It happens to the best of us. Things happen. People say things. Stuff breaks. Suddenly you look up and you are in the midst of a terrible situation. The buck stops with you and everyone is impatiently waiting for you to fix it. The good news is you are a highly responsible person so they have all confidence in your ability to make things right. The bad news is you are a highly responsible person and sometimes people don’t think to ask you if you could use a hand.

Well, that stress level should not be a way of life. Your health your sanity your peace of mind is on the line. No one said being responsible meant that you can no longer be happy or supported. If you find yourself spinning in circles just remember these 3 quick tips can help you to stop feeling stressed and overwhelmed immediately.

1. Quit Your Negative Ranting

Can I be honest with you? No one cares that you’re upset. Yes, I know I’m so sorry to be the one to tell you this. They should probably care. They may have caused this entire situation. Yes, you have every right to be upset, disappointed – even angry. But hear me when I tell you that your rant is falling on deaf ears. They don’t care. Look, their eyes glazed over 3 minutes ago. They saw you coming and just ran for cover. No one wants to hear it. More than that, your rant is not helping you at all. I know someone told you along the way that venting is helpful. Yeah no, it’s not really helpful at all. Think about it this way – for every moment you spend ranting, for every ounce of energy you put into talking about how terrible this is, you are missing a moment to begin moving into a better place. Worse than that, your rant is only intensifying your feelings of stress and overwhelm. You’re not solving any problems whining and crying about who did what and why it’s not fair. You are not coming up with any creative ideas –useful ones- while you are stuck on how bad things are. I’m not saying suck it up. I’m just saying that there are more productive things to do with the energy you have. Why not spend that energy creating more positive feelings? Why not spend that time coming up with constructive ways to get out of that immediate circumstance? Consider the possibility that your rant is not helping you and stop. Don’t make a bad situation worse. Stop ranting about your problem and start solving it.

2. Stop Thinking. Start Breathing

You really did a job spinning yourself up with that rant didn’t you? Notice how fast your heart is beating. You are heated and you can’t even thing straight enough to come up with anything positive to do. That’s okay. Just stop thinking. Seriously put a pin in it. You can come back to that thought in a moment. For now, just take a few slow deep cleansing breaths. Close your eyes if you need to. Shut off that voice in your head. That voice still wants to rant. Just breathe. Come from the diaphragm and put all your energy and attention into inhaling and exhaling slowing and calmly. Yes, keep going. If it helps, close your eyes or go to a place where you can have a private moment. Just breathe. No, you don’t need to worry about any of that. Just breathe right now. Breathing brings a measure of calm and peace back into your spirit. It sends a signal to your panic mode that everything is okay and it’s time to relax. Keep breathing. If you really cannot shut off those negative thoughts, hum a happy tune to yourself while you breathe. Occupy happiness by interrupting those thoughts. It’s okay to go to a neutral place instead of trying to jump from a negative rant into a positive place. Allow your breaths to flow freely and just put your energy into breathing.

3. Exercise Your Positive Muscles

Being creative takes practice. Staying in a positive place takes effort. The truth is, being positive is a choice. You don’t have to get worked up, stressed out and overwhelmed. When you do, know that you have the power to do something different, something better for yourself and the situation you are in. Make a decision to be positive even if you can’t figure out how. The best thing you can do is make a game out of it. Treat this like a challenge not a punishment or a should do/have to do situation. If you want to get out of stress and overwhelm the best thing to do is to move. The best way to move is to make yourself focus on positive things. Even if those positive things have absolutely nothing to do with the current situation, you can use them to bring yourself out of overwhelm. What makes you happy? When was the last time you had a great laugh and what was it about? What do you like about things that are happening to you today? Who makes you feel special? What did you do to help someone recently and remember how it made you feel? Challenge yourself to list things you are grateful for. See how many things you can notice right in front of you that are beautiful or pleasant. Now doesn’t that feel better? While you are putting your energy into these things that are positive, you are bringing yourself into a more positive state of being.

How did these tips work for you? How quickly did you begin to notice the shift? What other things work for you to move yourself out of stress and overwhelm? How much more creative and confident to you feel? The situation may not have changed, but now that you are in a better mental space, you are more prepared to take purposeful actions. I would love to hear from you. What do you like about these tips? What did you find most challenging about them?

Author's Bio: 

Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™ is a Speaker and Coach for highly creative problems solvers and entrepreneurs who struggle with procrastination, doubts, fears, over-thinking, good excuses, and stubbornness. Adrienne knows exactly how to confidentially coach Helpers who get overwhelmed being there for everyone else, but are uncomfortable being helped. The Soul Power Coach™ has practical tools for the accomplished, respected, workaholic feeling isolated and frustrated because the people around them are behaving badly, or they just want life to be more fun. Clients come to the Soul Power Coach™ needing more focus, organization, consistency, and courage to move even the most impossible obstacles out of the way and feel more unspeakable joy. Adrienne has several ways to work herself out of a job by showing clients how to access their own Soul Power immediately and more consistently. Take the 30 Second Soul Power Challenge & get $275 of do-it-yourself coaching tools free at