Losing the one person you love to a break up, regardless of the reason, can cause you many sleepless nights. But regardless of why, break ups aren’t always meant to be forever. At times, break ups are needed so that couples can think and rest from the pressures. If you think he really is the man for you, you will need to know how to get him back after a break up. Here are truly no-fail ways you can change his mind:

1. Never pity yourself.

Breaking up with someone, or having someone dump you is not an pleasant experience. If your boyfriend broke up with you, you may want to start thinking that you are worth nothing and that you are no longer desirable, but here’s an eye-opener: if you think you are just below average, what will you ex get if he gets back with you? It’s all a matter of how you perceive yourself. If you pity yourself and continuously blame yourself, you will lose the courage to work things out with your man.

Instead of thinking about your faults, you can spend your time thinking about your positive traits. What are some of the things your ex enjoyed about you? Use that as a confidence booster. He will eventually see these traits and begin to love you again for what and who you really are.

2. Respect his boundaries.

When people break up, the heat of the situation can often make it hard to become rational. Emotions can get in the way of logic. If you approach him by calling, sending messages and writing him lengthy emails, he will only feel smothered and will want to keep his distance. It does not matter who broke up with whom.

Instead of stalking him and being present in all of his whereabouts, use your alone time and space to enrich yourself. Think about your role in the relationship. How do you plan on improving your lives if he comes back? Keeping your distance will make him miss you more.

3. Take your looks and your personality to a whole new level.

Sometimes, guys leave their girlfriends because the latter have forgotten to take care of themselves. Girls may have become too dependent, or may have totally ignored the need to care for themselves. Now that you are single, take time to look at what’s missing in your life. You will be amazed at the many things you have forgotten because of your relationship.

If you want, you could get a makeover and ask your stylist to change your hairstlye. You could start toning your body by exercising more and getting fit. Many women are amazed how confident they become when they are phyiscally stronger. Moreover, a new look, attitude or activity will attract him back to you.

There secrets are highly effective when trying to win back your man, but your personality and his will dictate how you can personalize, these, as long as your own methods aren’t dirty. Whatever you do, remember how the foundation of every relationships should be trust and respect.

Author's Bio: 

If you're a woman that willing to do pretty much anything to get back your ex, see my Matt's Get Him Back Forever. Also, see why do men leave to recognize the real reason of the break up and how you could fix it.