Social networks and partner search websites are the most promising virtual spaces if you are looking for a man. Even personality and emotional tests services are offered to filter the search and aim the aim. True Cupids 2.0!
However, we must not forget some precautions that we have to take before
online dating: often the profiles may not be true and the data of the suitors do not resemble reality at all. The same goes for the photographs!
Of course, the web is a good place to find a possible partner, and for that reason, we bring you these 10 rules for women who want to find (or at least make the attempt) a good candidate online. Follow these 10 tips for online dating.
No to the "winks" and the roses!
A feature of the websites, or Facebook, are the applications that send virtual gifts: roses, hugs, kisses, winks or "touches", which would fulfill the function of communicating that the other is interested in you. But the authors say that a man sending any of these amorous contraptions (always virtual) shows little interest in a serious bond.
Photo please
If the candidate does not have a profile picture, or has pictures of landscapes or anything other than him, ask him to send you a picture of him. If he refuses, or dodges your request, consider him lost. It's not about being superficial, but you need to know what he is like (in addition to security issues).
Avoid selling as in an advertisement
It's simple: try not to make a curriculum vitae with tastes, interests and hobbies included during the first talks. Leave details of your life for the following: it is good to generate in the other wishes to know more about you!
Show interest in knowing
The authors recommend not starting the conversation topics by asking or asking about data that are in your profile. If your profile says that he is divorced, avoid asking why the relationship ended.
Regarding your interests or hobbies, if you know what you practice, for example, soccer, start by asking "What sports do you like?" instead of "Do you practice soccer?" As is evident, while with the second question you can get a simple "yes", with the first way to ask you can give space to a good conversation.
Did you forget your email or your number?
If a man you know online, and who has already given you your e-mail address or mobile number, asks you again, arguing that he has lost it, he probably is not too interested. Moreover, if he says he has not written or answered because he was "very" or "too" busy. Wait, do not be impatient, and see how he behaves after that. If you continue with these attitudes, you have the OK to discard it.
Out of anger
Do not accept that I send you messages showing annoyance for your delay in the response, or asking for explanations about your attitude. At least, not in the first times that are known, and even less, when they only have a purely virtual link.
Do I write or do I write?
Fein and Schneider advise, during the first three months of relationship via Internet, that it is not you who start the conversation, and only dedicate yourself to answer when he is the one of the initiative to the talk. Personally, it seems to me too much time, although I recognize that the "wait for him to talk" is a good way to know how much interest man has.
Be a positive person
Even if you have had a bad day or have problems at work, family, or with your friends, show that you are optimistic and struggle to find good results or you are able to overcome obstacles. Tell him your problems but do not forget to show him they cannot do it against you.
Jokes are accepted
The authors say that, after three or four months, it is okay to make jokes or games via virtual messages. If he is a soccer fan and his team has lost a key match (a final, for example), you can send him a message that says "What a shame for your team, maybe next year it will be better". Again, three or four months will not be too long?
"Forbidden" words
Finally, this item lists some words that you should at least avoid in your messages. Which are? Soul mate, commitment (or commitment phobia), long-term plans, ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, last relationship, marriage, intimacy.