1. Stop asking “Where do we stand?”
This question lets me know that the terms of our relationship are up to my own standards.

2. Stop being so predictable!
I don’t need to know your every move. Besides you’re not my wife yet.

3. Respect my time and privacy.
Don’t assume I will always be available. Also, I don’t look through your phone or ask you questions about who called you; so don’t ask me.

4. Please don’t give me framed pictures of yourself for the office or my home.

5. Never use these 2 words within the first 2 months of our friendship; love and commitment.
Ladies these 2 words used within the first 2 months of our friendship can come off as if you’re thirsty or desperate.

6. Don’t be a YES girl.
If your answer to everything I ask you is yes, I cannot trust you to be honest with me.

7. Don’t focus so much on getting my attention that you lose focus on your own life.
I need a woman who can multi-task. Will you be an asset or a liability?

8. Keep your priorities in order.
Here is an example: If you are wearing the latest Michael Kors purse, shoes and accessories but when I visit your home you are sleeping on an air mattress. Obviously, your priorities are not in order.

9. Don’t suddenly acquire expensive taste.
If a 5 star restaurant was not within your budget, don't include it in mine. Ladies we know the difference.

10. Show some appreciation.
Small things like thank you and I appreciate that will go a very long way.

11. Don’t plan the wedding before getting to know me.
If you do not know my very close friends and family, I am not ready to be your husband.

12. Don’t ask guys when will you see me again?
If I am interested in another date, I will ask you.

13. Don’t make this friendship all about me and my wants only.
Always have a list available of things you enjoy doing.

14. Don’t give guys your all within the first 2 months.
If you have already given me your all, what is it left to work for?

15. If I don’t respond to your calls or messages right away, don’t lose control and flood my voicemail or send several text messages to gain my attention. It will only annoy me.

16. If we haven’t agreed on the terms of our friendship, please do not introduce me as your man or your boyfriend. Hey, I thought we were only friends. Don’t be so quick to give titles.

17. Don’t share your childhood issues, therapy visits, relationship mishaps or your prescription history right away. It scares us.
There is such a thing as too much information.

18. If I invite you over to visit, do not leave items or stay too long.

19. Don’t expect me to instantly play dad to your kids. Find a babysitter for our dates.

20. Ladies please and I repeat please do not share the number of sexual partners you have encountered. We don’t believe you anyway. It is okay to not answer this question or to respond with something as simple as “enough” next question.

Author's Bio: 

Latorria Pier is an author, student at Christian Leaders Institute and founder of Special's Quality Care Centers. Her organization is a Christian based non- profit organization that works diligently through many volunteer efforts to empower women and families to initiate personal and social change. She is the author of “Turn My Life Around” Discovering Your Purpose; a 365 day devotional book that helps women discover their divine purpose. She is passionate about empowering and inspiring women to seek their divine purpose within their greatest pain. She is a frequent blogger with Word press as her main selection. She is currently pursuing her bachelor’s degree in divinity at Christian Leader’s Institute and plans to continue her work in ministry. Latorria believes that through her pain and sorrow, God has prepared her to share His word with others in a way that was made just for her. She allows her testimony to serve as an example of how God can turn a negative experience into something positive.