Has your husband been acting a little strange lately? Maybe he’s a little defensive or just not around as often as he used to be. Maybe you’re concerned that he might be having an affair.

Well, here are a few hints that your husband might actually be having an affair. Be sure to keep your eyes open.

Firstly, is he defensive about things like his phone or computer? Keep in mind that someone would only need to be defensive over things like these if there was any form of incriminating evidence stashed away on them. These could contain text messages or emails from his mistress that could give him away.

One thing you might want to do is install a keylogger software program on his computer. This will be able to discretely capture everything that he types without him knowing about it.

Another trick you might try is picking up one of those pay-as-you-go cell phones at the mall and send him a flirty text message from it. He’ll see that it’s from an unknown number and be a little curious. Just pretend that you’re the other woman and that you got a new phone number for some reason.

Secondly, does he spend an unusual amount of time away from home suddenly? Maybe he claims to be working late at the office or hanging out with his guy friends on bowling night. There’s no question about it, if he’s having an affair, he’ll need to spend time away from the house, and excuses like these are the most common.

What you can do is drop in on him as a surprise. If he says he’s working late, you can swing by work, for example, to surprise him with dinner. If he is there working, then you know that he’s telling the truth and you come off looking like a great wife. If he’s not there at all and his coworkers say he left hours ago, well, he’s got some explaining to do.

Thirdly, you might want to start checking the mail for incriminating evidence too. Most affairs are discovered by a simple slip-up or overlooked detail. I know of one woman who discovered her husband’s affair because a hotel he took the other woman to sent a follow-up thank you card to his house.

So take the time to look through the mail and check the bank statements. If there are any unusual things in the mail or strange charges on the bank account, have a talk with your husband about them. Just don’t take his word at face value.

I know that the sting of an affair can really consume all of your thoughts. Even just the suspicion that your husband might be engaging in “extracurricular activities” is enough to make it difficult to concentrate throughout the day on anything else. Sometimes you just need to take matters into your own hands and peel back the veil of doubt and see what’s really going on.

Author's Bio: 

If you'd like to discover more ways to know for certain if your husband is cheating, be sure to check out the signs of infidelity described on the website Why Do Guys Cheat.

Alex Haight is a relationship writer helping women with relationship problems and specializing in affairs and infidelity.