If you think your husband may be cheating on you, I know the mind-wracking and worrying that you are probably going through. It’s difficult to think that your partner is cheating on you, but at the same time you can’t just look the other way. You need to find out for sure. Here are 3 common things that nearly all cheating men do that you can use as a general rule of thumb.

First, his emotional temperature will have suddenly changed. Maybe he has withdrawn emotionally and he seems more distant these days. This could be due to the fact that he is pulling himself away from his relationship with you out of guilt. On the other hand, he may also be acting much nicer to you as well out of guilt.

Each man is different, so I can’t tell you exactly how he’ll react, but there are two things in common here. One, he feels guilty, and two, this will change how he is emotionally responding to you. If your husband suddenly seems to have a new emotional temperature, either good or bad, then it is worth digging deeper to figure out what is going on.

Second, there will be an increase in unexpected absences. If your husband is cheating on you, he is going to have to find the time to do it. This means that he’s going to be around less often. But the big clue is when these absences become unanticipated.

Maybe he just comes home late from work without telling you, or maybe he seems to offer you too much detail that you didn’t ask for. Either way, these are clear signs that he is hiding something. There isn’t much transparency in your marriage if this sort of thing is going on. And if transparency is lacking, then there is a good chance that something is being hidden.

Third, your husband seems defensive about “evidence.” If your husband is having an affair, then he is probably going to hide the evidence from you. Most of the evidence is hidden away on the computer or in the postal mail that gets delivered to your house.

Does he seem to close windows or exit programs on the computer as soon as you walk in the room? Does he clear the internet browsing history chronically? These are all telltale signs that he’s doing something that he feels should be hidden.

Or has he taken a strong interest in the bills? Credit card bills and phone bills can often leave an incriminating trail. He may try to keep you in the dark by paying the bills early and on time so that you don’t get a look at them and see all the stuff he’s been up to. Also, there may be other things delivered in the mail that could give away his affair.

I heard a story once about how a woman found a “thank you” card from a motel chain addressed to her husband in the mail that she had never stayed at. Be on the lookout for stuff like this too.

These are all things that cheating husbands do. But it is important to remember that just because he may be hiding something doesn’t necessarily mean that he is cheating. For all you know, he may be planning a surprise party for you. But still, if he’s acting strangely, it is worth digging down deeper to uncover what is really happening with him for the sake of your marriage.

Author's Bio: 

If you want to dig deeper and uncover even more signs a husband is cheating, check out my website where I'll answer the question why do men cheat and offer advice on how to deal with a cheater.

Alex Haight is a relationship writer helping women with relationship problems and specializing in affairs and infidelity.