3 Phrases to Get Your Child to Listen to You Instantly
Written by Erin Kurt
Have you ever wished you had the perfect words to say when your child misbehaved? How many of you have had the experience where you are at the grocery store and your child keeps begging you to buy something, and no matter how many times you explain or say an outright, “NO!” they continue? Wouldn’t you LOVE to have a single phrase that would stop their badgering immediately?
Throughout the years of being a teacher, mother and Stress-Free Parenting Coach to working mothers, I realized that there are some very powerful phrases, when used consistently, that can be extremely effective when parents are trying to get their child to listen to them or get them to stop or start doing something.
If you’ve been feeling frustrated, exhausted or irritated by your children’s behaviour lately then you are going to love the following phrases.
Here are 3 very effective phrases that you can use TODAY to see instant results:
1) “As soon as you _______ I’ll know you’re ready to __________.”
Examples:
“As soon as you put your coat on I’ll know you’re ready to go to the park.”
“As soon as you tidy up your toys I’ll know you’re ready for some TV time.”
“As soon as you get your pajamas on I’ll know you’re ready for a bed time story.
2) “One thing at a time.”
Examples:
Your child is wiggling, talking, moving, or playing as you try to dress them, brush their teeth, etc. Say:
“One thing at a time, Bobby. Right now we’re brushing your teeth.”
“One thing at a time, Sally. Right now we’re putting on your PJ’s.”
“One thing at a time, Sam. Right now you’re tidying up your playroom.”
3) “Try that again, because we ___________.”
Use this phrase after your child has done something inappropriate such as not looking both ways before crossing the street, slamming a door, or talking rudely.
Examples:
“Try that again because we always look both ways before we cross the street.”
“Try that again because we always speak politely to each other.”
“Try that again because we always close doors gently.”
Try using these three phrases consistently for a week. You’ll see incredible, fast results. Plus, you’ll be teaching your children your values and rules without being preachy. Nothing will encourage more resistance than being lectured to or belittled. From now on, you’ll simply and calmly say a phrase and then experience the cooperation you so yearned for.
Article author
About the Author
Further reading
Further Reading
Article
Is ABA Therapy Effective? What the Research and Real Results Show
Does ABA therapy work? What the research shows, what quality ABA looks like, and how parents can judge real results for their own child.
September 13, 2026
Article
Caregiver Burnout: Recognizing the Signs and Finding Support
Caregiver burnout signs autism parents should know, plus practical recovery habits, respite care options and where to find real support.
September 13, 2026
Article
Essential Advice for New Parents: A Complete Handbook
Becoming a parent for the first time is one of the most exciting and life-changing experiences. It’s filled with joy, anticipation, and love, but it can also be overwhelming as you navigate the unfamiliar territory of caring for a newborn. With so much advice coming from all directions—family, friends, books, and the internet—it’s easy to feel unsure about what’s best for your baby and yourself. This guide offers essential advice for first-time p
October 17, 2024
Website
online baby product
My website is all about baby care, parenting, and baby product.
December 10, 2023