Don’t believe you can be successful.
Don’t set a goal.
Don’t be grateful for what you have right now.
Don’t visualise and imagine the life you want.
Don’t be happy.
Don’t have focus and clarity.
Don’t have belief and confidence in yourself and your power within.
Don’t take responsibility for your life.
Don’t celebrate your success

And above all

Don’t think of a pink elephant!

And what are you now thinking of? A pink elephant! OK, I have to own up and admit I have been a little less than honest with the purpose of this list.

The brain is unable to comprehend a negative command. It doesn’t compute! So in order not to think about something, it has to think about what it is it’s not supposed to think about! With me so far? In other words, if I say to you “Don’t think of a pink elephant, your brain does not recognise the word “don’t” so leaves it out resulting in you thinking about a pink elephant, even though I told you not to!

So, always focus on what you do want, not what you don’t want. For instance, if you say “I don’t want to be a failure.” Your brain doesn’t include the word don’t, so it only hears “I want to be a failure.” And guess what! Your mind will then process and focus on that and being very obliging, will give you what it believes you want!

Choose your words, Focus on what you do want. Stating “I want to be a success” sends the message loud and clear, without any confusion to the mind. It will then give you what you want, not what it thinks you want.

Each statement on the list carried a negative command that your brain deleted, before it got as far as your mind.

So the list is not 10 tips on how not to be successful, it’s actually………………You’ve got it!

Adopt Coaching -2009 Hedpop 2009

Author's Bio: 

Janet has diplomas in coaching, EFT and psychology. She is a registered
NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Practitioner and a member of the
European Coaching Institute. She creates and delivers workshops as well as 121 and group coaching and has over 500 hours personal and business coaching experience.

She has her own coaching practice Adopt Coaching, specialising in Confidence and Belief Therapy Techniques. Janet is also part of the team at Hedpop, which specialises in delivering training and workshops in the corporate and private sector, using various tools and techniques including NLP, EFT and Beliefs Therapy, to encourage and guide individuals to change their inner thinking, resulting in permanent, empowering, positive outcomes.

Janet’s mission statement is:-

“My purpose as a Beliefs Therapist is to support and guide people, using different techniques and therapies in discovering their unique purpose and natural born talents. I help them face and confront their fears, their lack of self worth and self confidence, by uncovering their limiting beliefs and freeing their minds. They find the courage to take action and overcome whatever it is that is holding them back from living to their true potential. Then they are able to fulfil their unique destiny, achieving everything they put their minds to, using their natural gifts and talents and having a big life.”