1.Adjust and thus avoid conflict with your spouse. Conduct your interactions in a manner that your love remains intact. When you bump into a wall due to darkness, do you set out to find whose fault it was or do you try to look for the door, so that you can find your way out?

2.Help each other instead of pointing out each other’s mistakes. If the husband has financial worries, the wife’s concern should be to find the best way to reduce her husband’s worries. Similarly, the husband can always bear in mind how difficult it can be to run the household and raise children.

3.Try expressing your love and appreciation to your spouse. If for some reason, your spouse happens to get upset with you, wait a while and then tell him / her, “No matter what you say to me and no matter how upset you get with me, I miss you when you are not around!” Use such occasions to reveal the fact that you do not like being away from your spouse and foster love.

4.Couples often say, “I understand my spouse very well.” If you really would, there would have been no problems in life. We are not able to understand our own self clearly, how can we say, “I understand my spouse.” Do you know most of the mistakes that we can see of our spouse are because of misunderstanding, nothing else? So, allow your spouse an equal stance and try to understand his / her nature correctly.

5.Once you know your spouse properly, you can find alternate and effective ways to work around and deal with his / her specific characteristics, rather than pointing out his / her mistakes. Pointing out mistakes usually erodes the other person’s confidence and faith and thus becomes a reason for relationships to go downhill.

6.Give your spouse his / her space. This is possible when even in your mind, you do not regard him / her separate from you, nor does he / she feel separate from you. No matter what your spouse’s mistakes are, if you treat him / her equal to yourself; the same as yourself, you are not building any pressure on your spouse.

7.Create an atmosphere of love. All improvements can be achieved through love. There is no other solution for it. The slightest amount of dislike spoils things. So, wherever there is animosity, slowly change it to love.

8.Love is when there is no falling apart, no separation. Quarrels cannot be the result of love. If there is a mistake, let it go for the sake of love. There is no criticism in love. There is no love where there are accusations like, ‘you are like this and you are like that’, to which the spouse retorts, ‘you are like that, not me.’ Where you see fault, it is egoism, not love.

9.When does love arise? Hostile intentions may arise within you; and although you may not like it, it may come out in your speech too. But internally, accept that you and only you are at fault for seeing fault in others and keep asking for forgiveness for your mistakes. The person whose faults are destroyed will not see fault in others. No matter how many mistakes there are, in love one endures them all, and over and above reassures that everything will be fine.

10.Only love should prevail in the home. Where there is love, one does not see faults.

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization.