, abundance and well-being.

Know who you are, unattached from all the trappings of what society calls “success.” Knowing and acknowledging who you are as a person and embracing your uniqueness is an important step in manifesting your dreams.

2. Decide and define clearly what you desire and want.

Do not limit yourself here. Don’t consider what you THINK you can have or what your mother, friends, mate or society says or thinks you can have.

You can have ANYTHING that you desire. Manifesting what you desire will take some action on your part though. Before you take any action, you must clearly know what you REALLY want.

One of the greatest things we’ve been blessed with by our creator is our imagination. The problem is we use our imagination to imagine unwanted situations and circumstances and in many cases, that’s why these unwanted conditions appear in our lives.

3. Believe and know that your desire is already here – that it already exists.

The fact that you desire something so strongly means that it already exists in energy form. What you desire will move from an intangible energy form to a tangible energy form once you take the necessary action steps.

4. Give thanks daily for what you desire to see manifest in your life.

Being thankful IN ADVANCE sends a strong message to your Creator and the universe that you are taking action in faith. Have you ever heard the quote, “Faith moves the hand of God?” It’s true. Maintain an attitude of gratitude.

Stop rehashing and rehearsing in your mind and stressing about the way things are now or have been in the past. Instead, give thanks for what you desire to see manifested in your life.

5. Forgive everyone and everything.

Forgive people, forgive organizations, forgive the government, forgive yourself and any other thing, person, or place that you need to forgive.

Sometimes, we have been holding on to grudges and feelings of unforgiveness for so long, it has become a habit and we don’t even realize we are doing so.

Sit down, take out a pen and pad and reflect on anyone or anything you are in a state of unforgiveness about. Then decide to forgive. You’ve probably heard this quote before, “Holding a grudge against someone is like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” YOU are the only person who is being damaged when you harbor resentment.

Just let go. Forgive the mess. Move on.

6. Practice love – unconditionally.

Love everyone, whether you feel like it or not. Treat others the way you would like to be and deserve to be treated.

You want to be treated with kindness and patience; so do others.

No matter how difficult it may be, try to find some common ground which will allow you to relate to others. Send silent prayers their way. Practice unconditional love as much as possible.

7. Detach from outcomes, people and things.

Don’t be attached to how things should work out, what people should or should not do or how a thing must be.

What is meant for you will come to you as long as YOU don’t get in the way. You get in the way by being fearful, doubtful and by complaining. You also get in the way by not taking action steps that you must take.

Don’t hold other people as hostages to your fears and insecurities. Don’t be in a state of mind where you are fearful about losing people or things. Detach.


You can pray, chant, meditate or repeat affirmations all you want to but if you don’t take the required action steps, your dream will never come to be.

This is why it’s so important at the outset of manifesting your dreams to know exactly what it is that you REALLY want.

Imagine taking a car trip to visit family in a place you’ve never been. Imagine the relatives refusing to give you the address or you lose the address. If no one gives you the address or you can’t find the piece of paper on which you wrote down the address– the destination, how will you know that you have arrived? How will you know that you are moving in the right direction?

So taking the correct action steps is equal to driving or moving in the right direction.

9. Give daily.

Give something of yourself every single day. Make it your priority to leave each person or situation better than you found them.

Giving is not always tied to money although sometimes giving money is appropriate. You can give advice or share your experience or knowledge.

I have found that regular giving to places where you receive your spiritual sustenance is a sure path to financial abundance. The key here is to give without expecting anything in return. Give because it’s the right thing to do and it feels so good.

Have you ever noticed how good you felt when you give someone really good advice or share knowledge that you know will change a person’s life?

When you make it a habit to give, you will eventually form a mindset of abundance. Your self-conscious will shift from lack to plenty.

10. Attend to your health daily.

You will not be able to achieve ANYTHING if you are sick. If you are not feeling well, you cannot take the necessary action steps to make your dream manifest.

Be proactive in taking care of your physical body. If you know that you need to change what you eat, exercise, get more rest, or drink more water, do it.

Our Creator designed the human body to run on certain fuel (food) and to be used (exercise). The human body is comprised of at least 75% water so we must consume adequate amounts of clean water (not soda, coffee or tea).

Our body was also designed to heal itself but you have to do your part.

Our bodies are constantly speaking to us; listen closely. When something is out of order, pay attention and make an appointment to see a medical professional.

Go for it – you deserve it, and you can do it (absolutely refuse to think or believe differently!).

Author's Bio: 

Carmin Wharton is a life and business coach to women who are stuck and can’t move forward to create the dream life, career or business they deserve. She helps women change their lives one goal at the time!